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Im sorry TC. That sort of news is so rough to hear. But if she still has a functional ovary it should still be possible just more difficult. My mom had 1 ovary after losing one to an ectopic pregnancy and was still able to have 3 kids after, without any medical intervention. There are still other methods like IVF and IUI. A friend of mine has diminishing eggs already at 30 and got pregnant with IUI. Maybe it might be beneficial for her to see a fertility specialist to understand her options and odds?

Have they ruled out assisted reproduction? I have PCOS and couldnt conceive on my own. Took a few IVF transfers to have my daughter.

Thats awesome. CA superior as usual

Meh Ill pass on this, I dont really play in handheld mode

MagnusX posted...

I don't give af that you do, it just seems like such a repressed hangup to have, kinda like guys who think periods are disgusting, and especially for someone who's had a child as a lot of pregnant women I know were super farty. Seems longer because your coworker analogy makes no sense as the two have nothing to do with each other unless you view your partner as a coworker. You say it's been fine for 10 years but I'd say there's a good chance he makes fun of it with his friends.

And my last point isn't really hyperbolic. In sickness and in health, right? If something as natural as farting is too gross, what happens in the event one of you literally can't wipe your own ass? It can be a reality.

Lmao you are so butthurt that I think its disrespectful. I never said gross. Never farted in front of my husband while pregnant and it wasnt hard not to do. Ive already said barring medical issues too, so that addresses old age and such. Id have no issue wiping his ass if I had to. After my c section I was bed ridden and I farted plenty in front of him. It wasnt a big deal, it was understood that it wasnt something I could control at that time.

If you can control it at work its not hard to control it around your SO, that is my point. I value my husband far more than coworkers. My husband doesnt fart in front of me either. Hasnt been a problem in nearly 11 years. Its not something weve had any discussion about at all, or some rule I laid out, we just mutually respect each other and just dont do it. I never told him he couldnt or that Id have an issue if he did. He just sees it the same way I do. Its not hard bruh. Not sure why this strikes such a nerve for you lol

Little Cesars pizza. On its way rn

MagnusX posted...

Well, I don't want to generally spend much time with my coworkers outside of work, nor do we share many interests, nor do I sleep in the same bed as them, nor do I want to lick their genitals. We act a particular way to stay employed and make money. So how most of us act around coworkers has very little to do with how we act at home.

Holding in farts can cause gastrointestinal distress, so I would think just being natural and farting would be more respectful. Like, I don't want to smell farts, but thinking she should leave the room seems absolutely ridiculous.

Like, you had his baby and farting is still a gross thing? What happens when you're both 85 and one of you had to wipe the other's ass?

Lol I dont know why you care this much. You do you. It hasnt been an issue for us in over 10 years. Were respectful of each other and it just hasnt been difficult to do. To each their own

voldothegr8 posted...

It's inappropriate to drop ass at work. Never inappropriate for people to do it in their castle.

I think it is around your SO. Its fine if other people do it and it works for them, I just dont agree and havent had an issue with it with my husband.

I thought it was cute. Im sure its refreshing to her over the same wyd, hey girl u sexy messages she gets all the time

MagnusX posted...

You really view your husband as a coworker?

Where do I say that? I view him as someone far more important than a coworker obviously. Which means if I can control myself at work theres no excuse not to control myself around him. Again barring some medical reason.

Johnny_Nutcase posted...

Certain ones..... Also I mentioned being in bed when I did... What do you do for a living?

Well if youre able to hold it around coworkers I dont see how its different than in a bed at home.

Johnny_Nutcase posted...

What if you're both in bed and one of you has extreme gas? I'm expected to get outta bed every 3 minutes? Not happening.

What do you do at work? Do you fart around your coworkers in that situation?

Opisseus posted...

This. It's just common courtesy, and causes me no significant discomfort to withhold gas until in an appropriate place to pass it

@Cleo_II get my back!!

Yes exactly. Barring any medical issue, its not hard just to go to the restroom or something. Its just about being respectful towards each other.

Blessed be the fruit

Its definitely nice not to have to commute or spend a good while doing my hair and makeup. But I do miss interacting with coworkers in person and just chilling in the kitchen or grabbing lunch with people. Its also been more difficult to onboard new people entirely virtually. Wed normally pair them with someone so they can shadow them and ask questions, etc. But doing it virtually is much more difficult and taxing because the new people are taking much longer to learn and bombarding us with tons of questions.

