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Ruvan22 01/19/23 6:52:07 PM #103:	Zanglerfish posted... Hes being moved into his new room in Dignity Lane. Im having a panic attack, mostly anxiety over what happens after hes gone. I mean with the estate. Ive never had to deal with one before. Lol And I have to figure out how to get rid of that couch... Wow I imagine dealing with an estate is a headache even in the best of circumstances... <cite>Ruvan22 posted [p:970957696] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Zanglerfish posted... </cite><quote>Hes being moved into his new room in Dignity Lane. Im having a panic attack, mostly anxiety over what happens after hes gone. I mean with the estate. Ive never had to deal with one before. LolAnd I have to figure out how to get rid of that couch...</quote>Wow I imagine dealing with an estate is a headache even in the best of circumstances...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/19/23 6:57:27 PM #104:	Ruvan22 posted... Wow I imagine dealing with an estate is a headache even in the best of circumstances... Technically Im apart of 5 now Grandmother in law Father in law Mother in law Grandfather Father (when the time comes) Gmil I dont really need to do anything. But my wife is getting 25%... and maybe more, of that estate. Fil was never done by mother in law so we need to hire a lawyer Mil I still have to file some paperwork Grandfather I dont have to do anything but I now own 25% of his house. And then Ill be dealing with my dads directly... lol --- Don't look too closely at the Mistletoe on my belt buckle. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:970957813] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Ruvan22 posted... </cite><quote>Wow I imagine dealing with an estate is a headache even in the best of circumstances...</quote>Technically Im apart of 5 nowGrandmother in lawFather in lawMother in lawGrandfatherFather (when the time comes)Gmil I dont really need to do anything. But my wife is getting 25%... and maybe more, of that estate. Fil was never done by mother in law so we need to hire a lawyerMil I still have to file some paperworkGrandfather I dont have to do anything but I now own 25% of his house. And then Ill be dealing with my dads directly... lol</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KaZooo 01/20/23 12:04:46 AM #105:	Yikes. My dad actually was minimal on assets, so there hasn't been an estate to sort out. Even then the scam collection attempts can put me on edge. A small speaking-out-loud thing (not to make it about me). Today is one year exactly after my dad passed. Time/hindsight has shifted perspective a slight bit since it's become more familiar. Maybe one key takeaway I had is that there's no asking questions or seeking answers at some point (about him). Any time that I pick up something new, is through passing when an older family member recalls something. The mindset that still sticks is just trying to paint a clearer picture of what it was like in his shoes when he was my age, and fatherhood just begun for him. What decisions he made and what drove them; where he was and was not confident; what was he thinking about on his own time between fatherhood and working. It's a little bit of personal understanding of him - never to actually change my relationship and perception of him - but I'd say it's also heavily an understanding of the world he was living in. I don't think I'd really learn anything in a way that would benefit me, but it'd be nice to know about that time with clarity. It's a bit of self-centered thinking: what was the world before and as I came into being? --- Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all <cite>KaZooo posted [p:970963050] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Yikes. My dad actually was minimal on assets, so there hasn't been an estate to sort out. Even then the scam collection attempts can put me on edge.A small speaking-out-loud thing (not to make it about me). Today is one year exactly after my dad passed. Time/hindsight has shifted perspective a slight bit since it's become more familiar. Maybe one key takeaway I had is that there's no asking questions or seeking answers at some point (about him). Any time that I pick up something new, is through passing when an older family member recalls something. The mindset that still sticks is just trying to paint a clearer picture of what it was like in his shoes when he was my age, and fatherhood just begun for him. What decisions he made and what drove them; where he was and was not confident; what was he thinking about on his own time between fatherhood and working. It's a little bit of personal understanding of him - never to actually change my relationship and perception of him - but I'd say it's also heavily an understanding of the world he was living in. I don't think I'd really learn anything in a way that would benefit me, but it'd be nice to know about that time with clarity. It's a bit of self-centered thinking: what was the world before and as I came into being? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/20/23 6:31:45 AM #106:	KaZooo posted... Yikes. My dad actually was minimal on assets, so there hasn't been an estate to sort out. Even then the scam collection attempts can put me on edge. A small speaking-out-loud thing (not to make it about me). Today is one year exactly after my dad passed. Time/hindsight has shifted perspective a slight bit since it's become more familiar. Maybe one key takeaway I had is that there's no asking questions or seeking answers at some point (about him). Any time that I pick up something new, is through passing when an older family member recalls something. The mindset that still sticks is just trying to paint a clearer picture of what it was like in his shoes when he was my age, and fatherhood just begun for him. What decisions he made and what drove them; where he was and was not confident; what was he thinking about on his own time between fatherhood and working. It's a little bit of personal understanding of him - never to actually change my relationship and perception of him - but I'd say it's also heavily an understanding of the world he was living in. I don't think I'd