Current Events > Are you habitually trying to figure out who you are?

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I went from being socially anxious to being self absorbed with my self discover. I can never tell if I'm making progress or misleading myself. I try to see it as interesting more than stressful.

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No.

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No

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I already know who I am, not that it entails anything positive.

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Kinda. I'm reasonably sure of who I am, finally. Made some great strides recently and much more comfortable and secure in myself than I ever have been. Took a lotta introspection and acknowledging uncomfortable things about myself. Still going on, too. It's a process

No.

I started identifying as a punk when I was in middle school. 25 years later I'm still a punk and never once questioned that this is who I am.
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Career-wise yes.

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No.

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It took a while, but Ive got it all figured out at this point.

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I personally don't want to get to a place where I feel it's all figured out. Plus you constantly change, so that just means you'll end up chasing things you stopped caring about without realizing it >_>

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I have a habit of looking at my ID card just to reassure myself

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Always, it's always changing - I agree too, I don't wanna ever figure it out personally

I keep hoping one day I play a guitar solo so good and make Jimi Hendrix so proud that I just self destruct into a myriad of all colors forever formless

It goes without saying though that I had to go back and find a way to ground myself tbh, I went a long time in that formless state and needed some doses of reality.. got some things sorted out, but just enough to satisfy the requirements to keep on journeying on to whichever and wherever

No
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@Lost_All_Senses what have you learned thus far ?

Ya I think so
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Not anymore, with my other half.

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EvilResident posted...

@Lost_All_Senses what have you learned thus far ?

I didn't expect to leave my house today. But I gotta wait til I'm home now to dive into it.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

I didn't expect to leave my house today. But I gotta wait til I'm home now to dive into it.

Ok @ me later I wanna hear about it

do you ever look in the mirror and, if only for a few short moments, think "i don't know this face"?

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ROBANN_88 posted...

do you ever look in the mirror and, if only for a few short moments, think "i don't know this face"?

For sure. I also weave in and out of finding myself attractive and ugly.

@EvilResident

It would actually be easier if you could ask a more specific question. It's hard to know where to start when it's like 10 years of constant self proding. Keep it mind I wouldn't be offended by any type of question.

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Hmmm I dunno. I was thinking something like whats the most important thing you learned about yourself up until now?

I know exactly who I am

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EvilResident posted...

Hmmm I dunno. I was thinking something like whats the most important thing you learned about yourself up until now?

I'd say the stuff I learned about myself that I can apply to others to make my social anxiety not so bad. Which is actually stuff a lot of people see as negatives. Learning that I was more self absorbed than I thought, helped me realize so are most people and they're not caring about 90% of the stuff I say or do. Realizing that gave me a comfort in speaking my mind and not feeling like eyes were always glaring at me in public. I use to feel like everything I said was being combed over and that made me anxious.

I feel like this ain't what you're asking. I don't really know how to attack this question lol. I don't have an order of importance. It kind of just is or isn't.

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Thats ok. Yea as long as youre good with yourself and know your worth. Good job man.

EvilResident posted...

Thats ok. Yea as long as youre good with yourself and know your worth. Good job man.

Appreciate it. I do. I walk and talk with enough confidence where it matters to me. I know enough, but there's always more. It's mostly just entertaining to learn yourself.

I can tell you one my most used methods. First, I find a common habit of those around me and then I look at myself and question if I also have that habit. Rather it's flattering or not, it's usually not. But it's easy to immediately accept because while you accept your fault, you also are doing it through realizing you're hardly alone with that fault.

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No, idgaf. I'm here, i like shit, I don't like shit, i pet the floofs, then I don't exist

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Smackems posted...

No, idgaf. I'm here, i like shit, I don't like shit, i pet the floofs, then I don't exist

What's a floof? Let me in the know.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

What's a floof? Let me in the know.

Like dogs and otters and bears n shit

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Yep. Went from deeply internalizing my trauma and poor mental/physical health to getting through that and having little clue as to who the hell I really am. But it has been good, although hard at times, trying to find out.

At the very least, it's a great change of pace from "everything sucks and will never get better, let's upvote suicide memes on reddit all day."

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TheLiarParadox posted...

Yep. Went from deeply internalizing my trauma and poor mental/physical health to getting through that and having little clue as to who the hell I really am. But it has been good, although hard at times, trying to find out.

At the very least, it's a great change of pace from "everything sucks and will never get better, let's upvote suicide memes on reddit all day."

Church. I went through a self deprecating phase too. I think I had an alright support system tho, so it might not of got as dark as some. The drugs involved made the liws really fuckin low, but on an average I think I had it a lil better.

Smackems posted...

Like dogs and otters and bears n shit

Ah. I can respect that. Never pet an otter, but it's on my bucket list.

Btw i feel like some people see this as a weakness, while I see it as a strength.


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