Current Events > Would you date someone who suffers through Body dysmorphic disorder?

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A mental illness involving obsessive focus on a perceived flaw in appearance.
The flaw may be minor or imagined.
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I have before-- it sucked.

pfh1001 posted...

I have before-- it sucked.

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sucked to see how they treated themselves and how they thought of themselves


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read this as gender dysmorphic disorder

answer does not change

I have. My ex bleached her hair so much it started to fall out, because she woke up every day and thought it was the wrong shade of blonde.

Then when it started to thin, she began buying hormones online because she was convinced the thinning was caused by hormone problems, rather than the constant bleaching.

No one could convince her otherwise, it's so tragic.

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Id attempt to. I'm not foolish enough to assume I could pull it off. But I do know from feedback that Im a pretty mentally supportive person. I'd definitely give it a lot of my attention if I really felt someone had potential morally.

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Depends on the extent
Like if they're hot and have some weird self esteem issues because of it that's fine by me. If they start doing weird surgeries and shit because of it, I'm out.

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I have and would again (cautiously), provided the partner had their shit together.
Someone with baggage like that is just never my first option. It not a juggling act everyone can do.

To my ex, our commitment was a big help to his self esteem and he admitted that us being together brought his mental health to a much better place. I was naturally his cheerleader; I never had to force myself to do it. And it was not difficult to give him compliments as he was charming, athletic, and very physically attractive along with his eagerness to be a couple (I recognized that age old red flag, still gave him a try). Put simply: he was outspoken about keeping me around because I helped him feel better. I was his security blanket.

The problem was my ex was TOO serious about spending all my time with him and became overdependent on my support. He became very controlling. And it was incredibly awkward trying to explain what was causing "tension" in our relationship to bystanders because on paper he was practically a "Chad". But he was also a major headcase with unprecedented esteem issues lesser privileged people could barely grasp. To them, him having problems with confidence in his looks was like seeing a rich man feeling embarrassed in front of a cashier because he had to run to his sports car to grab the wallet he forgot. As far as they could see, he could never have any reason to feel inadequate and thought I was the clingy partner exaggerating everything. They figured I had nothing to complain about either...

What I learned from experiences like that is a partner's disorder(s) can become a bottomless pit for you if you're not careful and realistic. Sometimes you can make it work, but like I said before: it's a constant juggling act full of risks and you need to gauge if it's all really worth your time. I'm just good at juggling with little effort. Most people are not.

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No, its too much of a headache.

I dont know why anyone would willingly put that kind of burden on themselves. I mean if you already started really liking them, but you didnt know their issues, then its a bit of an exception. But even then, you should probably pull yourself out of that situation and move on.

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