They used me against each other. I was 12 and watching cartoons. They had recently separated. My dad came by to grab me and drove me in silence to a bar. I had no clue what was going on. He walked me to a large glass window where you can see inside and pointed to my mom at a slot machine. Told me about her gambling addiction and how much money she lost. My mom saw us and came storming out to scream at him and tell me about how he cheated. Then my dad dropped me off back home like nothing happened.

I was also physically and verbally abused a lot but I was older. As a child, I think this scarred me the most.

I actually attended that Blizzcon and was in the audience when they announced Diablo Immortal. The silence was deafening. Im not a huge Diablo fan so I didnt care but you could tell people had their hopes up for a D4 announcement. I think if they announced the mobile game but gave people a teaser about D4, even if just a title on a blank screen, it would have been received much differently. However the lack of foresight there just means that the developers are that much out of touch of their player base.

How dare people get upset at a game they never wanted
Alucard188 posted...

The only thing they have going on for them is Call of Duty, World of Warcraft, and nostalgia.

WoW sucks hard now. They clearly dont care about player enjoyment but about stakeholders so they implement shit that will make their numbers look good to stakeholders at the sacrifice of players having fun. Activisions influence has been more and more obvious. Used to be that the developers really cared about making a game fun for players but now its all about the stakeholder earnings calls.

Ugh looks like we wont be getting one anytime soon. The market is terrible for cars right now due to low inventory and high demand. Were just going to wait a few more months. But leaning toward the Audi SQ5

Im Canadian and even I call it Americas hat

You pay your parents $1,500 in rent?

Drpooplol posted...

I think you could definitely leverage more money if you wanted to

Probably. But I doubt they could match the other offer. And I cant even bring it up since Im on maternity leave. They tried to promote my friend and offer more money when she gave her notice yesterday. But its not because they value us, they just cant stop the bleeding and our client base is freaking out. They have aggressive hiring goals and no one to fill them.

CyricZ posted...

Bail Cleo. Writing's on the wall. Think about what you owe them and realize it's pretty much nothing.

Yeah I know. Just sucks because I really love my clients and working with them. But I did meet with some of my future client groups and I could sense that wed work well together

Lol another person quit on my team a few days ago and my friend put in her notice yesterday. That leaves me as the most senior member of the team. One of the execs I work with (but not part of my org) messaged me saying he really hopes I plan to come back. I dont know how to respond.

Since Ive been on maternity leave, 7 people out of our 10 person team have quit. In 3 months. And many who had been there several years like myself. And thats just our team, the other teams are bleeding too.

Ive had my eye on a $1500 designer purse for years but havent pulled the trigger

KamenRiderBlade posted...

What about the Porsche Panamera?

Could you see yourself in a Sport Wagon?

A little out of our price range. I still would want an Audi S7 over that one too. I just like Audis what can I say lol

Omg we test drove the Tesla Model Y and Audi SQ5. Im in love with the Audi. Hoping to convince my husband

teep_ posted...

Imagine going German and not going for Porsche

Disclaimer: I know very little about cars and this post merely comes from regional pride

Ive just always been an Audi fan girl. I feel like if I were to get a Porsche Id want a sporty one not an SUV

KamenRiderBlade posted...

Try a Lexus Hybrid, they should have something that both you and your Hubbie can agree on.

Neither of us are big on Lexus. I just generally prefer Audis and my last car was an A4. Hes a BMW guy. His first BMW that he bought 20 years ago is still in our garage. But hes saying that he will drive the car more so it should be an X3 while I just want the Q5 more so weve been arguing lol

Killmonger posted...

I think the question the question Ill have trouble asking is telling the interviewer about myself.

This question is really just asking for a high level summary of your work experience. Try to keep it concise and relevant to the job.

You got a lot of great tips. STAR format is also what I suggest to my candidates. Also make a list for yourself of things like challenges youve solved, conflict and resolution, things that you failed at and how you went about learning from the experience, big wins, etc. That way you have examples when asked. Good luck!

CE_gonna_CE posted...

Ah, got it. Yeah, that makes sense.

Its a hard decision for sure. Ive been at my place for a bit over 6 years, and in the past 2 years Ive turned down 2 offers to move elsewhere. One of those was hard since a friend had referred me. I dont regret the decisions Ive made to stay, but I love my boss and wouldnt say its a shitshow.

It might seem silly, but Ive found it helps me to write out (or type out) a pros and cons list for staying or leaving your current job. See it all actually laid out, and then go with that and your gut.

In general, Im all about moving around and trying out new opportunities as I think that ultimately will elevate your career faster, get you more money (since companies pay new hires better than current employees, like, all the time), and give you more experience. Its just that in my case, the offers to leave were never stellar enough to get me to leave.

