Current Events > boss took me into a room to talk about how obviously my soul is being destroyed

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by work. she says i look like death every day. i dont sound good on the phone either. she asked why its affecting me so much. i told her that having to come in and get yelled at on phones all day, not being able to fight back, while being expected to do more and more as more people are laid off, isnt exactly inspiring stuff

then she confided in me she takes benzos to manage and im like. sure. thats one option.

legit cannot believe my life man. 31, living at home, no savings, soul crushing job

its pretty shitty

I feel ya, my friend. I think about quitting my job every day lol

You should get a better job then

oh yeah

I thought you & your partner were moving in together somewhere else & that things were improving? Did that fall through or something

Living at home is....kinda what people do?

hereforemnant posted...

I thought you & your partner were moving in together somewhere else & that things were improving? Did that fall through or something

thats later this year

If you're not already, start looking for jobs.

i am looking for jobs, but that doesnt mean much to me. i dont have any credentials

With that attitude, I agree you won't find another job

What's your current job?

Dungeater posted...

thats later this year

Oh okay so you just have to make it a bit longer

ask if she wants to share her bennies

My old boss always used to tell me when I'm having a hard time that I can take a week of vacation, its fine, they'll hire someone else, and said it with absolutely no sense that that's a little concerning.

bluezero posted...

With that attitude, I agree you won't find another job

thanks thats kind of you

Wow. It's like looking in a mirror of my past.

I was just like you, tc. Clinically depressed, living at home, late 20s, no hope for the future.

I reached a breaking point after having to be committed to the worst psychiatric ward in existence. I finally was put on meds and turned things around after that.

My mom found a good opportunity for me in trade school. I'm now about 3 years into it and I'm loving it.

Stay strong. Get help.

Jupiter posted...

What's your current job?

claims adjuster, didnt mean to ignore

Xatrion posted...

Wow. It's like looking in a mirror of my past.

I was just like you, tc. Clinically depressed, living at home, late 20s, no hope for the future.

I reached a breaking point after having to be committed to the worst psychiatric ward in existence. I finally was put on meds and turned things around after that.

My mom found a good opportunity for me in trade school. I'm now about 3 years into it and I'm loving it.

Stay strong. Get help.

ive been seeing a psychiatrist for 2 years and a therapist since october. im getting help

whats with people always assuming im not

Xatrion posted...

Wow. It's like looking in a mirror of my past.

I was just like you, tc. Clinically depressed, living at home, late 20s, no hope for the future.

I reached a breaking point after having to be committed to the worst psychiatric ward in existence. I finally was put on meds and turned things around after that.

My mom found a good opportunity for me in trade school. I'm now about 3 years into it and I'm loving it.

Stay strong. Get help.

Psych wards are bad Ive heard but my one was so boring and stress free that it did the opposite to me and stressed me cos I was so bored of how perfect it was (keep in mind I was under 18 then so it could be different idk.) the others there were mostly women who either were extremely quiet like me or were telling weird jokes a lot and the few men that were there seemed more far gone than I comfortably liked mentally. But it was just so terribly uninteresting. The staff were kinda ignorant or seldom made conversation and its better than anything bad I guess. I hear people say psych wards are really bad but the only specifications I get are people saying rude staff but they dont explain how they were rude.

Start an onlyfans

Crimsoness posted...

Start an onlyfans

i will, but my room is far too tiny to do any filming, plus that shit is a ton of work, and that's all just to barely make a buck or two

definitely preferable to my current sitch tho

ArkhamOrigins posted...

You should get a better job then

Not even remotely helpful dude

Are you also helping your parents financially too? Not to sound crass but if you have been living at home this many years I dont see how you can work a full time job and not have savings. Even if you were working at McDonalds you should be able to save up some good money while living at home unless you are home because you are supporting your parents which I would totally understand. I know some people who do that.

Obviously it sucks and you have talked before how soul crushing it is but at least you only have to do it until later in the year. Once you move with your partner things should change for the better unless you cant get over the mental hurdle of living better that you have also talked about openly.

I hope you can accept things getting better for you and enjoy your change in living situation and work situation later this year.

If you're living with your parents, where is all of your money going?

