Current Events > how do you guys deal with being a foreveralone

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knowing theres no cute GF out there for you

wire up the copium dispenser

By not thinking about it.

anime and video games

Video games. Good movies. Good shows. Hobbies. Friends. Family. Enjoying my alone time.

rexcrk posted...

Video games. Good movies. Good shows. Hobbies. Friends. Family. Enjoying my alone time.

What if you also had very few or no friends

Kloe_Rinz posted...

What if you also had very few or no friends

I see you post here often enough that I feel like your friend. <3
Also, your username is boss. ^_^

If I was a girl I'd date you TC

Because of your crazy gaming exploits ofc

Kloe_Rinz posted...

What if you also had very few or no friends

Everything else on the list.

I work too much to even want a love life. I need alone time to recharge and that would be one more thing taking some of that time away

Either don't let it bother you or do something about it

I lost my virginity at 28 through trying for years to get a connection going on dating apps despite having debilitating confidence issues with sex, to go with mental illness

31 tommorow, have now dated 3 people and feel somewhat normal - but also don't really care about getting into a relationship at all costs like before

Basically if I could get laid anyone could

well im 28 now myself >.> but i could never go on a dating website. one of my biggest fears is somebody i know seeing it and me embarrassing myself

Self hatred and depression. No one can save me and I don't want to save myself. it is what it is

Kloe_Rinz posted...

well im 28 now myself >.> but i could never go on a dating website. one of my biggest fears is somebody i know seeing it and me embarrassing myself

Well get over that fear. Dating apps are hardly taboo. And you don't have to mention your sexual experience on the profile

haloiscoolisbak posted...

Either don't let it bother you or do something about it

I lost my virginity at 28 through trying for years to get a connection going on dating apps despite having debilitating confidence issues with sex and mental illness

31 tommorow, have now dated 3 people and feel somewhat normal - but also don't really care about getting into a relationship at all costs like before

Basically if I could get laid anyone could

Yeah I think that having lost my virginity and having had a couple relationships (I've had several but if it's under 6 months I typically don't count it to my personal total) it makes me not care as much. I've experienced it and while it's great it's not some magical storybook stuff. It's got its stresses and downsides too.

I was about to start dating again but after the 2nd or 3rd time they got upset with me over something stupid I said nope.

it totally helps if you add pals on discord and chat with them

I don't like the term foreveralone. I'm just asexual. Nothing wrong with that.

UnholyMudcrab posted...

I don't like the term foreveralone. I'm just asexual. Nothing wrong with that.

the term does apply to some people who might as well be invisible

mooreandrew58 posted...

Yeah I think that having lost my virginity and having had a couple relationships (I've had several but if it's under 6 months I typically don't count it to my personal total) it makes me not care as much. I've experienced it and while it's great it's not some magical storybook stuff. It's got its stresses and downsides too.

I was about to start dating again but after the 2nd or 3rd time they got upset with me over something stupid I said nope.

Only with one of these 3 girls did the word "love" get used, but that relationship was actually the shortest, time wise of the 3(none were over 6 months)

I think it's more about intensity rather than a time period. Like sometimes your first 3-4 dates happen over the course of a week, and sometimes over a month

MedeaLysistrata posted...

it totally helps if you add pals on discord and chat with them

dont really use discord and dont know how to meet anyone online these days. its not like the old runescape days where you just walk up to someone and start talking

UnholyMudcrab posted...

I don't like the term foreveralone. I'm just asexual. Nothing wrong with that.

im not asexual, im just socially inept and will never actually get a gf. its nobodies fault but my own and i recognise that, hence the distinction between foreveralone and incel

Kloe_Rinz posted...

dont really use discord and dont know how to meet anyone online these days. its not like the old runescape days where you just walk up to someone and start talking

rawr... am extinct...

such a shame because Australian girls seem supa cool, not as cool as Canada girls though

Kloe_Rinz posted...

dont really use discord and dont know how to meet anyone online these days. its not like the old runescape days where you just walk up to someone and start talking

im not asexual, im just socially inept and will never actually get a gf. its nobodies fault but my own and i recognise that, hence the distinction between foreveralone and incel

Had literal schizophrenia and got there. Just keep plugging away on dating apps my good man. My uncle is a 60 yr old forever alone. Had the bad luck of growing up before the internet when the situation for shy adult virgins was far more hopeless.

Take advantage of the technology and the age we live in.

MedeaLysistrata posted...

rawr... am extinct...

such a shame because Australian girls seem supa cool, not as cool as Canada girls though

Australian girls are hard to date imo, as an Australian. There's a lot of apathy and cynicism. They're definitely cool but not always warm.

Maybe I just find dating people from other cultures more interesting by default. There's more mystery to it

haloiscoolisbak posted...

Only with one of these 3 girls did the word "love" get used, but that relationship was actually the shortest, time wise of the 3(none were over 6 months)

I think it's more about intensity rather than a time period. Like sometimes your first 3-4 dates happen over the course of a week, and sometimes over a month

While true I believe in something standing a test of time too. 6 months seems too short now but back when I was younger it seemed like a long time. Now 6 months Flys by in a blink

haloiscoolisbak posted...

