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3 things holding me back: im socially awkward, i have very weird interests, and im too laid back. even though you didn't ask, ill explain them all right now

social awkwardness: can't keep a conversation going. i've had many dates where i run out of things to say, or we never get past the small talk bullshit. not only that, but i'm introverted. i get VERY burnt out if i talk for more than like an hour. i literally need to take a breather, drink some water and watch an episode of koth to recuperate from a long-ass conversation.

weird interests: i like retro games, i have an entire youtube channel where i talk about that shit lmao. i don't have many interests outside of that. im obviously gonna have a hard time making friends and getting into relationships with weird ass gaming interests.

laid back: i just like sitting down, watching seinfeld and enjoying a couple slices of pizza. i don't like politics, i just like the simple things in life. but people consider that boring, and when you pair that with social awkwardness, it's a bad situation for me.

i'm not blaming anyone. maybe there's things i could be doing, but i do feel like it's hopeless for me. anyway, i've got some balls to make a weird ass topic like this on ce lmao.

I get you. Its unfortunate to not feel that comfortable around others irl. Like, Id imagine you can be serviceable, but most of the time, youd rather just not talk with someone if it isnt something interesting to you. Im pretty much the same way. Or I feel like I am at least, cause most of my convos are with either family, or coworkers. In both cases, I feel I have to be extra careful to not say anything kinda weird.

At least the advent of the internet allows you to meet people who share your interests. Unless youre lucky, youll not likely be meeting people offline, but at least its something.

Same, TC.

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There's tons of people out there who just want to chill, it's just hard to find them because they're also probably just add passive as you are. So not only are they not actively looking, but also kinda hiding. Just mathematically makes it super hard to connect unless you find people within your bubble.

Idk TC, forcing such things is hardly ever a "good" thing or even effective.

Unless you mean holding you back health wise, or for your wellbeing, like a job or something.

Plus, what you describe can be found in a partner regardless of gender, maybe a dating app? Doesn't seem wise to me to want to change who you are, your interests. Excluding if it kind of affects your health.

Yeah, you're not alone TC. I'm also socially anxious, and that makes it hard for me keep conversations going or even think of things to say since I get nervous. Also extremely introverted as well.

No way normals are dweebs

Don't wish. Just make it happen. Get out of the house and be more out going and talk to people IRL.

I was mostly by myself in my college years. Didn't go to any parties, didn't talk to a lot of people in person, and I noticed I got more awkward and it got harder to talk to people. Like actually stuttering and mumbling more.

The more you hang out with people, the easier it will be and more natural it will feel.

I promise there are more people out there like you, it's just that any introverted person is going to be in a tough spot with meeting new people.

It's hard to branch out with new hobbies and social groups when you're just wired to be drained by that stuff, but I'd recommend trying to torch your comfort zone once every couple of weeks. Just try something, ANYTHING different. As for talking, well, you said it best already:

pojr posted...

social awkwardness: can't keep a conversation going. i've had many dates where i run out of things to say, or we never get past the small talk bullshit. not only that, but i'm introverted. i get VERY burnt out if i talk for more than like an hour. i literally need to take a breather, drink some water and watch an episode of koth to recuperate from a long-ass conversation

pojr posted...

weird interests: i like retro games, i have an entire youtube channel where i talk about that shit lmao. i don't have many interests outside of that. im obviously gonna have a hard time making friends and getting into relationships with weird ass gaming interests.

If you meet other people that have a vested interest, or say, a partner who enjoys your company, they will be absolutely enamored by hearing you talk your passion.

I'm not saying it's easy, I'm just saying don't throw in the towel yet.

Same except I don't go on dates or have a cool youtube channel

But I don't wanna be normal

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/1/6/2/AAfPwcAAEqYS.jpg Being normal is lame. I share a lot of the same interests, and I think Im perfectly fine. Your youtube channel is awesome and interesting, and p much everyone likes KotH, so Id think theres some commonality between you and the normies.

Talking for an hour sounds physically painful for me.
I probably can't talk 5 minutes without needing water.

Hey man if it makes you feel any better I'm the exact same as you, maybe even 'worse' (quotes cuz I don't think this is a bad trait anymore necessarily) now after the pandemic, and I have a fiance and am starting a very 'personable' career in film.

It took me forever to realize that I had a 'problem'. And it's an uphill battle everyday just to get ready to talk to people and deal with shit I don't want to deal with. It's super hard but you can do it if I can. Just gotta kinda let go. Imo meditating really helps and puts me in a good spot. I meditate every day. Just kinda sit alone in silence and try and clear the mind. I stopped using stimulants like coffee (but still drink tea) and I've been doing a lot better.

Move to Normal, Illinois. Bam, you're Normal by default.