Current Events > This girl I was talking to got upset with me

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YUGIOHH posted...

In order to progress I believe the conversation of being exclusive needs to be had and it action needs to be taken.

Apparently you didnt initiate that conversation when you felt it was time, you backed off because you expected her to just know and then you acted shitty with the whole Im not going to chase you while you whore it up attitude when she asked what was up.

Legato-and-Vash posted...

You can think what you want dude. I'm not the one having trouble finding relationships and refusing to see why when everyone is pointing it out.

I've never once acted like finding a relationship is something I'm dying for in this topic.

Tenlaar posted...

Apparently you didnt initiate that conversation when you felt it was time, you backed off because you expected her to just know and then you acted shitty with the whole Im not going to chase you while you whore it up attitude when she asked what was up.

For a guy who swears he read the whole topic and understood it, you missed the first post in this topic where I said I will text her this. LOL.

YUGIOHH posted...

For a guy who swears he read the whole topic and understood it, you missed the first post in this topic where I said I will text her this. LOL.

Hopefully you have already scared her off. She deserves better.

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You can think whatever you want dude. I'm not the one acting like I'm swimming in pussy.

YUGIOHH posted...

Hilarious.

You truly do not believe people can care about you huh. I think that would be a good place to start exploring yourself.

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Only thing interesting in this topic is how long the talking phase should last. TC is saying 3 weeks is good enough but some are saying that's not enough.

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YUGIOHH posted...

Hilarious. Goes back to this:

I've never had an experience like that because I'm not a weirdo who expects girls to fall in my lap just because I've been talking to them for a weeks

Every girl you meet is going to have multiple options. Every single one. By your own logic, any attempt you make is going to be "chasing"
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YUGIOHH posted...

For a guy who swears he read the whole topic and understood it, you missed the first post in this topic where I said I will text her this. LOL.

Yes, AFTER you did what Tenlaar stated. His point is you should have done so prior.

TC, some advice here... don't throw out ultimatums to strangers after just three weeks. This is a pretty big red flag to a lot of people; you're already trying to control someone's behavior before you've even remotely earned the respect to do so.

Not to mention, ultimatums very rarely ever work out well in relationships. The people who tend to pull the "do x or we're through!" variations of dialogue tend to have either controlling or manipulative personalities. Neither of which is something you generally consider "desirable".

One_Day_Remains posted...

I've never had an experience like that because I'm not a weirdo who expects girls to fall in my lap just because I've been talking to them for a weeks

That's not what I'm expecting either. I'm not asking for a perfect girl or anything like that. All I'm saying is we should progress is there is true mutual likes.

lurknomore posted...

TC, some advice here... In future I'd recommend not throwing out ultimatums to strangers after just three weeks. This is a pretty big red flag to a lot of people; you're already trying to control someone's behavior before you've even remotely earned the respect to do so.

Not to mention, ultimatums very rarely ever work out well in relationships. The people who tend to pull the "do x or we're through!" variations of dialogue tend to have either controlling or manipulative personalities. Neither of which is something you generally consider "desirable".

If this is absolutely your sticking point, then I would recommend avoiding dating apps.

This is not an ultimatum. I am not this demon you guys are liking to portray. I'm open minded, if she says yes then cool but if she says something like "How about we talk a little more longer?" then I'm game so long as she's not playing any games.

She's probably far less likely (not saying it's impossible) to want to pursue things further after the way you came at her. She might like most people (especially in this topic) would see that as a red flag. As one poster said, that should have been brought up BEFORE telling her you won't invest because you only have a 1/10 chance.

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YUGIOHH posted...

You can think whatever you want dude. I'm not the one acting like I'm swimming in pussy.

We know you're not with your controlling behavior

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I can agree that I wouldn't want to pursue a girl that is actively playing the field, I like to devote my attention to one person and prefer someone who does the same. I also agree that its smarter to cast a wide net, but even just the idea of handling a bunch of conversations exhausts me. I'm lazy and super introverted.

What I find strange is the expectation of exclusivity after three weeks of "talking" without a single date. You can always split the bill if paying for her bothers you, or even do something that doesn't cost money like a walk in the park or a home cooked meal (not exactly free but if you're gonna cook anyways it isn't hard to cook an extra portion). I don't think any person looking for a relationship is going to cut off all potential suitors without at least a few dates.

But yea, the chance is probably gone now anyways. What you said seems pretty passive aggressive and most people (especially those with options) aren't going to jive with that.