Current Events > EVERY man falls for the same trap on online dating sites

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Crow0000 posted...

Women don't care about communication and social skills. They care if you are good looking, or have huge amounts of money.

This is absolutely false for the majority of women.

Some of you guys have to be doing a bit lol

LamarMVPJackson posted...

TC specifically said he is looking to date the highest quality women (10/10, conventionally attractive.)

Did he specifically say that? He used a 10-point ranking system? I must've missed that part.

But I will say that the 20-25 age range in the opening post is not a good sign. Pretty narrow-minded. I had a 23-year-old fuck buddy earlier this year who was far less compatible with me than my current 33-year-old girlfriend. In fact most of my best partners have been late 20s or 30s.

bsp77 posted...

Stay lonely then. You are a misogynist. I was going to offer help, but no woman deserves your bullshit.

Why would women go for a fat man who has a funny personality, when she can go for men like this?

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/5/1/9/AAbnNCAAD71f.jpg

Crow0000 posted...

Women don't care about communication and social skills. They care if you are good looking, or have huge amounts of money.

Being fat and having an awsome personality means nothing when modern women have tons of options in dates or getting laid. if she settles, it's with the fat man who has a large bag. not because of personality

Not true. Being good looking and rich are advantages, but the best thing you can be is interesting. This is why Ive become more attractive as Ive got older.

Glob posted...

Not true. Being good looking and rich are advantages, but the best thing you can be is interesting. This is why Ive become more attractive as Ive got older.

Most peoples lives aren't interesting and you shouldn't be expanding your interests/ horizons for women.

Why should I force myself to like hiking or camping when I hate that shit? Why should I force myself to like a sport?

Glob posted...

Not true. Being good looking and rich are advantages, but the best thing you can be is interesting. This is why Ive become more attractive as Ive got older.

Exactly. And you're a good dude, Glob

Crow0000 posted...

Why would women go for a fat man who has a funny personality, when she can go for men like this?

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/5/1/9/AAbnNCAAD71f.jpg

Because he's an idiot and/or an a-hole, whereas the chubby guy is intelligent, charming and still cute to her.

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No, you didn't

lolife67 posted...

Because he's an idiot and/or an a-hole, whereas the chubby guy is intelligent, charming and still cute to her.

The chubby guy would need to make way more money than him to be a contender

Crow0000 posted...

The chubby guy would need to make way more money than him to be a contender

Ah, trolling. Gotcha.

Any bets on how long until this guy gets suspended?

bsp77 posted...

Any bets on how long until this guy gets suspended?

Well it's an alt, so odds are he already is.

bsp77 posted...

Stay lonely then. You are a misogynist. I was going to offer help, but no woman deserves your bullshit.

This.

If the women you go for are shallow and money grubbing, you are obviously looking for love in all the wrong places.

The problem is you. You go after certain types of women that naturally aren't for you. Might be good enough to sleep with, but they aren't the ones to settle down with.

Smart women (and men, for that matter) know that looks and youth are only temporary. It's the person that matters. You go for shallow people and looks will always be what it's about.

There's this agenda I keep seeing online where people keep saying "online dating sucks. go to super markets, stores, clubs to meet women"

This literally never works unless the guy is attractive, and if the woman is single. Women already get cat called or approached constantly and reject men constantly. It's a risk to approach a woman you don't know because she can politely or rudely reject you, OR call the cops on you for harassment.

Meeting new women outside of social circles or schools or maybe even work DOES NOT WORK

Can mods hit this crow person for trolling? Since it's literally what he's doing?

DisgracefulSins posted...

This.

If the women you go for are shallow and money grubbing, you are obviously looking for love in all the wrong places.

The problem is you. You go after certain types of women that naturally aren't for you. Might be good enough to sleep with, but they aren't the ones to settle down with.

Smart women (and men, for that matter) know that looks and youth are only temporary. It's the person that matters. You go for shallow people and looks will always be what it's about.

Meeting women in inreal life settings doesn't work because people are apprehensive to letting strangers enter their life

with online, you can atleast talk to someone via text, talk on the phone, and then meet and go from there.

just randomly going up to women to strike up a convo and thinly veilingly trying to get a date doesn't work.

