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tremain07 posted...

Man, I'm sorry TC. Usually when they start talking like that it's basically a less than subtle way of telling you "Your loved one is done for", Source, I've gone through this 3 times in my life, my grandfather, my mother, my grandmother, through it wasn't cancer that took them but kidney failure and they tried so hard...actually scratch that, my grandfather and my grandmother did nothing despite their kids pleading with them, my mother however tried her best and it still wasn't enough. Just know, by the time they become unresponsive and their hands start feeling cold, that's when you'll likely be approached with the question of turning off the life support, god I really fucking hope you never have to hear or see the code blue. That sound, the sight of them running into the room, the fear that creeps into you, I hope you never experience it ever,.

Oh yeah, both my dad and I know hes dying. His first words when I got here? Im croakin. He has a very sardonic sense of humor.

Im not surprised, Ive felt that hes been dying since he started going downhill. Part of surviving things like this is the will to do so. My dad is very tired of the fight and hes made quite a few jokes about just going off in his sleep so it's
done with.

Its rough but I always feel like its worse for the person experiencing it, versus me on the outside.

I wasnt able to get back in time to see my mother, but thats never bothered me. We did not have a good relationship. I didnt have a particularly good one with my father either, but he was more tolerable most of the time. Well, when he wasnt actively abusive. Lol.

At the same time, I dont see death as a bad thing. Especially after an illness like this. My mothers death was entirely preventable and pretty much a form of suicide. My dad is kind of the same way in that hes chosen not to fight his disease. Hes had almost 2 years, so thats not bad. Ive been living with him for a little over a year again, and hes thankful for that.

To put it in somewhat perspective, of his 5 kids, Im the only one thats stayed in constant contact (even if it was months between talking when I lived out west), while all four others have been on no contact multiple times in their lives.

In fact, Im pretty sure 3 are right now. I know for a fact 1 is.

The one son I was able to get ahold of is coming out, but his two sisters are not (hes framed it that they cant, which may be true, but it might also be an excuse), however even if it is an excuse, I dont fault them for that.

The son that I know is no contact, dad said his final words to dad were I want nothing from your in life or death. So yeah.

Kind of off on a tangent but yeah, when my dad goes, he wont have to deal with the pain, and I probably wont mourn anyway. I didnt with my mother and its been 5 years.

KogaSteelfang posted...

Sorry that it seems that he's nearing the end, but at least he can be made comfortable and have dignity when the time comes.

Oh yeah. The doctor straight up said his health is failing. Thats what palliative care is about: just making someone comfortable to the end. Thats what my grandfather is going through right now downstairs. Woo.

Where was that pharmacy located? Docking pay is illegal in most places.

KINDERFELD posted...

The most disturbing and hurtful aspect of this is, I moved from one state to this one with the expectation of earning more and now I'm getting the same as the state I was in before.

I feel so defeated and hopeless.

Next time make it email you your copy. Always get your copy.

Across systems I have. Such as GTA5 on ps3/4 and Pc. Lol. But I never pay full price for rebuys. I wait for sales to get it cheap. Ive done it with other games.

Like I bought horizon zero Dawn on pc so I could play it because I dont have access to my ps4.

Mayo on a burger is fucking good.

DrizztLink posted...

"I'm gonna win!"

*immediately and thoroughly loses*

ooooh.

Thank you lol

I just hadnt ever heard of it before.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=L16SzqPklKA

Takeout from somewhere. In the hospital so Ill just grab something on the way home.

darkmaian23 posted...

Watching someone circle the drain is one of the least pleasant things you can experience. I'm very sorry, and I hope you're doing OK.

Kinda. My mental health is tenuous at the best of times the last couple of years. This hasnt helped. But him in the hospital and fighting with the nurses helps. Well hes not fighting them but arguing.

A couple of nurses came in to clean him... and oh god I had to run away. The smell.

lol

tremain07 posted...

basically make a declaration while pointing at yourself and you'll lose to her in that declaration

wut

OHJOY90 posted...

It seemed like a laugh at the time, but now I'm regretting it tbf.

It is a low hanging fruit. Lol. Im not bashing anyone.

So I grabbed a step stool and went just a bit higher. Lol

I dont know what job to her means.

It took like a week before they unblocked my account and they threw the second into purgatory. The one where I explicitly said I wasnt suicidal. Lol

Heartomaton posted...

