Current Events > I have a problem with holding grudges and moving on

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I'm slow to anger and hard to upset, but if a person screws me over in a moderate to severe way I will never forget, have an intense hatred for that person, and look for the next opportunity to get even. I still hate the kids who treated me like shit in school 10 years later, I still hate so called "friends" who have backstabbed and taken advantage of me. I still hate my worthless drug addict parents even after they're dead. I recognize it's not unhealthy. It's awful for mental health. It's like swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies. But I just can't help it. To me forgive and forget only works for small things.

I know that feeling because im the same too

In fact, a lot of Filipinos like me have this same thought process

Damn dog you ever try mushrooms?

You don't need to forgive, but you can just forget.

I only save grudges for deserving people. I'm hot-headed and pretty forgiving, but if someone gets on my shit list it is permanent. I know several people that I really do wish would take a drunken drive off a tall cliff, die tomorrow, or disappear off the planet forever so that I don't ever hafta be stressed and afraid of them again.

I know it's hard not to dwell on the ones that you no longer hafta deal with, and you will of course still think about them from time to time, just try not to let it consume you. That'll take time and healing.

i've basically never forgiven anything but thankfully i forget. so in some ways i do understand that pain TC and i know it sucks to go through.

Try therapy. Dwelling on shit this like that isnt healthy.

the people who wronged you probably havent thought of you in years. Your hate means nothing to them.

That's normal. What helped me cope is learning to not trust anybody but close friends and family.

Sounds like you need therapy.

It's so funny because most people I meet are great and I can't compare

deathproof12 posted...

I'm slow to anger and hard to upset, but if a person screws me over in a moderate to severe way I will never forget, have an intense hatred for that person, and look for the next opportunity to get even. I still hate the kids who treated me like shit in school 10 years later, I still hate so called "friends" who have backstabbed and taken advantage of me. I still hate my worthless drug addict parents even after they're dead. I recognize it's not unhealthy. It's awful for mental health. It's like swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies. But I just can't help it. To me forgive and forget only works for small things.

Are you a scorpio?