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bigblu89 04/30/23 8:24:59 PM #1:	Over the years Ive had this conversation a lot, and have gotten a lot of different answers. From as tame as finding another person attractive, all the way to everything but sex is ok. So where does CE stand? Does it has to be physical? Does texting/DMing/etc count? Subscribing to someones OF? Watching porn? The gauge is definitely varying. --- It takes zero effort to be a good person. <cite>bigblu89 posted [p:973182298] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>Over the years Ive had this conversation a lot, and have gotten a lot of different answers. From as tame as finding another person attractive, all the way to everything but sex is ok. So where does CE stand? Does it has to be physical? Does texting/DMing/etc count? Subscribing to someones OF? Watching porn? The gauge is definitely varying. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Turbam 04/30/23 8:25:39 PM #2:	Flirting with intent --- ~snip (V)_(;,;)_(V) snip~ I'm just one man! Whoa! Well, I'm a one man band! https://imgur.com/p9Xvjvs <cite>Turbam posted [p:973182307] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>Flirting with intent </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EmilyTheCEman 04/30/23 8:27:18 PM #3:	As soon as you start rounding the bases, youre cheating. 1st base = kissing 2nd base = hand stuff 3rd base = mouth stuff Home base = sex --- Now Playing: Horizon Forbidden West <cite>EmilyTheCEman posted [p:973182344] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>As soon as you start rounding the bases, youre cheating.1st base = kissing2nd base = hand stuff3rd base = mouth stuffHome base = sex</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
marthsheretoo 04/30/23 8:33:22 PM #4:	If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating. --- "Even MarthKoopa has jumped on the MarthKoopa hate wagon." -DevsBro <cite>marthsheretoo posted [p:973182454] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Beveren_Rabbit 04/30/23 8:33:47 PM #5:	I'm fine with a little tension/cuddling/hand stuff with others. Sometimes lapdances/sex/freak dancing is acceptable. But the moment your partner starts having romantic feelings for another person it becomes cheating. --- flops <cite>Beveren_Rabbit posted [p:973182462] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>I'm fine with a little tension/cuddling/hand stuff with others. Sometimes lapdances/sex/freak dancing is acceptable. But the moment your partner starts having romantic feelings for another person it becomes cheating.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
k1zzl3_82 04/30/23 8:34:22 PM #6:	marthsheretoo posted... If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating. <cite>k1zzl3_82 posted [p:973182471] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>marthsheretoo posted... </cite><quote>If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating.</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bigblu89 04/30/23 8:36:17 PM #7:	marthsheretoo posted... If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating. Bit thats the thing, some people set (in my opinion) ridiculous parameters on whats considered cheating. Granted, they were in their late teens, but I remember my wifes friends sister broke up with her boyfriend once because he said he found J-Lo attractive, and she said finding anyone attractive other than your S.O. is considered cheating. Thats ridiculous. --- It takes zero effort to be a good person. <cite>bigblu89 posted [p:973182498] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>marthsheretoo posted... </cite><quote>If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating.</quote>Bit thats the thing, some people set (in my opinion) ridiculous parameters on whats considered cheating. Granted, they were in their late teens, but I remember my wifes friends sister broke up with her boyfriend once because he said he found J-Lo attractive, and she said finding anyone attractive other than your S.O. is considered cheating. Thats ridiculous. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EmilyTheCEman 04/30/23 8:39:29 PM #8:	marthsheretoo posted... If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating. Thats a toughie. I once dated a girl that thought simply having female friends I had individual conversations with was cheating. --- Now Playing: Horizon Forbidden West <cite>EmilyTheCEman posted [p:973182540] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>marthsheretoo posted... </cite><quote>If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating.</quote>Thats a toughie. I once dated a girl that thought simply having female friends I had individual conversations with was cheating.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
mybbqrules 04/30/23 8:39:32 PM #9:	If you hide it from your SO. --- Twice impeached, INDICTED former President Donald J. Trump: STILL officially the worst president in American history. <cite>mybbqrules posted [p:973182541] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>If you hide it from your SO.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
