Current Events > Fiancé is getting forced into a promotion, with a relocation

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I'm the kind of person who would follow the job but I would take my s/o with me.

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God damn. Our mortgage is $800. Houses to rent out there average around $2500 jfc

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She was up getting sick all night due to nerves. This sucks.

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Kinda sucks they're only giving her 3 weeks to start working there. Any relocation benefits even? Any idea what state you'd have to move to after cincinnati?
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emblem boy posted...

Kinda sucks they're only giving her 3 weeks to start working there. Any relocation benefits even? Any idea what state you'd have to move to after cincinnati?

no idea on where would be next. Shes probably only one or two promotions away from getting her own store, which is basically the end goal.

Could be anywhere in the Midwest basically.

theres always a slight chance we could get moved back to Cleveland, or we could end up in Iowa or some shit.

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if she couldnt find housing in time, theyd pay for a hotel until she could.

but yeah its like no time at all to make that decision, or plan a move.

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She almost needs to take it for her professional advancement.

Like in theory she could go and work a similar job at a different retail store, but it would take years for that store to build the same trust with her. Once she gets slotted into a proper store manager role, her options expand because everyone in her industry knows what that job title entails, but she needs to get there first.

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I don't know. I'd say do it, and if I remember, you've had some topics about hitting the ceiling in your current job. Maybe this could be a good opportunity to find something else.

But the temporary nature of this move kinda sucks as well. Did they give any idea how temporary it would be? Like a couple years? Or months?
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It would most likely be two years, and then another transfer

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Time to move, TC.

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Two years isnt a long time. You should move and if it sucks, then you can discuss moving back to Cleveland. This seems like a good compromise.

FUCKKKKKKK. Why did this have to happen so soon? Thought we had until at least July

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typed in Louisville and this is the top search lol


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I guess its not actually Louisville. Store is in crestview hills, which is about 15-20 from cinci.


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Shes not sure what kind of raise it will come with yet.

but ultimately, its not about this promotion. Its about the next one hopefully.


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Ewww Louisville, KY sucks. There signature food is literally called a hot brown lol

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I think Im getting hung up on how quickly it needs to happen. 3 weeks is not enough time for us to sell our house.

we will likely have to pay mortgage and rent for a short time, which would be over 3k a month

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lww99 posted...

I think Im getting hung up on how quickly it needs to happen. 3 weeks is not enough time for us to sell our house.

we will likely have to pay mortgage and rent for a short time, which would be over 3k a month

Any chance of the two of you living separately for a few weeks, and she can stay in a hotel during that time
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We could try. Im not sure how long they would pay for her hotel.

Eventually wed be spending close to 4K in bills, while living in separate places

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She thinks theyll ask for her answer tomorrow

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Yep. Y'all are pretty young also right?
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Im 30, shes 27. I want to raise kids near family, but weve had a hard time there.

Its not as simple as just move back. Our house would already be sold. Wed have to find something new.

or maybe it is simple, but not easy. You know what I mean.

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Ahh kids coming up soon. Ya, that make shit harder.

Rent the house out? That's not easy either though. And not always financially sensible.
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I gotta talk to our mortgage company. We were told when we signed the loan that this has to be our primary residence for 7 years.

Its been like 3/4 years now. So I gotta see what our options are there.

renting vs selling, penalties, etc

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I say do it. it will be stressful, but you have each other, and that's enough to carry you through. and if it isn't, then you might look at whether this is really the person you want to be with long-term.

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What are your costs now compared to what your costs would be if you made the move?

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The only thing I know for sure is rentals out there average around $2500 per month. Our mortgage is $800.

Thats 30k a year just in rent....


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does it have to be a $2500 rental? I feel like you can figure this out

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Sounds like you're trying to find any excuse not to move and stay where you're at. Which is fine, but don't bring her down because of it. Let her go if you don't want to move. Y'all can do long distance or break up, up to y'all.

But this is too easy. Move, rent the house out. Next.


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Theyre probably going to ask for an answer today.

We havent stopped crying, this fucking blows.

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I keep waking up thinking this was a bad dream.

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Flamer_Blue posted...

If I were you, I would break up with her.
It's not going to be looking good for you in the long run.

That's shitty advice. TC stay with her if you love her, just try to be prepared if things go south in the future.

I told her I love her, and support whatever she decides.

she asked if that meant I was coming with her, and I still just dont know if I can leave

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Her boss is giving her until Monday to make a decision.

7k raise to start, confirmed this would be her last transfer before getting her own store.

2 years minimum

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If they are really forcing her she should quit that's bullshit. Honestly tho sounds like tis something she really wants and is telling you it's forced but that's just me.

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lww99 posted...

I told her I love her, and support whatever she decides.

she asked if that meant I was coming with her, and I still just dont know if I can leave

You fool.

If you love her and the relationship is good then move. People sometimes have to relocate. You can still visit your family. Don't be a fool. Ya, fool.

ConfessPlease posted...

If they are really forcing her she should quit that's bullshit. Honestly tho sounds like tis something she really wants and is telling you it's forced but that's just me.

no we knew this when she took the position. But this was pre Covid-19, thought itd be easy to find a similar paying job. not so much now.

but she does want it. She would have said yes already


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Not sure how the logistics would work, if I join her down there.

her company will pay for hotel until she finds a place to stay.

I think shes gonna have to live down there for a few months alone, while I get everything figured out here

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Don't think it'd have to be a few months...
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It takes time to find new housing with 5 pets. It takes time to sell/rent your house out.

Im not expecting to be living in Cinci on 6/01

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Yea it seems rough that they only gave her three weeks or so to move to a place that is four hours away from where she worked

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Yeah, its super unreasonable IMO. Cant expect people to uproot their entire lives in a couple weeks, with no time to plan


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