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So i sorta had a date planned out with this girl i have known for over 10 years. We have slept together before. We both just recently had ended long term relationships. We had gone out together for food and a movie a few weeks ago. I think she likes me. We had plans for this week and she said she would reach out to me, but it was mid week and i had not heard anything from her, to be honest i am always initiating our chats. So i messaged her and asked her when she wanted to meet. She said her brother just payed her a surprise visit. The thing is she has never mentioned to me that she has a brother until now. And sometimes i swear my spidey senses go off and i feel like i am being deceived.

My intentions were to ask her to be my girlfriend on this 2nd date and discuss future plans to see if we can make things work since i am moving out of state soon id want her to come with.

Wth is going on? I also got the vibe when i saw her that she is depressed because she was acting a bit cold and mentioned her previous relationship had really messed her up psychologically. I am worried about her but i also do not want to overstep my boundaries. She rarely if ever texts me first...i know she likes me and she has even mentioned she does not care about money knowing i do not work and live with my folks.

Uhhh...what do guys?

My spider sense tingled at the brother thing also.

Just ask her about it. If you've known each other this long, why not just talk to her about it.

To me it sounds like she doesn't want emotions. Probably just company and maybe sex, if that at all.

Honestly, making this topic isn't going to help your anxiety about it, especially when you already know the sort of answers you'd might get here.

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My intentions were to ask her to be my girlfriend on this 2nd date and discuss future plans to see if we can make things work since i am moving out of state soon id want her to come with.

this is a troll topic.right?

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If you are moving out of state soon, see what your new home has to offer. This all sounds complicated enough without inquiring about her moving with you, which is a huge ask if you two aren't even really dating. I feel like it would be better to part ways and just stay friends, and start your life when you get to your new home.

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Wii_Shaker posted...

My spider sense tingled at the brother thing also.

Just ask her about it. If you've known each other this long, why not just talk to her about it.

To me it sounds like she doesn't want emotions. Probably just company and maybe sex, if that at all.

Honestly, making this topic isn't going to help your anxiety about it, especially when you already know the sort of answers you'd might get here.

I do not have anxiety over her. I am just legit confused like do i just drop a mindful text like, "do you really have a brother or are you going through anxiety? I am going to be honest i am a bit worried about you. I feel like you are going through some heavy stuff right now. I am here for you. Is there anything i can do to help?"

I dunno :(

It feels to me that she may think that you are moving too fast. Especially if you are both emotionally raw from previous relationships.

My advice is to play it safe but don't automatically assume she is looking for the same thing you are. It's not like you have had that kind of talk, from the sound of things.

The vibe I get is that she likes you but doesn't know how to tell you that she needs space. Whatever that may mean to her.

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Wii_Shaker posted...

It feels to me that she may think that you are moving too fast. Especially if you are both emotionally raw from previous relationships.

My advice is to play it safe but don't automatically assume she is looking for the same thing you are. It's not like you have had that kind of talk, from the sound of things.

The vibe I get is that she likes you but doesn't know how to tell you that she needs space. Whatever that may mean to her.

I actually think the exact opposite. I think she is really in love with me and is having a hard time managing her emotions now that i am actually interested in her seriously.

If she hasn't told you that, it would not be wise to assume that she feels that way.

Perhaps she really does like you like that. If you really care about her, allow her enough time for her to process her emotions. Let her come to you. She probably gets you are into her.


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Wii_Shaker posted...

If she hasn't told you that, it would not be wise to assume that she feels that way.

Perhaps she really does like you like that. If you really care about her, allow her enough time for her to process her emotions. Let her come to you. She probably gets you are into her.

Solid advice. I guess i will let her be.

TrollTrace posted...

My intentions were to ask her to be my girlfriend on this 2nd date and discuss future plans to see if we can make things work since i am moving out of state soon id want her to come with.

She dodged a bullet

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TrollTrace posted...

Solid advice. I guess i will let her be.

Yeah dude. Don't smother what you have before it has time to grow. If it's meant to be, it will happen organically.

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