Current Events > I need to be a better person. AMA

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I have anger issues I'm trying to get over. AMA.

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No you don't. Let the rage consume you.

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What is the worst thing you've done lately?

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AlCalavicci posted...

What is the worst thing you've done lately?

So, I dont like being touched when I'm asleep; it's when I'm most vulnerable. My mom (whom I just moved home to take care of) tried to take me up by grabbing my ankle. I responded with throwing my phone across the room, in her general direction but deliberately away from her. This was 2 weeks ago.

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Yikes

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BloodMoon7 posted...

Yikes

I was a boy scout, I've had to sleep in the woods without a tent. When something touches you in your sleep you develop a reaction.

What actually made me throw the phone though was that she woke me up like roughly 30 seconds before my alarm. The alarm is what made me throw the phone. Had it been just the alarm, I would have been fine.

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Lokison posted...

I was a boy scout, I've had to sleep in the woods without a tent. When something touches you in your sleep you develop a reaction.

>_>

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<_<

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You are doing fine bud

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Homeless_Waifu posted...

Yes mommy

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At least youre working on yourself. Recognising you have an issue and resolving to do something about it is a big step.

No question, just good luck I guess.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

>_>

I've woken up to a snake wrapping around my leg, shit freaks me put when I'm asleep.

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I'd just tell your mom you have issues with people touching you and hopefully she'd understand. Or however which way youd like to put it. But communication is the first step here.
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Lokison posted...

So, I dont like being touched when I'm asleep; it's when I'm most vulnerable. My mom (whom I just moved home to take care of) tried to take me up by grabbing my ankle. I responded with throwing my phone across the room, in her general direction but deliberately away from her. This was 2 weeks ago.

If this is the worst thing you've done lately, and your topic title is "I need to be a better person AMA", then I think you're not as bad as you think

Edit: That said, we should all strive to be better people

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Kakapo posted...

At least youre working on yourself. Recognising you have an issue and resolving to do something about it is a big step.

No question, just good luck I guess.

Oh, this has been a development for the last 6 years. I've come a very long way in that time, but I compare myself to my previous self with every choice I make; what would I have done then? How can I make a better/the best decision in this situation this time?

I'm still kind of scared of myself though..

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BloodMoon7 posted...

Let the rage consume you.

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Smashingpmkns posted...

I'd just tell your mom you have issues with people touching you and hopefully she'd understand. Or however which way youd like to put it. But communication is the first step here.

Oh, I did. She knows now. She doesnt know who've I grown into, and I'm very much like my father (who is where I get the anger from..). He wasnt capable of waking himself up for work, but I actually forced myself to have that ability. It was a misunderstanding but I still scared her by throwing my phone.

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Lokison posted...

I've woken up to a snake wrapping around my leg, shit freaks me put when I'm asleep.

Oh. Thank God.

I still feel like you shouldn't excuse the phone thing with that. I'm not saying you are, but you did bring it up as a reason. I feel like a reasonable reaction to that would be like kicking a leg really fast in their direction. To throw a phone, you have to reach over, grab it and then do a throwing motion. There is a more time to stop a reflex.

It's better you don't kick her in the face, im just saying from a psychological standpoint. You gotta realize most people are dealing with fucked up things that they're constantly trying not to make them turn shitty.

I have terrible anger issues towards objects. But literally no one is ever mad at me, because of my patience with people. Even the ones with anger issues themselves. You just gotta remember that everyone is going through shit and you're just adding to it. When you stop doing that, they stop doing it to you. Or you find new people that don't do that to you.

Edit: The communication thing was the best 1st advice.

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Seems like PTSD man, but Im not a doctor or psychologist

Maybe you should start sleeping with a cat.. just dont fling it across the room >_>

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I was a hobo for a bit, but my sleep reaction to things (mostly large bugs) touching me in my sleep was to figure out what was happening before showing any sign that I was awake.

So uh, try that?

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Lokison posted...

Oh, this has been a development for the last 6 years. I've come a very long way in that time, but I compare myself to my previous self with every choice I make; what would I have done then? How can I make a better/the best decision in this situation this time?

I'm still kind of scared of myself though..

These things take time, particularly if its a deep seated behaviour weve learnt from others. I used to have massive anger issues, partly from growing up around someone whod fly off the handle and partly because its a reaction I get to situations that cause a shitload of anxiety.

It takes time, and it takes a lot of work. I woke up a few years ago during probably the darkest time in my life, and asked myself is this the sort of person I want to be?


