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CRON 03/30/22 3:27:54 PM #1:	I've wasted so many years of my life being terrified and anxious of everything, and it was only made worse by spending my twenties trapped in an abusive relationship which has utterly destroyed my confidence and self-esteem. I'm approaching 30 and I realize I need to step up, but I just don't see the point. I have too many problems that therapy and medication (which I can't afford) won't help, and I'm so deep in debt that if I were to theoretically work my ass off constantly, my best-case scenario would be living alone in some shitty one-bedroom apartment, doing the same things I'm doing now. I've completely lost every dream and shred of ambition I formerly had. I'm too old for things to realistically get good, let alone better. --- [obligatory signature] <cite>CRON posted [p:963885071] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>I've wasted so many years of my life being terrified and anxious of everything, and it was only made worse by spending my twenties trapped in an abusive relationship which has utterly destroyed my confidence and self-esteem. I'm approaching 30 and I realize I need to step up, but I just don't see the point. I have too many problems that therapy and medication (which I can't afford) won't help, and I'm so deep in debt that if I were to theoretically work my ass off constantly, my best-case scenario would be living alone in some shitty one-bedroom apartment, doing the same things I'm doing now. I've completely lost every dream and shred of ambition I formerly had. I'm too old for things to realistically get good, let alone better. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MedeaLysistrata 03/30/22 3:28:31 PM #2:	Same --- "Why is ontology so expensive?" - JH [Is this live?][Joyless planet...] <cite>MedeaLysistrata posted [p:963885084] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>Same </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ViewtifulJoe 03/30/22 3:33:16 PM #4:	What dreams did you used to have? --- Still waiting on that third threat <cite>ViewtifulJoe posted [p:963885205] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>What dreams did you used to have? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Llaeto7 03/30/22 3:33:40 PM #5:	https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/9/9/2/AAfF4vAADFQ4.jpg <cite>Llaeto7 posted [p:963885217] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/9/9/2/AAfF4vAADFQ4.jpg </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
RealityDose 03/30/22 3:37:09 PM #6:	Dude I got a job were I barely work and am loved by lying my ass off do as I do: lie your ass off <cite>RealityDose posted [p:963885299] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>Dude I got a job were I barely work and am loved by lying my ass off do as I do: lie your ass off</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CRON 03/30/22 3:38:00 PM #7:	ViewtifulJoe posted... What dreams did you used to have? I'm too embarrassed to share them, but they were basically hobbies that I spectacularly failed at. I've failed at every single thing I've ever done, and the most recent time I pursued a "dream", I got so embarrassed that I get mad at myself for even having positive thoughts about it. Llaeto7 posted... https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/9/9/2/AAfF4vAADFQ4.jpg I'm approaching 30 with zero money, a shitload of mental/physical health issues I can't afford to take care of, a nonexistent family, no friends, I don't find joy in anything anymore, and I'm incapable of achieving any type of independence whatsoever. --- [obligatory signature] <cite>CRON posted [p:963885327] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>ViewtifulJoe posted... </cite> <quote>What dreams did you used to have?</quote>I'm too embarrassed to share them, but they were basically hobbies that I spectacularly failed at. I've failed at every single thing I've ever done, and the most recent time I pursued a "dream", I got so embarrassed that I get mad at myself for even having positive thoughts about it. Llaeto7 posted... </cite> <quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/9/9/2/AAfF4vAADFQ4.jpg</quote>I'm approaching 30 with zero money, a shitload of mental/physical health issues I can't afford to take care of, a nonexistent family, no friends, I don't find joy in anything anymore, and I'm incapable of achieving any type of independence whatsoever. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smackems 03/30/22 3:38:59 PM #8:	Well, that's certainly a good way to think about it /S --- Common sense said you can common my sense, ifyaknowwhatimeanwinkwink -smackems- some dudette named JimCarrysToe <cite>Smackems posted [p:963885346] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>Well, that's certainly a good way to think about it /S </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