Australian girls are hard to date imo, as an Australian. There's a lot of apathy and cynicism. They're definitely cool but not always warm.

Maybe I just find dating people from other cultures more interesting by default. There's more mystery to it

yeah I mean it's a big generalization. when you say other cultures do you mean historical immigrants or people with a different citizenship?

also TC definitely get on okcupid or something...

MedeaLysistrata posted...

yeah I mean it's a big generalization. when you say other cultures do you mean historical immigrants or people with a different citizenship?

also TC definitely get on okcupid or something...

True it is a generalisation, but I've had a lot of friends say the same too. I've even had female friends say similar about Australian guys. Everyone's too cool and detached in the inner city with dating. Maybe it's purely just fatigue of my own culture.

And I mean people with different citizenship I guess. I dated a Filipino, Iranian and Nepalese girl. None born here but the Nepalese had been here since age 9 so she was closest to an Aussie.

People that when you date everything feels genuine and intriguing and you can't spot the motive behind their actions a mile away.

haloiscoolisbak posted...

True it is a generalisation, but I've had a lot of friends say the same too. I've even had female friends say similar about Australian guys. Everyone's too cool and detached in the inner city with dating. Maybe it's purely just fatigue of my own culture.

And I mean people with different citizenship I guess. I dated a Filipino, Iranian and Nepalese girl. None born here but the Nepalese had been here since age 9 so she was closest to an Aussie.

People that when you date everything feels genuine and intriguing and you can't spot the motive behind their actions a mile away.

I like Canadian girls lol. Fortunately it's a multicultural country so there is still lots of room to experience different cultures. I haven't had many chances to date someone of a different nationality, but when I have I had a good time too.

I am pretty charming and usually have a good time on dates but stuff usually flounders because I am not super mature. Like the last date I ever went on I think the girl cut it off because I don't drive, and we lived kinda far from each other (and she was also going to work in a different province in like a week...?) But despite my charm I don't really have, like, attraction so it's usually just an ability that lets me coexist with people peacefully and have everything be smiles. I think if I was a bit more mature I wouldn't have too much trouble with women but yeah. idk

MedeaLysistrata posted...

I like Canadian girls lol. Fortunately it's a multicultural country so there is still lots of room to experience different cultures. I haven't had many chances to date someone of a different nationality, but when I have I had a good time too.

I am pretty charming and usually have a good time on dates but stuff usually flounders because I am not super mature. Like the last date I ever went on I think the girl cut it off because I don't drive, and we lived kinda far from each other (and she was also going to work in a different province in like a week...?) But despite my charm I don't really have, like, attraction so it's usually just an ability that lets me coexist with people peacefully and have everything be smiles. I think if I was a bit more mature I wouldn't have too much trouble with women but yeah. idk

The one Canadian girl I've befriended was the sweetest girl ever. I thought she was amazing. That came during that aformentioned period when I was an adult virgin (was around 24) so unfortunately nothing happened beyond a kiss one time. God I look back on that time of my life and cringe at the missed opportunities lol

But I guess my point is, I like Canadians too. Maybe it generally is a case of young Australians being shit people (we certainly have a bad reputation online) or maybe it's a little bit of other cultures just attracting me more. For starters I prefer brunettes, which the 3 girls I dated all were (obviously, considering their nationalities)

haloiscoolisbak posted...

The one Canadian girl I've befriended was the sweetest girl ever. I thought she was amazing. That came during that aformentioned period when I was an adult virgin (was around 24) so unfortunately nothing happened beyond a kiss one time. God I look back on that time of my life and cringe at the missed opportunities lol

But I guess my point is, I like Canadians too. Maybe it generally is a case of young Australians being shit people (we certainly have a bad reputation online) or maybe it's a little bit of other cultures just attracting me more. For starters I prefer brunettes, which the 3 girls I dated all were (obviously, considering their nationalities)

But yeah basically I have no friends and no gf, and I also think Australians are cool

MedeaLysistrata posted...

But yeah basically I have no friends and no gf, and I also think Australians are cool

Oh we're cool and make great friends, I just don't think intimacy comes as natural to us as other cultures. We've sort of built our whole culture on taking nothing seriously and caring too much being a bad thing. Hence the phrase "she'll be right"

I've been a forever alone since I had a near death experience at 13. Couldnt trust people after that. I accepted and embraced being alone. I spent the last 20 years just gaming to fill the void.

Funny part is when this girl just blew me away and I wanted to talk to her so bad she actually thought I was a normal ladies man at first. I almost had a relationship with her but I choked at the last second and from then on just pushed her away.

x_lone_x_wolf_x posted...

I've been a forever alone since I had a near death experience at 13. Couldnt trust people after that. I accepted and embraced being alone. I spent the last 20 years just gaming to fill the void.