really learn anything in a way that would benefit me, but it'd be nice to know about that time with clarity. It's a bit of self-centered thinking: what was the world before and as I came into being? No worries. This is a place to talk about whatever. What I do know about my dad when he was young I dont really want to necessarily know. Ive found out some questionable things, but theyre not things I can change or do anything about. And theres some other questions I have but theyre pure speculation. My dad has always been pretty cagey at the best of times. They keep asking me how hes been doing for the past year and its like, other than the fact he was ambulatory but didnt want to leave the house, theres not much I can tell you. Was he in pain? No idea. Was he depressed or suicidal? No idea. He basically never talks about his feelings. Yesterday I did get another part of his final affairs in order. How I did it can be challenged but I dont think it will be. I still need to file his taxes but Im having a hard time getting to the last form I need. --- Don't look too closely at the Mistletoe on my belt buckle. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:970966337] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>KaZooo posted... </cite><quote>Yikes. My dad actually was minimal on assets, so there hasn't been an estate to sort out. Even then the scam collection attempts can put me on edge.A small speaking-out-loud thing (not to make it about me). Today is one year exactly after my dad passed. Time/hindsight has shifted perspective a slight bit since it's become more familiar. Maybe one key takeaway I had is that there's no asking questions or seeking answers at some point (about him). Any time that I pick up something new, is through passing when an older family member recalls something. The mindset that still sticks is just trying to paint a clearer picture of what it was like in his shoes when he was my age, and fatherhood just begun for him. What decisions he made and what drove them; where he was and was not confident; what was he thinking about on his own time between fatherhood and working. It's a little bit of personal understanding of him - never to actually change my relationship and perception of him - but I'd say it's also heavily an understanding of the world he was living in. I don't think I'd really learn anything in a way that would benefit me, but it'd be nice to know about that time with clarity. It's a bit of self-centered thinking: what was the world before and as I came into being?</quote>No worries. This is a place to talk about whatever. What I do know about my dad when he was young I dont really want to necessarily know. Ive found out some questionable things, but theyre not things I can change or do anything about. And theres some other questions I have but theyre pure speculation. My dad has always been pretty cagey at the best of times. They keep asking me how hes been doing for the past year and its like, other than the fact he was ambulatory but didnt want to leave the house, theres not much I can tell you. Was he in pain? No idea. Was he depressed or suicidal? No idea. He basically never talks about his feelings. Yesterday I did get another part of his final affairs in order. How I did it can be challenged but I dont think it will be. I still need to file his taxes but Im having a hard time getting to the last form I need. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/20/23 3:44:04 PM #107:	Im so fucking tired. Up at night with my wife. At the hospital during the day. Had to go shovel today before I came to the hospital. --- Don't look too closely at the Mistletoe on my belt buckle. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:970975311] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Im so fucking tired. Up at night with my wife. At the hospital during the day. Had to go shovel today before I came to the hospital. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/21/23 2:27:38 PM #108:	Hes much more alert today... hes giving the nurse shit about his lunch and yelling at the TV lol --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:970995192] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Hes much more alert today... hes giving the nurse shit about his lunch and yelling at the TV lol</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KaZooo 01/21/23 5:15:06 PM #109:	Wow he's got a motor. He's making sure he's gonna be remembered lol --- Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all <cite>KaZooo posted [p:970998466] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Wow he's got a motor. He's making sure he's gonna be remembered lol</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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KaZooo 01/21/23 7:17:21 PM #111:	by that I mean despite everything going on, he seems to still be him. More fun times for you, maybe. Seems like that sandwich affair worked out in your favor. --- Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all <cite>KaZooo posted [p:971001028] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>by that I mean despite everything going on, he seems to still be him. More fun times for you, maybe. Seems like that sandwich affair worked out in your favor.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/21/23 9:21:22 PM #112:	KaZooo posted... by that I mean despite everything going on, he seems to still be him. More fun times for you, maybe. Seems like that sandwich affair worked out in your favor. Well fun times... kind of doubt it. Lol. Im bored as fuck there. Today I was working on the family list for the obit. >_> I dont want him to die or anything, and I think the doctors may have been premature in sending him down to hospice. But its actually a better environment. And the nurses seem more... careful and gentle in their approach. The ICU step down ward theyre more zealous and wanting to get things done. They had him on haldol so they could clean him up and he wouldnt fight back and I think thats why he was so lethargic for a couple of days. He was hungry all day today. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971003719] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>KaZooo posted... </cite><quote>by that I mean despite everything going on, he seems to still be him. More fun times for you, maybe. Seems like that sandwich affair worked out in your favor.</quote>Well fun times... kind of doubt it. Lol. Im bored as fuck there. Today I was working on the family list for the obit. >_> I dont want him to die or anything, and I think the doctors may have been premature in sending him down to hospice. But its actually a better environment. And the nurses seem more... careful and gentle in their approach. The ICU step down ward theyre more zealous and wanting to get things done. They had him on haldol so they could clean him up and he wouldnt fight back and I think thats why he was so lethargic for a couple of days. He was hungry all day today. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
