Current Events > Isn't knowing if someone has a dick/pussy important for intimacy?

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I have a dick and I am very into putting my dick inside of a pussy. Sex is a priority for me, I don't get why it's offensive for me to know, or even society wise, why it's seemingly offensive to even express this need. We all have needs and sexual needs are part of us. I don't care what someone does with their life. I feel like part of the liberal/social climate is trying to get me to not care about this, but we're sexually motivated too, and I think everyone should be ok with filtering what they want and what they don't want.

What if you fall in love with someone without ever knowing? You just stop loving them?

Darkprince35 posted...

What if you fall in love with someone without ever knowing? You just stop loving them?

i mean yeah, more or less. there's quite a process to it but finding out someone i fell for is not within my sexuality would be pretty devastating on its own.

i really hate the "it's transphobic to not date a trans person" shit, probably the closest i've come to thinking the lefties-gone-too-far drivel might have a point, but i remind myself it's just a vocal minority

Darkprince35 posted...

What if you fall in love with someone without ever knowing? You just stop loving them?

Yes. A person who doesn't fit my preferences isn't someone I want to be in a serious relationship with. We could still be good friends, though.

Darkprince35 posted...

What if you fall in love with someone without ever knowing? You just stop loving them?

I love my friends that have dicks. Some friends are literally my ride or dies where I have trusted them with my life. It doesn't mean I want to have sex with my friends. It's like a platonic love. I even have friends that have pussies that I also love, but it also doesn't mean I want to have sex with them.

Falling in love means there's also an attraction there, and I'm not attracted to that kind of sex.

If there was a situation like you're implying where I fall in love with someone and find out we aren't sexually compatible, the attraction ends there.

Darkprince35 posted...

What if you fall in love with someone without ever knowing? You just stop loving them?

it sucks but it does happen. it's not exclusive to something like genitalia, but imagine like learning other things about them that you might not be into. like learning they do something that bugs you a lot, or like unreconcilable differences in religion or politics etc. body stuff isn't exempt from the same chemical processes in our brains that turn that switch off

It's possible.

That's what butts and mouths are for

MabusIncarnate posted...

That's what butts and mouths are for

If you're okay with that then that's fine. I don't get why my morality has to be in question if I don't want to only have anal or blowjobs.

Master Kazuya posted...

If you're okay with that then that's fine. I don't get why my morality has to be in question if I don't want to only have anal or blowjobs.

It isn't. Your morality is in question because the premise of this topic is that you are such a sociopath that you wouldn't ask before getting naked.

Master Kazuya posted...

I feel like part of the liberal/social climate is trying to get me to not care about this

Its not.

ellis123 posted...

It isn't. Your morality is in question because the premise of this topic is that you are such a sociopath that you wouldn't ask before getting naked.

You're already assuming I'm a sociopath, this is the kind of train of logic I'm addressing.

It's not weird to care about what they currently have but it's mad weird to care about what they were born with imo

Gwynevere posted...

It's not weird to care about what they currently have but it's mad weird to care about what they were born with imo

what's mad weird is acting like what they have now is exactly the same as someone born with it and functions the same too

not that it would change my mind much if it were anyway

Master Kazuya posted...

You're already assuming I'm a sociopath, this is the kind of train of logic I'm addressing.

Not based on this topic, just based on your history. At least from my perspective. Your history lends context to the topic.

ellis123 posted...

It isn't. Your morality is in question because the premise of this topic is that you are such a sociopath that you wouldn't ask before getting naked.

You're meant to ask that?

Gwynevere posted...

It's not weird to care about what they currently have but it's mad weird to care about what they were born with imo

Can we please not pretend like the result of nature and the result of surgery are the same, though? Like I'm all for rights and general sexual freedom, but this is a whole other thing.

people here have straight up said you're a transphobe if you wouldn't date a trans person, and that transphobes should die for it. i'd go ahead and disregard CE's opinion on shit like this altogether and just trust your own preferences and intuition. no one has a right to tell you what you should be attracted to

ellis123 posted...