As long as you arent burning any bridges, Im sure you can amicably leave your current place. If things werent to work out at the new place, you never know. The door could be open to maybe come back to your old place? Its all just business after all, nothing personal.

Yeah I should make a list. I do flip flop a lot. One thing that makes me want to leave was they put this promo last Friday and its been in effect since Monday. But they didnt bother to call me and say anything. I just saw an email about it. I just got something from the system that it went through.

pure_temper posted...

congrats on your promotion

Thanks!

Thaumaturge posted...

A lot more money? Take the new job. Starting from scratch means you have more room for upwards mobility. More promotions, more raises, right?

Yeah its $15k more in base than what my promotion got me to lol. As well as bonuses. I could potentially be making 30-50k more. I just wonder if I got management experience for a couple of years and then left, Id have higher earning potential but you do have a point that if I got promoted there Id also get a raise.

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Very true. I hate the new management but I still have great relationships with the folks there like the engineers I work with. But had they given me this promotion and raise 3 months ago I would have never looked elsewhere. Theyre just worried now that Im all they have left.

DragonGirlYuki posted...

A nice fully loaded Ford F-350 in the Platinum trim. High safety since it basically dwarfs any car or SUV on the market. Dually optional.

Eh I dont want to big a car since I will be driving it too. I have a hard time with big cars. I feel like the X3/Q5 are the biggest I could go. He suggested X5 and Q7 initially but thats just too big for me

emblem boy posted...

I got one late last year. I hear the same regarding build quality, and I don't think mine has much issues, but I'm not really picky about stuff like that. If you are though, it could be an issue. They're definitely better than they used to be, and it's been out long enough for first production issues to have probably been solved.

...if you don't need the car now though, I'd say wait. Like you said, I'd expect the next couple years to have really good improvement both in the model Y future revisions, and from other manufacturers

Yeah I mostly just want a nice looking car with solid safety features to drive our baby in and feel comfortable. So for safety my husband said we should hold out for now and just lease for a few years then buy a Tesla after when theyve improved them.

emblem boy posted...

If you're only going to have one car in the household, and it's gonna be electric, might as well go for the Model Y. The Tesla charging infrastructure is a lot better, so it allows for easy road tripping

We actually have been considering the Tesla Model Y. My husband was reading that the build isnt as good though. I dunno much about cars. He was saying we should wait on it.

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Eh my husband is pretty good at negotiating leases down so that it makes sense financially. But right now the market is a bit insane so well see.

Also nice to see Audis winning lol. I just think they look so much nicer. But hes all about the engine and speed. Even though this is supposed to be a family car

metallica846 posted...

Why lease?

Its in the OP bruh

My husband and I turned in our leases and want to lease one car for the both of us. Were both wfh so dont need two cars and want an SUV. Leasing because we want electric in a few years when there are better options.

I prefer Audis and hes a BMW fan

SevenTenths posted...

If you don't like the job for more reasons than your ex boss then take the new job.

If your frustrations are primarily around how they delayed the promotion until after your returned from maturity. Give it a year, at worst you'll have the year of experience at the management level.

My limited understanding of you is you're doing all right financially, and while more money is nice, I've left plenty of money to stay at a place I'm comfortable at. Maybe the new place is better and better pay, or maybe it's even shittier and that's why they need to pay more.

Of course if I'm wrong and the extra money takes you from uncomfortable to comfortable income. Follow the money.

Yeah Im conflicted for sure. Ive always loved my job and the company before the merger. But after things have changed and even though I have great relationships with a lot of people there, our jobs have become more difficult to do and upper management have been ignoring things. Like people are mass quitting and these folks are patting themselves on the backs in meetings and talking about how great everything is going. I just have to decide if I put up with it for another year or two for the management experience, or take a 20-30k pay increase and postpone management experience for a little while longer.

CE_gonna_CE posted...

Congrats! Sounds like you cant go wrong with either option, so thats a good thing.

If you take the other position and give notice to your current company, do you think they will sweeten the pot any more? You just have to go with your gut on all this, and if you feel like moving might be the way to go then I would say do that and get out of the shitshow. But if you think you can squeeze more money out of the shitshow by showing them that you are ready to take that other hard offer, it might be worthwhile and lucrative to stay and see if they are willing to play hardball.

Thanks! Im not in the best position to negotiate while on maternity leave. I believe Im still protected if I have another offer but I worry I might jeopardize my leave if I have that conversation. I dont trust management. So I have to decide to accept this new offer now or not. My plan is to give my current employer notice 2 weeks before Im to return

nothanks1 posted...