s0nicfan 03/30/22 3:39:51 PM #9:	You're nearing 30. Consider that you could live the duration of your entire lifespan starting now and still have enough spare years to do it again. If you're giving up now it's not because you're out of time. --- "History Is Much Like An Endless Waltz. The Three Beats Of War, Peace And Revolution Continue On Forever." - Gundam Wing: Endless Waltz <cite>s0nicfan posted [p:963885378] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>You're nearing 30. Consider that you could live the duration of your entire lifespan starting now and still have enough spare years to do it again. If you're giving up now it's not because you're out of time. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Llaeto7 03/30/22 3:40:46 PM #10:	CRON posted... I'm approaching 30 with zero money, a shitload of mental/physical health issues I can't afford to take care of, a nonexistent family, no friends, I don't find joy in anything anymore, and I'm incapable of achieving any type of independence whatsoever. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/9/9/2/AAfF4vAADFQ4.jpg <cite>Llaeto7 posted [p:963885411] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>CRON posted... </cite> <quote>I'm approaching 30 with zero money, a shitload of mental/physical health issues I can't afford to take care of, a nonexistent family, no friends, I don't find joy in anything anymore, and I'm incapable of achieving any type of independence whatsoever.</quote>https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/9/9/2/AAfF4vAADFQ4.jpg </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CRON 03/30/22 3:42:00 PM #11:	s0nicfan posted... You're nearing 30. Consider that you could live the duration of your entire lifespan and still have enough spare years to do it again. If you're giving up now it's not because you're out of time. Except that's not how the world works. I'm essentially having to figure out how to "adult" at 30, and I'm permanently at a disadvantage. I'm not even thinking about having a social life at this point; that's not even part of the equation. There's no point to it. I have no goal or whatever to work towards, and I can't think of anything that would be enough justification for me to pull my sleeves up and get back on track, because even then, my life would still suck. --- [obligatory signature] <cite>CRON posted [p:963885446] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>s0nicfan posted... </cite> <quote>You're nearing 30. Consider that you could live the duration of your entire lifespan and still have enough spare years to do it again. If you're giving up now it's not because you're out of time.</quote>Except that's not how the world works. I'm essentially having to figure out how to "adult" at 30, and I'm permanently at a disadvantage. I'm not even thinking about having a social life at this point; that's not even part of the equation. There's no point to it. I have no goal or whatever to work towards, and I can't think of anything that would be enough justification for me to pull my sleeves up and get back on track, because even then, my life would still suck. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Llaeto7 03/30/22 3:44:24 PM #12:	How are you treating your depression? <cite>Llaeto7 posted [p:963885504] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>How are you treating your depression? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Tenlaar 03/30/22 3:45:36 PM #13:	How are you incapable of achieving independence if you have no family or friends? Who is taking care of you? <cite>Tenlaar posted [p:963885534] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>How are you incapable of achieving independence if you have no family or friends? Who is taking care of you? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ViewtifulJoe 03/30/22 3:46:01 PM #14:	CRON posted... I'm too embarrassed to share them, but they were basically hobbies that I spectacularly failed at. I've failed at every single thing I've ever done, and the most recent time I pursued a "dream", I got so embarrassed that I get mad at myself for even having positive thoughts about it. Ah that's a vaguely familiar feeling. I've definitely been there once or twice. Holding on to a hobby even though it's trying its hardest to shake you off with every unwelcome twist or obstruction it's got I mean. I would be interested to know what your parameters for spectacular failure here are though. --- Still waiting on that third threat <cite>ViewtifulJoe posted [p:963885548] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>CRON posted... </cite> <quote>I'm too embarrassed to share them, but they were basically hobbies that I spectacularly failed at. I've failed at every single thing I've ever done, and the most recent time I pursued a "dream", I got so embarrassed that I get mad at myself for even having positive thoughts about it.</quote>Ah that's a vaguely familiar feeling. I've definitely been there once or twice. Holding on to a hobby even though it's trying its hardest to shake you off with every unwelcome twist or obstruction it's got I mean. I would be interested to know what your parameters for spectacular failure here are though. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AloneIBreak 03/30/22 3:47:07 PM #15:	I recommend the reading of philosophy. --- "War does not determine who is right, only who is left." - Bertrand Russell Libertarian socialist. <cite>AloneIBreak posted [p:963885569] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>I recommend the reading of philosophy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