XxAxem_BlackxX 01/21/23 10:27:05 PM #113:	Zanglerfish posted... Because I dont think he should be in pain or mistreated. After reading your other posts about how he treated you, this doesn't make any sense to me. Why do you care what happens to him? I would think someone in your position would want him to get his just desserts. <cite>XxAxem_BlackxX posted [p:971005104] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Zanglerfish posted... </cite><quote>Because I dont think he should be in pain or mistreated.</quote>After reading your other posts about how he treated you, this doesn't make any sense to me. Why do you care what happens to him? I would think someone in your position would want him to get his just desserts.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KaZooo 01/21/23 10:34:02 PM #114:	If it's anything like my perspective, there's just a point where you see them as a human and less the person they were. TC is uncorruptable. History still stands, but his dad can't do anything to him anymore. --- Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all <cite>KaZooo posted [p:971005261] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>If it's anything like my perspective, there's just a point where you see them as a human and less the person they were. TC is uncorruptable. History still stands, but his dad can't do anything to him anymore. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/22/23 12:43:00 AM #115:	XxAxem_BlackxX posted... After reading your other posts about how he treated you, this doesn't make any sense to me. Why do you care what happens to him? I would think someone in your position would want him to get his just desserts. Well, Im not vindictive, and I dont hate him. I dont feel anything about him, or much about anyone else either. He was and still is a cruel man, yes. But he will die in his own time, and Im better than him so I dont want him to needlessly suffer. KaZooo posted... If it's anything like my perspective, there's just a point where you see them as a human and less the person they were. TC is uncorruptable. History still stands, but his dad can't do anything to him anymore. I dont know about incorruptible, but yeah. My father cant hurt anymore. And in his way has made attempts to atone for what he did, without ever actually acknowledging it. But its also Im so fucked in the head that an apology wouldnt even matter to me. And if he told me he never wanted to see me again I would turn around and walk away without a second thought. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971007739] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>XxAxem_BlackxX posted... </cite><quote>After reading your other posts about how he treated you, this doesn't make any sense to me. Why do you care what happens to him? I would think someone in your position would want him to get his just desserts.</quote>Well, Im not vindictive, and I dont hate him. I dont feel anything about him, or much about anyone else either. He was and still is a cruel man, yes. But he will die in his own time, and Im better than him so I dont want him to needlessly suffer.KaZooo posted... </cite><quote>If it's anything like my perspective, there's just a point where you see them as a human and less the person they were. TC is uncorruptable. History still stands, but his dad can't do anything to him anymore.</quote>I dont know about incorruptible, but yeah. My father cant hurt anymore. And in his way has made attempts to atone for what he did, without ever actually acknowledging it. But its also Im so fucked in the head that an apology wouldnt even matter to me. And if he told me he never wanted to see me again I would turn around and walk away without a second thought. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/22/23 2:24:22 AM #116:	I am so fucking exhausted. But I cant sleep. I dont even have the energy to play a game... ugh. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971009003] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>I am so fucking exhausted. But I cant sleep. I dont even have the energy to play a game... ugh. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/22/23 3:11:12 PM #117:	Well at least its not just me Dad: Blackberries? Som: Huh? Dad: Whats in the bowl? Son: Theres no bowl Dad: Jesus fucking Christ! Blackberries! Son: Theres no blackberries Dad: Fucking get me blackberries I want blackberries why dont you have blackberries! This was to his eldest son. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971017684] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Well at least its not just meDad: Blackberries?Som: Huh?Dad: Whats in the bowl?Son: Theres no bowlDad: Jesus fucking Christ! Blackberries!Son: Theres no blackberriesDad: Fucking get me blackberries I want blackberries why dont you have blackberries!This was to his eldest son. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KaZooo 01/22/23 3:25:15 PM #118:	Zanglerfish posted... Well at least its not just me Dad: Blackberries? Som: Huh? Dad: Whats in the bowl? Son: Theres no bowl Dad: Jesus fucking Christ! Blackberries! Son: Theres no blackberries Dad: Fucking get me blackberries I want blackberries why dont you have blackberries! This was to his eldest son. Eh, sounds funnier if it was a sitcom. --- Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all <cite>KaZooo posted [p:971017981] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Zanglerfish posted... </cite><quote>Well at least its not just meDad: Blackberries?Som: Huh?Dad: Whats in the bowl?Son: Theres no bowlDad: Jesus fucking Christ! Blackberries!Son: Theres no blackberriesDad: Fucking get me blackberries I want blackberries why dont you have blackberries!This was to his eldest son.