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Jiggy101011 posted...

Why not put all of this in one thread

Idk ADHD or something

Plus new shit happens in my life so often it only makes sense.

I just texted them and they only deal with romantic partner situations

I am convinced I'm being actively abused by my brother, and in other ways my ex as well.

I don't wanna do this and I dont know too much about it yet, but if it's a reasonable option I might have to. I looked it up and it seems to fit my situation. Has anyone had any experience with this?

I was bailed out again, by a friend that is already over 3k in debt because of me.

I told him if I dont talk to my brother within the next week do not ever give me money again no matter how much I ask. So I guess I gotta do it now

emblem-man posted...

Are parents and other family members out of the picture?

Yes

LightSnake posted...

Do this. I understand things are hard right now, and I'm sorry for that but these topics always turn into people giving you advice over and over and then you tell us you can't do do it, or ignore it.

Is this you asking for helping or needing just to vent? like we're here for that too, but a lot of people try and assist to no avail.

It's both.

It is hard living with TWO abusers.

I do not know what to do. I have no money to buy shit today and I'm in no condition to deal with more abuse if I can't get it.

Compsognathus posted...

For those less up to date on your backstory, what is the deal with your brother?

Hes likely heavily autistic and views the world differently from almost everyone. Has a lot of built up anger issues from being verbally abused by our family particularly our grandmother. We were homeschooled and sheltered for 20+ years and have lived together our whole lives so we are stuck together like glue.

Hes had jobs but most of them haven't lasted. He absolutely hates capitalism, and anything to do with not having money will send him into a frenzy. Hes wanting me to help him pay for shit so he can stay motivated to work towards getting a job and helping out

ai123 posted...

Is there a way of getting what you need from confronting your brother, or is it a case of venting only?

Not sure what you mean by 'his staples'.

If you mean confronting him it WILL make things worse.

By staples, in this case we need milk and his frozen fruits and I'm completely broke.

ai123 posted...

The thing about this is that it might make you feel better, but it won't solve your immediate problems. It may make things worse.

So just park it for a while. Concentrate on taking the practical, positive steps to sort out your lifestyle and your finances. That will also help with your despondency. If you can establish a healthy routine of personal care, sleep, work, chores, and getting shit done, you are going to feel a lot better.

And maybe then you can think about confronting your brother.

The problem is I am needing to ask for money literally every day now. I'm currently sitting with zero dollars and he's wanting to replace his staples today, but I legitimately don't know how I'm gonna do it. If I don't find a way, the entire night comes crashing down and it will affect me long term.

I'm sitting here watching him move from place to place, vomiting water over and over.

As you guys know, a vet is not an option right now, much less an emergency one. This isn't the stray my ex tried adopting. We've had him for about 4 years.

One thing that would solve a lot of my despondency is finally standing up to my brother and telling him he is literally ruining my life, and I can't afford to keep up what I've been doing and that it simply won't happen anymore.

Unfortunately he has intense meltdowns that I don't know how to deal with. Combine that with my empathy for him and my childhood trauma and it's the single hardest thing I've ever had to do. I've also lived with him for 32 years, so I have a pretty damn good idea of what his reactions will be.

boomgetchopped3 posted...

Have you considered recording every minute of your life? Because this would be compelling stuff. Id watch this all the time

No, but I'm glad to entertain you.

Is no one going to mention how absolutely awful Persona 4's story is? As a concept it's fine but the presentation was bad. I can list several reasons. It also dragged on way longer than necessary.

Lmao @ thinking I'm making all this up. Nobody has the time or desire enough to do that. My situation is just that unbelievable I guess.

Crimson_Corsair posted...

This has got to be the longest running bit on CE.

Buckle down, doesn't look like its going to get any better any time soon. I have to find a way to get on my feet financially and I still have to deal with living with an ex.

dhampire1 posted...

So youve been struggling forever but constantly make excuses to not fix them.

get a job, you have freedom, get 2 or 3 jobs. Go to a warehouse or factory.

you cant expect to support numerous people and new pets and do gaming and shit working part time at a job 15 year olds can get.
you need to man up and quit doing the nonstop pity party

you literally had people all over supporting you for years while you game, you have friends supporting you. You cant live a life expecting and wanting every friend and person you know to support both you and your brother and no do anything to support yourself

What excuses am I making? Getting one job with no reliable means of transport is hard enough, and you're telling me to find three.

I'm trying to get to the point where I no longer need help from others. I can't even take care of myself right now.

I'm gonna need help in some fashion with getting the ID. I just got texted next weeks schedule so I'm still employed, but I was also scheduled today and got taken off. I already took care of food stamps, just waiting on their reply/decision at this point.

Nintendo-34 posted...

