Current Events > Cool, now I'm getting shamed for not wanting another kid

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Now I have a baby and its Why dont you want another?? Thats so selfish! Children should have siblings

Tell them to go fuck themselves.

Why dont you want another?? Thats so selfish! Children should have siblings

they're likely people suffering with multiple kids and want others to suffer like they do.

Totally feel it. Im dreading those question this year.

think Im just gonna have to be honest and say we lost one last year, and she had to have cancer testing for a year as a result.

That sucks. Hopefully they stop with that shit.

Ugh. My friend was giving me the same bullshit when I told him we only planned on having one kid.

I guess they forgot that your child could make friends quite easily at a school.

Sorry to bring up politics but I think of this in relation to abortion rights

my wife had sciatic pain for the first half of her pregnancy and gestational diabetes for the second half, not to mention all the other things that come with pregnancy like nausea etc

and there are people (mostly men of course) who want to force women to go through that. Just give it up for adoption as if pregnancy is some simple thing

It's depressing that so many people define women's value on their ability to produce kids. Like we're expected to have a bunch but also provide them the best everything, and also still have to work a good upstanding job so we're good role models to our kids because suddenly being a housewife is only acceptable if we're rich.

Please be firm and stick your foot down and refuse to budge. Explain that they're being presumptuous and that it's not any of their business how you go about your life or how you're handling your child. And if they can't handle it, then tell them to never mention it again.

Yes were supposed to sacrifice our bodies and sanity, but also youre a shit mom if you: dont breastfeed, breastfeed too much, have a career because selfish woman who cares more about job than kid, are a SAHM because wow must be nice to have your partner pay for everything, have your kid watch 20 minutes of TV so you can get enough time to actually shower because ScrEEn TiME is baaaad while they watch hours and hours of TV, and on and on

Anyone who criticizes somebody as being selfish for not having kids is a fucking moron.

I feel you. My wife has been getting all sorts of those comments. It's so shitty, and so clearly sexist when she's the only one of us getting those comments.

On a separate note, we planned on only having one kid, but my wife got a job at a daycare and has fallen in love with all of the kiddos and now wants to have another kid, while I still feel pretty strongly on just wanting one. Now I feel like I'm disappointing her. Buh

We decided long ago we were only having one and 4 years later we still hear about it. That stuff never works on me though as Ill just straight up tell people we only wanted one

My wife gets it worse though since she works in a hospital and talks to patients all the time. Like when one woman says she didnt know what true motherhood was until she had more.

Our daughter was also born deaf in one ear and needs a hearing aide (she functions just as well as any other kid now) and if we had another kid there would be a 50% chance of it happening again and we wouldnt want to risk that anyway. Other people told her You should just have one anyways. It probably wouldnt happen again.

Just heartless things to say to someone honestly

Can't forget that you also can't breastfeed if you're in a heterosexual relationship because "think about your husband" concerns that they'll shrink if you do that. You know, all the old wives tales that aren't even true of most women. :l

Tell them to go fuck themselves.

Tell them to go fuck themselves.

My wife and I had two kids. She was on bedrest with preeclampsia both times. Had two wonderful sons. We wanted a daughter but it was just too dangerous so we said nope. When people asked me if we were going to try for a third, I'd explain the situation. Once. Beyond that?

Do not let them dictate to you what you should do with your body, TC.

Hey Cleo. I don't have anything to add other than my support. I hope your family members cool off.

Also since you've been sparse on the board lately, life update: I'm nearly six months into a new and great relationship. :)

they're likely people suffering with multiple kids and want others to suffer like they do.

Yeah, other people are real shitbags when it comes to this stuff. You've posted some incredibly honest takes on the issues that you've experienced with this. Thanks for that. Not enough women do and instead fall into only sharing the good parts and then weirdly perpetuate that those good parts are the whole thing. That's weird af to me.

Over 100 painful needles in my stomach

1 shot too many. those shit hurt very badly :(.
it's worse than the foot, ass or an arm.

Dude, Ive had men tell me it was better I have a c section and easier. Genuine W T F. Being sliced open and my organs shifted around, fearing I or my baby might die on the operating table, most awful recovery period in my life, I STILL have pain where they cut me, a terrible scar, and somehow thats better because my husband doesnt have to suffer loose vagina. I cant make this shit up.