</quote>Eh, sounds funnier if it was a sitcom.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/22/23 3:51:28 PM #119:	KaZooo posted... Eh, sounds funnier if it was a sitcom. Right? Reminds me of the father from Titus. Im just glad his ire wasnt aimed at me this time. Im also full of Long John Silvers Hushpuppies so Im fortified. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971018502] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>KaZooo posted... </cite><quote>Eh, sounds funnier if it was a sitcom.</quote>Right? Reminds me of the father from Titus. Im just glad his ire wasnt aimed at me this time. Im also full of Long John Silvers Hushpuppies so Im fortified. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/22/23 5:46:21 PM #120:	Yesterday was a good day for him but today he really isnt doing well. He says hes tired oh so tired. But hes been sleeping the entire time Ive been here. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971021057] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Yesterday was a good day for him but today he really isnt doing well. He says hes tired oh so tired. But hes been sleeping the entire time Ive been here. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/22/23 10:58:08 PM #121:	Howd my day go you ask? (Im not ragging on you or anything Im just being rhetorical), oh my dad was calling out for mommy and daddy, yelled at Jimmy for not having blackberries we didnt know he wanted, and then he slept the rest of the time. So it could be soon... Donald and I decided to go get sushi and when I got to the car I had a flat. But I got thar swapped with the doughnut. Got home and went and had some good sushi. And actually, I kind of needed that. Had a good dinner with one brother the other didnt want to come with. We went to one of those places that has the belt and you can grab what you want but they also have touch screens to order stuff. My wife never had sushi and now she has. I like it more than she does but she enjoyed some of it. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971028443] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Howd my day go you ask? (Im not ragging on you or anything Im just being rhetorical), oh my dad was calling out for mommy and daddy, yelled at Jimmy for not having blackberries we didnt know he wanted, and then he slept the rest of the time. So it could be soon...Donald and I decided to go get sushi and when I got to the car I had a flat. But I got thar swapped with the doughnut. Got home and went and had some good sushi.And actually, I kind of needed that. Had a good dinner with one brother the other didnt want to come with. We went to one of those places that has the belt and you can grab what you want but they also have touch screens to order stuff. My wife never had sushi and now she has. I like it more than she does but she enjoyed some of it. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KaZooo 01/22/23 11:27:39 PM #122:	Tire issues annoy me. Technically the spare isn't meant to last long. Yeah, the timeline can been sooner or later. I'm not sure what goes into it, but my dad sounded semi-better/active right before he was really going. I personally wondered if my dad knew that was coming, when he gave me that sincere call that to this day I'll always feel was too short for our lifetimes. --- Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all <cite>KaZooo posted [p:971028891] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Tire issues annoy me. Technically the spare isn't meant to last long.Yeah, the timeline can been sooner or later. I'm not sure what goes into it, but my dad sounded semi-better/active right before he was really going. I personally wondered if my dad knew that was coming, when he gave me that sincere call that to this day I'll always feel was too short for our lifetimes. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/22/23 11:29:17 PM #123:	KaZooo posted... Tire issues annoy me. Technically the spare isn't meant to last long. Yeah, the timeline can been sooner or later. I'm not sure what goes into it, but my dad sounded semi-better/active right before he was really going. I personally wondered if my dad knew that was coming, when he gave me that sincere call that to this day I'll always feel was too short for our lifetimes. Yeah its not uncommon for someone to suddenly seem better before they pass. That coupled with him calling out to his parents isnt a great sign for him. But if it happens he will be out of pain soon. I was able to convince him to let them medicate him so he could sleep better. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971028920] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>KaZooo posted... </cite><quote>Tire issues annoy me. Technically the spare isn't meant to last long.Yeah, the timeline can been sooner or later. I'm not sure what goes into it, but my dad sounded semi-better/active right before he was really going. I personally wondered if my dad knew that was coming, when he gave me that sincere call that to this day I'll always feel was too short for our lifetimes.</quote>Yeah its not uncommon for someone to suddenly seem better before they pass. That coupled with him calling out to his parents isnt a great sign for him. But if it happens he will be out of pain soon. I was able to convince him to let them medicate him so he could sleep better. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/23/23 1:54:59 PM #124:	One of my brothers wanted to get dinner so my wife and I were going to join him for sushi (shes never had it before), I get to my car FUCKING FLAT TIRE lol.good thing I know how to change it. Managed to get out for a nice sushi dinner. Wifes reactions were mixed but she also tried the salmon roe which I didnt. She hated it. But she likes the smaller bites. I had I think a yellow tail with yuzu and I really liked it but it was too much raw fish at once for her. She was able to get a food bowl of spicy miso ramen she really liked. Had a good time just talking with my brother for a bit. Really needed a night out. Right now Im waiting on my car being fixed and Im having all the tires checked to make sure I didnt pick up any more screws. Then back to see dad. