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As most couples we 50-50 most of our stuff and we never have a problem. Last weekend we were out and she wanted to eat something. I tell her I didnt have enough money and neither did she. Says to put it on credit and shell pay me. So she got paid and asked me for the stuff she owed (bills) me and I put the meal as well and asked for only half.

She acts surprised and says "geez, you're really charging me for that". The amount is a trivial 13 bucks, but its more about the principle since I told her I didnt have money and had to use credit. And also she makes an extra 1k more than me. So I told her how is it going to bother her for holding her accountable for what she told me was going to do.

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13 bucks is 13 bucks

I know not every married couple does it, but damn is it easy just having a joint checking account and letting my accountant (wife) take care of all the money. She works from home so it's easy for her to handle the finances.

If I need to make a purchase for more than $100 or so I just text her and most of the time she's fine with it.

You can separate the accounts all you want, but you should probably learn the concept of marital assets.

Also, most married people don't treat money the way y'all do and in my experience, those marriages are doomed to fail.

You guys don't have a joint bank account with a debit card attached to it for purchases like that?

kelemvor posted...

I know not every married couple does it, but damn is it easy just having a joint checking account and letting my accountant (wife) take care of all the money. She works from home so it's easy for her to handle the finances.

If I need to make a purchase for more than $100 or so I just text her and most of the time she's fine with it.

Yeah that would never work for us. We do have a joint checking account, but its just for paying bills/savings account. We make enough money to not struggle. So after we're done paying the bills, each gets to do with their money whatever they want.

This divorce is gonna be messy.

I can only say what works for me, but the way my wife and I basically do it is that her salary goes to pay the mortgage and what's left goes in savings, my salary goes to all the other weekly/monthly bills, along with whatever "pocket money" either of us need.

I then have a separate account that I call my "funny money" that I use to fund my habits, like collecting sportscards, fantasy sports, etc. The money I make from selling cards/fantasy winnings goes into that account, and whenever I want to spend money on something non-household related, I use money from that account.

Priere posted...

This divorce is gonna be messy.

Money is the one thing we never fight about, actually. Shes probably mad about some other stuff.

CARRRNE_ASADA posted...

Money is the one thing we never fight about, actually. Shes probably mad about some other stuff.

Ooof

This is how it starts TC

Joint account with personal sub-accounts with automatic allowance transfers on paydays or whatever make sense. You both agree to the allowance amounts and it ensures that both people have some money of their "own" to save/spend how they like without needing to have a conversation.

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Getting married (again) soon, and I think we will just maintain separate accounts. We both pay for stuff and not going to overly worry about every meal.

Shared an account for my first marriage and too much stress with her questioning everything.

if youre married. bickering over a meal is trivial nonsense. unless she owes you hundreds of dollars because of X, Y, Z is a different story.

to say your wife takes care of the finances is an indication that you are bad with money. never would i allow my wife, of all people, tell me what i can and cant do with my money. essentially, your money is her money.

no thanks, but you do you.

CARRRNE_ASADA posted...

We make enough money to not struggle. So after we're done paying the bills, each gets to do with their money whatever they want.

If you make enough to not struggle, how did you reach a point where you didn't have enough money for a $26 meal?

Not trying to be negative, but you should be careful with that. Money problems cause a lot of divorces.

WingsOfGood posted...

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Thats what I thought as soon as I read that. If youre fighting over 13 bucks the marriage is over.

Caracalla posted...

Thats what I thought as soon as I read that. If youre fighting over 13 bucks the marriage is over.

C'mon. But it does mean that TC might be anal and annoying and should probably dial that back before it causes more issues.

NoxObscuras posted...

If you make enough to not struggle, how did you reach a point where you didn't have enough money for a $26 meal?

Not trying to be negative, but you should be careful with that. Money problems cause a lot of divorces.

Beginning of the month is very front loaded with bills. We have the house, car, and kid's school. Add in any groceries, outside meals, anything else we're cutting it close. I did have like 50 bucks left, but was saving that for anything that might arise during the week instead of using credit.

Now tomorrow's paycheck is almost fully to ourselves. Just credit card, utilities, student loan and Im left with a decent amount like 600.

lmao, making an issue out of $13 our of principle.

NoxObscuras posted...

If you make enough to not struggle, how did you reach a point where you didn't have enough money for a $26 meal?

Lol

bsp77 posted...

C'mon. But it does mean that TC might be anal and annoying and should probably dial that back before it causes more issues.

I understand the sentiment. Its just that people shouldnt complain when being held to their word.

Shes going to start billing you for sex. Assuming shes still sleeping with you of course.

CARRRNE_ASADA posted...

I understand the sentiment. Its just that people shouldnt complain when being held to their word.

I get that too. I just hope you guys aren't having a real argument over $13.

My first marriage flat out sucked and anything that reminds me of that constant bickering makes me concerned.

Meh
my wife asks for dope money when I get paid and she gets me tobacco when I run out

I love tobacco but stopped the marijuanas

Well, I appreciate the legit concern from most of you. Guess I should be a lil bit more relaxed with trivial amounts. I guess we also had different upbringings where she was mostly raised as a rich kid while my family struggled, so I try to be very mindful of money while she's a bit more trigger happy.

CARRRNE_ASADA posted...

Well, I appreciate the legit concern from most of you. Guess I should be a lil bit more relaxed with trivial amounts. I guess we also had different upbringings where she was mostly raised as a rich kid while my family struggled, so I try to be very mindful of money while she's a bit more trigger happy.

That can certainly have a big impact. The important thing is that you are both aware of that difference and give each other some latitude and grace about it.

Ignore the divorce doomsayers here, but just be cognizant.

bsp77 posted...

That can certainly have a big impact. The important thing is that you are both aware of that difference and give each other some latitude and grace about it.

Ignore the divorce doomsayers here, but just be cognizant.

Tell her she can work the balance off in blowjobs if that will help.

thing is you guys are doing ok now

what if she lost her job? this is the thing people think about.
so now she may have thought to herself "If I lost my job, would my hubby support me? Would he take me out and pay for my food even though I no longer make any money?"
and then she thinks how you guys went out then later you demanded her to fork over money despite you both having no issues