Current Events > Mom is angry with my Gf, our relationship may be jeopardized.

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Why would I do that? I love my Gf.

Duncan, it's time to start believing in yourself. There's a job out there that you could do, like stocking shelves at the grocery store, being a dishwasher at a restaurant, working at the mall, or any number of things. There's a labor shortage right now. Then you could rent a room, away from your parents. You could learn to drive and get an inexpensive car. You can be your own man.

I don't know if guy is a troll or not, but I would like you to know that situations like his can be very real and very hard to get out of. Failure and lack of interest on the part of his parents are not the only possible motive: it can be malicious and intentional. Parents with Cluster B Personality Disorders are infamous for doing incredible things to their children for their own benefit. The abuse itself can leave a person unable to function normally without serious counseling, counseling that the abusive parent(s) can prevent you from getting. They can also isolate you socially so that nobody believes what is going on. Or if you started off as disabled, they can just cut you off from resources, keep your disability money so you can't even ride the bus, control your access to doctors, and gaslight the people around you into thinking you are the problem so that nobody will help you.

Sorry man, but it eats me up inside whenever people make posts suggesting problems can be solved if you just try. In the United States, just being disabled can be like falling into a black hole if you didn't get some huge settlement from your disability or if you don't have folks around to help you. And it is just the absolute worst if you get an evil parent (or two!). The things that can be done to people in disadvantaged situations like this is almost beyond belief.

I'm actually extremely offended you think my parents could be abusive. They've done everything they could to make sure I've had everything I need to make my life the best it could possibly be despite my shortcomings and are the best parents ever. It's not their fault I have developmental issues and have problems taking care of myself.

IIRC, she is also disabled in some way.

Why would I do that? I love my Gf.

In all likelihood you only wrongly think this is the case. Your parents are just enabling you which is a form of abuse. Continue down this path you're on and once your parents are out of the picture you're going to have an extremely tough time to put it mildly.

Why would I do that? I love my Gf.

They've done everything they could to make sure I've had everything I need to make my life the best it could possibly be despite my shortcomings and are the best parents ever.

Would love everything but the driving part. Got a report from a doctor as a teen basically saying he wouldnt feel safe putting me behind a wheel and havent had a follow up but considering the 5 week period I tried learning I got pulled over twice and ran into a tree I'm pretty sure he's right.

Reminder that Duncan went to college to be a legal assistant and there's no reason he can't do that

Except for the part where he lives in the middle of nowhere

Personally I don't think you're a troll, I just think you're a dude with Autism and have problems figuring out how the world works. I don't know if you can hold down a job or not but if you can I would do it. Sure you say some dumb stuff sometimes but you don't seem like an idiot. Can you work as a lobby attendant taking out trash and wiping tables or something at a Wendys?

there's a reason but I don't know if he would want me to make it public

Are we still supposed to believe the stupid gimmick?

seems to be a case of his parents mollycoddling him too much and using his disabilites as an excuse to make him believe he can't be independant in any way

or he's too comfortable living off of his parents that he doesn't want to work and his parent can't do much to him without tantrums and threats from him

Duncan doesn't want to be independent, he doesn't want a job, his story is he went to school but can't even make it.

He's been in school for like a decade now for a two year CC degree

I graduated from college like 2 years ago where have you been?

you wouldn't really choose your mom over your gf would you op

Disabilities come in all shapes and sizes, and people can be quick to project their own experiences and expectations on others. Take epilepsy for example. It can be controlled in some people and not in others. Some of those unfortunate folks can work, and others are stuck on disability. Knowing a guy who has epilepsy and has a career doesn't mean some other guy can do the same thing. I'm physically disabled myself, and I've known plenty of disabled people, some successful and some not. Some had lives improved by aid, and some didn't. It's really quite varied.

There's a lot to unpack here.

Your girlfriend seems to regularly hang out with a friend of hers who is unvaccinated.
Your mom, not hers, is yelling at her about who she hangs out with.
Your mom is doing this because she is worried about Covid.
This isn't the first time your mom has told you that you can't do something or go somewhere because of Covid.

Is your mom high risk with covid or something? Immunocompromised?
Aren't you and your GF both vaccinated?

Every time your mom goes to the store or goes to work or something she will be around unvaccinated people. There will always be unvaccinated people. You can't hide in a bubble forever with it. If your mom is immunocompromised or something I kind of get it since you live with her. But it isn't like you see your GF every day. If the GF gets covid odds are she will know before the next time you're supposed to see her. You guys hang out what, once a week or so?

Personally I don't think you're a troll, I just think you're a dude with Autism and have problems figuring out how the world works. I don't know if you can hold down a job or not but if you can I would do it. Sure you say some dumb stuff sometimes but you don't seem like an idiot. Can you work as a lobby attendant taking out trash and wiping tables or something at a Wendys?

And this is kind of unrelated but have you and your parents talked about what will happen after they pass away? What are your plans?