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I've had cats over the years and my favorite was a male cat. Always hanging out with me until the die he died in my arms.

Most recent was two female cats and they're bat shit crazy. One even ran away because her nerves were so godamn shot even after I saved her life and took her home. The other I saved her life from the animal shelter and all she does is bitch and scratch.

Thoughts?

My favourite cat was a female farm cat, she was very sociable.

They're all the same. I've had both males and females that were cool

I dont want a male pet because when I cuddle, I dont want to accidentally touch their penis.

NeonTentacles posted...

They're all the same. I've had both males and females that were cool

Not true at all. They are not all the same.

IdiotMachine posted...

I dont want a male pet because when I cuddle, I dont want to accidentally touch their penis.

You're just sick no cat would stick their dick on you unless you made it. You should be closely watched.

In my experience they're bout the same in lovey-ness

Males do spray until fixed, and they may still do it a bit

It just really depends on the cat

I know you're wanting one, but consider getting two so they can do chill cat shit together when you ain't there or whatever

And let them sleep in bed with you. Cuteness and cuddliness and all the fuzzy lovey dovey MEOW MEOW MEOW PISS IN YO FACE JUHNNY

Cat sexism is certainly a new one.

All cats have different personalities and they're not really delineated by gender for the most part.

Best cats I have ever known have been female cats

IdiotMachine posted...

I dont want a male pet because when I cuddle, I dont want to accidentally touch their penis.

Ha..it was the opposite for me lol. I would sometimes feel weird about my female cat seeing my dick when I changed, as dumb as that sounds.

Can't say all female cats are assholes but in my experience i've had better relationships with the male cats. They're just more chill and ......

Oh yeah Walter @CanuckCowboy

The only cat I've ever had that would come to me when I called them was a male cat

Guess I coulda told you that in the discord

Hell this too. Butt fuck it

They're not the same, male cats like rough and tumble play a lot more. But I've had cats that have been equally affectionate across the sexes.

Male cats tend to be more affectionate but YOU HAVE to neuter them or they will spray everywhere. Femals cats tend to be more on the loner side and can be kinda bitchy but will still love you well. Both have their pros and cons

Oh and female on female cat fights are worse than male cat fights. Male cat fights are generally over dominance while fenale fights tend to be about territory and resources

Stallion_Prime posted...

Male cats tend to be more affectionate but YOU HAVE to neuter them or they will spray everywhere. Femals cats tend to be more on the loner side and can be kinda bitchy but will still love you well. Both have their pros and cons

Of course. At least here it's required if you rescue a cat he's gettin his nuts chopped off.

Smackems posted...

In my experience they're bout the same in lovey-ness

Males do spray until fixed, and they may still do it a bit

It just really depends on the cat

I know you're wanting one, but consider getting two so they can do chill cat shit together when you ain't there or whatever

And let them sleep in bed with you. Cuteness and cuddliness and all the fuzzy lovey dovey MEOW MEOW MEOW PISS IN YO FACE JUHNNY

Not all male cats spray, none of the male cats I've had since I was 10 years old never sprayed.

My 9 month old kitty has not sprayed once since we've got him.

They are friendlier

I've had both female and male cats, they've all been about the same. Most of then were very affectionate,some didn't really like people outside our family.

my current male cat follows me everywhere and is very affectionate. Likes to play and chase things while later in the day very chill. His behaviour is predictable.

When I have had female cats they seem higher IQ than males and also more moody like sometimes out hunting for days then others climbing up your leg .. then body .. to perch on your shoulder to try to rub up on your face.

Every cat has a different personality and some of them are crazy (just like humans).

I've had quite a few great cats and gender doesn't stand out.

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It's legally required if you get a cat in my state from a shelter that they're neutered/spayed. And yah my previous two used to chase each other around and smash into shit in the middle of the night play fighting even though they weren't related. They just grew up together and collectively decided to piss me off for fun in the process.

Johnny_Nutcase posted...

Can't say all female cats are assholes but in my experience i've had better relationships with the male cats. They're just more chill and ......

Oh yeah Walter @CanuckCowboy

Yeah honestly I think male cats are. They're way more affectionate generally speaking. Male savannahs actually sell for more for that reason.

In my experience female cats are just.... A little weird sometimes. They have some odd behaviors and can be a little crazy.

Woke up this morning to the neighbor dog barking at NOTHING for like an hour. Immediately made me decide dog is outta the question those dirty ass scoundrels.

Well I dont know anything about cats but the fact you said both the female cats were rescues should speak more for itself rather then their gender.

Right?

Loke i love dogs but holy shit they will lose it and bark for the dumbest most nonsensical reasons and they're so proud of themselves for it.

They seem to be more chill and less skittish in my experience.

All but two of my cats have been female. The girls were more laid back. The most affectionate was one of the girls followed by my current guy. I dont want to say that hes more intelligent than the others were, but hes always trying to figure things out so he seems that way. Hes also the weirdest. I cant say how the first guy would have turned since we unfortunately only had him a few weeks.

dioxxys posted...

Well I dont know anything about cats but the fact you said both the female cats were rescues should speak more for itself rather then their gender.

Not at all. One was a rescue the other I saved from a gas station. Both kittens. They just grew up to be pain in the asses. You think there's a godamn factory that pumps out perfect cats or something?

Johnny_Nutcase posted...

Most recent was two female cats and they're bat shit crazy. One even ran away because her nerves were so godamn shot even after I saved her life and took her home. The other I saved her life from the animal shelter and all she does is bitch and scratch.