marthsheretoo 04/30/23 8:41:52 PM #10:	bigblu89 posted... Bit thats the thing, some people set (in my opinion) ridiculous parameters on whats considered cheating. Granted, they were in their late teens, but I remember my wifes friends sister broke up with her boyfriend once because he said he found J-Lo attractive, and she said finding anyone attractive other than your S.O. is considered cheating. Thats ridiculous. EmilyTheCEman posted... Thats a toughie. I once dated a girl that thought simply having female friends I had individual conversations with was cheating. Some people have ridiculous and unreasonable standards on what constitutes cheating, but I'd still say doing it counts as cheating. Granted, in those situations, I'd say cheating in that way is more morally defensible than usual. --- "Even MarthKoopa has jumped on the MarthKoopa hate wagon." -DevsBro <cite>marthsheretoo posted [p:973182574] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>bigblu89 posted... </cite><quote>Bit thats the thing, some people set (in my opinion) ridiculous parameters on whats considered cheating.Granted, they were in their late teens, but I remember my wifes friends sister broke up with her boyfriend once because he said he found J-Lo attractive, and she said finding anyone attractive other than your S.O. is considered cheating.Thats ridiculous.</quote>EmilyTheCEman posted... </cite><quote>Thats a toughie. I once dated a girl that thought simply having female friends I had individual conversations with was cheating.</quote>Some people have ridiculous and unreasonable standards on what constitutes cheating, but I'd still say doing it counts as cheating.Granted, in those situations, I'd say cheating in that way is more morally defensible than usual. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bigblu89 04/30/23 8:42:44 PM #11:	mybbqrules posted... If you hide it from your SO. Thats kinda the stance I have. If something happens, and you feel like you need to hide it, thats when you went over the line. --- It takes zero effort to be a good person. <cite>bigblu89 posted [p:973182588] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>mybbqrules posted... </cite><quote>If you hide it from your SO.</quote>Thats kinda the stance I have. If something happens, and you feel like you need to hide it, thats when you went over the line. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Robot2600 04/30/23 9:01:21 PM #12:	literally w/e the couple decides is cheating --- --- <cite>Robot2600 posted [p:973182944] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>literally w/e the couple decides is cheating</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kombucha 04/30/23 9:07:37 PM #13:	i wouldn't really be cool with a s/o getting super close with someone else to the point where they became a romantic interest even if they didn't act on it. --- http://www.last.fm/user/walkingishonest <cite>Kombucha posted [p:973183060] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>i wouldn't really be cool with a s/o getting super close with someone else to the point where they became a romantic interest even if they didn't act on it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lorenzo_2003 04/30/23 9:14:34 PM #14:	bigblu89 posted... Bit thats the thing, some people set (in my opinion) ridiculous parameters on whats considered cheating. Granted, they were in their late teens, but I remember my wifes friends sister broke up with her boyfriend once because he said he found J-Lo attractive, and she said finding anyone attractive other than your S.O. is considered cheating. Thats ridiculous. Sure, you could view someone elses standards as ridiculous, but abiding by them anyway is one of the ways you show you value their opinion of you. Of course they should tell you what their standards are ahead of time, so it would be unreasonable for them to punish you for something you legitimately did not know would be a problem for them to accept. I think if youre deceptive about any of this, like you actively try to hide your actions from your spouse, then Ill bet its because you realize they would consider you cheating. --- ... <cite>Lorenzo_2003 posted [p:973183180] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>bigblu89 posted... </cite><quote>Bit thats the thing, some people set (in my opinion) ridiculous parameters on whats considered cheating. Granted, they were in their late teens, but I remember my wifes friends sister broke up with her boyfriend once because he said he found J-Lo attractive, and she said finding anyone attractive other than your S.O. is considered cheating. Thats ridiculous.</quote>Sure, you could view someone elses standards as ridiculous, but abiding by them anyway is one of the ways you show you value their opinion of you. Of course they should tell you what their standards are ahead of time, so it would be unreasonable for them to punish you for something you legitimately did not know would be a problem for them to accept.I think if youre deceptive about any of this, like you actively try to hide your actions from your spouse, then Ill bet its because you realize they would consider you cheating.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