s0nicfan 03/30/22 3:49:43 PM #16:	CRON posted... Except that's not how the world works. I'm essentially having to figure out how to "adult" at 30, and I'm permanently at a disadvantage. I'm not even thinking about having a social life at this point; that's not even part of the equation. There's no point to it. I have no goal or whatever to work towards, and I can't think of anything that would be enough justification for me to pull my sleeves up and get back on track, because even then, my life would still suck. You've constructed a hypothetical person to compete with, determined they're too far ahead of you in a race that doesn't exist and if it did certainly has more than one winner, and used that as an excuse to never cross the starting line. --- "History Is Much Like An Endless Waltz. The Three Beats Of War, Peace And Revolution Continue On Forever." - Gundam Wing: Endless Waltz <cite>s0nicfan posted [p:963885626] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>CRON posted... </cite> <quote>Except that's not how the world works. I'm essentially having to figure out how to "adult" at 30, and I'm permanently at a disadvantage. I'm not even thinking about having a social life at this point; that's not even part of the equation. There's no point to it. I have no goal or whatever to work towards, and I can't think of anything that would be enough justification for me to pull my sleeves up and get back on track, because even then, my life would still suck.</quote> You've constructed a hypothetical person to compete with, determined they're too far ahead of you in a race that doesn't exist and if it did certainly has more than one winner, and used that as an excuse to never cross the starting line. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CRON 03/30/22 3:50:54 PM #17:	s0nicfan posted... You've constructed a hypothetical person to compete with, determined they're too far ahead of you in a race that doesn't exist and if it did certainly has more than one winner, and used that as an excuse to never cross the starting line. This is a problem I've made progress towards moving past. I compare myself to others, but that stems from this problem where I'm absolutely terrified of being judged by others. I gave up on the idea of being successful when I was a child, and the realistic goals I've set for myself are just too pathetic and won't make me feel better. --- [obligatory signature] <cite>CRON posted [p:963885650] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>s0nicfan posted... </cite> <quote>You've constructed a hypothetical person to compete with, determined they're too far ahead of you in a race that doesn't exist and if it did certainly has more than one winner, and used that as an excuse to never cross the starting line.</quote>This is a problem I've made progress towards moving past. I compare myself to others, but that stems from this problem where I'm absolutely terrified of being judged by others. I gave up on the idea of being successful when I was a child, and the realistic goals I've set for myself are just too pathetic and won't make me feel better. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
RchHomieQuanChi 03/30/22 3:51:43 PM #18:	s0nicfan posted... You're nearing 30. Consider that you could live the duration of your entire lifespan starting now and still have enough spare years to do it again. If you're giving up now it's not because you're out of time. This. I sometimes have those thoughts that it's too late for me to have the life that I want, but I'm 27 going on 28 and I've realized that, save for health complications, a freak accident or getting murdered, I haven't even lived half my life yet. It's also worth pointing out that some people don't figure this shit out until their 40s. Don't lose hope. Also, please let go of the idea that you need to be "good" at your hobbies. Society has this way of making you think something isn't worth doing if you're not good enough to make money off of it, but that's simply not true. --- I have nothing else to say <cite>RchHomieQuanChi posted [p:963885667] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>s0nicfan posted... </cite> <quote>You're nearing 30. Consider that you could live the duration of your entire lifespan starting now and still have enough spare years to do it again. If you're giving up now it's not because you're out of time.</quote> This. I sometimes have those thoughts that it's too late for me to have the life that I want, but I'm 27 going on 28 and I've realized that, save for health complications, a freak accident or getting murdered, I haven't even lived half my life yet. It's also worth pointing out that some people don't figure this shit out until their 40s. Don't lose hope. Also, please let go of the idea that you need to be "good" at your hobbies. Society has this way of making you think something isn't worth doing if you're not good enough to make money off of it, but that's simply not true. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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MabusIncarnate 03/30/22 3:55:57 PM #20:	Make the best of what you got, and don't give up things that make you happy. The best parts of my life were the unpredictable and unplanned parts, seemed like when I stopped trying is when things fell into place. You are still young, I'm over 40 now. Theres a lot of time left. --- I'll remain unperturbed by the joy and the madness that I encounter everywhere I turn Slayer_22 picked waifu - https://ibb.co/WD8p1Kz <cite>MabusIncarnate posted [p:963885774] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>Make the best of what you got, and don't give up things that make you happy. The best parts of my life were the unpredictable and unplanned parts, seemed like when I stopped trying is when things fell into place. You are still young, I'm over 40 now. Theres a lot of time left. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Llaeto7 03/30/22 3:56:06 PM #21:	Llaeto7 posted... How are you treating your depression? <cite>Llaeto7 posted [p:963885780] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>Llaeto7 posted... </cite> <quote>How are you treating your depression?</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
