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ArsGoetia
10/26/23 7:53:26 PM
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someone found my bra and i had lots of splainin to do >,>

anyways they mostly took it well and said it makes sense. my dad doesn't know yet tho, and he's the biggest issue.

doc said since i dont have an established history of dysphoria (meaning i haven't seen the doc about it, i've been massively dysphoric for more than 20 years) he wants me to wait a month and come back in.

i did get botox and juvederm yesterday tho which was hella expensive but worth it imo

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Crimsoness
10/26/23 7:54:08 PM
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Good luck Ars.

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ArsGoetia
10/26/23 7:56:04 PM
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oh and i'm also kinda pissy that the "marilyn manson white" contacts i ordered for Halloween are.... not that


Crimsoness posted...
Good luck Ars.


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Kitt
10/26/23 7:57:43 PM
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ArsGoetia posted...
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/6/8/9/AAfc_TAAE-hx.jpg
Damn, shawty

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AnsestralRecall
10/26/23 7:59:34 PM
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ArsGoetia posted...
doc said since i dont have an established history of dysphoria (meaning i haven't seen the doc about it, i've been massively dysphoric for more than 20 years) he wants me to wait a month and come back in.

God at that point fuck that doctor, diy hrt has some fantastic documentation and is significantly cheaper if you go for injections
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ArsGoetia
10/26/23 8:00:45 PM
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AnsestralRecall posted...
God at that point fuck that doctor, diy hrt has some fantastic documentation and is significantly cheaper if you go for injections

i'm a broke bitch on medicaid
insurance doesnt cover it?
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AnsestralRecall
10/26/23 8:02:00 PM
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ArsGoetia posted...
i'm a broke bitch on medicaid
insurance doesnt cover it?

Ahh, yeah, it'd be entirely out of pocket for DIY which is the downside for it

You could look into seeing if there are any informed consent clinics that your Medicaid would be accepted by tho
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bnui_ransder
10/26/23 8:08:55 PM
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Good luck! Hopefully your doctor is better than my friends doctor in Florida, they made a bunch of excuses to why they can't help

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ArsGoetia
10/26/23 8:35:56 PM
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AnsestralRecall posted...
Ahh, yeah, it'd be entirely out of pocket for DIY which is the downside for it

You could look into seeing if there are any informed consent clinics that your Medicaid would be accepted by tho


thx I'll def check em out. tbh i didn't really even do any research because i was afraid someone would see even browsing incognito >,> now that the cat's out of the bag tho it's no big deal I guess

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Gwynevere
10/26/23 8:38:30 PM
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The fuck TC, you already look like you've been on HRT longer than I have

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King_Rial
10/26/23 8:39:03 PM
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Good luck, beautiful. We're all in your corner.

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hockeybub89
10/26/23 8:39:36 PM
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That's great! Good luck!

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ArsGoetia
10/26/23 8:50:18 PM
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Gwynevere posted...
The fuck TC, you already look like you've been on HRT longer than I have

fillers baby
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Gwynevere
10/26/23 9:21:30 PM
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ArsGoetia posted...
fillers baby
I mean that in the best way possible, you're for sure gonna make it

If your doctor gives you the run around again, you should go to planned parenthood if there's any nearby. Hell, even if there aren't; I did a telehealth appointment and had HRT at the pharmacy the next day

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Doe
10/26/23 9:24:08 PM
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ArsGoetia posted...

Okay but like how did your family not know until now lol

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--Zero-
10/26/23 9:24:41 PM
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Damnnn

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GiftedACIII
10/26/23 9:31:49 PM
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Seems all's well that ends well which is good.

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ArsGoetia
10/26/23 9:38:16 PM
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Doe posted...
Okay but like how did your family not know until now lol

b/c my day to day life looks/looked like this

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/8/1/2/AAfc_TAAE-js.jpg

pic in op is a pound of makeup, false eyelashes, a wig and contacts. also about 20 lbs weight loss and the aforementioned botox/fillers

i've worn makeup and been feminine since i was 12 tho. my first girlfriend in 6th grade and i used to do each other's makeup

this was me in high school
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Ricemills
10/26/23 9:39:49 PM
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ArsGoetia posted...
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/6/8/9/AAfc_TAAE-hx.jpg

Would

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Turbam
10/26/23 9:41:05 PM
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Glad that they took it well
Hopefully your dad isn't a shit head.

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KitKats
10/26/23 9:43:42 PM
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Definitely look into finding a clinic that does informed consent

This is a resource that compiled all the known clinics in the US that do informed consent; it might be slightly outdated and is from 2019

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/d6p05q/i_compiled_every_single_informed_consent_clinic/

https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?mid=1DxyOTw8dI8n96BHFF2JVUMK7bXsRKtzA&ll=42.47025816653201%2C-97.03854516744877&z=4


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JuanCarlos1
10/26/23 9:45:02 PM
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Ricemills posted...
Would


Same

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Umbreon
10/26/23 9:48:10 PM
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*Looks at pic in #1 and #22*

This is some deep magic right here! You look absolutely pretty.

Best of luck to you.