Your morality is in question because the premise of this topic is that you are such a sociopath that you wouldn't ask before getting naked.

Go fuck yourself. Questions like that are difficult to ask for obvious reasons.

Go project somewhere else with your worthless posts.

Gwynevere posted...

It's not weird to care about what they currently have but it's mad weird to care about what they were born with imo

If you want kids of your own it's important to know.

Don't use the infertility argument. People leave those relationships as well.

I also think people should be filtering what they like or don't long as they aren't say racist about it.

viewmaster_pi posted...

people here have straight up said you're a transphobe if you wouldn't date a trans person, and that transphobes should die for it. i'd go ahead and disregard CE's opinion on shit like this altogether and just trust your own preferences and intuition. no one has a right to tell you what you should be attracted to

Twitter is even worse, people have been driven out of Twitter just for saying this as well.

haloiscoolisbak posted...

You're meant to ask that?

obviously not, it's just used as a really bad faith "solution" that's deliberately obtuse

durrrr just ask about their genitals if it bothers you so much!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-yehbR0bwZI

Also, I could certainly make a case that other minorities also suffer from people refusing to accommodate them or broaden their perspectives as well, namely autistic people. Do you go around seeing these same people whine or gaslight others about them choosing to be myopic or xenophobic to that particular demographic, despite the fact that they have the exact same option not to be? No, you don't. This weird double standard shit seriously needs to go; I don't care how "open" our society is becoming toward cultural anomalies.

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Depends on where it's said; to a friend or something, I don't see the problem.

In a public platform like this, though? Yeah, probably a bad idea.

If someone told me there was a woman who stopped being attracted to a guy who she found out was using steroids when she previously thought he was naturally built, I'd believe it.

Likewise a guy who was given money/things vs one who worked hard for it.

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well yeah no one can FORCE-me force-me, but some sure are trying to make it happen through gaslighting and rhetoric

_Krave_ posted...

If someone told me there was a woman who stopped being attracted to a guy who she found out was using steroids when she previously thought he was naturally built, I'd believe it.

Likewise a guy who was given money/things vs one who worked hard for it.

Roid rage is a thing and is extremely dangerous when it occurs, I see why.

Guide posted...

Not based on this topic, just based on your history. At least from my perspective. Your history lends context to the topic.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/3/7/3/AAF3XdAADPXd.jpg

Darkprince35 posted...

What if you fall in love with someone without ever knowing? You just stop loving them?

You can love someone and not want to fuck them.

I love my best friend. To the point I'd throw away relationships and chances at sex if it threatened our friendship. Ain't trying to fuck him though. Did have a crush on him before he became my best friend though

Perascamin posted...

If you want kids of your own it's important to know.

You could just use a surrogate, which if you loved your cis wife youd want to do anyway to protect her body from suffering the damage of childbirth.

viewmaster_pi posted...

people here have straight up said you're a transphobe if you wouldn't date a trans person, and that transphobes should die for it. i'd go ahead and disregard CE's opinion on shit like this altogether and just trust your own preferences and intuition. no one has a right to tell you what you should be attracted to

100%

Guide posted...

Can we please not pretend like the result of nature and the result of surgery are the same, though? Like I'm all for rights and general sexual freedom, but this is a whole other thing.

Past the point of being able to conceive they're pretty damn similar at this point (wrt surgically constructed vaginas)

Dudes aren't the pussy experts they claim to be and most couldn't win a game of spot the difference

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Why do you think TC felt compelled to ask the question here?

DespondentDeity posted...

You could just use a surrogate, which if you loved your cis wife youd want to do anyway to protect her body from suffering the damage of childbirth.

