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She literally has a combination of mine and my husbands best features. For example, she got my husbands nose. Mine is my worst feature. It has a hump but his is perfectly straight and slightly upturned. She has the cutest button nose now. Im very light skinned and he is pretty dark (he is Hispanic), and she is in between with a beautiful bronze complexion. She has his raven black hair (mine is light brown) but a combination of his hair texture and my waves. My waves have always been a frizzy mess but hers are perfect. She has my almond eyes (I am Arabic), eyebrows, lips and chin. Which I would say are better features than my husbands. She has my husbands energy because she is crazy active while I was always shit at sports and lazy.

Its like she just took the best parts of each of us. I know every parent thinks their kid is the cutest but we literally cant go anywhere without people stopping us to gawk and gush at her. We went to the pool last weekend and a woman stopped in her tracks and started practically screaming that our daughter didnt look real. Said she looked like a Pokmon lol.

A Pokmon?

Cleo_II posted...

For example, she got my husbands nose. Mine is my worst feature

Your nose is perfectly fine the way it is!

Ground her

RIP TC

Hopefully your hair color doesn't shift before you're actually old.

Cheater87 posted...

A Pokmon?

Yeah, that was kind of an odd finish.

Im sure shes bloody adorable though.

I think dis of my little nephew, he's going to be a heart breaker tbh

do you want her to be trouble?

Cheater87 posted...

A Pokmon?

I know we were like uhhh but she just kept on about it lol

Kamen_Rider_Blade posted...

Your nose is perfectly fine the way it is!

I only post good angles but it really isnt. Its got a hump and is down turned. Typical middle eastern kind of nose. I plan on getting surgery one day. Have had consultations in the past and before and after pics but it was really expensive and I didnt go through with it. But now Im looking at next year. Im really glad our daughter didnt get my nose

WingsOfGood posted...

do you want her to be trouble?

Maybe chaos

I honestly don't know if that's good or not >_>. Ya'll gonna have a lot of protecting to do while hoping she doesn't reject it. I want an ugly kid I can just send out in the world and no one bothers. Im buggin. But neh, she'll be alright with ya'll.

Vegy posted...

I think dis of my little nephew, he's going to be a heart breaker tbh

Awww. Hispanic kids are so cute!

WingsOfGood posted...

do you want her to be trouble?

I mean, I think every parent hopes their kids will be more attractive than they are, smarter, more capable, etc. But I do think we will need to be more cognizant of how we raise her. She is already loving the attention she gets. To the point where she has no stranger danger and runs up to people expecting them to say things to her. Need to teach her to be more careful and less trusting. And people comment she is going to get away with more because they could never discipline her with how cute she is.

Lost_All_Senses posted...

I honestly don't know if that's good or not >_>. Ya'll gonna have a lot of protecting to do while hoping she doesn't reject it. I want an ugly kid I can just send out in the world and no one bothers. Im buggin. But neh, she'll be alright with ya'll.

Yeah I was not a cute kid at all. I was an ugly duckling until about 16. My little sister was the cute one. People would gush at her nonstop and then be like Oh hi Cleo. Even my parents used to notice and get upset lol

Cleo_II posted...

Yeah I was not a cute kid at all. I was an ugly duckling until about 16. My little sister was the cute one. People would gush at her nonstop and then be like Oh hi Cleo. Even my parents used to notice and get upset lol

Interesting. You think it built character or was negative overall?

Cleo_II posted...

we literally cant go anywhere without people stopping us to gawk and gush at her. We went to the pool last weekend and a woman stopped in her tracks and started practically screaming that our daughter didnt look real. Said she looked like a Pokmon lol.

your daughter is the Jewel of the Nile

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Interesting. You think it built character or was negative overall?

I do think it helped ground me and stay humble. I wasnt a popular kid and was bullied a lot but somehow it just built my self esteem up more. I learned not to rely on external validation. My daughter might be my opposite. I was always incredibly shy and awkward. While she has tons of friends at the park. She has more friends than we do lol. Shes super sociable. Its not something Im familiar with and have to adapt my parenting to it. Like I know I should start being friends with the other moms at the park and shit but Im really bad at that.

Cleo_II posted...

I do think it helped ground me and stay humble. I wasnt a popular kid and was bullied a lot but somehow it just built my self esteem up more. I learned not to rely on external validation. My daughter might be my opposite. I was always incredibly shy and awkward. While she has tons of friends at the park. She has more friends than we do lol. Shes super sociable. Its not something Im familiar with and have to adapt my parenting to it. Like I know I should start being friends with the other moms at the park and shit but Im really bad at that.