Dungeater posted...

claims adjuster, didnt mean to ignore

Oh no, sounds like GEICO csr, rip.

archizzy posted...

Are you also helping your parents financially too?

no. my dad makes a lot of money, he charged me rent for a long time but not for years

before i was 18 my parents demanded i go to college following high school, despite having no dreams or desires of my own. and despite not being college material. they told me it was either college or the streets. they did not help with costs and demanded i get loans.

so i went several dozen thousands of dollars into debt for school, school which i struggled for 6 years to pass, before ultimately failing out for good, because as i told them i am not smart enough nor driven enough for college.

i then moved to texas on my own.

after my job transferred me to texas, they closed the branch i ended up in after less than a year. i came back. moving twice in short term was expensive. coming back i had to part with most of my belongings because i straight up could not afford to move them. since then i have had lots of bills and lots of medical expenses that are completely necessary

i shouldnt have mentioned the savings thing, someone well off always comes in stupefied that someone might be bad with money and might have had a lot of bad luck

TheDurinator posted...

Oh no, sounds like GEICO csr, rip.

not quite that bad at least. my company used to actually be really good and low stress. but we got bought out by one of the big dogs, and now its just as stressful as Allstate was. maybe worse

Dungeater posted...

no. my dad makes a lot of money, he charged me rent for a long time but not for years

before i was 18 my parents demanded i go to college following high school, despite having no dreams or desires of my own. and despite not being college material. they told me it was either college or the streets. they did not help with costs and demanded i get loans.

so i went several dozen thousands of dollars into debt for school, school which i struggled for 6 years to pass, before ultimately failing out for good, because as i told them i am not smart enough nor driven enough for college.

i then moved to texas on my own.

after my job transferred me to texas, they closed the branch i ended up in after less than a year. i came back. moving twice in short term was expensive. coming back i had to part with most of my belongings because i straight up could not afford to move them. since then i have had lots of bills and lots of medical expenses that are completely necessary

i shouldnt have mentioned the savings thing, someone well off always comes in stupefied that someone might be bad with money and might have had a lot of bad luck

Understandable. Im glad you have had your parents while you try to get back to a better situation.

archizzy posted...

Understandable. Im glad you have had your parents while you try to get back to a better situation.

i am thankful for the roof but thats about all the support I can say i get. they call me slurs and throw shit at me. its an abusive household

and a hoarder household

if my mom sees me at all she just instantly goes into "oh im such a bitch right, i call you a mutant so im such a bitch"

my parents also think jesus christ himself will descend from heaven to appoint donald trump the president

but thank you for being glad they have my back

these people force fed me my own vomit when i was a child

What do you want to be doing?

I could never understand your situation personally as I have supportive family who sometimes say bad things but they have my back i know for a fact, but I really hope you can get the comfiness of living with your bf and lose those feelings of living too easy with your bf you said in The past cos I believe people should live as comfy a life as possible if possible. Dont let opportunity slip cos of your doubts, Please.

TheGoldenEel posted...

What do you want to be doing?

n/a

i have no drive, no ambition, no desires

i literally passively scroll wikipedia's "List of Hobbies" just to hopefully find something that might sound interesting

what i really want is not possible, and thats to have a quiet, modest place of my own, and i can just exist there peacefully, and not have to worry about a job

i know this was a profoundly unhelpful response lol

Believe in the 6 hours day, 30 hour week, same pay.

Some places in the world already have it because people do the same amount of work better

CobraGT posted...

Believe in the 6 hours day, 30 hour week, same pay.

Some places in the world already have it because people do the same amount of work better

that small improvement would honestly give me a really big boost

Dungeater posted...

n/a

i have no drive, no ambition, no desires

i literally passively scroll wikipedia's "List of Hobbies" just to hopefully find something that might sound interesting

what i really want is not possible, and thats to have a quiet, modest place of my own, and i can just exist there peacefully, and not have to worry about a job

i know this was a profoundly unhelpful response lol

No hobbies? No interest in any sort of arts? Nothing you can leverage into a viable career?

what about getting into something like quality assurance?

TheGoldenEel posted...