s0nicfan 03/30/22 3:56:34 PM #22:	CRON posted... This is a problem I've made progress towards moving past. I compare myself to others, but that stems from this problem where I'm absolutely terrified of being judged by others. I gave up on the idea of being successful when I was a child, and the realistic goals I've set for myself are just too pathetic and won't make me feel better. Those realistic goals are only "pathetic" if you look at them in a vacuum. You need to find ways to create a causal link between little things and longer term goals. Then those "pathetic" things stop being meaningless because you can connect them to what's next. Think of it like lifting weights: everyone's first attempts are going to be small and pathetic in comparison to professional powerlifters. If you only ever pick up that 5lb weight, lift it once, and then quit because you find the amount trivial then you'll never get to that 10lb weight, or the 25, or the 45. Like lifting, or healthy eating, you can't view individual actions simply by their own merit, but as routine. You don't like the 5lb weight because you want to lift 100lbs. You lift the 5lb weight because lifting is just a thing you do, and then years later you're jacked and you can't even really recall when that happened. --- "History Is Much Like An Endless Waltz. The Three Beats Of War, Peace And Revolution Continue On Forever." - Gundam Wing: Endless Waltz <cite>s0nicfan posted [p:963885789] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>CRON posted... </cite> <quote>This is a problem I've made progress towards moving past. I compare myself to others, but that stems from this problem where I'm absolutely terrified of being judged by others. I gave up on the idea of being successful when I was a child, and the realistic goals I've set for myself are just too pathetic and won't make me feel better.</quote> Those realistic goals are only "pathetic" if you look at them in a vacuum. You need to find ways to create a causal link between little things and longer term goals. Then those "pathetic" things stop being meaningless because you can connect them to what's next. Think of it like lifting weights: everyone's first attempts are going to be small and pathetic in comparison to professional powerlifters. If you only ever pick up that 5lb weight, lift it once, and then quit because you find the amount trivial then you'll never get to that 10lb weight, or the 25, or the 45. Like lifting, or healthy eating, you can't view individual actions simply by their own merit, but as routine. You don't like the 5lb weight because you want to lift 100lbs. You lift the 5lb weight because lifting is just a thing you do, and then years later you're jacked and you can't even really recall when that happened. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Slayerblade11 03/30/22 3:57:32 PM #23:	Hit the gym and workout. It will fix a lot of your confidence issues <cite>Slayerblade11 posted [p:963885813] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>Hit the gym and workout. It will fix a lot of your confidence issues </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
J03can 03/30/22 3:58:19 PM #24:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Hell yeah! --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:963885827] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Hell yeah! </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Slaya4 03/30/22 4:02:46 PM #25:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] This tbh. Your 20s is your fuck up decade and your 30s is when you fix everything. The sun will rise tomorrow. --- Am I going too hard? <cite>Slaya4 posted [p:963885953] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> This tbh. Your 20s is your fuck up decade and your 30s is when you fix everything. The sun will rise tomorrow. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smackems 03/30/22 4:04:55 PM #26:	Slayerblade11 posted... Hit the gym and workout. It will fix a lot of your confidence issues Can confirm Also take on responsibility. Start with a fuzzy. If you already have one, get another. Volunteer somewhere Or just give up. That'll work for sure And people don't give a shit about you unless you know them well. So stop giving a shit about them --- Common sense said you can common my sense, ifyaknowwhatimeanwinkwink -smackems- some dudette named JimCarrysToe <cite>Smackems posted [p:963886003] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>Slayerblade11 posted... </cite> <quote>Hit the gym and workout. It will fix a lot of your confidence issues</quote>Can confirm Also take on responsibility. Start with a fuzzy. If you already have one, get another. Volunteer somewhere Or just give up. That'll work for sure And people don't give a shit about you unless you know them well. So stop giving a shit about them </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Dragon239 03/30/22 4:08:21 PM #27:	Smackems posted... Start with a fuzzy. A what? --- http://i.imgur.com/nkZgO.jpg <cite>Dragon239 posted [p:963886107] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>Smackems posted... </cite> <quote>Start with a fuzzy.</quote>A what? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
