Poll of the Day > I feel like girls I ask to hang out regularly take that as me asking them out

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I'll ask them to get drinks or smoke or whatever, with no mention of it being a date, and they'll say something like "ohh I have a bf" or "I'm not looking for anything right now"

How do I convey that I just want to hang out and be friends if they won't even take my words at face value? Like, I have 0 issues with straight up asking a girl out, I'm not going to try to get you agree to a secret date or some shit

Say as friends. You act like your some super straight forward dude so why you cant figure this out?

How often to you ask guys to hang out in the same capacity?

BEERandWEED posted...

How often to you ask guys to hang out in the same capacity?

About the same, maybe a little less but they have never thought I was asking them out

Most of the people I do hang out with are guys

Spark a conversation and let it drift about activities and then ask them to do said activities.

Rather it be board games or something like that. The trick is finding something that isn't normally a date activity.

If there was a woman I wanted to hang out with I always asked them if they would mind going to an antique stores with me to look at stuff to decorate my place with. Its not normally something guys suggest as a date so they normally don't get defensive. Plus a good bonus is antique stores have 100s of things you can randomly spark a conversation with.

I sometimes do that because I've encountered quite a few guys who don't seem to know the difference between friends and lovers or hanging out and dating. Not all guys are as smart as you. When someone asks to hang out, I usually take it to mean friends hanging out. There have been times when I was busy and couldn't hang out. However, there have been guys who then complained to other people that I refused his invitation for a date and that I didn't say I have no interest in them. I was baffled. I eventually told the guys that they had to say it was a date, or I was going to take it as friends hanging out. I also learned from friends that some guys even call it a date when they are hanging out with several guys and girls. In other words, if there are girls present, they consider a date.

Mensis posted...

Say as friends. You act like your some super straight forward dude so why you cant figure this out?

I like that idea. In the past, I've asked, "As friends?"

For hanging out, you could also tell the girl that she could bring her friends along, and you could bring some friends with you, too.

It's because you're putting out vibes yo