Current Events > Hate how insecure I am around women. Real chance for a major relationship

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chaos_knight posted...

So really have to seal the deal somehow, especially since we live so close.

Dude... don't bother thinking you have to "seal the deal". Just hang. Go have fun. If more comes, great, but seriously don't overthink this. If you like her and she likes you you are already 95% of the way there.

I spent wayyyy too many years overthinking stuff. Waste of time and energy. Life is too short to overthink it all.

chaos_knight posted...

Thank you to everyone. If I overcome my insecurities and get laid tonight, I'll message CE lol

Tell us if it goes well sex or no

Update: Didn't happen. Best friend who is pregnant is currently in the hospital giving birth so had to cancel. I'm basically a non-blood related uncle so kind of important. Hopefully can reschedule next week. So currently, did not get laid CE.

Dude wat.

Next time I guess lol

CyricZ posted...

Dude wat.

Next time I guess lol

Kind of supporting my bestie. Hoping she has a healthy baby. No way I could do the date. Girl understood but was super disappointed.

chaos_knight posted...

Kind of supporting my bestie. Hoping she has a healthy baby. No way I could do the date. Girl understood but was super disappointed.

I hope you at least sent your lady pics of the cute baby as consolation

CyricZ posted...

I hope you at least sent your lady pics of the cute baby as consolation

I will later. Way too soon so far. Just hoping the baby comes out healthy.

Well yes of course after the baby comes out. It's hard to get pictures of a baby before then.

Not impossible, mind.

Anyway, did a lot of heavy flirting this morning (which for some reason it's easy for me to do with her). She is very interested in jumping me and/or doing that date very soon.

Also so fucking in love. This might be the one I feel. Like seriously. We're perfect for each other.

Bro.

You gotta go and set a concrete date and time. Even if it's just at a literal ice cream shop or something. Do you have something planned?

chaos_knight posted...

Also so fucking in love. This might be the one I feel. Like seriously. We're perfect for each other.

I am happy that youre happy, and I dont know you very well. Some life advice though that I would give to anyone from just reading this topic alone is to not fall too hard at first, and try not to romanticize your virginity too much. And some girls like hearing stuff like that, and for some girls its a big red flag so maybe get a vibe check off of her before you get too outwardly expressing of your feelings. I mean no offense.

chaos_knight posted...

Update: Didn't happen. Best friend who is pregnant is currently in the hospital giving birth so had to cancel. I'm basically a non-blood related uncle so kind of important. Hopefully can reschedule next week. So currently, did not get laid CE.

This happened

MotaroRIP619 posted...

I am happy that youre happy, and I dont know you very well. Some life advice though that I would give to anyone from just reading this topic alone is to not fall too hard at first, and try not to romanticize your virginity too much. And some girls like hearing stuff like that, and for some girls its a big red flag so maybe get a vibe check off of her before you get too outwardly expressing of your feelings. I mean no offense.

No, she quite enjoys hearing about it, lol. She's been the one pursuing me for months now as is and I haven't turned her off on anything so far.

chaos_knight posted...

No, she quite enjoys hearing about it, lol. She's been the one pursuing me for months now as is and I haven't turned her off on anything so far.

So when's the first date?

Next week on my days off. Though I'm seeing her Sunday but not a 'date'

Talks have gotten so serious. She says stuff I can't repeat here. Wish my bitch ass luck to not be shy within 7 days.

You cucked yourself so this "friend" could see you instead of spending time with their significant other and just FaceTime you for a few minutes.

Your story was a little believable at first, but now not so much.

Hey Trumpo.

Go away.

CyricZ posted...

Hey Trumpo.

Go away.

They really should have picked a better username.

I both hate and love my life. Also fuck Trumpy supporters here.

Update: New plan is tomorrow morning, having breakfast and then...who knows. This is probably it. Both excited and terrified, but she's super easy to be around so might be more comfortable than I anticipate.

chaos_knight posted...

Update: New plan is tomorrow morning, having breakfast and then...who knows. This is probably it. Both excited and terrified, but she's super easy to be around so might be more comfortable than I anticipate.

Don't be afraid to be nervous. I talked with my gf as friends for three months before we met up. Literally hours every night.

Met up the first time and it was so fucking awkward.

We're now over a year in and very happy.

It's okay to be nervous or anxious. Just be honest.

Cemith posted...

Don't be afraid to be nervous. I talked with my gf as friends for three months before we met up. Literally hours every night.

Met up the first time and it was so fucking awkward.

We're now over a year in and very happy.

It's okay to be nervous or anxious. Just be honest.

Sounds incredibly similar. Happy to hear it worked out well.

chaos_knight posted...

Update: New plan is tomorrow morning, having breakfast and then...who knows. This is probably it. Both excited and terrified, but she's super easy to be around so might be more comfortable than I anticipate.

Good luck man.

Remember to breathe out and breathe in. Both of those.

CyricZ posted...

Good luck man.

Remember to breathe out and breathe in. Both of those.

Thanks. She's let me know the ball is entirely in my court how I want to proceed. Knows my lack of history and does not care whatsoever. Just how comfortable I am. Which...well, we'll see.

chaos_knight posted...

Thanks. She's let me know the ball is entirely in my court how I want to proceed. Knows my lack of history and does not care whatsoever. Just how comfortable I am. Which...well, we'll see.

No offense, but what are you even scared of?

MotaroRIP619 posted...

No offense, but what are you even scared of?

Not used to intimacy. It's been a while. She is up for literally anything, but is understanding and wants me to dictate the pace of what happens.

chaos_knight posted...

Not used to intimacy. It's been a while. She is up for literally anything, but is understanding and wants me to dictate the pace of what happens.

What about intimacy scares you? Are you afraid youre gonna suck? Are you afraid you will fall in love?

MotaroRIP619 posted...

What about intimacy scares you? Are you afraid youre gonna suck? Are you afraid you will fall in love?

We're into each other a ton so not worried about the latter part. I'll probably suck but we talked about that too. Worst case scenario, I apparently am going at going down if she doesn't finish me off first time. But mostly just not used to getting this close to someone. But we talk for hours every day. She has more experience than me but is willing to help me as much as possible as we get closer.

I was like you. I avoided relationships out of shyness and fear for years and years. So I think I know how you're feeling. I was 32 when I finally let myself get close to a girl. All we did was sleep next to each other and i remember how sick with fear I felt in the morning and how I was planning to leave and ghost her. But someone that knows me on this site basically told me to chill the f out. And I did. We celebrated 5 years the other day.

You just gotta relax. I was a 32 year old super virgin, so if I could get comfortable with intimacy I'm sure you can.

chelth posted...

I was like you. I avoided relationships out of shyness and fear for years and years. So I think I know how you're feeling. I was 32 when I finally let myself get close to a girl. All we did was sleep next to each other and i remember how sick with fear I felt in the morning and how I was planning to leave and ghost her. But someone that knows me on this site basically told me to chill the f out. And I did. We celebrated 5 years the other day.

You just gotta relax. I was a 32 year old super virgin, so if I could get comfortable with intimacy I'm sure you can.

Thanks. I'm precious to her so we'll figure it out I'm sure. That said, there is hope for every CEman here I feel too. Just take a risk once and it might lead to something.

*internal screaming intensifies*