Complete_Idi0t posted...

Nah, first message "up up down down left right left right B A start" works every time

Literally this

Crow0000 posted...

Most peoples lives aren't interesting and you shouldn't be expanding your interests/ horizons for women.

Why should I force myself to like hiking or camping when I hate that shit? Why should I force myself to like a sport?

If your life isnt interesting, thats your fault.

No, you shouldnt be expanding your interests for women. You should be expanding them to not be a boring person with a boring life. You do it for yourself. The fact that women are more into you afterwards is just a nice bonus.

bsp77 posted...

Exactly. And you're a good dude, Glob

Thanks man. You too.

Crow0000 posted...

just randomly going up to women to strike up a convo and thinly veilingly trying to get a date doesn't work.

I got a girl's number at a build a bear and she seemed open to a date and it only didn't happen because of my error not hers.

Glob posted...

If your life isnt interesting, thats your fault.

No, you shouldnt be expanding your interests for women. You should be expanding them to not be a boring person with a boring life. You do it for yourself. The fact that women are more into you afterwards is just a nice bonus.

Thanks man. You too.

Whats wrong with being boring or liking a certain amount of things? Are you telling me that if I dislike basketball, I should try it and force myself to like it anyway to be more interesting. Are you telling me if I dislike camping, I should force myself to do it more. it doesn't work like that. if you're doing things you're not interested in or you dislike, other people know. and that makes it even worse as you waste other people's time.

People should be expanding their interests or try out new things, IF they want to. Not because of society or people trying to dictate how to live their life

120DrowzeeFur posted...

I got a girl's number at a build a bear and she seemed open to a date and it only didn't happen because of my error not hers.

So you didn't somehow recover from that? Damn. Just try again. You must have some skills.

I am also autistic and had to teach myself not to overshare too quickly, so I feel ya. But I did learn.

Crow0000 posted...

Whats wrong with being boring or liking a certain amount of things?

Whats wrong with being boring is that its boring. Its an inherently negative trait. Its like asking whats bad about something being bad.

By trying new things, even if you dont like them and decide not to do them again, it gives you interesting anecdotes and insights if nothing else. For example, Im never going to jump out of a plane again. I hated it despite the fact that everybody told me that when you land the first time you just want to do it again. However, being able to talk about that experience means that I have something to say.

If you never seek out new experiences you run out of stuff to talk about very quickly.

Glob posted...

Whats wrong with being boring is that its boring. Its an inherently negative trait. Its like asking whats bad about something being bad.

By trying new things, even if you dont like them and decide not to do them again, it gives you interesting anecdotes and insights if nothing else. For example, Im never going to jump out of a plane again. I hated it despite the fact that everybody told me that when you land the first time you just want to do it again. However, being able to talk about that experience means that I have something to say.

If you never seek out new experiences you run out of stuff to talk about very quickly.

Thats not close to the same thing lol. The thing with being Bad is that you're a criminal and doing things wrong. Or you're evil and do something morally reprehensible.

Being boring doesn't hurt or affect someone else's life. Being bad means doing illegal stuff or being a horrible person

Also, you can still have had many interesting things or scenarios that happened in your life and still only be interested in certain stuff

Crow0000 posted...

Thats not close to the same thing lol. The thing with being Bad is that you're a criminal and doing things wrong. Or you're evil and do something morally reprehensible.

Being boring doesn't hurt or affect someone else's life. Being bad means doing illegal stuff or being a horrible person

Being boring directly affects your partner. Harsh but true.

Crow0000 posted...

Whats wrong with being boring or liking a certain amount of things? Are you telling me that if I dislike basketball, I should try it and force myself to like it anyway to be more interesting. Are you telling me if I dislike camping, I should force myself to do it more. it doesn't work like that. if you're doing things you're not interested in or you dislike, other people know. and that makes it even worse as you waste other people's time.

People should be expanding their interests or try out new things, IF they want to. Not because of society or people trying to dictate how to live their life

No, Im not telling you to do things you dislike. Im telling you to try things and find out.

However, nobody is dictating how you live your life. This is all in the context of you saying that girls dont like you. Were just telling you ways to make yourself more likeable. If you dont want to do any of it, thats fine. But then you lose the right to blame anybody but yourself.

bsp77 posted...

