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Like finding a person to date you is just so hard when you are out of college. Like you guys are still in it. That is the money time. The people you can date are right next to you. You can walk out your door and run into people. You can do to clubs and shit. Afterwards it is hard. If you hit on someone at work that is dangerous. If it don't work out that is going to be odd.

If you are dude online dating sucks. Unless you are very good looking. It is a uphill battle. Women get a 1 millions hits even if they are average so she doesn't have to settle for some average looking dude.

Heck if it wasn't illegal I would get a mail order bride. Be like I know you are going to leave me in 5 years. But please don't kill me and or rob me before that.

I have never dated

cjsdowg posted...

Heck if it wasn't illegal I would get a mail order bride. Be like I know you are going to leave me in 5 years.

Mail order brides aren't illegal.

Lvaneede posted...

I have never dated

Awww sorry ( I mean that)

Unless you're super wealthy, online dating approaching your thirties is the most discouraging experience ever. There's no real way to talk about it without sounding like a jerk but holy shit, the people you end up matching with are just awful.

Back when I used Tinder and Bumble I don't think I've ever had a match that had conversational skills. I'm sure if I hopped back on my options would be borderline obese CNAs or single moms with opioid problems.

Join a church. Everyone at church seems to be in a stable relationship.

Yeah, I think I missed the boat. I know Im only 34, but girls barely even looked at me in high school. Any dating experiences I had then were absolutely miserable.

I thought maybe in my 20s, but, again nothing but misery.

So, yeah, I think thats that lol. I dont even think Im a bad dude but realistically, I cant imagine any woman having the patience to be with some guy who has the dating experience of a middle schooler.

rexcrk posted...

Yeah, I think I missed the boat. I know Im only 34, but girls barely even looked at me in high school. Any dating experiences I had then were absolutely miserable.

I thought maybe in my 20s, but, again nothing but misery.

So, yeah, I think thats that lol. I dont even think Im a bad dude but realistically, I cant imagine any woman having the patience to be with some guy who has the dating experience of a middle schooler.

Dating can definitely suck. I haven't been so lucky. I'm in my mid 30s.

Yeah, seriously. It's something I never got into in my 20s (various reasons, very poor health due to a chronic condition being one of them) but I do have an interest in trying it out now (I'm 32) and it does seem super hard. The work route was almost a thing for me, someone told me a coworker had a crush on me, and I thought she was cute too so I pursued it for a while. She did seem interested for a bit, but it didn't end up turning into anything however and I can't keep pushing it and become the creepy dude at work. I actually get a decent amount of matches on dating apps but the conversations die super quick. Only two seemed like they could turn into actual dates, but I wasn't super interested and didn't want to lead them on.

rexcrk posted...

I cant imagine any woman having the patience to be with some guy who has the dating experience of a middle schooler.

Honestly though, how much does this even matter? I feel as long as you're a decent, nice and mature person you can successfully date someone despite "experience level". You don't have to tell them your whole life story. I think the most important thing would be to just not get too ahead of yourself and invested in something before it really gets very far.

I quit dating forever close to 8 years ago because dating was such a headache. My ex was abusive, went out once with a girl confessing her love to me in text a few days later and another girl I just didn't click with so she wouldn't leave me alone for months.

Early to mid 2015 I just said screw this.

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I missed the boat on dating... as a mature adult I mean. I dated a bit in college and hs and stuff.

Unless you're dead, you haven't "missed the boat." People 70+ years old still date.

Dating is super easy it's just people always forget to do this one thing: Be Really Good Looking

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/6/4/1/AAeB0AAADvqJ.jpg

GameboyTroy posted...

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Its always such an odd thing to see someone bump someone elses topic without actually contributing.

What do you get out of that?

CoolMaskGuy posted...

Yeah, seriously. It's something I never got into in my 20s (various reasons, very poor health due to a chronic condition being one of them) but I do have an interest in trying it out now (I'm 32) and it does seem super hard. The work route was almost a thing for me, someone told me a coworker had a crush on me, and I thought she was cute too so I pursued it for a while. She did seem interested for a bit, but it didn't end up turning into anything however and I can't keep pushing it and become the creepy dude at work. I actually get a decent amount of matches on dating apps but the conversations die super quick. Only two seemed like they could turn into actual dates, but I wasn't super interested and didn't want to lead them on.

Honestly though, how much does this even matter? I feel as long as you're a decent, nice and mature person you can successfully date someone despite "experience level". You don't have to tell them your whole life story. I think the most important thing would be to just not get too ahead of yourself and invested in something before it really gets very far.

Eh. Im just weird tbh. I have way too much to learn and I really just cant imagine that anyone would have the patience for me lol.

Its not so bad though. Been living this way essentially for my whole life so its not like a culture shock for me or anything.

Shamino posted...

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/6/4/1/AAeB0AAADvqJ.jpg

incels got so mad when they discovered consent

lolife67 posted...

Unless you're dead, you haven't "missed the boat."

I'm not even 30 and have been explicitly told by multiple people that I've missed the boat.

silverpine posted...

incels got so mad when they discovered consent

Wat? How does that relate to this picture?

lolife67 posted...

Unless you're dead, you haven't "missed the boat." People 70+ years old still date.

Yeah but they likely arent just starting to date and actually have some experience. That plays a huge factor.

rexcrk posted...

Yeah but they likely arent just starting to date and actually have some experience. That plays a huge factor.

I wouldnt say its a non-factor, but at the end of the day does it really matter all THAT much?

I think regardless of relationship experience, if theyre attracted to you, and youre a mature, decent person, it will more than likely be able to work out.

The only thing I could see happening is them being weirded out that you have no experience, but its not like you have to tell them, at least right off the bat.