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971040290] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>One of my brothers wanted to get dinner so my wife and I were going to join him for sushi (shes never had it before), I get to my carFUCKING FLAT TIRE lol.good thing I know how to change it. Managed to get out for a nice sushi dinner. Wifes reactions were mixed but she also tried the salmon roe which I didnt. She hated it. But she likes the smaller bites. I had I think a yellow tail with yuzu and I really liked it but it was too much raw fish at once for her. She was able to get a food bowl of spicy miso ramen she really liked. Had a good time just talking with my brother for a bit. Really needed a night out. Right now Im waiting on my car being fixed and Im having all the tires checked to make sure I didnt pick up any more screws. Then back to see dad. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/23/23 8:12:32 PM #125:	As shit as things have been, this year could be looking up. Just talked to my wifes aunt about that estate and its getting close to selling. Like maybe in the next couple of weeks. And instead of 1/4 shes getting 1/3rd now... because the uncle who was squatting on the land has finally been evicted... and hes in jail, most likely for the rest of his life, is being sued for rent for all that time because he refuses to leave. So it wipes out his share --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971048603] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>As shit as things have been, this year could be looking up. Just talked to my wifes aunt about that estate and its getting close to selling. Like maybe in the next couple of weeks. And instead of 1/4 shes getting 1/3rd now... because the uncle who was squatting on the land has finally been evicted... and hes in jail, most likely for the rest of his life, is being sued for rent for all that time because he refuses to leave. So it wipes out his share</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KaZooo 01/23/23 8:14:29 PM #126:	Zanglerfish posted... One of my brothers wanted to get dinner so my wife and I were going to join him for sushi (shes never had it before), I get to my car FUCKING FLAT TIRE lol.good thing I know how to change it. Managed to get out for a nice sushi dinner. Wifes reactions were mixed but she also tried the salmon roe which I didnt. She hated it. But she likes the smaller bites. I had I think a yellow tail with yuzu and I really liked it but it was too much raw fish at once for her. She was able to get a food bowl of spicy miso ramen she really liked. Had a good time just talking with my brother for a bit. Really needed a night out. Right now Im waiting on my car being fixed and Im having all the tires checked to make sure I didnt pick up any more screws. Then back to see dad. I think you repeated this dinner post lol Zanglerfish posted... As shit as things have been, this year could be looking up. Just talked to my wifes aunt about that estate and its getting close to selling. Like maybe in the next couple of weeks. And instead of 1/4 shes getting 1/3rd now... because the uncle who was squatting on the land has finally been evicted... and hes in jail, most likely for the rest of his life, is being sued for rent for all that time because he refuses to leave. So it wipes out his share Yeah, take the victories as they come. Big or small, gives you more tools to work with --- Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all <cite>KaZooo posted [p:971048655] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Zanglerfish posted... </cite><quote>One of my brothers wanted to get dinner so my wife and I were going to join him for sushi (shes never had it before), I get to my carFUCKING FLAT TIRElol.good thing I know how to change it.Managed to get out for a nice sushi dinner. Wifes reactions were mixed but she also tried the salmon roe which I didnt. She hated it. But she likes the smaller bites. I had I think a yellow tail with yuzu and I really liked it but it was too much raw fish at once for her. She was able to get a food bowl of spicy miso ramen she really liked.Had a good time just talking with my brother for a bit. Really needed a night out.Right now Im waiting on my car being fixed and Im having all the tires checked to make sure I didnt pick up any more screws. Then back to see dad.</quote>I think you repeated this dinner post lolZanglerfish posted... </cite><quote>As shit as things have been, this year could be looking up. Just talked to my wifes aunt about that estate and its getting close to selling. Like maybe in the next couple of weeks. And instead of 1/4 shes getting 1/3rd now... because the uncle who was squatting on the land has finally been evicted... and hes in jail, most likely for the rest of his life, is being sued for rent for all that time because he refuses to leave. So it wipes out his share</quote>Yeah, take the victories as they come. Big or small, gives you more tools to work with</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smallville 01/23/23 8:21:52 PM #127:	best wishes for your father, tc,. How old is he? --- "That won't work Boss, hide the target in a place they're unlikely to be found"---GZ <cite>Smallville posted [p:971048868] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>best wishes for your father, tc,. How old is he?