I know damn well you been through some shit, and take no pleasure kicking men while down, but also not gonna sit here and ignore a potential unreliable narrator.

Were you on the chopping block without cause? I know sudden lay offs happen as it happened to us all, but there sounded like more to the story.

It is something to do with labor costs and stuff. I don't really understand it. I think my performance is related.

I know people said I brush a lot of things off. I'm not trying to, I'm just so overwhelmed I can barely manage to do anything. Almost every hour of the day I am trying to figure out how to prevent my situation from completely falling apart, and most situations I try to resolve in the very short term. I am somehow still like 40-50 dollars short of what I actually need today.

Not meant to be an excuse. I'm not sure I really have one. It's just so hard to do anything when most things are just a tiny little stepping stone out, and I could fall at any time.

I'll try to keep a note of what you said, and hope it doesn't leave my mind.

LightSnake posted...

okay. So get home, breathe, hydrate and then do as he said.

I'm home now.

I don't know what you guys mean by steps. Essentially, the ultimate goal is to get a stable job so I won't wreck everyone's bank accounts trying to help me and my brother out. Having a consistent flow of money to get what we need is what is keeping him stable. So while I've been looking for work, I am constantly trying to find ways to get money so i can keep stocked on things. My brother needs his spirits kept up consistently or he will tank and completely lose motivation to get a job, and I will likely remain stuck.

Leaving him behind is technically an option but it's something I'd naturally rather not do. It would also cause all kinds of emotional and domestic bullshit that would probably cause me more pain than even what I'm going through now.

I have an online friend who's been helping me for several months to the point where he is now in massive debt and simply said he can't do it anymore.

Now, I don't know what to do. My ex isn't helping me as much now, and she's always broke anyway. I have absolutely nothing to my name, and without people to "pull" from, my specific situation is gonna come crashing down hard. Another friend who is sort of like a guidance counselor to me and who has been keeping me afloat is running into massive credit card debt, and he hasn't been able to help much either.

ai123 posted...

You really need to start getting your shit together.

Getting your brother's disability benefit, getting your food stamps, keeping regular hours, making sure your paperwork (including your ID) is dealt with in a timely matter.

Musing about adopting cats and buying consoles on credit is not helping yourself.

How good of an employee were you at your job for them to cut your shifts and fire you so quickly?

I know this sounds harsh, and I hate saying it because I'm not a 'tell it like it is' 'tough love' person. But you have had so much help from people on this board. (It's been heartwarming, to be honest). And most of it you have ignored or dismissed.

Start telling us all the steps you are actively taking to improve your situation. I'm sure people will help out if you miss anything you could be doing.

I don't have proper answers to your questions. Idk what I'm doing. I've lost my sanity.

Walking home rn so I can't post my steps/plan yet

Not having an ID is going to impact me greatly. I have no idea when I'll be able to renew it.

Mistere_Man posted...

Can you file for unemployment for a bit?

I cannot. Gotta work for a minimum of I think 6 months.

BlueFalcon posted...

What was the reasoning?

Labor costs are high or some bullshit

Aztex posted...

Are you in Houston by any chance?

Louisiana

Humble_Novice posted...

Just to be clear, is TC the person who's been struggling financially after relocating to a different area while dealing with issues surrounding their girlfriend and brother? Or is that a completely different user?

No, same person

_____Cait posted...

What was your job? Cant you look for a new one?

Burger King. I can look for a new one but look how long it took me last time. On top of that my bike was stolen.

I was omw to work and my boss texted me saying not to come in, since higher ups took me off the schedule.

I was sent home after 40 minutes last shift, and now I may not have a job at all. I'm also broke as shit and have literally no idea how I'm gonna manage anything. I lost the one connection I had that was helping me get through everything, and my job is about to be gone too. My ID also expired the other day and I can't afford it.

Ugh par for the course for me.

dhampire1 posted...

You can.
you can make up to $1,200 a month around without losing it.

Ok. That is good to know then.

dhampire1 posted...

If youre only working 12 hours a week you need a new job. Also you can cut the internet bill.its not essential.

if you want more money get a better job with more hours. Go to any warehouse/factory job, go to a gas station, the types that make food, they usually offer higher pay and benefits.
or at least get a second job.

you cant just work a little part time and expect to adopt animals and support other people at a teenagers job.

and your friend shouldnt have to keep supporting or helping you when you arent trying to do it yourself so much

I haven't spent anything on the adoption. It's really not my decision since my roommate and I aren't dating anymore. It seems like she's wanting our money to be largely separate now.

I am trying to help myself but I am sure there are things I can do better on.

I am looking forward to this. The first season got really good towards the end.