Thoughts?

It sounds like you're conflating their learned behavior from before you rescued them, with being tied to their gender. You could have just as easily rescued male cats with issues like that.

I haven't read everything here but is there someone throwing another hissy like butterfly man did

I have three male cats. One is very affectionate and is always by you, one is a bit of a loner and a bit "special" and meows really weird, and the other, a stray I took in, is crazy, but in an amusing way. He runs everywhere, cooing randomly when he does it, runs into stuff, and has very bad agility/jumping skill compared to my other two and they seem to taunt him for his lack of ability

Overall, they get along fairly well and I wake up every morning with them in, or on my bed, with me. The stray runs out the door sometimes, but only if the weather is nice. If it's cold, he backs away from the door lol.

NoxObscuras posted...

It sounds like you're conflating their learned behavior from before you rescued them, with being tied to their gender. You could have just as easily rescued male cats with issues like that.

I got them both when they were just weeks old. I've had other female cats in the past that were NOT rescues that weren't assholes but just grumpy/loners. So no I don't conflate that at all.

All i'm saying here is in my experience I've had better luck with male cats. You connect the dots godamnit.

I've had one male cat (Charlie) and one female cat (Callie) during my life. Had the male for about... 2? Maybe 3? years before getting the female.

Charlie was grumpy. Not so grumpy that he'd lash out or anything, you could pet him and he wouldn't bite or paw at you, but he would act like "yeah, fuck that and fuck you". That said, he was never anything more than a perpetual old man... at least, to everyone besides the dog (Finn) we got about 6 years after getting him. He would always swipe at the dog just for going near him. It was funny as hell, actually, because Finn would always flinch from getting bopped on the snout... but he eventually realized it didn't actually hurt, because Charlie was declawed (before you people yell at me for that, remember that I was like... 3 when the family got him? I kind of had no say in it). From that day on, Finn no longer took any of Charlie's shit.

Callie, on the other hand, was the definition of a scaredy cat. Not sure why, I'm guessing she had some kind of trauma before we got her? I think she was about a year old when we adopted her. She would always hide from nearly everyone. It took some time for her to get used to us, and whenever we had guests, she was nowhere to be found. Beneath the bed in the master bedroom was her favorite place to chill. Oddly enough though, she was the opposite of Charlie in one specific way... she ADORED Finn. Whereas she's scamper away from anyone else, she'd actually go up to Finn and rub up against him. And, as excited of a puppy as Finn was (and frankly, still is even in his old age), he always knew to calm down around her. It was actually quite odd, considering the whole "cats and dogs not getting along" stereotype.

They're both gone now. We had to put down Callie back in... I think it was 2020? Due to health problems that came with old age. And Charlie was about a year before that for similar reasons. It was hard for me back then, especially losing them both pretty close to each other, but I think it was even worse for Finn. You could tell he was super depressed for a while, especially after Callie's passing.

Anyway, all that to say that it's probably not a matter of male vs female cats, but rather each cat has its own personality. Maybe you've just gotten lucky with male cats and unlucky with female ones, in terms of what you want in an animal companion. As for me, I considered both of my cats to be pretty freakin' awesome, and wouldn't trade the time I spent with them for anything.

Sorry, I didn't mean to make this post a super long wall of text. I guess the memories just started flooding back as I was typing all this up.

MarbyIsBack posted...

Sorry, I didn't mean to make this post a super long wall of text. I guess the memories just started flooding back as I was typing all this up.

Don't apologize. TC wanted a discussion and you gave it to him. Don't ever feel bad about opening up about stuff especially when it's in a wanted environment like this.

I've had five female cats, and they've all been friendly enough, but always on their own terms and they could be very skittish The two I have right now are particularly odd. The two male cats I had were the most affectionate animals I've ever seen. They were almost always with me, one of them would get really upset if I was gone too long, and you could just scoop them up at any time and pet them and they would melt in your arms. Not much of a sample size, and they all have different personalities, but I've found others people's male cats to be really friendly too.

In my experience, yes.

I've raised all my cats the same and the males are just much more affectionate. Not to say that my girls aren't sweeties, just comparatively speaking.

all the male cats I've had were douchebags

Pretty much all of my cats have been very affectionate. Haven't really seen much correlation in personality to their sex. Only thing close is all of my female cats have loved playing fetch. My male cats have never understood the concept of the bringing it back part.

I'm not sure there is much difference besides size and weight.

Oh yeah it's not that they're not loving at all. I just have found females to be a little more bitchy and needy.

FYI not all male cats spray if they're not neutered.

Johnny_Nutcase posted...

Woke up this morning to the neighbor dog barking at NOTHING for like an hour. Immediately made me decide dog is outta the question those dirty ass scoundrels.

if this is an ongoing issue affecting your sleep, i highly recommend bose sleepbuds. noisy neighbors are an issue for me right now, and from the very first night i started getting around two hours more sleep than before. just throwing it out there, took far too long for me to find them

I've known sweet female cats, but generally I've found that neutered male cats are more likely to be very friendly and pleasant.

I've had both throughout my life, my experience with males has been much better. Two females I had were very stereotypical cats with that attitude.

IdiotMachine posted...

I dont want a male pet because when I cuddle, I dont want to accidentally touch their penis.

Unironically this after growing up and always having male dogs in our house. I got tired of seeing pennis n testes over the years. So I deliberately got a female cat.

Als not sure how true it is but I heard that female cats are less likely to mark their territory compared to males