Current Events > Well, this is showing no respect for my time.

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Last week, my father texted me at 11:00 PM to tell me he was thinking about coming down and helping me remove a large piece of concrete from my backyard the next morning. I told him I had to work. I made sure to get rid of the concrete by myself two days later, but I called him to let him know that the gutter he volunteered to help me with was still in need of repairs and that I would be off this Friday. He's going to say yes, or he's going to say no, but I'm going to know on Monday whether or not he's coming over on Friday. He said no citing that he had his own projects to work on. Perfectly understandable. I can have Friday off in peace.

Tonight, he calls me to ask if I'm off tomorrow. He's decided that he wants to help me with my gutter on Saturday. No. I have to work this weekend.

Volunteering to help with a gutter or removal of a heavy object is amiable and I appreciate it. Deliberately waiting to the last minute to inform me that he is coming to help is not kindness. It's keeping a short leash. It's the equivalent of saying, "Go to bed, son. You have plenty of work to do in the morning." Yes, I have have chores to do tomorrow before going to my paying job. If he wants to help me, that's fine. If he doesn't want to help me, that's fine. But he is not going to play director after being a recurring guest star in my life's ongoing series. I'll hire somebody to install a new gutter and work extra shifts if I have to in order to cover it, but he is not going to tell me at 11:00 PM what I'm doing at 10:00 AM the next day.

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So just tell him.