Being boring directly affects your partner. Harsh but true.

How

"Why aren't women interested in me when I'm uninteresting?"

I don't know, that's a head scratcher...

Damn, I have a lot to reply to.

DisgracefulSins posted...

Maybe you're trying too hard. No one likes desperation.

Try ditching the dating sites. It's really not that difficult to meet women outside of them.

I met my wife over xbox. I never expected it. I wasn't looking for it. We just formed a connection naturally playing games.

Love is like a fart. If you have to force it, it's probably shit.

I kind of agree, but with caution. Guys, do NOT wait and do nothing. Women can do this, men cannot. Men usually approach women. Men are the approachers, women are the recipients. Therefore if you don't approach, you're most likely never going to find a relationship. There are exceptions of course. And I do agree that if you're desperate, your chances are SEVERELY less. Like I said before, you will be burnt out and your messages will become shitty.

Crow0000 posted...

Most people don't like meeting "new people". Most people have their own lives like jobs, kids, school, or closed friend group.

You think women go to events to meet new people? hardly. Most Modern women have great social lives

You can't cold approach people. You can't just walk up to someone and start talking to them for no reason. Can you blame them? Imagine if some random ass person started talking to you on the street for no reason. If someone did that to me, I would assume they're trying to kidnap me or something.

I'm not an expert with women, but my way of approaching someone is complimenting something about them. Not their looks but their backpack, or their shirt, or anything like that. That kinda opens them up a little. Doesn't work for everyone, but what's nice is if they don't respond well, just don't continue the conversation.

TheOnionKnight posted...

Did he specifically say that? He used a 10-point ranking system? I must've missed that part.

But I will say that the 20-25 age range in the opening post is not a good sign. Pretty narrow-minded. I had a 23-year-old fuck buddy earlier this year who was far less compatible with me than my current 33-year-old girlfriend. In fact most of my best partners have been late 20s or 30s.

No I definitely did not lol. But LamarMVPJackson isn't too far off. I do want to start dating people who are above my range (a 5/10 seeking 7/10's and 8/10's). I feel shitty making this into a math problem, and not saying there's official leagues in dating, but lots of people do think this way, and I don't blame them. If you worked hard for your accomplishments, naturally you're going to think you deserve a certain kind of relationship.

bsp77 posted...

Being boring directly affects your partner. Harsh but true.

I keep hearing the word "boring" . Define boring. I feel like 99% of people check the "boring" box because they're not interested in a particular topic. I feel like too many people are trying not to be boring, and the word is overused unfortunately. I think "boring" means two people are incompatible. With that said, I've read your other posts and I agree with most of the things you've said in here.

lolife67 posted...

"Why aren't women interested in me when I'm uninteresting?"

I don't know, that's a head scratcher...

The problem with this logic is that many things can be interpreted as interesting or uninteresting.

Glob posted...

No, Im not telling you to do things you dislike. Im telling you to try things and find out.

However, nobody is dictating how you live your life. This is all in the context of you saying that girls dont like you. Were just telling you ways to make yourself more likeable. If you dont want to do any of it, thats fine. But then you lose the right to blame anybody but yourself.

Someone can still be a decent person or attractive to someone else, and not be forced to have 600 hobbies

Chunky posted...

If you worked hard for your accomplishments, naturally you're going to think you deserve a certain kind of relationship.

You aren't owed anything from a woman (or man) due to any of your accomplishments. You need to adjust that frame of thinking. You can like whatever you choose but it's not something you're ever entitled to.

Crow0000 posted...

The problem with this logic is that many things can be interpreted as interesting or uninteresting.

You're the one who called yourself "boring." That word means "uninteresting."

Complete_Idi0t posted...

Nah, first message "up up down down left right left right B A start" works every time

B A select start

You are playing with two players right?

Chunky posted...

I keep hearing the word "boring" . Define boring. I feel like 99% of people check the "boring" box because they're not interested in a particular topic. I feel like too many people are trying not to be boring, and the word is overused unfortunately. I think "boring" means two people are incompatible. With that said, I've read your other posts and I agree with most of the things you've said in here.

