Poll of the Day > I feel like a customer at work has been hitting on me...

(+) Yeah! (+)

And I do mean beyond just general niceness or whatever.

The past few times she has been in she asked if she was my favorite customer(related to a thing my co-worker and I were discussing), next time she came in I called her my favorite customer and she said I have a good memory...last time she was in she mentioned she got her second covid vaccine and was feeling down. I made a joke about how she was injected with 5G cells and she laughed, and left saying "have a good day SIR" (extreme emphasis on sir).

So There is a chance this could be her being nice, or anything. Since this is a liquor store maybe she is a little toasty when she comes in and is in that kind of playful mood or something. I don't know. I haven't seen her make this level of banter with anybody else I work with.

I feel like I have to take my shot here. I normally would NOT ask out a customer because that is borderline harassment, but I feel like I have enough to go off of here to try, and if I read the situation wrong things remain as they are and I don't act weird or anything when she comes in in the future.

I think I'm going to see how it goes the next few times of waiting on her, and if things remain the same(playful, etc), I'm gonna see if she wants to do something some day.

Ask for her number and immediately text your best phallic imagery

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I ultimately wasn't satified with either of my attempts at a sarcastic followup to that post, so eh.

Don't do it you are in a place of supreme leader power imbalance harassment overload and must protect by making your existence and humanity not known.

I am the literal Navy Seal who took out Osama Bin Laden, so...i'll take that under advisement

Even that one kind of makes no sense and is a little rough.

It's as if I just took a shit on the floor of my own topic.

Just ask her if you can buy her a drink sometime and wink.

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She seems like the kind of person who actually may find that charming, however that really seems to delve into "movie ideas that are bad real life ideas" territory

SunWuKung420 posted...

Just ask her if you can buy her a drink sometime and wink.

He should ask if he can sell her a drink instead.
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2 installments of "Rev's dumbass comments" in the same hour...TC already sells her drinks.

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Sarcasm aside, I would give it a couple more interactions before making a move

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SunWuKung420 posted...

2 installments of "Rev's dumbass comments" in the same hour...TC already sells her drinks.

yeah no kidding bud

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SunWuKung420 posted...

2 installments of "Rev's dumbass comments" in the same hour...TC already sells her drinks.

https://imgur.com/t/funny/9nohQh4
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Metalsonic66 posted...

Sarcasm aside, I would give it a couple more interactions before making a move

I think I will do this. If the next few times are playful and fun etc like they have been then I will have a clearer idea. If I didn't think this was a level beyond just basic niceness I wouldn't even be considering it.

This person has actually been a regular customer for a while now, most if not all of the 2 years I have been here. Not every day, but a few times a week(she even said a couple weeks go "Oh, you'll be seeing me again in a few days like always")

I've never seen it like this before, as say before 2021ish its' been mostly business and not really much banter.

I have lost 20-25 pounds in a year and recently made a push to get 10ish more off and i got a phat piece on my wrist (Hamilton Viewmatic) so hey maybe somebody has noticed. I can't say, though. I look good, IMO, though since losing the weight.

Even if they are flirting with you, you can't do anything. They could be teasing you and then if you try to take a step they complain about you behaving inappropriately and bye bye job.

Since this would violate the employee customer relationship maybe you should make a subscription based model for her to date you.

probably just being nice and has a good personality

and saying youll see her again like always just sounds like her confirming her alcoholism <_<...

It could be just being nice, but I don't know. Gonna size up the sitch the next few times i wait on her though.

And yeah, that comment threw me off a little...but oh well. i see a lot of people all the time and its whatever. i didn't think that one was necessarily flirty.

It sounds like she may be debating whether or not she "likes" you, but the hardest part is that no two people have the exact same demeanor or tells... she could be goofing around and just a pleasant person or she could be into you. Guys tend to slant towards seeing things that aren't really there more than not, but it does happen the other way too. It's a weird dynamic though, because for some guy at a store to ask out a customer may be awkward, likewise for the customer asking the person at work.

Really, the easiest workaround is not really feasible with the pandemic... that being "I can't wait for my shift to end, super hungry, I'm gonna go to (casual restaurant) after work. It's one of my fave places." and then if she leans into wanting to go, you're sorta free to invite her to tag along.

You got this.

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argonautweakend posted...

I think I'm going to see how it goes the next few times of waiting on her, and if things remain the same(playful, etc), I'm gonna see if she wants to do something some day.

Probably best. Worse she can do is reject you but she probably wouldn't take it as a red flag whatever the case.

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I was just going to ask her if she wanted to do something sometime, Chad. Just straight up.

See, I don't recall her ever being like this before. I always remember her as an in and out maybe small chat kind of customer, but she's been more talkative lately with me, and I don't think she talks this much to my other co-workers but I can't say.