Damn. I actually just got way better at that. It's like it all clicked after getting Covid. Covid brought me to a low and when I came out, everything I been trying to make click over the last forever years finally did. Pretty much 90% of my social anxiety seemed to disappear overnight. Before this, I was exactly the same. I didn't hate anyone but I was too shy to interact with most people.

I just say that to say just keep making an effort and one day something might come along and finally slide all the pieces around you been working at and feeling like you're making no progress.

Im one those people who listen to music as I walk down the street and sing along to it now. I never thought Id have that type of freedom from my shyness overlord.

Cleo_II posted...

I mean, I think every parent hopes their kids will be more attractive than they are, smarter, more capable, etc. But I do think we will need to be more cognizant of how we raise her. She is already loving the attention she gets. To the point where she has no stranger danger and runs up to people expecting them to say things to her. Need to teach her to be more careful and less trusting. And people comment she is going to get away with more because they could never discipline her with how cute she is.

My niece is 3.5 and pretty cute, the bigger danger is how she is becoming aware of her photogenic looks and ability to get away with things by looking cute! My dad was already way too permissive...

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Damn. I actually just got way better at that. It's like it all clicked after getting Covid. Covid brought me to a low and when I came out, everything I been trying to make click over the last forever years finally did. Pretty much 90% of my social anxiety seemed to disappear overnight. Before this, I was exactly the same. I didn't hate anyone but I was too shy to interact with most people.

I just say that to say just keep making an effort and one day something might come along and finally slide all the pieces around you been working at and feeling like you're making no progress.

Im one those people who listen to music as I walk down the street and sing along to it now. I never thought Id have that type of freedom from my shyness overlord.

Im so glad you were able to overcome it! Its funny how life can throw things our way and we learn to adapt or just see things in a different lens. Ive mostly overcome my social anxiety. I took jobs in customer service and such to force me to interact more with people. And then when I became a recruiter I had to learn to be a lot more outgoing. But I still have trouble making small talk and such to people. Ill chat with the other moms a bit but dont really do much else. Like I should probably suggest a play date or something but I freeze up. Also most are SAHMs and seem to have their little circles. And I dont know if its just imagined but I feel low key judgment from them when they ask if I stay home too.

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Ruvan22 posted...

My niece is 3.5 and pretty cute, the bigger danger is how she is becoming aware of her photogenic looks and ability to get away with things by looking cute! My dad was already way too permissive...

Awww! See, that is what we will need to be careful about. My niece is the same. 4 now but is the middle kid with two sisters. All 3 are adorable but she has blue eyes and dirty blonde hair. Which is very rare being she is fully Egyptian. My brother and his wife often treat her different than her sisters and let her get away with soooo much more. She has a bit of an attitude now and crazy tantrums when she doesnt get her way. I want to raise our daughter to be humble and kind to others.

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Id put a stop to that >_>. You can make a kid respect and like you simultaneously. I've done it. You just be strict when it's necessary but then be goofy and playful when it's not necessary. Im so damn goofy. I hurt my ribs for 2 weeks by purposely falling out a hammock as a bit lol. They'll appreciate the latter enough to accept the strict parts too.....for the most part. I mean, they are still disrespectful ass kids at the end of the day lol. It's up to us to teach them to be respectful before they're in control of their own life

I just got a text from our nanny that there is a new toddler at the park and she is obsessed with my daughter. She is around the same age. The nanny told me that she keeps wanting to give my daughter a hug for whatever reason. My daughter isnt having it and keeps pushing her away. I feel bad for the kid lol

Cleo_II posted...

Im so glad you were able to overcome it! Its funny how life can throw things our way and we learn to adapt or just see things in a different lens. Ive mostly overcome my social anxiety. I took jobs in customer service and such to force me to interact more with people. And then when I became a recruiter I had to learn to be a lot more outgoing. But I still have trouble making small talk and such to people. Ill chat with the other moms a bit but dont really do much else. Like I should probably suggest a play date or something but I freeze up. Also most are SAHMs and seem to have their little circles. And I dont know if its just imagined but I feel low key judgment from them when they ask if I stay home too.

I hate small talk too. Im good at moving straight past it tho. I realized that when I immediately give up my insecurities to people openly, they immediately become more willing to also get into deeper conversation. Sounds manipulative since the world sucks and everyone today openly talks about manipulating people. But for me it came naturally. I became open with insecurities because I didn't want to hold them in and then noticed how people were more open with me immediately in return. So, it just happened to be all beneficial. So far, no one has used me being so open against me.

Tbf, I don't have to be professional anywhere tho