Imagine the ball it must have taken to get out there like that.

ball. I see what you did there.

rofl

Dying in a hospital bed before my eyes.

frozenstar posted...

Read the rest of the topic: I'm sorry to hear that. I doubt there was anything you could have done.

The doctor who was telling me about the options was pretty uncomfortable because its obvious my dad decided to let the disease take its course. But he needed to tell me the possible options. Basically came down to quality of life, and while fighting the cancer could extend it, it would mean lower quality of life. Which cant get much lower at this point as far as Im concerned.

Im glad I avoided the people live there?! Joke. Lol

Just talked to the doctors. Theyre absolutely sure the cancer is back/never gone. But hes so far down that even if radiation/chemo/surgery were to be an option, he would need a couple of months of strengthening before theyd approve it.

however dad told me when I got here he isnt really interested in doing that and the oncologist told him before there was nothing more to be done.

hes sleeping really hard right now to the point the doctors couldnt wake him up to talk to him.

Im going to have a discussion with hospice care about the best way to take care of him and what will be the best way to help him going forward.

Right now the doctors feel that hes nearing the end.

Ive also been in contact with one of my half brothers. Hes coming out tomorrow night to see our dad. Hes told his two sisters, but thats all I know. They know where he is. I havent talked to them directly.

Our other brother is in the wind as it were. Im trying to find his contact info, but no one seems to have it right now.

He just said he doesnt think either sister can make it. Which is fine. I know they havent really been talking to him for awhile. They might not want to and thats ok.

went and saw my grandfather, and hes pretty much out of it. Its pretty much keeping him comfortable until he goes and it can be any time. But I got to see him one last time.

My cousin and her husband were there, along with my aunt. So we grabbed for a few minutes about family and I came back up to my dad.

Oh, and my dads younger brother called me. So I got him up to present with the info.

frozenstar posted...

That's good news, congrats TC. Hope your father gets the help he needs and you finally get the respite you need.

After I get that disaster of a living room cleaned up... well at least the recent portions of the disaster. Smokers in a house for 40 years... ugh.

but thanks.

Just talked to the doctors. Theyre absolutely sure the cancer is back/never gone. But hes so far down that even if radiation/chemo/surgery were to be an option, he would need a couple of months of strengthening before theyd approve it.

however dad told me when I got here he isnt really interested in doing that and the oncologist told him before there was nothing more to be done.

hes sleeping really hard right now to the point the doctors couldnt wake him up to talk to him.

Im going to have a discussion with hospice care about the best way to take care of him and what will be the best way to help him going forward.

Right now the doctors feel that hes nearing the end.

Ive also been in contact with one of my half brothers. Hes coming out tomorrow night to see our dad. Hes told his two sisters, but thats all I know. They know where he is. I havent talked to them directly.

Our other brother is in the wind as it were. Im trying to find his contact info, but no one seems to have it right now.

He just said he doesnt think either sister can make it. Which is fine. I know they havent really been talking to him for awhile. They might not want to and thats ok.

went and saw my grandfather, and hes pretty much out of it. Its pretty much keeping him comfortable until he goes and it can be any time. But I got to see him one last time.

My cousin and her husband were there, along with my aunt. So we grabbed for a few minutes about family and I came back up to my dad.

Oh, and my dads younger brother called me. So I got him up to present with the info.

Mormaurd posted...

Terminal clean means the cleaning tech(s) have to suit up in full protective gear and clean the room top to bottom as if everythings contaminated with a highly infectious disease. Theyre done for covid, c diff, measles, and tuberculosis type diseases.

Its done after a patient marked with contact/droplet/airborne/enhanced airborne precautions is discharged from that room.

Edit: Discharged meaning theyre moved from that room to somewhere else.

Cool. Thanks for the info. I kind of guessed it was a deep clean or something considering they were dealing with feces but didnt know about suiting up and what not. Yeah they have a sign on his door saying it needs a terminal clean too where he is now.

J03can posted...

What a sweet sweet angel

He is one of the sweetest kittens weve ever had. Like hes never a grumpy butt or mean what so ever.

His main girlfriend, Orchid, shes mean one. Bites me all the time. Swats me. And when she cant make me stop annoying her, she goes and bites him in the face and he just wrestles with her until shes worn out.

