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Feel free to give advice to people who haven't found someone or have trouble dating in general.

If there's anything I can give:

1. Don't be a homebody. You do have to be more social and you have to put yourself out there. And one if the best ways of doing that is going out every so often. Every week or other week. Socializing with friends, especially ones that can help you improve yourself and teach you things. It's crazy how social skills can deteriorate if you stay home all day and not talk to someone in person. I remember that first hand in college. It's harder on men (besides being less social then women usually), cause they are the ones there have to pursue.

2. Give online dating a shot, and consider paying for a subscription. Give Online dating a shot because it does widen the net and it's easier than in person (even though less quality). Also, free versions of online dating apps nowadays are not that great. Especially tinder. They've changed algorithms to make free version profiles less visible/priority. Coffeemeetsbagel is better for matching for me at least on the free app. But when I had a subscribed tinder account last year, I was getting way more matches and better quality ones too..not just because of unlimited swipes. But I do think i was visibly soon.

Also with apps, have some good pictures and a description. Consider your family or friends to look at your profile. They could give you some good advice.

Take up dancing, like salsa, bachata, etc.

1. No.

2. I ain't paying for shit

Always take a shot even when the odds seem super unlikely. I met my wife on Facebook when I was just goofing around in groups. She didn't even live in the same country as me and I was poor af at the time so anything serious was unlikely. Even still we really hit it off and I moved out of the country to be with her. First years were a real struggle cause we had no money but we pulled things around and here we are 9 years later happy as we could ever be.

3 . Hookers

Arcanine2009 posted...

1. Don't be a homebody.

i'm out

Being yourself is advice that works for normies

viewmaster_pi posted...

i'm out

Bro I am somewhat of a homebody, but even I know that you can't be stuck your room/house 24/7.
emblem-man posted...

Take up dancing, like salsa, bachata, etc.

There's really good. Man I remember I was thinking of signing up for a class a few years back but chickened out.

Keep it low key, and don't put people under pressure (including yourself). Don't treat every date as a search for your soulmate/future spouse. Have fun with it.

Dress nicely/appropriately. You don't have to wear a three-piece suit, but if you're 35 and dressing like you did at 16, it will put people off.

Learn small talk. You don't have to go rushing into deep and meaningful conversation on the first few dates.

be tall
be good looking
be yourself

Arcanine2009 posted...

There's really good. Man I remember I was thinking of signing up for a class a few years back but chickened out.

Yep. I only have experience with latin dance clubs, but the women there actually want someone to ask them to dance. Take some classes, go to some dance clubs, etc. You learn to do small talk with women during the 3-4 minute song, and you gain a skill to impress them with.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pLTktHBE__Q

Coffee Meets Bagel seems the most overtly Christian, if thats your thing. Hinge is good for getting matches. I like Bumble because the girl has to start.

I use to have trouble dating till I came to the realization that for me, its better to be single. I can live by my own rules, sleep with whomever I want and I never have the dread of being cheated on.

Dont listen to what people say online, they are usually projecting.