Current Events > So my friend passed in January. The family is finally doing a service.

(+) Yeah! (+)

Still dont know exactly what happened, but had to be either an overdose or suicide unfortunately.

We were best friends through middle school and high school, but havent seen her since.

Theyre finally planning the Celebration of Life, and Im not sure if I wanna go. (End of August)

9 months after she passed is just going to reopen old wounds, you know

Im conflicted. If they wouldve done it around the time of her passing, obviously I would go.

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7 months

Being "that guy" aside while it's weird for them to take this long I'd still go if she was really important to you and it's not too much of a hassle
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I would blame the pandemic for them not doing it sooner but it's worse now than it was in January

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She passed at the beginning of January, and the service is at the very end of august.

Maybe not quite 9 months, but not 7 either.

Either way, its been almost a year since she passed.

It wouldnt be a hassle, but definitely a kick in the gut.

ill probably regret it either way ugh

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Just me 2 cents...

If you're going to regret it either way, I'd suggest you go.

It'll open an old wound that will eventually heal, but if you don't go, it'll open a wound that probably won't heal.

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eston posted...

I would blame the pandemic for them not doing it sooner but it's worse now than it was in January

back then there was no vaccine. if he's vaccinated it's safe to go.
the illness is a mild cold most of the time. not so much if unvaccinated it's playing with lady luck and hoping she doesn't fuck up the person with the illness.
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What I'm not following is how it would open old wounds

What do you mean by that
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One_Day_Remains posted...

What I'm not following is how it would open old wounds

What do you mean by that

idk like I already went through my grieving process.

lts just going to be a reminder that she took her own life(one way or another)


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Oh I see

Well it's really up to you. I most likely would go since it'll be the only opportunity you'll have, but I'm not judging you if you decide not to
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I had an uncle pass away at the very end of Feb 2020. Services were planned for mid-March, and then covid went full blown. Everything got cancelled, and the service wasnt held until June 2021.

Its just unprecedented times we are living through.

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Yeah idk. Theyre supposed to give closure, and I feel like it might do the opposite for me. Make me question why she did it, how we fell out of touch etc

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bigblu89 posted...

Just me 2 cents...

If you're going to regret it either way, I'd suggest you go.

It'll open an old wound that will eventually heal, but if you don't go, it'll open a wound that probably won't heal.

This.

May as well go instead of wonder forever what could have been.

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lww99 posted...

Idk like I already went through my grieving process

Her parents might like to see you there. How much did you love her? Enough to support her parents after her death? Its an answer only you know, of course.

Ive skipped funerals of people I was close tooalways said stuff like I dont handle death well. It was just selfish behavior on my part. I could have goneshown the family their lost loved one was loved, because thats what these things are really for in my eyes, but I chose to be selfish rather than selfless. There are no do overs. If you miss it, its missed. Err on the side of no regret whenever you can because it adds upjust sayin.

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I think you'd probably regret it more if you don't go. You can never undo that decision if you miss it. But if you do go and it hurts, it'll heal eventually.

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Yeah that makes sense. Thanks folks.

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