And thanks a lot Koga! I actually feel really confident because I feel like it either works out or it doesn't, so why not? This isn't a complete stranger, I don't think it's that weird. She asked me if I was her favorite customer once so i feel like even if it means nothing, come on yo. I'm going to do a little more homework and then maybe go for it if things continue. The funny thing about this is that I remember the first time I ever saw this woman in the store. It had to have been around two years ago, and I remember remarking to myself "damn....she's nice" and she seems to be in the medical field wearing a white coat and a stethoscope sometimes, so i'm thinking dang best of both worlds intelligent and good looking. But it isn't like i've had any type of feeling for her until i feel like she's given me something, but if this doesn't work out it isn't a big deal.

Good luck man!

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I feel like I can do this. I've lost a lot of weight, I look pretty good, phat ice on my wrist, heck i even just got new glasses. And we got a new GM at work and he is awesome so I am happy almost all the time now. The only reason I wouldn't have been happy before i due to work issues caused by my extremely boneheaded former GM.

What on Earth could stop me from further trying to succeed?

argonautweakend posted...

What on Earth could stop me from further trying to succeed?

It's complicated.


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See, this is something that should inspire you all. Have a good attitude about life, and love yourself and try to fester a culture of improvement. Not always do I improve, but realize you love yourself and you come first and try to make smart choices.

Or, while this isn't the exact message they mean, let me just cede to the master philospophers:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4DfVWwtaWU

Ask her to choo choo choose you to be her Valentine

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I personally don't want to have the exact moment my heart breaks be pinpointed.

Shes just being nice.

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argonautweakend posted...

I personally don't want to have the exact moment my heart breaks be pinpointed.

Then ask her to bee friends

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just ask if you can tongue punch her fartbox

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Joe, I voted for ya, but.....

.....

Any updates?

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No. I haven't seen her since I made this thread, but she is a semi-regular so I will see her again in the future.

I did get the phone number of another customer I kinda like, but thats because she is a hair stylist and I mentioned how I needed some split ends cut. This customer I think is just genuinely nice, because she acts super nice/talkative to everybody. I don't think I am going to try anything here, but I did need somebody to give my hair a tune up and now i found 'em.

Okay so TURN OF EVENTS.

I havent seen the woman in the OP since, but I consider that a good thing because the less time people spend buying and consuming alcohol, the better. She'll be back. Sadly they all come back.

However, as I said in my last post, I did get the phone number of a customer who is a hair stylist, and today she came over and cut my hair and I think she is legitimately interested in me.

After I paid her, she gave me a huge squeeze hug, and asked me to text her. not about hair, just anything. she said this like 3 times. And then she also said we were friends now. This was all done in kind of a normal way and not an annoying way.

Then about two hours later before I could message her, she sent me a message and we've been talking off and on ever since.

She's been saying some awfully suspect things such as "I was always hoping to see you in the liquor store and not just because I forgot my ID" (the context here is that if I know factually how old somebody is I can serve them even if they are 21 and look 12. I know she is over age from carding her in the past. One day she forgot her ID and another clerk waiting on her asked her for it, and i refused to vouch for her, as I am not allowed. She wasn't being rude and understood.)

So she definitely wanted to see me at work, and not just because she doesn't need ID(with me) if she forgets it. She also said she knew I was an interesting person and knew we had stuff in common despite me not recalling having told her about any or many of my interests before. Just a lot of things I don't feel like you'd mention to somebody day ONE of being friends. Which is like, friends don't have a day 1? Like you never say to somebody "lets be friends". there may be a day 1, like, the first time you met somewhere, but never an actual utterance of the words "we are friends now" like I had today.

So, overall, I feel like THIS has a chance of working out to some degree. There seems like legitimate interest here. I've been a little playful back but have not really made my move. Which is to say I have ZERO doubt if I asked to hang out and do something the answer would definitely be what when and where

Oh, nice dude! I hope things work out great.

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argonautweakend posted...

Okay so TURN OF EVENTS.

I havent seen the woman in the OP since, but I consider that a good thing because the less time people spend buying and consuming alcohol, the better. She'll be back. Sadly they all come back.

However, as I said in my last post, I did get the phone number of a customer who is a hair stylist, and today she came over and cut my hair and I think she is legitimately interested in me.

After I paid her, she gave me a huge squeeze hug, and asked me to text her. not about hair, just anything. she said this like 3 times. And then she also said we were friends now. This was all done in kind of a normal way and not an annoying way.

Then about two hours later before I could message her, she sent me a message and we've been talking off and on ever since.

She's been saying some awfully suspect things such as "I was always hoping to see you in the liquor store and not just because I forgot my ID" (the context here is that if I know factually how old somebody is I can serve them even if they are 21 and look 12. I know she is over age from carding her in the past. One day she forgot her ID and another clerk waiting on her asked her for it, and i refused to vouch for her, as I am not allowed. She wasn't being rude and understood.)