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/23/23 9:13:38 PM #128:	KaZooo posted... I think you repeated this dinner post lol I need to visit the Milwaukee airport https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/4/3/3/AAAvTlAAEHiJ.jpg Yeah, take the victories as they come. Big or small, gives you more tools to work with Itll be a nice windfall if this all happens after the last 7 or so years... basically a reset of everything. Life will be back on track and I can buy more Lego --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971050203] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>KaZooo posted... </cite><quote>I think you repeated this dinner post lol</quote>I need to visit the Milwaukee airporthttps://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/4/3/3/AAAvTlAAEHiJ.jpg <quote>Yeah, take the victories as they come. Big or small, gives you more tools to work with</quote>Itll be a nice windfall if this all happens after the last 7 or so years... basically a reset of everything. Life will be back on track and I can buy more Lego</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/23/23 9:13:48 PM #129:	Smallville posted... best wishes for your father, tc,. How old is he? Turns 80 in a few months. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971050209] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Smallville posted... </cite><quote>best wishes for your father, tc,. How old is he?</quote>Turns 80 in a few months. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smallville 01/23/23 9:30:00 PM #130:	tc, did your main, zangulus and like one of your alts get suspended or something? iirc all your usernames have zang in them. And, you had another one but i can't remember the name of it --- "That won't work Boss, hide the target in a place they're unlikely to be found"---GZ <cite>Smallville posted [p:971050695] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>tc, did your main, zangulus and like one of your alts get suspended or something? iirc all your usernames have zang in them. And, you had another one but i can't remember the name of it</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/23/23 9:57:09 PM #131:	Smallville posted... tc, did your main, zangulus and like one of your alts get suspended or something? iirc all your usernames have zang in them. And, you had another one but i can't remember the name of it ZangsBeard is purged right now and Zangulus is fine I just use it for LuE mostly. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971051342] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Smallville posted... </cite><quote>tc, did your main, zangulus and like one of your alts get suspended or something? iirc all your usernames have zang in them. And, you had another one but i can't remember the name of it</quote>ZangsBeard is purged right now and Zangulus is fine I just use it for LuE mostly. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Flauros 01/23/23 9:58:06 PM #132:	ever get those gun pics? --- https://i.imgur.com/EX6Md7k.gif https://i.imgur.com/ygAzHKB.mp4 https://i.imgur.com/c84omp7.gif https://i.imgur.com/Hj9RrC6.mp4 <cite>Flauros posted [p:971051361] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>ever get those gun pics?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/23/23 10:05:09 PM #133:	Flauros posted... ever get those gun pics? Not yet but I havent forgotten. Send me a PM so I remember who to tag. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971051521] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Flauros posted... </cite><quote>ever get those gun pics?</quote>Not yet but I havent forgotten. Send me a PM so I remember who to tag. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/24/23 2:47:56 PM #134:	Im not sure I feel like going out to the hospital today... I should still go though lol --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971065893] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Im not sure I feel like going out to the hospital today... I should still go though lol</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KaZooo 01/24/23 3:13:35 PM #135:	Zanglerfish posted... Im not sure I feel like going out to the hospital today... I should still go though lol Tbh just go. Not because you want to, but it's not gonna be forever --- Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all <cite>KaZooo posted [p:971066424] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Zanglerfish posted... </cite><quote>Im not sure I feel like going out to the hospital today... I should still go though lol</quote>Tbh just go. Not because you want to, but it's not gonna be forever </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/25/23 1:08:27 AM #136:	I didnt go. Jimmy is still in town and he spent most of the day there. I took the day off. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971078400] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>I didnt go. Jimmy is still in town and he spent most of the day there. I took the day off. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NOM 01/25/23 1:27:26 AM #137:	I'm so sorry. My dad is 82 and not in the best of health. I'm waiting for something bad to happen. And my mom died last year in her 70's. One year ago yesterday, actually. When we're young we think our parents will be around forever but it's just not the case and for some of us that realization is devastating. It is for me, I know. I don't know what I'm trying to say here other than I am so sorry about your dad and I feel what you're going through. You have to stay strong and keep on going, as clich as it sounds. You must carry on his legacy. --- I dream broken dreams I make them come true <cite>NOM posted [p:971078619] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>I'm so sorry. My dad is 82 and not in the best of health. I'm waiting for something bad to happen. And my mom died last year in her 70's. One year ago yesterday, actually. When we're young we think our parents will be around forever but it's just not the case and for some of us that realization is devastating. It is for me, I know.I don't know what I'm trying to say here other than I am so sorry about your dad and I feel what you're going through. You have to stay strong and keep on going, as clich as it sounds. You must carry on his legacy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/25/23 1:34:35 AM #138:	NOM posted... I'm so sorry. My dad is 82 and not in the best of health. I'm waiting for something bad to happen. And my mom died last year in her 70's. One year ago yesterday, actually. When we're young we think our parents will be around forever but it's just not the case and for some of us that realization is devastating. It is for me, I know. I don't know what I'm trying to say here other than I am so sorry about your dad and I feel what you're going through. You have to stay strong and keep on going, as clich as it sounds. You must carry on his legacy. You didn't read the rest of my topic... lol. While your feelings are your own, they are wholly incorrect for me. I will not be continuing this asshole's legacy. I appreciate the sentiment though. