Current Events > This girl I was talking to got upset with me

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I am interested in her but I know she's talking to a ton of dudes at the same time. She ask me why I don't text her more and I told her straight up I know she has options and, even though I do like her, I am not going to invest hard a 1/10 chance with her. She got upset with that.

I mean, if she truly wants us to progress then she should make us exclusive. I think I'll text her that.

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YUGIOHH posted...

I am interested in her but I know she's talking to a ton of dudes at the same time. She ask me why I don't text her more and I told her straight up I know she has options and, even though I do like her, I am not going to invest hard a 1/10 chance with her. She got upset with that.

I mean, if she truly wants us to progress then she should make us exclusive. I think I'll text her that.

Wow, way to really shoot yourself in the foot on this one. How long have you been talking/dating?

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itachi15243 posted...

Wow, way to really shoot yourself in the foot on this one. How long have you been talking/dating?

3 weeks and it's not really shooting myself anywhere because I'm not nearly invested as you think. We can stop talking and I'll be perfectly fine.

In an age where people are so vague to each other and playing so much games in the dating scene I think it's best to bypass all that and just be totally upfront. And even thought I was blunt, I was speaking the truth for the better of us. She knows she has options and it's all over her facebook.

Lmao it's not a random number generator you know. She's not going to, after a couple of months, just pick a name out of the hat. She'll go with who she feels is best for her.

Probably won't be you now.

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Yea you fucked yourself lmao

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3PiesAndAFork posted...

Lmao it's not a random number generator you know. She's not going to, after a couple of months, just pick a name out of the hat. She'll go with who she feels is best for her.

Probably won't be you now.

Which is fine. I'm not gonna compete with 10 other guys for her. I'm sorry if anyone wants to do this. You deserve better than to be another dude in line hoping for a chance for a woman.

tripleh213 posted...

Yea you fucked yourself lmao

I don't know how I'm going to move on from this but I will try my very best.

tripleh213 posted...

Yea you fucked yourself lmao

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What did you expect to happen here? Lol. You shot yourself down man.

You should've said something like "lol I was about to ask you the same thing" or something. You kind of just used her to vent about the possibility of her rejecting you. That shit ain't attractive.

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itachi15243 posted...

How long have you been talking/dating?

YUGIOHH posted...

3 weeks

Lol

If you guys REALLY want me to feel bad about what I did and feel completely broken about it then I will.

YUGIOHH posted...

I don't know how I'm going to move on from this but I will try my very best.

Be honest

"hey sorry for projecting earlier, I really like talking to you and I got nervous about this situation"

There's no guarantee you can change her mind, you just have to be chill and give her space imo

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Master Kazuya posted...

Be honest

"hey sorry for projecting earlier, I really like talking to you and I got nervous about this situation"

There's no guarantee you can change her mind, you just have to be chill and give her space imo

Stop it. It's pretty obvious from his first post that he prolly gave little shits about her. He's giving the impression as if he's actually dodging a bullet but everyone else in here are acting like he's the one losing out LMAO. CE is something else.

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I like her but I will not heavily invest in her and I'm fine without her. I am not much of a chaser unlike much of CE it seems.

Veggeta_MAX posted...

Stop it. It's pretty obvious from his first post that he prolly gave little shits about her. He's giving the impression as if he's actually dodging a bullet but everyone else in here are acting like he's the one losing out LMAO. CE is something else.

It's pretty obvious from the fact that this topic exists that he gives a shit about her (and she gives a shit about him). Just seems like he wants to brag about how not into this girl he is.

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Master Kazuya posted...

Just seems like he wants to brag about how not into this girl he is.

Right, so the proper response is to act like he fucked up and he should fix it with her?

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Just about every single girl out there has options. That doesn't matter if she picks you. But you've shown her that she definitely shouldn't pick you.

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Legato-and-Vash posted...

Just about every single girl out there has options. That doesn't matter if she picks you.

It looks like men of CE really does love chasing women even if your chances with her is 1/10. I guess you don't respect yourself.

Thats what modern society tells women to do, though (not saying that all of them do). Its a real crap shoot and one of the reasons I avoid commitment now.

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Payzmaykr posted...

Thats what modern society tells women to do, though (not saying that all of them do). Its a real crap shoot and one of the reasons I avoid commitment now.

Men should be talking to a ton a women at the same time too.

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You can enjoy her company and, if the situation arises, see it progress to something more intimate naturally.

I dont get why youd do what you did TC. If you enjoy talking to her, why not justkeep talking to her? If you become friends, youre friends. If you become fuck buddies, cool. Relationship? Cool.

Why say something so blunt that youll worsen the odds of having ANY connection with them going forward? Doesnt make any sense.

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Of course you're free to do whatever you want and you don't have to chase someone you're not super interested in, however...

...I think CE's main issue is that your reason for all this is that she had other options. that is literally always the case with attractive single women. Don't know if I'd want to date a woman who wasn't attractive and single.

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Veggeta_MAX posted...

Men should be talking to a ton a women at the same time too.

What a waste of time. You should give one woman you really like all your efforts instead of dicking around with a bunch of women.

HaVeNII7 posted...

You can enjoy her company and, if the situation arises, see it progress to something more intimate naturally.

I dont get why youd do what you did TC. If you enjoy talking to her, why not justkeep talking to her? If you become friends, youre friends. If you become fuck buddies, cool. Relationship? Cool.

Why say something so blunt that youll worsen the odds of having ANY connection with them going forward? Doesnt make any sense.

I don't want to be her friend. I think that's the part you misunderstand.

So you want a woman who's only talking to you from the get-go?

YUGIOHH posted...

It looks like men of CE really does love chasing women even if your chances with her is 1/10. I guess you don't respect yourself.