Fair point. I would say that someone who can talk about a myriad of things is not boring. Women love that I can talk about stuff from movies/tv to travel to politics to music to alcohol to hiking & running, etc. We might not be compatible on all of these things, but they think, "wow, he is open to a broad range of interests. Probably be open to doing new things with me too".

Also, I meant to comment on this before. A lot of people have mentioned "interesting". This is kind of the same category as "boring". What does that mean? Not hating or anything, I just don't understand it. If I did, I would probably be interesting lol. Best way for anyone to answer this, what would YOU consider interesting in someone?

lolife67 posted...

You aren't owed anything from a woman (or man) due to any of your accomplishments. You need to adjust that frame of thinking. You can like whatever you choose but it's not something you're ever entitled to.

I didn't say I'm entitled to that. I wasn't even talking about myself lol. Most people who believe in leagues are looking for people they believe are in their league. That doesn't mean they deserve it or are entitled to it though. A 9/10 is gonna look for other 9/10's, etc.

Chunky posted...

I didn't say I'm entitled to that. I wasn't even talking about myself lol. Most people who believe in leagues are looking for people they believe are in their league. That doesn't mean they deserve it or are entitled to it though. A 9/10 is gonna look for other 9/10's, etc.

The word "deserved" is synonymous with "entitled." That's why I said that. And yes, some people do believe that but they would be wrong.

From Gladius

You don't need to have 600 hobbies. I don't think anyone's telling you that but you should get into events where you can meet people with the hobbies you do have.
Glob is just saying be open to exploring new things and expanding on your hobbies when you can. Not force yourself to like something you don't. The more hobbies, the more people you meet, but that doesn't mean you necessarily need new hobbies or abandon your old ones. You should just get more involved with them.

lolife67 posted...

You're the one who called yourself "boring." That word means "uninteresting."

When I've met women online, the best things were

A. When we could both hold a conversation

B. Talk about a variety of subjects with little to no judgement

On my end, I didn't care if she was interested in a certain amount of stuff or if she did 1000 sports or read tons of books.

Being boring literally does not matter. If the person can't talk or hold a convo very well or if there is no chemistry, those are bigger detriments

Chunky posted...

No I definitely did not lol. But LamarMVPJackson isn't too far off. I do want to start dating people who are above my range (a 5/10 seeking 7/10's and 8/10's). I feel shitty making this into a math problem, and not saying there's official leagues in dating, but lots of people do think this way, and I don't blame them. If you worked hard for your accomplishments, naturally you're going to think you deserve a certain kind of relationship.

Well all I can say is that I've slept with a lot of people, and the "unconventional" ones tend to be more fun, both in bed and in general. At this point I have basically no interest in early-20s Instagram-conscious women whose only hobbies are "tacos and travel." If you expand your dating pool and don't treat it like a math problem, you'll probably have a much better time.

bsp77 posted...

Fair point. I would say that someone who can talk about a myriad of things is not boring. Women love that I can talk about stuff from movies/tv to travel to politics to music to alcohol to hiking & running, etc. We might not be compatible on all of these things, but they think, "wow, he is open to a broad range of interests. Probably be open to doing new things with me too".

You make a very good point. Do you have a lot of interests? Have you been in situations where you're not familiar with the subject at hand?

I don't have a lot of interests tbh, so maybe that's why I'm boring lol.

lolife67 posted...

The word "deserved" is synonymous with "entitled." That's why I said that. And yes, some people do believe that but they would be wrong.

I agree that it's shitty to think that way, but it's the world we live in. People who think highly of themselves are gonna seek people who they believe are worth their presence. It's shitty, but we can either complain about it or accept it and use the knowledge to our advantage.

Chunky posted...

You make a very good point. Do you have a lot of interests? Have you been in situations where you're not familiar with the subject at hand?

I don't have a lot of interests tbh, so maybe that's why I'm boring lol.

Yes, the interests I listed plus a few others. Massive gamer too. I have been complimented many times for being interested in so much. But I think it is more that I am open to new things and experiences. That is sexy as hell to most women.

When I am not familiar with the topic, I admit it but also make it clear that I am happy to learn more.

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I've met over 40 women online, and only 1-2 of those were interested in video games