Current Events > How long do you talk to someone on bumble before asking them out?

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Like for real...I need help.

Idk like a day or two depending on how things are going

it's different for everyone you talk to that's half the fun some want an infinite jest and some just want the finite gist

Supersex420 posted...

it's different for everyone you talk to that's half the fun some want an infinite jest and some just want the finite gist

I was talking to some lady for awhile and it seemed good but then she ended the conversation and I feel it has something to do with me not planning a date or anything.

2-3 years.

ellis123 posted...

2-3 years.

This. Gotta play the long game.

once they realize their mistake

Trouble is, I never know what to do. Like, make plans to do what?

AloneIBreak posted...

Trouble is, I never know what to do. Like, make plans to do what?

Movie, restaurant, go for a long walk in the park, an event, to the lake, go kayaking, go hiking. Endless things lol

On Hinge, I would usually ask someone out after ~10 or so exchanges, which was typically a few days' back and forth

3 days or less

Welp. Just ask her if she'd like to meet. Let's see what she says.

On dating apps, it's a good idea to chat for a couple days and then ask for their phone number so you can have a real conversation. After actually talking to them a bit (1-3 days) would be a good time to ask them out.

She messaged back but I'm top afraid to check

Women get hundreds of messages on these apps daily. I get straight to the point after 2-3 messages and usually ask them out the same day we matched, otherwise you risk becoming another drop in the ocean of messages they get. With current girlfriend, I only messaged her twice then asked her out on my 3rd message on the same day we matched.

She says going out for coffee would be nice

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What do I say next? I'm thinking about giving her my actual number.

Take whichever option works for you, then just say you don't like Bumble's messaging system and send your number.

Do not send your Snapchat.

It's different for everyone, but just make sure not to wait too long. When I was still active on dating apps, I would usually ask her on a date after a few good back and forths. Like we were both giving multiple sentence responses and seemed into the conversation. Often that happened on the same day that we matched, or the day after. Nothing arbitrary like waiting x amount of days. Because chances are, the date isn't happening the same day you ask. So you'll still have a few days of talking before the date anyway. And you want to strike while the iron is hot. Usually things fizzle out if you just message her without ever asking for a date.

Patty_Fleur posted...

What do I say next? I'm thinking about giving her my actual number.

Pick whichever day actually works for you. And for me, after she agrees to go out, I usually give her my number to plan out the details. The key is to not be pushy, because some women are iffy on giving out their number too soon. Something like "I'd love to plan the details through text. My number is x. No pressure though."

Usually they would say that they don't mind and would either text me or give me their number. And for the couple of women that said they weren't comfortable yet, we continued messaging on the app for a bit. And once they became comfortable, they let me know and gave me their number.

Patty_Fleur posted...

What do I say next?

You say "Sounds great!" and suggest a time and place. "I know a great coffee shop called _______, it's right near <nice park, museum, waterfront, etc...>. How about 2PM on Saturday? Here's my phone number."

I sent her my number and now we are texting instead of the app. We going out for coffee on Saturday. That's the plan at least.

So far the only potential problem I see is this bitch is 5'8. I listed my height as 5'9 but I'm more like 5'8 myself. At this point though I don't really care.

Patty_Fleur posted...

So far the only potential problem I see is this bitch is 5'8. I listed my height as 5'9 but I'm more like 5'8 myself. At this point though I don't really care.

Most people won't care. Also, not very nice to call your date a bitch.

Patty_Fleur posted...

I sent her my number and now we are texting instead of the app. We going out for coffee on Saturday. That's the plan at least.

So far the only potential problem I see is this bitch is 5'8. I listed my height as 5'9 but I'm more like 5'8 myself. At this point though I don't really care.

If she cared about height, she wouldn't have talked to you with 5'9 listed, seeing as she's 5'8. I wouldn't be concerned.

Oh and I forgot one thing. She says she's vegetarian. I hope she doesn't expect that from me.

Patty_Fleur posted...

So far the only potential problem I see is this b****

Ah, you're trolling. Good job fooling us.