My manager sent me pictures of my printed out pay stub. I actually expected I was gonna have to do all that myself. I sent the verification in to DCFS, so now it's literally just a waiting game. So that's at least SOMETHING good.

thronedfire2 posted...

what state do you live in?

sending you home after 40 minutes isn't even legal here, they have to pay you for 3 hours

Louisiana

It gets worse because I'm only getting 12 hours this week since I was sent home early today.

GeraldDarko posted...

Google staffing agencies
Hook up with a good one and you'll have a full-time job in a couple weeks.

I found a few. I'm gonna call one of them tomorrow.

My friend is basically refusing to help me for a solid week to see how I fare, but I've already lost. I owe too much with this check so I basically have nothing left. And I just got paid a few hours ago. Oh and my ID expired today which I also won't have money for, and I have to have it to find a second job.

ai123 posted...

Why can't your brother apply for disability at the same time as applying for jobs?

I don't think you can work and get disability at the same time.

No I can send it in today. I was waiting on my manager to send me the paystub. The cat wasn't really up to me.

I work at Burger King. I got sent home today, so I left with only 40 minutes of work.

My brothers currently actively applying for jobs which is why we haven't been pursuing disability these last couple weeks. I only made 291 dollars today and almost all of it is gone already. I won't have EBT this week, my bike was stolen while I was at work, and I'll basically be running dry for two weeks only to make even less than that.

In other words I'm pretty much back where I started. My only hope is that they actually approve me for EBT, but until then I'm totally fucked. It isn't just food that I have to worry about, but it's one of the bigger factors.

I get paid today, and I already know like 80% of it is gone. The rest will probably go to food. I owe $161 cumulatively on the phone and internet, which is already going to be close to half of what I make in two weeks. These are essential bills that can't be skipped.

I just had my food stamp interview but I gotta send in verification and wait on that to go through. One friend who kept helping me get by told me yesterday he's gonna have to stop.

I'm making like $350 every two weeks. I don't understand how I'm supposed to do this. I really fucking hope I get EBT, because I'm tired of needing assistance from my friends every five seconds. Money is gone faster than you can blink.

We just lost one of ours, and this one has been hanging around our porch wanting pets and food for ages. So we finally took the plunge and brought it inside. It stayed for about 48 hours, but as soon as I came in from the store it stormed out of the apartment and went downstairs.

I don't know how old the cat is, but it's definitely not a kitten. It absolutely hates our other cat and hid under the couch for most of the time it's been here. Any tips for luring it back? Or is it possible it will refuse to be an indoor kitty at all? I live in an apartment complex, so it could be anywhere. Pic for tax

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/e/e4a1453e.jpg

My vote goes to BK, personally.

Supernatural probably. 320 something episodes, each 45 minutes long.

archizzy posted...

Farming Simulator series.

I play each title for thousands of hours. It is pretty much something I play continuously all the time in between other games I play. There is no "end" to it or way to complete it. It is just open ended freedom so unlike other games I never finish it.

It is absolutely the king of the simulator genre and I'm an absolute fanboy that has been in love with the series for a solid decade. I can't talk positively enough about it. I find it so relaxing and can kill hours and hours just zoning out and doing field work with my tractors.

What I love the most is how there are multiple ways to accomplish the same goal and how you want to go about doing it. Something as simple as feeding your cows actually has a lot of choice involved, and a lot of different equipment involved in the making of that food. Seriously such an awesome series. The amount and variation of equipment is staggering and never gets tiring.

Would you recommend it over Harvest Moon/Story of Seasons?

Well...most of you! =P

I've gotten so much support here it is actually unbelievable. I honestly expected I'd be trolled to hell and back by now, but apparently not? Lots of people are taking my situation seriously, offering advice, comfort etc.

It has been really appreciated. Whether I end up surviving this hell or not, CE's support has helped keep me going. <3

I've said this before but I think behind all my stress and depression I would not only be back to my old self, but I could finally explore my girl side. Of course, now that I have a job that might eventually be possible, but when I'm constantly on the ground being stomped on, I barely even have time to THINK about what it would actually be like to be a woman.

I have moments where I'm more calm than others and that's usually when that side of me starts coming out. But I have neither the money, time, or energy to explore it further. Even though I'm actually kind of upset right now about other things, last few days I've been fantasizing about being a girl again.

Idk I'm just talking to the void. Don't mind me

DKC2 and 3 are the biggest ones by far. I can get lost in them whenever I want.

Also GE, Perfect Dark, Donkey Kong 64, Splatoon 3, FFIV and VI, Super Mario RPG, Chrono Cross

Thanks. Although I've never seen you either, but good first impression.

Did we really lose much? Look how PD Zero turned out. It was never going to live up to the originals standards.

Bump for baked beans

...why are all the cars cans of baked beans?

I always enjoy reading your posts

I don't recognize you