No hobbies? No interest in any sort of arts?

i have a very casual interest in a few things. gaming, birds, cooking

nowhere near enough interest to explore any of these academically or professionally

TheGoldenEel posted...

Nothing you can leverage into a viable career?

nothin. my only skill is that im exceptional at speaking to ppl. i make incredibly strong first impressions, and people trust me off of very little

TheGoldenEel posted...

what about getting into something like quality assurance?

to be honest, i dont even know what it is. ill examine it in a minute though, just got a new claim at work

Dungeater posted...

to be honest, i dont even know what it is. ill examine it in a minute though, just got a new claim at work

often times software, but not necessarily; its just testing some product for quality

lots of positions dont require degreesfor software QA they might want some kind of certification

but its more active/stimulating work without having to deal with customers all the time

so like I used to work at a company that made fitness equipment and the QA people would run the software, do manual testing on the equipment (using it) or write scripts to automate certain things (starting a workout and letting it run for some set amount of time), and note down tests that passed, note down problems and how to recreate them, etc

its a good field to be in with a lot of room for growth as well as on-the-job learning

Get a government job. Atleast there you can die slow with good benefits.

call center job? i felt the same way about mine so i became a supervisor and now things are better

TheGoldenEel posted...

often times software, but not necessarily; its just testing some product for quality

lots of positions dont require degreesfor software QA they might want some kind of certification

but its more active/stimulating work without having to deal with customers all the time

so like I used to work at a company that made fitness equipment and the QA people would run the software, do manual testing on the equipment (using it) or write scripts to automate certain things (starting a workout and letting it run for some set amount of time), and note down tests that passed, note down problems and how to recreate them, etc

its a good field to be in with a lot of room for growth as well as on-the-job learning

this sounds a lot better than what i do now. ill be searching for jobs along these lines, thank you for bringing this up since i definitely wouldn't have thought of it on my own

ironman2009 posted...

Get a government job. Atleast there you can die slow with good benefits.

when i move to california ill look into the tests and such required. no point rn as that stuff is slow going and i dont even have a year left in this state

JumpstyIe posted...

call center job? i felt the same way about mine so i became a supervisor and now things are better

not exactly. insurance claims office. they just happened to can the receptionists, so now im dealing with other peoples shit instead of just my own

Dungeater posted...

this sounds a lot better than what i do now. ill be searching for jobs along these lines, thank you for bringing this up since i definitely wouldn't have thought of it on my own

the only thing I would say is dont get discouraged. It will be harder without a degree but you could maybe leverage some of your schooling or experience in what you do now to find something. Basically every company that puts out a product or software that people use needs quality assurance/testing, so there are a lot of ways to get your foot in the door

even if its still an insurance company, they probably have a QA team. You could look at what skills you might need and look at online courses/tutorials, and work with recruiters to find something that could fit your needs

it took me like three years of on and off searching to switch from my previous field (field service) to what I do now (software dev), and I say that not to say its necessarily going to take a long time but that if you keep at it you can find something better

CobraGT posted...

Believe in the 6 hours day, 30 hour week, same pay.

Some places in the world already have it because people do the same amount of work better

I want this so fucking bad, but I know itll never happen because happy workers bad!

TheGoldenEel posted...

the only thing I would say is dont get discouraged. It will be harder without a degree but you could maybe leverage some of your schooling or experience in what you do now to find something. Basically every company that puts out a product or software that people use needs quality assurance/testing, so there are a lot of ways to get your foot in the door

even if its still an insurance company, they probably have a QA team. You could look at what skills you might need and look at online courses/tutorials, and work with recruiters to find something that could fit your needs

it took me like three years of on and off searching to switch from my previous field (field service) to what I do now (software dev), and I say that not to say its necessarily going to take a long time but that if you keep at it you can find something better

im not discouraged, im grateful for the direction

i have no doubt i can leverage my experience, i just feel better about that if i can do it in an interview specifically

i interview so damn well, if i can just get it in the first place

man. well here we are. an hour and change left in the work day

im not staying late. no matter how much there is leftover to do

lord see me through the end of this day

we made it guys

i was gonna skip working out cuz so tired and depressy but i did it anyway. go me.

got a 10% raise

they know

they so know

Me too, 500 kegels