Wtf are you even on about dude? Do you even know how dating works? Like poster 21 says, no one is forcing you to just talk to 1 girl at a time. You should have options too. When I was on Tinder, I didn't just get a single match and then ignore everyone else. I talked to all (well most really) of my matches until one progressed into something more than talking. Once I find someone that has potential, then I focus on that person only.

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pinky0926 posted...

...I think CE's main issue is that your reason for all this is that she had other options. that is literally always the case with attractive single women. Don't know if I'd want to date a woman who wasn't attractive and single.

Again, you are saying CE loves to have competition and loves the chances of 1/10 with women. You're setting yourself up for failure and gladly accepting it. You guys need to learn to love yourself.

lolife67 posted...

So you want a woman who's only talking to you from the get-go?

Not at all but if the relationship were to go anywhere then exclusiveness is key.

TC is trying to be nonchalant lol

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Legato-and-Vash posted...

Once I find someone that has potential, then I focus on that person only.

And if she don't want to focus on you only? Then what?

YUGIOHH posted...

Not at all but if the relationship were to go anywhere then exclusiveness is key.

How do you propose to get to exclusiveness in just 3 weeks? Especially when you give up so easily?

YUGIOHH posted...

And if she don't want to focus on you only? Then what?

Did she tell you that? Did you tell her you wanted to be exclusive? Does she ignore your calls/texts, cancel dates, etc?

lolife67 posted...

How do you propose to get to exclusiveness in just 3 weeks? Especially when you give up so easily?

3 weeks is more than enough time for the "talking phase". Wow you guys love to chase women and for a long time too don't you?

Not giving up just yet. She just has to go exclusive with me.

That was a beta move

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lolife67 posted...

Did she tell you that? Did you tell her you wanted to be exclusive? Does she ignore your calls/texts, cancel dates, etc?

I'm asking her to be exclusive with me right now.

You made it sound like you're the one picking and choosing so I'm asking you, Does your picking of her also means she's going to pick you?

Also, the fact that she wanted you to text her more clearly shows she had a good interest in you. Sounds like she's dodging a bullet.

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YUGIOHH posted...

3 weeks is more than enough time for the "talking phase".

According to who?

YUGIOHH posted...

Not giving up just yet. She just has to go exclusive with me.

Did you tell her that? No. You started ghosting her and then, when she asked about it, you whined to her about having a 1/10 chance (which isn't how that works, as an fyi.)

jeffhardyb0yz posted...

This doesnt mean what you think it does. Youre not even respecting yourself by viewing yourself as a 1/10 chance. How else do you think guys get the girl? By being confident in themselves, sticking to the dating process, and knowing that the girl will choose their awesome self and if she doesnt, its okay her loss.

Youve already written yourself off, and need reassurance in the form of exclusivity 3 weeks in. You should be the one respecting yourself

I'm happy you convinced yourself that your small chance with a woman is healthy and rewarding.

Legato-and-Vash posted...

Also, the fact that she wanted you to text her more clearly shows she had a good interest in you. Sounds like she's dodging a bullet.

If she is truly interested in me she'll stop talking to the other dudes. It's really that simple. If not I'm good either way. I'm sorry bro but I'm not going to be all down on myself now just because CE thinks this is how men and women should be.

YUGIOHH posted...

I'm asking her to be exclusive with me right now.

You made it sound like you're the one picking and choosing so I'm asking you, Does your picking of her also means she's going to pick you?

In my mind, yes lol That's what confidence is. And if she doesn't, oh well that's her loss and I keep it moving because I also have options.

lolife67 posted...

According to who?

According to me. 3 weeks is enough for the talking phase. I'm sorry if you think it should take longer.

lolife67 posted...

Did you tell her that?

Yes I did just a few minutes ago.

lolife67 posted...

No. You started ghosting her

Ok now you're making up stuff.

YUGIOHH posted...

If she is truly interested in me she'll stop talking to the other dudes. It's really that simple.

No. If she's really into you, she'll stop talking to other guys when you step up and ask her to be exclusive. Not wait on her to make the decision for you.

CE never fails to impress me. Whenever I think I'm not the greatest at talking to women there's always a topic showing me that I could always be significantly worse
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usually i come into topics like this thinking "this is so fake" but this one sadly sounds real
very sadly

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You probably haven't even been on a date with this fuckin' girl yet talking about "I'm asking her to be exclusive with me right now". This is top tier cringe
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What are you even saying? Did you read any of these other posts where they happily accept having 1/10 of a chance with a woman?

Anyway, it is not unreasonable to be exclusive to each other after 3 weeks of talking. And I hope you guys know the talking stage just isn't simply talking. The talking stage is the period where two people who have expressed a mutual romantic interest in each other, get to know each other on a level deeper than friendship, to help them decide the next steps. I'm sorry if you like to wine and dine your females before trying to progress.

Expecting exclusivity during the just talking phase is absurd and weird.

Sigh why do you do this to yourself man

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YUGIOHH posted...

What are you even saying? Did you read any of these other posts where they happily accept having 1/10 of a chance with a woman?

Have you ever even used an online dating app? All the girls on there get HUNDREDS of messages and dudes swiping right on them. Yet somehow people here managed to date and get girlfriends from them

Question to yourself why that is

You probably have no earthly idea how to communicate your interests and you're just having regular conversations about random shit like a friend, and expect her to be exclusive with you just because you've been talking to her for three weeks. You're worse at this than 17 year old me ten years ago
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One_Day_Remains posted...

Have you ever even used an online dating app? All the girls on there get HUNDREDS of messages and dudes swiping right on them. Yet somehow people here managed to date and get girlfriends from them

Question to yourself why that is

At this point, I fully believe TC is the type of person to get a single match on Tinder and expect the match to drop all contact with everyone else as well as ignore any potential matches that would have occurred at the same time.

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