K181 04/30/23 9:15:28 PM #15:	mybbqrules posted... If you hide it from your SO. Pretty much this. --- Irregardless, for all intensive purposes, I could care less. <cite>K181 posted [p:973183199] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>mybbqrules posted... </cite><quote>If you hide it from your SO.</quote>Pretty much this. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bigtiggie23 04/30/23 9:16:32 PM #16:	marthsheretoo posted... If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating. Some girls consider watching porn cheating. --- I don't know about urinals. Half the guys are afraid to use them and most who aren't afraid can't hit them <cite>bigtiggie23 posted [p:973183216] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>marthsheretoo posted...</cite><quote>If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating. </quote>Some girls consider watching porn cheating.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Anteaterking 04/30/23 9:22:56 PM #17:	Re: "Whatever my partner thinks is cheating", I think there would be things that a partner might say they consider "cheating" that I wouldn't do to respect their wishes, but still wouldn't consider to be cheating. Like if someone told me their girlfriend cheated on them and when pressed for details said "She watched a movie with an actor who she said is more attractive than me", I don't really care if he implied some standard for cheating that included that. --- http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b136/Anteaterking/scan00021.jpg http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b136/Anteaterking/scan00021.jpg <cite>Anteaterking posted [p:973183363] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>Re: "Whatever my partner thinks is cheating", I think there would be things that a partner might say they consider "cheating" that I wouldn't do to respect their wishes, but still wouldn't consider to be cheating.Like if someone told me their girlfriend cheated on them and when pressed for details said "She watched a movie with an actor who she said is more attractive than me", I don't really care if he implied some standard for cheating that included that.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pauIie 04/30/23 9:38:48 PM #19:	If you keep it from them --- http://i.imgur.com/O5APL.jpg http://www.last.fm/user/jaeganja <cite>pauIie posted [p:973183633] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>If you keep it from them</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
_____Cait 04/30/23 9:42:49 PM #20:	Beveren_Rabbit posted... I'm fine with a little tension/cuddling/hand stuff with others. Sometimes lapdances/sex/freak dancing is acceptable. But the moment your partner starts having romantic feelings for another person it becomes cheating. it isnt cheating until the other person gets hurt --- ORAS secret base: http://imgur.com/V9nAVrd 3DS friend code: 0173-1465-1236 <cite>_____Cait posted [p:973183699] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>Beveren_Rabbit posted... </cite><quote>I'm fine with a little tension/cuddling/hand stuff with others. Sometimes lapdances/sex/freak dancing is acceptable. But the moment your partner starts having romantic feelings for another person it becomes cheating.</quote>it isnt cheating until the other person gets hurt</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kami_no_Kami 04/30/23 9:50:16 PM #21:	marthsheretoo posted... If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating. This. For me, your SO talking with a one-sided friend who they know wants to fuck them is a good cut-off point. <cite>Kami_no_Kami posted [p:973183810] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>marthsheretoo posted... </cite><quote>If your partner would consider it cheating, you're cheating.</quote>This. For me, your SO talking with a one-sided friend who they know wants to fuck them is a good cut-off point.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Stallion_Prime 04/30/23 10:03:44 PM #22:	If you don't fuck raw it isn't cheating --- -Hunter1534 http://abload.de/img/powercdkcb.gif <cite>Stallion_Prime posted [p:973184137] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>If you don't fuck raw it isn't cheating</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
legendarylemur 04/30/23 10:49:12 PM #23:	Imo the moment you act on it, it's cheating. I mean you can probably reach out to a girl and be dishonest about your actual intention, but it's probably cheating. I don't think just thinking about other girls alone would be cheating, but I can see why somebody would, because usually that's just the gateway for cheating. But I think being able to show restraint is a good promise, so --- "Iwata was awesome" - Mr. Nintendo https://i.imgur.com/krtFHol.jpg <cite>legendarylemur posted [p:973184794] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>Imo the moment you act on it, it's cheating. I mean you can probably reach out to a girl and be dishonest about your actual intention, but it's probably cheating. I don't think just thinking about other girls alone would be cheating, but I can see why somebody would, because usually that's just the gateway for cheating. But I think being able to show restraint is a good promise, so</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