Funny part is when this girl just blew me away and I wanted to talk to her so bad she actually thought I was a normal ladies man at first. I almost had a relationship with her but I choked at the last second and from then on just pushed her away.

How bad did you choke? What did you do?

It seems better than the alternative. I was in a long-term relationship from the time I was 19 until I was 29. I was head over heels in love. I got married to that girl. We built a life together and she talked endlessly about how I was "the one" for her and that we were going to grow old together.

She cheated on me (multiple times), started doing hard drugs, and screwed me over by running out on the lease on our apartment. She also started bad mouthing me, saying I was an abuser, and only loved her for her money. All projection on her part, but it's fucked with my head nonetheless.

So now, I live alone (well, with my cats). I'm making enough money to pay the bills for the remainder of the lease. I have plenty to eat. I even have a little bit of money to buy a new game every now and then. I am absolutely traumatized by what she put me through (I'm in therapy for it) and I have had multiple "friends" victim blame me for my situation.

I'd much rather be alone for the rest of my life than risk someone doing this to me again. There's no fucking way "love" is worth this pain.

haloiscoolisbak posted...

How bad did you choke? What did you do?

It was nothing major. First time we met we had a lot of good conversations. Then she said we should hang out and i choked. I shot her down and from there pushed her away.

I'm just waiting to die, at this point.

Pretty much just video games and working... Just keep myself occupied all the time so I don't think about it...

I just talk with my fiancee if I feel like that

Sictis posted...

By not thinking about it.

Pretty much this, I just try to keep myself constantly occupied so I don't have time to think about it

haloiscoolisbak posted...

Either don't let it bother you or do something about it

I lost my virginity at 28 through trying for years to get a connection going on dating apps despite having debilitating confidence issues with sex, to go with mental illness

31 tommorow, have now dated 3 people and feel somewhat normal - but also don't really care about getting into a relationship at all costs like before

Basically if I could get laid anyone could

I'm 38 and haven't come close.

_Rinku_ posted...

It seems better than the alternative. I was in a long-term relationship from the time I was 19 until I was 29. I was head over heels in love. I got married to that girl. We built a life together and she talked endlessly about how I was "the one" for her and that we were going to grow old together.

She cheated on me (multiple times), started doing hard drugs, and screwed me over by running out on the lease on our apartment. She also started bad mouthing me, saying I was an abuser, and only loved her for her money. All projection on her part, but it's fucked with my head nonetheless.

So now, I live alone (well, with my cats). I'm making enough money to pay the bills for the remainder of the lease. I have plenty to eat. I even have a little bit of money to buy a new game every now and then. I am absolutely traumatized by what she put me through (I'm in therapy for it) and I have had multiple "friends" victim blame me for my situation.

I'd much rather be alone for the rest of my life than risk someone doing this to me again. There's no fucking way "love" is worth this pain.

Damn dude, thats rough. People will give you a hard time for not getting back in the dating game, bro! but they clearly dont understand how that kind of shit can genuinely fuck a person up. Ive never been through anything that shitty, but I learned at a pretty young age that its just not worth it for the most part. Theres a girl Ive been talking to who I think is pretty special, but if things dont work out then I think Im just done.

This kind of thing can be super stressful and it gets to the point where its just not worth it.

I just think about how I don't deserve to be loved, and there are others fare more deserving than me.

rexcrk posted...

Damn dude, thats rough. People will give you a hard time for not getting back in the dating game, bro! but they clearly dont understand how that kind of shit can genuinely fuck a person up. Ive never been through anything that shitty, but I learned at a pretty young age that its just not worth it for the most part. Theres a girl Ive been talking to who I think is pretty special, but if things dont work out then I think Im just done.

This kind of thing can be super stressful and it gets to the point where its just not worth it.

Like I said, I've had multiple "friends" tell me it was my fault for letting her treat me like that.

I had one dude (who I have had tons of issues with and had distanced myself from a long time ago) start messaging me saying he was there if I needed to talk. I didn't trust this dude as far as I could throw him, so I was just like, "Nah dude, I'm fine. I'm paying my bills, got enough to eat, I'm okay," but he just kept pushing and pushing the "Are you sure you're okay?" angle. So I literally said, "I mean, dude, I'm still kinda fucked up from what she did to me, but I think I'll be okay in time and I'm alive."

His immediate response was, "We're all burned out by you talking about her so you need to stop." After this asshole badgered and badgered me to open up to him. I also had specifically not talked to him about this issue because he was an inconsiderate asshole. He then went on to say that I basically deserved it because I had given her a second chance after she cheated on me and that I was stupid to expect anything else. The cherry on top of this is that, after all that, this baked potato of a human had the never to ask if I'd go on a date with him. I straight up told him "No" multiple times and he kept asking. I eventually blocked him.

I know I could find someone if I wanted. I'm a good looking dude; a bit on the girly side, admittedly, but that's part of my charm. I have an okay job. I'm fun to be around. I just want to be alone for a while.

i just don't think about it