Current Events > So....apparently my gf had a psychotic break....

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No one knows why, but the guess is she wasnt sleeping well and its due to sleep deprivation. Shes stuck in the hospital now (has been for almost 24 hours), no visitors allowed (her mother was barely able to get much time apparently) and wont be released until she can spend a 5 day span in a psych ward bed and pass an evaluation. She knows basic things (the month, where she works) but thought the President was someone who was President for the first 7 months of her life so....

Oh the better news? Theres no beds available in the greater area and no one knows anything and I have no communication with her and theres literally nothing anyone can do so yeah. Her mom doesnt even live in the town were in either and has to go home so who knows when well get updated again.

Guess this is how I wanted my weekend to go, considering this is the only time I really get to spend with her.

idk what the point of this post is tbh. Just have no one to really vent out this to and I have work tomorrow and idk how Im gonna have the energy to go in. Literally dont want to do anything tbh.
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Sorry to hear that, it must be really stressful, and sucks lacking news. Keep chasing the ward for updates and remember that she will be getting the care she needs. Going into work tomorrow might help, you'll have things to keep your mind occupied and real people around you to talk to and help keep you going.

I imagine it will be a fairly long road to recovery for her but I'm sure she will be fine if everyone is supportive.

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Bro I completely understand. My ex just had a similar break a few months ago. If you can call out, take the time. I went in to work and it's rough. It's easier to give advice than to take it but still. Just take at least a day to collect yourself because without being an immediate family member, there's nothing you can do. But you can visit her in the ward.

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That's terrible and i hope she gets the help she needs. I've had friends go through similar events and it can be stressful but don't have any real advice.

Was there a trigger beside not sleeping?

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Sorry for your situation. Get some flowers in the room.

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Fizaga posted...

Sorry to hear that, it must be really stressful, and sucks lacking news. Keep chasing the ward for updates and remember that she will be getting the care she needs.

Yeah the person Im getting the updates from has constant contact with the mom and Ive been periodically checking in to see if theres any updates.

They dont think so for awhile until they can find a bed to admit her in so.....

Saw her a little on Friday, but she was so god damn sleep deprived. She had an episode earlier and then had another with me. It was....not the funnest to see. We even tried to take a nap before it and she just couldnt fall asleep.

Suikoden420 posted...

Was there a trigger beside not sleeping?

No one knows. Maybe stress? She always gets stressed at the beginning of the semester but she seemed fine from what I saw. She always slept fine at my place so idk.

KrayzieBonezz posted...

But you can visit her in the ward.

Maybe, assuming its anywhere near us. Theyve apparently looked as far as 600 miles out and nothing. So....yay.
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I'm surprised the hospital doesn't have a psych ward. Or maybe they're all full.

Either way, make sure you eat, drink, sleep all that. I know it seems like basic shit but you'll forget to take care of yourself stressing about somebody else.

The episodes, depending on severity, can be scary. Just remember anything she says can take you back but it's not her. You'll be able to tell quickly when you can talk to her and when you're talking to someone else. You know?

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KrayzieBonezz posted...

I'm surprised the hospital doesn't have a psych ward. Or maybe they're all full.

Were in a small ass town with like 10 ICU beds. The closest hospital with its own psych ward is probably 100 miles away.
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Damn. I'm sorry bro. I've been through it twice now. And the second time got violent.

Just be there for her while you can right now. Take time off if you're able. You eat yet? Please go eat. Easy habit to just stop doing.

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I ate fine yesterday. Ate when hungry today. Ill probably eat something later on when my stomach growls again.
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Hmm... This happened to my sister about a year ago. With her it was drugs making her sleep deprived, with the sleep deprivation making her hallucinate. Of course not saying that's what happened here, but it's what happened to us.

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I'm sorry to hear that man

You know, I'm pretty surprised how mature people have been in here. This is the type of thing that baits people into trolling. I can appreciate that there are people who are legit on this forum.

That being said, is there a possibility that she's been way more stressful than usual? Like does she get stressed from the happenings of Covid?

First time for her? I've had multiple psychotic episodes since I was 5, they're very scary and unpleasant for everyone involved but medication really does work wonders and any talk of it turning people into zombies is pretty inaccurate these days. Mine were always brought on by stress.

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Hope they get her sorted. Best of luck tc

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ghostblob posted...

First time for her?

From what Ive been told, yes.

dameon_reaper posted...

That being said, is there a possibility that she's been way more stressful than usual?

Only added stress has been the semester starting, but that was a couple weeks ago and she hadnt said anything about it being difficult, considering she only has 2 classes right now.
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sktgamer_13dude posted...

Only added stress has been the semester starting, but that was a couple weeks ago and she hadnt said anything about it being difficult, considering she only has 2 classes right now.

Does she have a lot of anxiety? I don't know what would cause this but I hope they figure it out and maybe help her. That's a scary thing..

sktgamer_13dude posted...

From what Ive been told, yes.

Only added stress has been the semester starting, but that was a couple weeks ago and she hadnt said anything about it being difficult, considering she only has 2 classes right now.

That's good news; it means there isn't some pattern being followed. How old is she?

Like I said I went through this so if you ever need to vent more we'll listen with respect. Have you texted your boss? He might let you off. I think taking a day to process this will help

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dameon_reaper posted...