_Krave_ 03/30/22 4:10:12 PM #28:	AloneIBreak posted... I recommend the reading of philosophy. Seriously, this. Change your diet and work out too. --- Am I seducing or being seduced? <cite>_Krave_ posted [p:963886165] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>AloneIBreak posted... </cite> <quote>I recommend the reading of philosophy.</quote>Seriously, this. Change your diet and work out too. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CRON 03/30/22 4:10:40 PM #29:	RchHomieQuanChi posted... It's also worth pointing out that some people don't figure this shit out until their 40s. Don't lose hope. Also, please let go of the idea that you need to be "good" at your hobbies. Society has this way of making you think something isn't worth doing if you're not good enough to make money off of it, but that's simply not true. There's nothing really for me to figure out. I just have too many problems that I can't afford to fix because I have no insurance, and in my area the quality of care you'd get from medicare/medicaid is so awful that people don't bother altogether. Even if I were to magically somehow fix my brain, I still have every other element of life that I've utterly failed at. I can't see any outcome where I'm content and at peace, let alone happy and successful. I just straight up don't care about so much at this point. As for my hobbies, I gave up most of them when I realized that I hadn't progressed in years. I don't even enjoy the topics and hobbies I used to be interested in. Everything makes me cringe. Slayerblade11 posted... Hit the gym and workout. It will fix a lot of your confidence issues I tried this before and not only did it do absolutely nothing, but it made me more anxious and afraid to be seen in public. I could stand to lose a few pounds, but it's meaningless considering I'm not interested in finding dates or anything at this point. --- [obligatory signature] <cite>CRON posted [p:963886172] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>RchHomieQuanChi posted... </cite> <quote>It's also worth pointing out that some people don't figure this shit out until their 40s. Don't lose hope. Also, please let go of the idea that you need to be "good" at your hobbies. Society has this way of making you think something isn't worth doing if you're not good enough to make money off of it, but that's simply not true.</quote>There's nothing really for me to figure out. I just have too many problems that I can't afford to fix because I have no insurance, and in my area the quality of care you'd get from medicare/medicaid is so awful that people don't bother altogether. Even if I were to magically somehow fix my brain, I still have every other element of life that I've utterly failed at. I can't see any outcome where I'm content and at peace, let alone happy and successful. I just straight up don't care about so much at this point. As for my hobbies, I gave up most of them when I realized that I hadn't progressed in years. I don't even enjoy the topics and hobbies I used to be interested in. Everything makes me cringe. Slayerblade11 posted... </cite> <quote>Hit the gym and workout. It will fix a lot of your confidence issues</quote>I tried this before and not only did it do absolutely nothing, but it made me more anxious and afraid to be seen in public. I could stand to lose a few pounds, but it's meaningless considering I'm not interested in finding dates or anything at this point. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
s0nicfan 03/30/22 4:10:59 PM #30:	Dragon239 posted... A what? A pet. People's sense of self can really change once they're personally responsible for the life or death of another being that is completely dependent on them to have their shit together. That being said, I wouldn't recommend getting a pet (or having children) as a form of self-help therapy since that's taking on a lot of responsibility on what some people might think is a "quick fix" and that can backfire tremendously. --- "History Is Much Like An Endless Waltz. The Three Beats Of War, Peace And Revolution Continue On Forever." - Gundam Wing: Endless Waltz <cite>s0nicfan posted [p:963886186] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>Dragon239 posted... </cite> <quote>A what?</quote> A pet. People's sense of self can really change once they're personally responsible for the life or death of another being that is completely dependent on them to have their shit together. That being said, I wouldn't recommend getting a pet (or having children) as a form of self-help therapy since that's taking on a lot of responsibility on what some people might think is a "quick fix" and that can backfire tremendously. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CRON 03/30/22 4:11:29 PM #31:	_Krave_ posted... Change your diet and work out too. I tried this in the past and it almost ended up with me developing an eating disorder. --- [obligatory signature] <cite>CRON posted [p:963886205] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>_Krave_ posted... </cite> <quote>Change your diet and work out too.</quote>I tried this in the past and it almost ended up with me developing an eating disorder. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TheLiarParadox 03/30/22 4:11:38 PM #32:	I used to be in your position but managed to right the ship in my 30s. Still a work in progress, but who isn't? Keep your head up. A negative attitude, while understandable, isn't going to do you any good. --- Spongebob is not a contraceptive. <cite>TheLiarParadox posted [p:963886209] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>I used to be in your position but managed to right the ship in my 30s. Still a work in progress, but who isn't? Keep your head up. A negative attitude, while understandable, isn't going to do you any good. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