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971078694] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>NOM posted... </cite><quote>I'm so sorry. My dad is 82 and not in the best of health. I'm waiting for something bad to happen. And my mom died last year in her 70's. One year ago yesterday, actually. When we're young we think our parents will be around forever but it's just not the case and for some of us that realization is devastating. It is for me, I know.I don't know what I'm trying to say here other than I am so sorry about your dad and I feel what you're going through. You have to stay strong and keep on going, as clich as it sounds. You must carry on his legacy.</quote>You didn't read the rest of my topic... lol. While your feelings are your own, they are wholly incorrect for me. I will not be continuing this asshole's legacy.I appreciate the sentiment though. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/25/23 4:27:03 PM #139:	I kinda wish I had a steam deck... Im so bored listening to my dad snore. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971092004] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>I kinda wish I had a steam deck... Im so bored listening to my dad snore. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Flauros 01/25/23 5:14:07 PM #144:	Got some nice ones there. I was right about the Marlin 30-30 it looks like. And those older Marlins were gorgeous. I much MUCH prefer the look of them to the more modern ones like i have. They just look mass produced. The real keeper is that Remington 7400. Its not worth a ton of money (the Marlin 30-30 is probably the most valuable), but a semi auto 30-06 is a cool gun and will always have a wow factor to it. For the shotgun, there is always a market for Ithaca stuff. More for the M37 (thats the one everyone wants), but a Model 51 is still nice for fucking around and target shooting. As for the 22, there is not much to say. Garden variety and dirt cheap. Still good to plink or pop squirrels with. Looks to be in good shape. Not bad over all. If you plan on keeping them, just make sure your safe has a dehumidification system in it. You can get moisture absorbing cans for cheap these days --- https://i.imgur.com/EX6Md7k.gif https://i.imgur.com/ygAzHKB.mp4 https://i.imgur.com/c84omp7.gif https://i.imgur.com/Hj9RrC6.mp4 <cite>Flauros posted [p:971092938] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Got some nice ones there. I was right about the Marlin 30-30 it looks like. And those older Marlins were gorgeous. I much MUCH prefer the look of them to the more modern ones like i have. They just look mass produced.The real keeper is that Remington 7400. Its not worth a ton of money (the Marlin 30-30 is probably the most valuable), but a semi auto 30-06 is a cool gun and will always have a wow factor to it.For the shotgun, there is always a market for Ithaca stuff. More for the M37 (thats the one everyone wants), but a Model 51 is still nice for fucking around and target shooting.As for the 22, there is not much to say. Garden variety and dirt cheap. Still good to plink or pop squirrels with. Looks to be in good shape.Not bad over all. If you plan on keeping them, just make sure your safe has a dehumidification system in it. You can get moisture absorbing cans for cheap these days </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/25/23 5:41:58 PM #145:	Flauros posted... Got some nice ones there. I was right about the Marlin 30-30 it looks like. And those older Marlins were gorgeous. I much MUCH prefer the look of them to the more modern ones like i have. They just look mass produced. The real keeper is that Remington 7400. Its not worth a ton of money (the Marlin 30-30 is probably the most valuable), but a semi auto 30-06 is a cool gun and will always have a wow factor to it. For the shotgun, there is always a market for Ithaca stuff. More for the M37 (thats the one everyone wants), but a Model 51 is still nice for fucking around and target shooting. As for the 22, there is not much to say. Garden variety and dirt cheap. Still good to plink or pop squirrels with. Looks to be in good shape. Not bad over all. If you plan on keeping them, just make sure your safe has a dehumidification system in it. You can get moisture absorbing cans for cheap these days I think Im going to keep the .22 and the shotgun. My brothers have both said they want some of them. One wants the 30-30 for hunting and the one one still shoots and will take any no one else wants. Im not worried about the value, really. Even though one said hed pay for them. But I wont take money. The kids are allowed to have any possession they want and Im getting the house to at least live in. Lol. I would have kept the 30-30 because thats what I used to hunt with, but I wont use it for hunting so Id rather it go for someone who wants to use it. The .22 is a pop gun. Ill use it just for target practice. --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971093556] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Flauros posted... </cite><quote>Got some nice ones there. I was right about the Marlin 30-30 it looks like. And those older Marlins were gorgeous. I much MUCH prefer the look of them to the more modern ones like i have. They just look mass produced.The real keeper is that Remington 7400. Its not worth a ton of money (the Marlin 30-30 is probably the most valuable), but a semi auto 30-06 is a cool gun and will always have a wow factor to it.For the shotgun, there is always a market for Ithaca stuff. More for the M37 (thats the one everyone wants), but a Model 51 is still nice for fucking around and target shooting.As for the 22, there is not much to say. Garden variety and dirt cheap. Still good to plink or pop squirrels with. Looks to be in good shape.Not bad over all. If you plan on keeping them, just make sure your safe has a dehumidification system in it. You can get moisture absorbing cans for cheap these days</quote>I think Im going to keep the .22 and the shotgun. My brothers have both said they want some of them. One wants the 30-30 for hunting and the one one still shoots and will take any no one else wants. Im not worried about the value, really. Even though one said hed pay for them. But I wont take money. The kids are allowed to have any possession they want and Im getting the house to at least live in. Lol. I would have kept the 30-30 because thats what I used to hunt with, but I wont use it for hunting so Id rather it go for someone who wants to use it. The .22 is a pop gun. Ill use it just for target practice. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanglerfish 01/26/23 6:55:04 PM #146:	Ah yes... lying to an old man. dad: <name> do you still love me?! me: of course I love you lawls --- Not a Banglerfish, not a Danglerfish, and definitely not a Wanglerfish. The one and only Zanglerfish. <cite>Zanglerfish posted [p:971117637] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Ah yes... lying to an old man. dad: <name> do you still love me?!me: of course I love youlawls </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KaZooo 01/26/23 9:31:54 PM #147:	Zanglerfish posted... Ah yes... lying to an old man. dad: <name> do you still love me?! me: of course I love you lawls Maybe, just maybe he's reached the point of remorse. I think that's what it was like with my dad. 3 weeks in the hospital away from the everyday noise let him take a step back. Maybe he also made out the end was sooner than later. --- Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all <cite>KaZooo posted [p:971120765] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Zanglerfish posted... </cite><quote>Ah yes... lying to an old man. dad: <name> do you still love me?!me: of course I love youlawls</quote>Maybe, just maybe he's reached the point of remorse.I think that's what it was like with my dad. 3 weeks in the hospital away from the everyday noise let him take a step back. Maybe he also made out the end was sooner than later.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zangrief 01/27/23 1:45:32 AM #148:	KaZooo posted... Maybe, just maybe he's reached the point of remorse. I think that's what it was like with my dad. 3 weeks in the hospital away from the everyday noise let him take a step back. Maybe he also made out the end was sooner than later. Maybe, but he hasn't expressed anything like that. He's acting more like he wants sympathy. He's not always lucid either. He's off the antibiotics now, and today not much happened. He was asleep for almost the entire time I was there. <cite>Zangrief posted [p:971125233] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>KaZooo posted... </cite><quote>Maybe, just maybe he's reached the point of remorse.I think that's what it was like with my dad. 3 weeks in the hospital away from the everyday noise let him take a step back. Maybe he also made out the end was sooner than later.</quote>Maybe, but he hasn't expressed anything like that. He's acting more like he wants sympathy. He's not always lucid either.He's off the antibiotics now, and today not much happened. He was asleep for almost the entire time I was there.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zangrief 01/27/23 3:57:22 PM #149:	I followed my sister in laws truck to the hospital. Just ended up behind her on the highway... and I saw her parking. But I havent seen my brother since I got her over an hour ago. And hes leaving tomorrow. shrug <cite>Zangrief posted [p:971137988] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>I followed my sister in laws truck to the hospital. Just ended up behind her on the highway... and I saw her parking. But I havent seen my brother since I got her over an hour ago. And hes leaving tomorrow. shrug</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zangrief 01/27/23 4:30:58 PM #150:	The social worker finally got back in touch with me about the burial and death benefits for my dad. Thatll help with the costs a bit. Theres apparently been a folder in his room that I had seen but thought it was just info about him being here and its his death benefits and other things to fill out. Heh. <cite>Zangrief posted [p:971138818] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>The social worker finally got back in touch with me about the burial and death benefits for my dad. Thatll help with the costs a bit. Theres apparently been a folder in his room that I had seen but thought it was just info about him being here and its his death benefits and other things to fill out. Heh. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zangrief 01/27/23 7:23:58 PM #151:	Ahh yes. Hearing him yell damn it over and over again while refusing pain meds and he wont answer if he wants anything. Thats helping my ptsd <cite>Zangrief posted [p:971142546] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Ahh yes. Hearing him yell damn it over and over again while refusing pain meds and he wont answer if he wants anything. Thats helping my ptsd </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SHRlKE 01/27/23 7:28:14 PM #152:	Whats his mental state like? When my grandad was in hospital before he died he slowly became more and more broken mentally. Started with just conspiracy about nurses trying to hurt him and wanting to go home and by the end was just shouting until one day he just stopped like hed had a mental breakdown and that was it. He was there and conscious but no one was home as it were. Awful to see. <cite>SHRlKE posted [p:971142639] in My father ... [t:80308776]...</cite> <quote>Whats his mental state like? When my grandad was in hospital before he died he slowly became more and more broken mentally. Started with just conspiracy about nurses trying to hurt him and wanting to go home and by the end was just shouting until one day he just stopped like hed had a mental breakdown and that was it. He was there and conscious but no one was home as it were. Awful to see. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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