VampireCoyote 04/30/23 10:50:07 PM #24:	Keeping secrets --- She/her <cite>VampireCoyote posted [p:973184809] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>Keeping secrets</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bigblu89 05/01/23 9:26:37 AM #25:	Robot2600 posted... literally w/e the couple decides is cheating Obviously. My question is what do YOU consider cheating. --- It takes zero effort to be a good person. <cite>bigblu89 posted [p:973190809] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>Robot2600 posted... </cite><quote>literally w/e the couple decides is cheating</quote>Obviously.My question is what do YOU consider cheating.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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EndOfDiscOne 05/01/23 9:39:06 AM #27:	EmilyTheCEman posted... As soon as you start rounding the bases, youre cheating. 1st base = kissing 2nd base = hand stuff 3rd base = mouth stuff Home base = sex I thought 2nd base was boobs and 3rd base was genitals --- I am the Cheese! I am the best character on the show! I am better than both the salami and the bologna *COMBINED!* <cite>EndOfDiscOne posted [p:973190995] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>EmilyTheCEman posted... </cite><quote>As soon as you start rounding the bases, youre cheating.1st base = kissing2nd base = hand stuff3rd base = mouth stuffHome base = sex</quote>I thought 2nd base was boobs and 3rd base was genitals</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bigblu89 05/01/23 9:58:59 AM #28:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] I'm kinda of the same mindset. Going to a bar/club with your friends and "talking friendly" with someone if ok, because it's just in most people's nature to be friendly. But getting numbers to continue the conversation, or showing real attraction where things get physical beyond maybe sharing a dance or two... that's a no go for me. --- It takes zero effort to be a good person. <cite>bigblu89 posted [p:973191294] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> I'm kinda of the same mindset.Going to a bar/club with your friends and "talking friendly" with someone if ok, because it's just in most people's nature to be friendly.But getting numbers to continue the conversation, or showing real attraction where things get physical beyond maybe sharing a dance or two... that's a no go for me.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MrResetti 05/01/23 10:00:43 AM #29:	Anal <cite>MrResetti posted [p:973191321] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>Anal</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bigblu89 05/01/23 10:13:36 AM #31:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Yeah we seem to be on the same page here. Yes, getting a number to further an innocent conversation is OK. Like, I have a few dozen mom's numbers in my phone from when I was coaching my son's baseball teams, and I'd text a Happy Birthday or a movie recommendation to some of the Moms I became familiar with over the years. But none of them ever got beyond that. --- It takes zero effort to be a good person. <cite>bigblu89 posted [p:973191504] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Yeah we seem to be on the same page here. Yes, getting a number to further an innocent conversation is OK. Like, I have a few dozen mom's numbers in my phone from when I was coaching my son's baseball teams, and I'd text a Happy Birthday or a movie recommendation to some of the Moms I became familiar with over the years. But none of them ever got beyond that.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bigblu89 05/01/23 10:28:17 AM #33:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Same. To the point that I don't know, and this just me being an old man, if I'd ever be able to fully understand the "hookup culture" of today. My wife and I got together before the rise of dating/hookup apps, so it boggles my mind when I have newly single friends that'll tell me they met someone, hooked up that say day, and then never heard from them again. Yes, I had my share of "bar hookups" in my younger days, but I really don't know if I could handle being suddenly single in this day and age. --- It takes zero effort to be a good person. <cite>bigblu89 posted [p:973191714] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Same.To the point that I don't know, and this just me being an old man, if I'd ever be able to fully understand the "hookup culture" of today. My wife and I got together before the rise of dating/hookup apps, so it boggles my mind when I have newly single friends that'll tell me they met someone, hooked up that say day, and then never heard from them again. Yes, I had my share of "bar hookups" in my younger days, but I really don't know if I could handle being suddenly single in this day and age.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Dat_Cracka_Jax 05/01/23 10:45:44 AM #34:	EmilyTheCEman posted... Thats a toughie. I once dated a girl that thought simply having female friends I had individual conversations with was cheating. That should have been a big red flag --- http://img826.imageshack.us/img826/8131/flame201010170949481638.jpg http://img705.imageshack.us/img705/5517/cateyes.gif Rams: 7-9 <cite>Dat_Cracka_Jax posted [p:973191978] in What do yo... [t:80429225]...</cite> <quote>EmilyTheCEman posted... </cite><quote>Thats a toughie. I once dated a girl that thought simply having female friends I had individual conversations with was cheating.</quote>That should have been a big red flag</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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