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RedJackson posted...

Seems like PTSD man, but Im not a doctor or psychologist

Maybe you should start sleeping with a cat.. just dont fling it across the room >_>

Or do. It's whatever. They land on their feet. That's why you don't get a puppy


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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Oh. Thank God.

I still feel like you shouldn't excuse the phone thing with that. I'm not saying you are, but you did bring it up as a reason. I feel like a reasonable reaction to that would be like kicking a leg really fast in their direction. To throw a phone, you have to reach over, grab it and then do a throwing motion. There is a more time to stop a reflex.

It's better you don't kick her in the face, im just saying from a psychological standpoint. You gotta realize most people are dealing with fucked up things that they're constantly trying not to make them turn shitty.

I have terrible anger issues towards objects. But literally no one is ever mad at me, because of my patience with people. Even the ones with anger issues themselves. You just gotta remember that everyone is going through shit and you're just adding to it. When you stop doing that, they stop doing it to you. Or you find new people that don't do that to you.

Edit: The communication thing was the best 1st advice.

I understand that. I addressed it a little earlier. I did actually kick really quick, but she was fortunately doing it in a very cautious way so I didnt kick her. It was just waking up like that set the adrenaline off and when the phone went off well... anger.

I recognize these things and I am working on them. I'm trying very hard, but it's not a short proccess. This AMA was actually supposed to bring in the trolls to make me deal with that shit, and force myself to be calm..

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RedJackson posted...

Seems like PTSD man, but Im not a doctor or psychologist

Maybe you should start sleeping with a cat.. just dont fling it across the room >_>

I sleep with my dog in my bed. Shes fine, and kicks me all the time and its helped; but grabbing my ankle was just... wtf bruh.

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Lokison posted...

I understand that. I addressed it a little earlier. I did actually kick really quick, but she was fortunately doing it in a very cautious way so I didnt kick her. It was just waking up like that set the adrenaline off and when the phone went off well... anger.

I recognize these things and I am working on them. I'm trying very hard, but it's not a short proccess. This AMA was actually supposed to bring in the trolls to make me deal with that shit, and force myself to be calm..

Lol. Then it happens to be one the only topics people actually take serious. Doesn't that just piss you off?

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Lol. Then it happens to be one the only topics people actually take serious. Doesn't that just piss you off?

I mean it's fine. But can we move onto new questions? Focusing on the one issue that I've already nipped in the bud isnt exactly moving forward, ya know?

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So you throwing stuff at your own blood is fine but I make a joke about how Gengar can eat my nonexistent kids and I'm the villain?

Double standards much TC?

wink

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Lokison posted...

I mean it's fine. But can we move onto new questions? Focusing on the one issue that I've already nipped in the bud isnt exactly moving forward, ya know?

I dunno man. It just seems like something that should of been way easier. I doubt anyone has ever googled "How do I get someone to troll me?".

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BloodMoon7 posted...

So you throwing stuff at your own blood is fine but I make a joke about how Gengar can eat my nonexistent kids and I'm the villain?

Double standards much TC?

wink

That's done and over with, I would prefer not to rehash the past.

But as an answer: I scared my mom with no intent to harm her. You joked about letting your children be taken to the grave by a pokemon.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

I dunno man. It just seems like something that should of been way easier. I doubt anyone has ever googled "How do I get someone to troll me?".

I doubt that too, that a stupid question. I just picked the wrong time to make this topic though I guess. Most of the shitposters went to bed.

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I was purposely trying to irritate you with those last 2 posts. Did it work?

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

I was purposely trying to irritate you with those last 2 posts. Did it work?

To obvious. I could tell from the get go what you were doing.

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Lokison posted...

To obvious. I could tell from the get go what you were doing.

I knew they're obvious. But you were good at reacting like they weren't lol. You made me think you didn't know.

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You have 4 of those 20 lb bags of dog food to get from your car to your house. Do you do one trip, two, four? And do you carry them under your arms or in front, over the shoulder, or what?

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gunplagirl posted...

You have 4 of those 20 lb bags of dog food to get from your car to your house. Do you do one trip, two, four? And do you carry them under your arms or in front, over the shoulder, or what?

One trip. One on each shoulder, one in each hand. Drop the 2 on the right to open the door, using my foot to hold it open and I regrab the 2 I dropped.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

I knew they're obvious. But you were good at reacting like they weren't lol. You made me think you didn't know.

I'm a customer service guru, I know how to put on a mask of ignorance.

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