legendary_zell 03/30/22 4:13:23 PM #33:	I'm not a doctor or psychologist, but you seem to have a fairly sizeable problem with negative self talk and accurate perspective taking. The best thing you can do for yourself is do something to improve your station each day. That's not just about money, it's about how you treat yourself and value yourself. You work on that in tandem with improving your material conditions and improvements in each will reinforce the other. You have so much time left, it's not even worth talking about how much time you have left. The clock hasn't even started. --- I gotta be righteous, I gotta be me, I gotta be conscious, I gotta be free, I gotta be able, I gotta attack, I gotta be stable, I gotta be black. <cite>legendary_zell posted [p:963886265] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>I'm not a doctor or psychologist, but you seem to have a fairly sizeable problem with negative self talk and accurate perspective taking. The best thing you can do for yourself is do something to improve your station each day. That's not just about money, it's about how you treat yourself and value yourself. You work on that in tandem with improving your material conditions and improvements in each will reinforce the other. You have so much time left, it's not even worth talking about how much time you have left. The clock hasn't even started. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BaphometFlux 03/30/22 4:14:26 PM #34:	I used to feel the same until 2018 when my VA benefits started, now I am retired and just chill at home and go out when I want to. --- "Shisaanputa" <cite>BaphometFlux posted [p:963886299] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>I used to feel the same until 2018 when my VA benefits started, now I am retired and just chill at home and go out when I want to. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Inferno Dive Dragoon 03/30/22 4:14:45 PM #35:	I'm almost 40 and I can assure you, it doesn't get better. --- TCF <cite>Inferno Dive Dragoon posted [p:963886312] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>I'm almost 40 and I can assure you, it doesn't get better.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BeyondWalls 03/30/22 4:15:08 PM #36:	CRON posted... I'm essentially having to figure out how to "adult" at 30, Welcome to being every 20-something Ive ever known. You may feel like your situation is unique and hopeless, but its neither. At 29 youve got your whole life ahead of you. --- END OF LINE <cite>BeyondWalls posted [p:963886324] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>CRON posted... </cite> <quote>I'm essentially having to figure out how to "adult" at 30,</quote>Welcome to being every 20-something Ive ever known. You may feel like your situation is unique and hopeless, but its neither. At 29 youve got your whole life ahead of you. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JuanCarlos1 03/30/22 4:15:11 PM #37:	More likely than not it will get better...but not by an act of magic. Develop a plan. Go bankrupt if you need to, Start from scratch. And like many have said...you are freakin young. Lets say it takes you years to get back in your feet...you are still freakin young. --- Mas dicen, que en las dimensiones de nuestro ser... hay muchos detalles por conocer... <cite>JuanCarlos1 posted [p:963886326] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>More likely than not it will get better...but not by an act of magic. Develop a plan. Go bankrupt if you need to, Start from scratch. And like many have said...you are freakin young. Lets say it takes you years to get back in your feet...you are still freakin young. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Veggeta_MAX 03/30/22 4:17:31 PM #39:	TC, have no worries. Will Smith is in his 50s and rich as hail and he still hasn't have it all figured out his life yet. He's still a work in progress. --- I'm Veggeta X's alt <cite>Veggeta_MAX posted [p:963886395] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>TC, have no worries. Will Smith is in his 50s and rich as hail and he still hasn't have it all figured out his life yet. He's still a work in progress. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Veggeta_MAX 03/30/22 4:18:19 PM #41:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Maybe he doesn't want help or solutions. Maybe he just wants us to listen? --- I'm Veggeta X's alt <cite>Veggeta_MAX posted [p:963886422] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Maybe he doesn't want help or solutions. Maybe he just wants us to listen? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