Will the current job work around the fact you have a newborn? If so stay there for six months or so then fuck off to a better place since you'll have leadership experience in that career field.
and bring some clients over too

They would. Theyve been great during my pregnancy too so I dont regret having stayed with them despite everything. But I have a friend at the new company who is heavily pregnant and said theyve been fantastic with her.

Will_VIIII posted...

Would you lose a significant amount of PTO switching?

IMO it's an important consideration if you currently have say, 4 weeks a year now and would drop down to 2 at a new job.

Nope Id get about the same time off, if not a bit more.

TrevorLawrence posted...

Does the new position allow you to WFH and/or does it require way longer hours?

Work life balance has become a major thing for me recently as I look for new jobs. I work in tech so most people agree with 40-45 hours per week max.

Both are WFH but my current role would allow me to go into the office when I want. The other office is in another state of which kind of sucks. I like getting out of the house from time to time. From people I know at the other company, work life balance is better too. Honestly its better in every way, I would just have to reset my career progression that Ive worked hard for.

nothanks1 posted...

I thought you left?
Or maybe I'm confused.

This is the job that fucked you over right and then you left to go on leave for the baby and your replacement was still unprepared since she wasn't experienced enough?

But then there was also I think you left A job and your old manager asked you to come back? Is that the same job as this or is this the job you had when your old manager offered you your old one back

Im on mat leave and still employed with them, but looking to jump ship but they dont know that. I did leave them before because of the shit they pulled with promos, then they convinced me to come back and that they would work with me on a plan. Then we merged with another company and they scrapped everything. Now the higher ups saw everyone left and they see they fucked things up with me. I know Id be a complete idiot to go back lol

After being denied last March lol

Now they are worried I wont come back and want to do me right according to my former manager. I say former because she quit a few weeks back. Along with that majority of the team. Since I left in March, 6 people on my team quit (we were 10 when I left). So I guess theyre sweating now. I have good relationship with some of the engineering execs who have expressed concern for me and have been pushing things as well.

I got a 15k bump in base pay, will get more bonus and am at an associate manager level where I would have a small team to manage when I return from mat leave. It sucks because I wanted to get into management for a while. I have another offer for a lot more money though Id have to start over in career progression. Im leaning towards taking it since its a shit show at this place. But I hate how I will start from scratch and keep second guessing things. Halp

Kitt posted...

He's being obtuse on purpose.

Its not just him, its pretty prevalent on the internet, seen it a ton on Reddit especially. And Ive been shamed multiple times here by people for doing IVF treatments instead of adopting

Lol I always laugh at jUst AdoPt people. Its like people think you can just go to a baby store and get a baby

Its the same in Canada, my mom told me about it a little while ago. The worst for me was spending 8-12 hours at the ER whenever I had a very debilitating migraine. Im talking extreme nausea and head splitting pain, waiting in a cold ass hallway because there were no available rooms, with no nurses ever checking on me. No food or water, would somehow need to track down a nurse if I could find one to get any water, which was hard to do in that much pain. And blaring lights that made shit so much worse.

Here Ive just gone to urgent care and they make sure Im in a nice comfy dark room. In and out in about an hour. Amazing nurses and care, $50-100 copay with insurance. They often give you a warmed up blanket too.

My hospital stay for giving birth was like a hotel experience with my own suite and only $1500 with insurance

Yeah Im still wearing my mask indoors. I went to pick up a prescription yesterday and most people dropped theirs. Most businesses are still requiring them but I dont think theyre really enforcing it. I rarely go anywhere indoors though so its nbd, today Im meeting a friend for lunch but were having it outside.

I hope they make the main cast less whiney than in the books

Lol my husband kept saying if I made one while pregnant Id get a lot of subs. I didnt believe it I just felt fat.

Braces

Feline_Heart posted...

Couldnt you just use a surrogate if you still wanted kids?

Gamerguymass posted...

I doubt most women in their 30s would be interested in not having their own kids and using a surrogate because their husband thinks they are to old and will harm the baby.

Lmfao at both of these. Smh

Im glad Im not the only one not bothered by this

Thanks everyone! Im so pumped. I dont start until September. Which is awesome that they were all cool with that. Will need to look into a nanny though. I cannot work and care for my baby but it will be nice because I will still be home and around her.

I liked the management opportunity A provided but at the end of the day, good pay and benefits are whats best for my family right now overall. I also loved the people at C and I know folks there

C is the company I won the thunderdome for btw

cjsdowg posted...

Good job no matter what you pick.

Thank you! The market is great right now. All 3 of these arent even jobs I applied to and are a good bump in pay

Im super excited and cant wait to tell my employer to shove it in a few months lol