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I'm 40 and single, I'm also an associate at goodwill

HighSeraph posted...

I'm 40 and single, I'm also an associate at goodwill

^5, man! What's it like there?

HighSeraph posted...

I'm 40 and single, I'm also an associate at goodwill

You're 40? Would not have guessed that from pictures.

I'm 36 and happily single. Mostly happily. Predominately.

Im 35 and single and Im perfectly happy with that

Almost 37 and single.

Is this something I should feel bad about?

Because, compared to my experiences with the alternative, this is so so much better.

I need more a/s/l in this piece!!!!!!

I am actually being honest but I'm 42/m/ny not looking. But I hope other ppl find looooove. Once I turned 40 I well before then I stopped giving a shit.

Blastia posted...

^5, man! What's it like there?

Goodwill or being 40? I was in a relationship until March of last year and honestly I think I'm kind of over romance and sex.

As for Goodwill it's alright, I hate picking up donations when it's freezing outside tho. People donate sextoys a lot which is weird.

rexcrk posted...

Is this something I should feel bad about?

Apparently, judging by how some people act about it. I don't get it.

Sex toys? I thought this was the Malibu. When I moved I figured my family gave a lot of useless dishware to the place, but if ya watch some youtube thrifts you can see failed collector editions of stuff that ppl weren't even assed to sell them on eBay. I thought ppl always hustling.

I'm in a relationship with myself

Well no said anything about the w word, yet.....

Nothin wrong with that.

Society puts too much emphasis on being in a relationship.

And not being a virgin.

Congrats!

I'm 32 and never been on a date.

Crazy!

I'm a 43 year old virgin and never been on a date.

Time posted...

I'm 32 and never been on a date.

same :/

the closest thing I ever had to a girlfriend was when I was in highschool! :(

I wish I was single.

I'm 39 and scared as fuck right now.

rexcrk posted...

Because, compared to my experiences with the alternative, this is so so much better.

Good relationship > single > bad relationship

You never had a good one

rexcrk posted...

Is this something I should feel bad about?

But no, you should not

Blastia posted...

I truly am I sad sight

Why? If youre happy being single, no problem. If youre not, youve got yourself a solveable problem.

41 year old , unhappy, forever alone signing in.

Cyan in a tuxedo never went on a damn date never even got a hand out. I at least well I've been on dates, I just never made the move and upbringing and situation.

I want to make this post super funny. Cyan is such a tragic story from FFVI.

If I could figure out how or when I can talk to women and get adequate, satisfying responses that don't make me feel bad maybe I could get closer to not being single.

My ADHD is going to make it impossible to 'get used to' disappointment, but it makes it even harder if I talk to someone I know just to be more routinely be kept in the inside of whatever's going on in their life, basically just short of "please be friends with me I kinda like you okay" and something as basic as "Let's have lunch sometime and talk, or maybe just talk if you're bored" is met with "schedules really bad and I have to look after my kids" with no sorrys, no thank you, no 'would if I could bro, sorry buddy'.

Like what happened what did I do? Why did my last message after that get previewed and then left on Sent, no reassurances and basically one step short of the ol' shitty classic final Facebook message "LOOK, I really don't have time to talk with you and we REALLY didn't know each other that well anyway." or equal equivalent value?

I know I'm overreacting a LITTLE but I can't recall when even people I've known to be nice to me for no reason and not expecting some kind of quid pro quo relationship to feel like I'm someone who needs to be ignored. Maybe from their perspective I've looked like someone who actively didn't need them or ignored them on purpose, but that's not what was happening at all.

It's all so frustrating.

Would you rather be 19, married, and miserable, and divorced, like most of Gen X did?

wanderingshade posted...

If I could figure out how or when I can talk to women and get adequate, satisfying responses that don't make me feel bad maybe I could get closer to not being single.

My ADHD is going to make it impossible to 'get used to' disappointment, but it makes it even harder if I talk to someone I know just to be more routinely be kept in the inside of whatever's going on in their life, basically just short of "please be friends with me I kinda like you okay" and something as basic as "Let's have lunch sometime and talk, or maybe just talk if you're bored" is met with "schedules really bad and I have to look after my kids" with no sorrys, no thank you, no 'would if I could bro, sorry buddy'.

Like what happened what did I do? Why did my last message after that get previewed and then left on Sent, no reassurances and basically one step short of the ol' shitty classic final Facebook message "LOOK, I really don't have time to talk with you and we REALLY didn't know each other that well anyway." or equal equivalent value?

I know I'm overreacting a LITTLE but I can't recall when even people I've known to be nice to me for no reason and not expecting some kind of quid pro quo relationship to feel like I'm someone who needs to be ignored. Maybe from their perspective I've looked like someone who actively didn't need them or ignored them on purpose, but that's not what was happening at all.

It's all so frustrating.

Part of dating is failing. It sucks. But the failures become less painful, you learn from mistakes, you learn what to avoid in partners, what you value, what you can tolerate, and what you want, and what you can offer. Its not what anyone wants to hear, but its what happens.

