Current Events > Ever been in a situation where your girlfriends' friends unjustifiably loath you

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I had this ex who basically used her friend group as a sounding board for every minor grievance she had with me, but she also just...never told them any of the good stuff. Like 95% of the time things would be great with us, but then there'd be some thing like me not cleaning the kitchen one time or being late to a party, and that was always the story that would make the group chat.

And so all her friends just thought I was this perpetually lazy, spoiled manchild.

Fortunately I'm not in that position now. A little age-wisdom tells me that if your partner isn't in your corner and waxing lyrical about how wonderful you are then that's a massive redflag in any relationship. But I have been in the past, and with the way some women talk about their partners I suspect it's a really common thing. I have this one friend who is always talking about how her partner is jealous and moody and petty, but then if I read between the lines I see that they do heaps of fun stuff together and she's really in love with him. I wonder why she never talks about that stuff.

When I was a teenager most of my girlfriends friends thought I was bad news because of the estate I was from, if that counts.

I think thats generally inevitable when you first get in a relationship. Sometimes the friends can be way too clingy and you just have to deal with that energy.