So she definitely wanted to see me at work, and not just because she doesn't need ID(with me) if she forgets it. She also said she knew I was an interesting person and knew we had stuff in common despite me not recalling having told her about any or many of my interests before. Just a lot of things I don't feel like you'd mention to somebody day ONE of being friends. Which is like, friends don't have a day 1? Like you never say to somebody "lets be friends". there may be a day 1, like, the first time you met somewhere, but never an actual utterance of the words "we are friends now" like I had today.

So, overall, I feel like THIS has a chance of working out to some degree. There seems like legitimate interest here. I've been a little playful back but have not really made my move. Which is to say I have ZERO doubt if I asked to hang out and do something the answer would definitely be what when and where

You activated the trap card, Love Triangle.
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Oh shit potD before anybody has a meltdown I just got my split ends cut

Just so nobody thought my hair was gone ya know

I miss my long hair. I want to grow it again but get ridiculed for how long it gets so feel insecure. Plus I'm really lazy so my long hair looks like a hobo.

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Baby names dot com

We've already decided on boy or girl names.

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Okay, so this new girl and i have been getting along pretty well so far, but something has happened and I don't know what to do.

On tuesday, she mentioned how she was in the store and didn't see me, but I was working at a different store. I then said she can keep coming into the store in hopes she might see me but we should just hang out so she wouldn't be disappointed. She agreed! We didnt set an actual day or time, but we talked a lot that evening via text message.

And...that's it. tuesday evening, we talked a lot. I've sent her a few messages since then and no reply, nothing.

I'm feeling kinda sad, because I would very much like to talk to her. I am certain this has nothing to do with me. It could be something stupid like maybe she lost her phone or couldn't pay her bill or something, or maybe she isn't doing okay or something else, or maybe she is just forgetful at responding to things. I can't say.

I'm not worried she doesn't want to talk to me, because I don't think for a second that's the case since she was being super extra with me ever since she cut my hair and has had nothing but positive things to say about me(and me, likewise). However, its been 3 days, going on 4 here without any contact...and I don't know what's going on. I haven't been blowing up her phone, just a couple of messages asking how she is doing, and one asking her if she wanted to hang out with some coworkers of mine tomorrow night. She also hasn't been in the store since Tuesday, when I wasn't there(but that is a good thing I think).

It would totally be fitting for the first girl i've ever really had this kind of good connection with to have died in a fiery car crash...

She could have stuff going on like a death in the family or laid off and it's nothing for you to worry about but she's not feeling chatty. Seems like she likes you a lot.

devil's advocate time:

Maybe you waited too long to make a move? I dunno how old you are, but I def botched a few fresh relationships potentially by taking the slower approach once we got talking (when I was a teenager). And I had a pretty great dynamic with all those girls. In my efforts to not scare them off they lost interest, I think.

At this point, go to where she cuts hair and see what happens? Worst case scenario she had a change of heart or some ex resurfaced. But if I was in your shoes, I'd just take the plunge and head over to her work and you'll either get a positive response from her or a blow-off. But it's better to take charge and know.

I'm just assuming its something normal like she lost her phone, is busy, forgetful, whatever. It just makes me a little sad because I just want to talk to her, because that made me feel good.

But this has all happened in under a week, so devils advocate doesn't seem to even apply. I highly doubt this person who just days ago was extremely excited to hang out would lose interest that quick. She literally said she has wanted to become friends with me for the longest time, so there is no way she isn't still totally into me.

Ultimately I just gotta wait but I feel like I got something I've been waiting years for and...yet more waiting. Oh well. Just gotta be normal, but unlike other, less natural "crushes" and things I am not angry at all at not having my messages replied to. I am actually curious if she is doing okay.

She also doesn't cut hair at a salon right now and she came over my house to do it. The only way I have to contact her is her cell phone number.

But I'm thinking even though it sucks you just gotta wait. She isn't ghosting me or being weird. I mean, she could have just lost her phone. She has no way to contact me outside of my phone number and my job, but I really don't want to see her in there even if it would make my day. She comes in once in a while and buys 3-6 captain morgan mini bottles every time. You would love to think that hey maybe she drinks once in a while and just likes captain morgan a lot and buys the mini bottles every time to portion out what they drink. You would, but that is almost never the case. It usually is a sign of a problem to some degree. One day fairly recently she came in twice within two hours to buy some mini bottles, and that is never a good sign.

Overall I am bummed out but I ain't worrying on my end, but I hope she is safe and all it is is her losing her phone or something.

She's clearly fled the country.

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What about the first girl?
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I haven't seen her since but it doesn't matter. I am all in on the second girl

She dropped her phone in the toilet while house cleaning. I figured it had to be something stupid and it was. Gonna chat her up this evening i think and see what's going down

Hopefully things go more smoothly this time.

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