Far-Queue posted...

Oh wow ZangsBeard is a fairly uncommon name crazy that there's two in your family

Heh

When I tell people my real name and they comment on it, I always say Ive only ever met two others, and Im related to both (kind of... grandfather isnt blood relation)

I do what is left.

Ogurisama posted...

This sounds like those people who are prescribed antibiotics and stop taking them when they are feeling better, and not the full term the doctors prescribed you for.

Possible, but he wasnt like that. Its more likely that he didnt want to actually go through with the treatment because its really hard to do.

Fighting cancer is a bitch.

Ive thought for awhile maybe its returned (if it was ever actually in remission) he probably doesnt even want to go through another round of chemo.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/5/4/7/AAVgnZAAEEJL.jpg

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/5/4/5/AAVgnZAAEEJJ.jpg

Dandelion Potato cuddling me while I update family members on my dads health.

KogaSteelfang posted...

I'm glad he's finally the help he needs. Hopefully they can convince him that he needs more help than he thought and can it set up to make your life easier. That whole situation sounded like hell for everyone involved.

They downright asked me yesterday if Id be able to take care of him if he came home or if they should look into something else. Especially considering how he showed up. Lol

I told them I can only do so much and I cant move him around or get him to the bathroom or clean him.

So odds are hell stay in the hospital.

refmon posted...

Adults having sex

Oh No

Did you miss a word in what you quoted?

coolpal23 posted...

Yeah this, hope everything turns out well tc

Its not looking like it at this point. There doesnt seem to be anything wrong with him that they can fix.

Lolwtf

Fucking Amazon

My dad has an infection in his gut (unsurprising), and high blood pressure. Apparently he skipped a lot of his cancer treatment appointments so they dont even know what the status of the disease was (well the specific doctor I talked to today). He told me and others he was in remission.

So theyre talking palliative care, or possible cancer treatments. But hes leaving it to me to talk to the doctors. Which I will when I go to see him in a little bit.

I also just found out that my grandfather (maternal), whom in named after, is also there and in hospice.

He got Covid last month, had a 10 day isolation, took a downturn, and put him in another 10 day isolation, but hes not getting better. So its looking like his time is going to be short too.

At least its the same hospital..

My dad has an infection in his gut (unsurprising), and high blood pressure. Apparently he skipped a lot of his cancer treatment appointments so they dont even know what the status of the disease was (well the specific doctor I talked to today). He told me and others he was in remission.

So theyre talking palliative care, or possible cancer treatments. But hes leaving it to me to talk to the doctors. Which I will when I go to see him in a little bit.

I also just found out that my grandfather (maternal), whom in named after, is also there and in hospice.

He got Covid last month, had a 10 day isolation, took a downturn, and put him in another 10 day isolation, but hes not getting better. So its looking like his time is going to be short too.

At least its the same hospital...

SomeLikeItHoth posted...

That can't possibly be real.

https://apnews.com/article/7d73086e3f2f41b78b99209e742fbcfb

Ouch, that sucks.

A few months ago there was an entire intersection shut down about 6 blocks from my house as we were coming home. Found out later, that utility workers were working on the power lines, and had laid a line across the road... well, a car driving over it snagged it somehow, pulled it, and it got wrapped around a worker's leg and ripped it off at the knee.

Nothing. I bought the Ace Attorney trilogy for my wife, that's it.

NeonTentacles posted...

Without context this topic seemed bad lol

Right?

I finally got in touch with one of his other children. He says he's going to "Try" to come up to see him.

Considering I know this person is literally rich and makes 6 figures easily... lol

The_Critic posted...

Large companies have billions invested in their name and brand. Having a fall guy is valuable to mitigate damage to your brand. Its like buying insurance.

Yeah, still doesn't actually do anything.

The_Critic posted...

CEOs give a public face to hate and blame when things go wrong instead of the corporation.

So they should only be paid $1. Because them being hated means literally nothing.

Lordgold666 posted...

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/2/4/9/AAaTezAAEDlR.jpg

I feel personally attacked by this.

CM_Ponch posted...

How long can this go on?

2 years. lol

Monopoman posted...

Trump actually did try to talk positively about the vaccine at his own rally he was booed. Trump knows what plays well to his base so he will blow with the wind on anything if his fanbase approves.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eA306aNtvmk

still one of my favorite things.