Also, you learn that being alone is not a bad thing. You get your own money, hobbies, time, and less responsibility. So many people go looking for partners, to realize they suddenly lost the freedom they had for so long, and they become toxic.

Youll get there. Just try. Failing means you will meet someone who is better for you later.

Never too late

Will_VIIII posted...

Never too late

No horny

31 here and never been on a date. Autism, high anxiety, and low self-confidence make a shit combination when it comes to looking for love.

Im 39 and single. Every time I try dating, I remember why I prefer being single.

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Monferno_AQW posted...

31 here and never been on a date. Autism, high anxiety, and low self-confidence make a shit combination when it comes to looking for love.

I have autism, anxiety and used to have low confidence. But through practice, perseverance, experience and some luck, I manged to gain confidence and then the autism and anxiety didn't matter so much anymore.

I didn't get married til 38

Will_VIIII posted...

I didn't get married til 38

Me neither, but theres a middle ground between single and married.

Im 32 and single and afraid of the gender Im attracted to lol

Glob posted...

Me neither, but theres a middle ground between single and married.

There is but there are also a lot of young to mid 30 somethings here where it's not unobtainable. Still not even if you're older than me IMO if you really want to put the effort into it.

Will_VIIII posted...

There is but there are also a lot of young to mid 30 somethings here where it's not unobtainable. Still not even if you're older than me IMO if you really want to put the effort into it.

Id never suggest otherwise. Ive always maintained that dating really isnt that hard.

32 and have never been on a date and likely never will

I'm 36 and autistic and didn't go on my first date until 29 and now I'm in a 7 year relationship. The odds are stacked against you, but it's not impossible.

_____Cait posted...

Part of dating is failing. It sucks. But the failures become less painful, you learn from mistakes, you learn what to avoid in partners, what you value, what you can tolerate, and what you want, and what you can offer. Its not what anyone wants to hear, but its what happens.

Also, you learn that being alone is not a bad thing. You get your own money, hobbies, time, and less responsibility. So many people go looking for partners, to realize they suddenly lost the freedom they had for so long, and they become toxic.

Youll get there. Just try. Failing means you will meet someone who is better for you later.

I dunno. I mean half my rant was me talking about getting caught in feelings about trying to have lunch with a High School acquaintance because not only did she tell me it wasn't going to happen, when I told her we could just talk more if she wanted because she one of the people I actually like she left me on Sent.

I have what the neurodivergent lads call "Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria" and every new one is like a new etch, even if barely remember half of them. The more they happen the more I shut down.

wanderingshade posted...

I dunno. I mean half my rant was me talking about getting caught in feelings about trying to have lunch with a High School acquaintance because not only did she tell me it wasn't going to happen, when I told her we could just talk more if she wanted because she one of the people I actually like she left me on Sent.

But that is a very specific example of where you likely came off as creepy. That would not necessarily be the norm, especially if you practice and keep at it.

And don't worry, I have quite a few times where I came off as creepy back before I figured out what I was doing. And I was 40 when I figured this out! So not too late.

And before someone mentions it, yes I was already divorced at 40. But I was pretty much set up with that person when I was 19 and we were both drunk. I had never successfully landed a real date. And throughout my marriage she constantly made me feel bad for being awkward.

So other than her, I had no real experience at the age of 40.

HighSeraph posted...

I'm 40 and single, I'm also an associate at goodwill

What color tag are you pulling today?

bsp77 posted...

you likely came off as creepy

I dunno, I guess there could have been a better way to express fondness and say I hadn't seen her in a long time and such. I just don't like it when women get like confused and try to ignore you. At least she didn't jump down my throat and tell me to fuck off I guess.

A man is only sad by choice

wanderingshade posted...

I dunno, I guess there could have been a better way to express fondness and say I hadn't seen her in a long time and such. I just don't like it when women get like confused and try to ignore you. At least she didn't jump down my throat and tell me to fuck off I guess.

If someone a woman hasn't seen in many years suddenly reaches out and also seems interested in them, they will typically shy away from that. That sounds pretty expected.

I am only saying that that shouldn't be your example and your experience. Try to meet some new women and look for a connection, whether in person or using apps.

wanderingshade posted...

I dunno, I guess there could have been a better way to express fondness and say I hadn't seen her in a long time and such. I just don't like it when women get like confused and try to ignore you. At least she didn't jump down my throat and tell me to fuck off I guess.

That's all part of learning. Learn from your mistakes, so that you can do better next time. I "fumbled" so many women, but once I knew where I went wrong (either through self reflection or asking others), I just made sure not to repeat the same mistakes.

And don't take things too hard with that old high school acquittance. Some times it's just awkward trying to reconnect after so many years, because you've both changed a lot.

Like, back in 2019, I ran into a woman who used to be my best friend in high school. But at that point we hadn't talked to each other in over 10 years. I tried to reconnect with her, but all of her texts to me were short and she just seemed bothered by me talking to her, so I just stopped texting her. She hasn't attempted to reach out at all. I didn't take that personally though, just is what it is.

I'm 34 and single

Mostly by choice