Lol

theres nothing wrong with exclusively preferring cis partners just like theres nothing wrong with exclusively preferring trans partners.

using a surrogate is a privileged option not everyone can turn to without inviting trouble
the surrogate does not always honor the arrangement she previously agreed to
plenty of LGBTQ couples have found this out the hard way

one of the biggest issues with surrogacy is the not-so-rare possibility of the birth mother changing her mind later and fighting to get back in the picture
doesnt matter what paperwork she signed, the surrogate can still cause legal drama to disturb the couple until its cleared up
this can be horribly nerve wracking for the couple, especially the adoptive mother who feels betrayed and afraid that the surrogate will find some way to steal the child
there have been cases where this shit escalated to the point of the surrogate kidnapping the child and disappearing
or attempting to fight for visitation, opening opportunities to mess with the household until they submit
how the surrogate can retaliate is also not limited to whats legal...

intelligent couples who want to raise a family want less complications involved, not more

and btw plenty of modern women still want to use their own uterus for pregnancy if possible, even if it means permanent changes
thats why the Hollywood trend of woman stars using a surrogate instead of their own working womb is treated as comical among regular women
we're not all that hung up over our vanity like highschoolers, some of us would prefer to just do it naturally ourselves like women in our family tree did

if a woman wants to use a surrogate, thats her choice
a lot of us would still prefer to do it the traditional way, 9 months of hell, hormone changes, and stretch marks dont scare everybody

NonDairyMiltank posted...

using a surrogate is a privileged option not everyone can turn to without inviting trouble
the surrogate does not always honor the arrangement she previously agreed to
plenty of LGBTQ couples have found this out the hard way

one of the biggest issues with surrogacy is the not-so-rare possibility of the birth mother changing her mind later and fighting to get back in the picture
doesnt matter what paperwork she signed, the surrogate can still cause legal drama to disturb the couple until its cleared up
this can be horribly nerve wracking for the couple, especially the adoptive mother who feels betrayed and afraid that the surrogate will find some way to steal the child
there have been cases where this shit escalated to the point of the surrogate kidnapping the child and disappearing
or attempting to fight for visitation, opening opportunities to mess with the household until they submit
how the surrogate can retaliate is also not limited to whats legal...

intelligent couples who want to raise a family want less complications involved, not more

and btw plenty of modern women still want to use their own uterus for pregnancy if possible, even if it means permanent changes
thats why the Hollywood trend of woman stars using a surrogate instead of their own working womb is treated as comical among regular women
we're not all that hung up over our vanity like highschoolers, some of us would prefer to just do it naturally ourselves like women in our family tree did

if a woman wants to use a surrogate, thats her choice
a lot of us would still prefer to do it the traditional way, 9 months of hell, hormone changes, and stretch marks dont scare everybody

youre a cis woman?

The subtext to topics like these always reads as trans women are trying to trick cis men into having sex with them without revealing who they are. Theres this genuine fear among dudes that every woman they meet has a secret penis just waiting to strike. Its bizarre.

I see it more as a trust issue.

If someone didn't trust me enough to tell me they were transgender (and for some reason I didn't notice) then that's a red flag about how we can trust each other as a couple in a relationship.

dj1200 posted...

youre a cis woman?

sorry bro i already PM'd her

DespondentDeity posted...

You could just use a surrogate, which if you loved your cis wife youd want to do anyway to protect her body from suffering the damage of childbirth.

In a perfect world sure. 99% of people don't have the financial stability to have a surrogate.

dj1200 posted...

youre a cis woman?

yeah cis woman into other cis women
im not in a hurry to get pregnant, but plenty of my homegirls and relatives have, i know the drill

part of the reasons the old way of just having our own pregnancy is still the most popular is its usually less complicated, cheaper, and we got experienced sisters to turn to for advice (plenty of them treat the surrogacy option as "only if you have to")

small detail but some of my straight homegirls also admitted they would feel awkward about their man's baby batter being inserted into another woman, they said they would prefer it be them

viewmaster_pi posted...

sorry bro i already PM'd her

XD

Its kinda funny to think the people who are posting shit like YWNBAW (not here obvi) are also afraid of being tricked into sleeping with a trans woman. It reveals so many insecurities about themselves.

But to answer the question, yes.

Some people have the absolute strangest hangups over situations they'll never find themselves in, I swear

Just divisive bull crap that hurts those who are already suffering