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Gwynevere
10/26/23 10:17:44 PM
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ArsGoetia posted...
b/c my day to day life looks/looked like this

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/8/1/2/AAfc_TAAE-js.jpg

pic in op is a pound of makeup, false eyelashes, a wig and contacts. also about 20 lbs weight loss and the aforementioned botox/fillers

i've worn makeup and been feminine since i was 12 tho. my first girlfriend in 6th grade and i used to do each other's makeup

this was me in high school
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/8/1/3/AAfc_TAAE-jt.jpg
I see the potential here, you're gonna have an A+ transition for sure

I'm just proud of you for taking this first step. It can be a scary one

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ArsGoetia
10/26/23 10:46:12 PM
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KitKats posted...
Definitely look into finding a clinic that does informed consent

This is a resource that compiled all the known clinics in the US that do informed consent; it might be slightly outdated and is from 2019

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/d6p05q/i_compiled_every_single_informed_consent_clinic/

https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?mid=1DxyOTw8dI8n96BHFF2JVUMK7bXsRKtzA&ll=42.47025816653201%2C-97.03854516744877&z=4


thanks so much! i'll def be making some calls in the morning. i understood why my doc said no for the moment(he's just incredibly cautious and knows my extremely volatile mental state[i get my psych meds from him too], he's not a bad dude whatsoever) but it was still kinda heartbreaking
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King_Rial
10/26/23 11:56:40 PM
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So...do I have you confused with someone else, or... did you have a spell with a bit of alcohol? Has the drinking slowed down or stopped?

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ArsGoetia
10/27/23 12:37:03 AM
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King_Rial posted...
So...do I have you confused with someone else, or... did you have a spell with a bit of alcohol? Has the drinking slowed down or stopped?

slowed down a lot yea
i still drink a couple nights a week tho and dance alone in my house
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ArsGoetia
10/27/23 1:52:15 AM
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took the earliest possible booking
thanks for the heads up everyone
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King_Rial
10/27/23 2:18:21 AM
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That's awesome.

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teep_
10/27/23 3:18:51 AM
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Good luck TC, I'm glad your family was supportive

Others have said it too but you look great! I especially like the hair lol

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ArsGoetia
10/27/23 9:19:01 AM
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teep_ posted...
Good luck TC, I'm glad your family was supportive

Others have said it too but you look great! I especially like the hair lol


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Zwijn
10/27/23 9:39:55 AM
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Im still in the process but still way too scared shitless of their reaction. Also 37 already and have issues with that it feels too late. Wish I had your guts, good for you for making the step.
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BearlyWilling
10/27/23 9:41:42 AM
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Botox when your this young?

Also love your hair. One of my best friends went that same color and she rocks it well.

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lilORANG
10/27/23 9:43:07 AM
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Lol, from the topic title I was expecting that you watched a documentary on the topic with your family and somehow it made them catch on.

Good luck tho.

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CyricZ
10/27/23 9:48:55 AM
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I wish you the best Ars. I know you're gonna do great!

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ArsGoetia
10/27/23 9:52:26 AM
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BearlyWilling posted...
Botox when your this young?

Also love your hair. One of my best friends went that same color and she rocks it well.

i'll be 36 in february homie
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AnsestralRecall
10/27/23 10:00:12 AM
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Zwijn posted...
Im still in the process but still way too scared shitless of their reaction. Also 37 already and have issues with that it feels too late. Wish I had your guts, good for you for making the step.

As someone also in their 30s that shares similar feelings of being "too late" from what I have seen regarding HRT and late 20s-30+ trans women that shit is made of magic and hope.
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ScazarMeltex
10/27/23 10:01:18 AM
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Looking good TC, best of luck to you.

Zwijn posted...
Im still in the process but still way too scared shitless of their reaction. Also 37 already and have issues with that it feels too late. Wish I had your guts, good for you for making the step.
It's never too late. 37 is nothing. You still have a huge chunk of life ahead of you.

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Xatrion
10/27/23 10:01:47 AM
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Fuck the haters. Best of luck to you.

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ArsGoetia
10/27/23 11:52:51 AM
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ScazarMeltex posted...
Looking good TC, best of luck to you.

It's never too late. 37 is nothing. You still have a huge chunk of life ahead of you.


Thx!
And ya for sure there's plenty of options especially if you got the cash

and if you dont (or even if you do) dont leave the house without sunscreen. I use retinol+SPF lotion every day and have for years. Exfoliate once or twice a week. Hyaluronic acid mask every other night or so. Drink lots of water. Collagen and biotin supplements. Dont be afraid to consult a cosmetic surgeon. Most consultations are free.
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ArsGoetia
10/27/23 11:58:16 AM
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Here? 0. Only DMs I get are when I'm drinking and being hyper melodramatic and crying to relative strangers on gamefaqs about how much I appreciate them for basic kindnesses.

Grindr? Like 8 and half million dick pics from 20-60 y/o dudes. It's fun to respond to them with Skyrim guard dialogue tho
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GranAures
10/27/23 12:02:16 PM
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Nice that it seems the majority of your family are taking it well. Live your best life.

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