Does she have a lot of anxiety?

Mainly due to the beginning of classes. Not much else that I know of.

ShyOx posted...

How old is she?

20, a couple months to 21. And I havent texted my boss, but Im probably gonna talk to her on Monday when shes in about things. idk. Maybe I can facade enough at work so no one asks anything.
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Still no update. Still no beds. Still no happiness.

Gonna try and bring something for the nurses to bring to her room tomorrow. idk if theyll even take it or not, but gotta at least try.
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Oh goodie. Apparently they wont take things because shes eventually gonna be transferred.

Already knew no visits but :/
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Probably because your tailgating totaled the car tc. :P

hope she gets better that sucks

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As someone who has delt with psychosis (from benzodiazepine withdrawal) I feel for her.

It's gonna likely be a long process before she is back to normal

Cerealmilk posted...

As someone who has delt with psychosis (from benzodiazepine withdrawal) I feel for her.

It's gonna likely be a long process before she is back to normal

Its sounding like itll be a long process before we can even talk to her or communicate with her at all. Which is probably the part thats killing me the most. Havent gone more than a day without having some kind of contact with her for about a year now, so the fact that she cant even SEE my messages, let alone respond, is really, really killing me.
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sktgamer_13dude posted...

Its sounding like itll be a long process before we can even talk to her or communicate with her at all. Which is probably the part thats killing me the most. Havent gone more than a day without having some kind of contact with her for about a year now, so the fact that she cant even SEE my messages, let alone respond, is really, really killing me.

They don't want external things to upset her probably.

Not that you'd say anything upsetting. But they don't know that and it is best to be safe.

It is gonna take a lot of patience on your part if you still want to be in her life.

Cerealmilk posted...

They don't want external things to upset her probably.

Not that you'd say anything upsetting. But they don't know that and it is best to be safe.

It is gonna take a lot of patience on your part if you still want to be in her life.

Oh, I understand why they dont want visitors and stuff like that. One because of COVID and two because of the psychological aspect of the break, especially since no one knows what set her off.

I just....wish I could leave something. Anything really. No one knows when a bed will open and no one knows where the bed will be even. Like no one. And then the 5 days, eval, and shed have to pass that to get out.

Her mom is gonna keep her home anyway until shes back to a good state, but at least when shes there she should be able to at least communicate once a day or something. Thats just really, really eating into me right now. Every time I open SC I see the message delivered arrow and every time I open Messenger I see she hasnt been able to see them.
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Well she got a bed thats close to her home, so thats good.

Bad news is that shell be isolated until they can figure out the trigger so....updates for me likely wont be coming soon. Yay....
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sktgamer_13dude posted...

Well she got a bed thats close to her home, so thats good.

Bad news is that shell be isolated until they can figure out the trigger so....updates for me likely wont be coming soon. Yay....

Getting a bed (especially right now) is really important! You could write out notes for her to read when she gets access (physical notes not texts)

Ruvan22 posted...

Getting a bed (especially right now) is really important! You could write out notes for her to read when she gets access (physical notes not texts)

The person who Im getting the updates from (her best friend) thinks, admittedly pessimisticly, that one, if not both of us, might have been the trigger in some way and doesnt know if we might be blacklisted for a little bit until shes recovered. Which....wouldnt be good for me tbh.

He kind of thinks that because both of think she was a little during the week prior to the incident but when either of us asked how she was doing or if anything was wrong, she said she was good. The fact she was likely trying to deal with something, likely big, alone without talking to anyone is kind of scaring us a little.
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sktgamer_13dude posted...

The person who Im getting the updates from (her best friend) thinks, admittedly pessimisticly, that one, if not both of us, might have been the trigger in some way and doesnt know if we might be blacklisted for a little bit until shes recovered. Which....wouldnt be good for me tbh.

He kind of thinks that because both of think she was a little during the week prior to the incident but when either of us asked how she was doing or if anything was wrong, she said she was good. The fact she was likely trying to deal with something, likely big, alone without talking to anyone is kind of scaring us a little.

It's definitely tempting to try and piece together what happened but you don't have much to go on and could just blame yourself more. It really sounds like you were trying to help, and she might take you up on that.

TC, remember that with mental stuff, social support is incredibly important for recovery. It's good of you to be considerate but don't be so hard on yourself, I'm sure she'd greatly appreciate your support and love while she's struggling.

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Ruvan22 posted...

It's definitely tempting to try and piece together what happened but you don't have much to go on and could just blame yourself more. It really sounds like you were trying to help, and she might take you up on that.

Yeah I told him that we cant blame anyone and I dont blame myself....yet. At least until the doctors find out what happened.

Ceresmie posted...

TC, remember that with mental stuff, social support is incredibly important for recovery.

Yeah, Im gonna try to message her through FB every day until she can respond back. If not only to help me cope but to show her Ive been thinking about her everyday and whatnot. It just sucks that no one can send anything to her for awhile until they find out the trigger. And who knows when thatll happen, if it happens.

I know she knows Im there for her, it just sucks to know that she hasnt been able to be shown that since she went to the hospital.
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Apparently they found white blood cells in a place where they shouldnt be and they think it could be meningitis, but we dont know yet. Could be a long process to diagnose/treat/recover, but idk anything about meningitis.
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My sympathies for both of you, TC. Wishing you guys all the best
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