HovaRex 03/30/22 4:20:41 PM #42:	That sucks, but life can always get better. Don't lose hope. --- I come back to you now, at the turn of the tide. <cite>HovaRex posted [p:963886492] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>That sucks, but life can always get better. Don't lose hope. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Llaeto7 03/30/22 4:22:23 PM #43:	Veggeta_MAX posted... Maybe he doesn't want help or solutions. Maybe he just wants us to listen? But is just giving TC what he wants what he needs? <cite>Llaeto7 posted [p:963886530] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>Veggeta_MAX posted... </cite> <quote>Maybe he doesn't want help or solutions. Maybe he just wants us to listen?</quote> But is just giving TC what he wants what he needs? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CRON 03/30/22 4:24:50 PM #44:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] I've tried many things and they don't work. I'm in a horrible, negative environment I can't escape. I cannot afford even the shittiest quality therapy and psychiatry. Medication does not help and makes things worse. I have no support system, and the only skills and redeeming qualities I've had are now null and void. It doesn't seem worth it to try, knowing that whenever I have in the past, it's only made things worse. Veggeta_MAX posted... Maybe he doesn't want help or solutions. Maybe he just wants us to listen? No one else listens, so it's at least a shot in the dark, yelling into the void of a niche gaming site that hasn't changed since the late 90s. --- [obligatory signature] <cite>CRON posted [p:963886585] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> I've tried many things and they don't work. I'm in a horrible, negative environment I can't escape. I cannot afford even the shittiest quality therapy and psychiatry. Medication does not help and makes things worse. I have no support system, and the only skills and redeeming qualities I've had are now null and void. It doesn't seem worth it to try, knowing that whenever I have in the past, it's only made things worse. Veggeta_MAX posted... </cite> <quote>Maybe he doesn't want help or solutions. Maybe he just wants us to listen?</quote>No one else listens, so it's at least a shot in the dark, yelling into the void of a niche gaming site that hasn't changed since the late 90s. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Veggeta_MAX 03/30/22 4:26:42 PM #45:	Llaeto7 posted... But is just giving TC what he wants what he needs? I'm no expert but from what I understand sometimes that's all people want; lending out an ear. --- I'm Veggeta X's alt <cite>Veggeta_MAX posted [p:963886631] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>Llaeto7 posted... </cite> <quote>But is just giving TC what he wants what he needs?</quote>I'm no expert but from what I understand sometimes that's all people want; lending out an ear. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smackems 03/30/22 4:26:51 PM #46:	s0nicfan posted... A pet. People's sense of self can really change once they're personally responsible for the life or death of another being that is completely dependent on them to have their shit together. That being said, I wouldn't recommend getting a pet (or having children) as a form of self-help therapy since that's taking on a lot of responsibility on what some people might think is a "quick fix" and that can backfire tremendously. Fair enough --- Common sense said you can common my sense, ifyaknowwhatimeanwinkwink -smackems- some dudette named JimCarrysToe <cite>Smackems posted [p:963886634] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>s0nicfan posted... </cite> <quote>A pet. People's sense of self can really change once they're personally responsible for the life or death of another being that is completely dependent on them to have their shit together. That being said, I wouldn't recommend getting a pet (or having children) as a form of self-help therapy since that's taking on a lot of responsibility on what some people might think is a "quick fix" and that can backfire tremendously.</quote>Fair enough </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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B18Champ 03/30/22 4:28:04 PM #48:	All you gotta do is live until you are 100. That means you are only 30% through life. --- Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player, That struts and frets his hour upon the stage, And then is heard no more. It is a tale told by an idiot <cite>B18Champ posted [p:963886663] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote>All you gotta do is live until you are 100. That means you are only 30% through life. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CRON 03/30/22 4:30:04 PM #49:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] I'm glad you've been able to see such positive change, but at the risk of sounding presumptuous it seems like you've had a decent enough foundation in your late twenties to result in you enjoying your life now. --- [obligatory signature] <cite>CRON posted [p:963886708] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> I'm glad you've been able to see such positive change, but at the risk of sounding presumptuous it seems like you've had a decent enough foundation in your late twenties to result in you enjoying your life now. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smackems 03/30/22 4:35:04 PM #50:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Yeah once you hit 30ish you kinda figure a lot out imo --- Common sense said you can common my sense, ifyaknowwhatimeanwinkwink -smackems- some dudette named JimCarrysToe <cite>Smackems posted [p:963886856] in My life re... [t:79965499]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Yeah once you hit 30ish you kinda figure a lot out imo </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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