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JlM 12/09/20 12:23:01 PM #1:	We don't often to gift exchanges for holidays or birthdays or whatever. But every now and then I find something or feel it's an extra special occasion and want to try to surprise her. And somehow it gets revealed and ruined in some way every. single. fucking. time. The time I tried to throw her a surprise party and her dipshit friend called HER and asked her if she could bring her new boyfriend. The time I was remodeling her room the way she had always wanted, but she decided to come home from her trip days early, so I barely had time to do anything. Even small things, like making a nice elaborate dinner, she'll call and tell me she's picking up food, I'll have to talk her out of it and by the time I do, it's obvious that I have something "special" planned. This is our first Christmas since we bought this house and she wasn't expecting anything. I had bought her TONS of shit. I had everything delivered to my work or my mom's house. Except for ONE item that I had to have shipped directly to the house. Had it scheduled for a day she would be at work. But now her work made her get a non-rapid covid test. So she'll be home and it will be delivered before I'm home. So I had a bit of a meltdown. Not aimed at her, obviously, because it's not her fault, just the universe fucking me over in general. Afterwards I realized I could have probably played it off as stuff my mom had sent here for my dad, but I was too frustrated to not a be a fucking idiot, and it's ruined. She knows not to open the box coming tomorrow because it part of her present. I feel so incredibly deflated. After such a shit year, I was really looking forward to this. She still doesn't know what I got her, or how much I got her, but the actual excitement was for her waking up and finding a bunch of unexpected presents. Sigh. BlogFAQs --- I guess I'm something of a ne'er do well. Pittsburgh <cite>JlM posted [p:948104807] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>We don't often to gift exchanges for holidays or birthdays or whatever. But every now and then I find something or feel it's an extra special occasion and want to try to surprise her. And somehow it gets revealed and ruined in some way every. single. fucking. time. The time I tried to throw her a surprise party and her dipshit friend called HER and asked her if she could bring her new boyfriend. The time I was remodeling her room the way she had always wanted, but she decided to come home from her trip days early, so I barely had time to do anything. Even small things, like making a nice elaborate dinner, she'll call and tell me she's picking up food, I'll have to talk her out of it and by the time I do, it's obvious that I have something "special" planned. This is our first Christmas since we bought this house and she wasn't expecting anything. I had bought her TONS of shit. I had everything delivered to my work or my mom's house. Except for ONE item that I had to have shipped directly to the house. Had it scheduled for a day she would be at work. But now her work made her get a non-rapid covid test. So she'll be home and it will be delivered before I'm home. So I had a bit of a meltdown. Not aimed at her, obviously, because it's not her fault, just the universe fucking me over in general. Afterwards I realized I could have probably played it off as stuff my mom had sent here for my dad, but I was too frustrated to not a be a fucking idiot, and it's ruined. She knows not to open the box coming tomorrow because it part of her present. I feel so incredibly deflated. After such a shit year, I was really looking forward to this. She still doesn't know what I got her, or how much I got her, but the actual excitement was for her waking up and finding a bunch of unexpected presents. Sigh. BlogFAQs</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MC_BatCommander 12/09/20 12:26:43 PM #2:	I think you should focus more on the fact that you are doing nice things for your wife and I'm sure she really appreciates it, even if you can't make it a big grand surprise. --- The Legend is True! <cite>MC_BatCommander posted [p:948104974] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>I think you should focus more on the fact that you are doing nice things for your wife and I'm sure she really appreciates it, even if you can't make it a big grand surprise. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BuffaloRider 12/09/20 12:41:17 PM #3:	You sound very thoughtful, JIM. Even if it isn't a complete surprise, she still appreciates you thinking of her, right? --- Sincerely, BuffaloRider <cite>BuffaloRider posted [p:948105562] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>You sound very thoughtful, JIM. Even if it isn't a complete surprise, she still appreciates you thinking of her, right? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LostForest 12/09/20 12:45:15 PM #4:	JlM posted... Except for ONE item that I had to have shipped directly to the house. Had it scheduled for a day she would be at work. But now her work made her get a non-rapid covid test. So she'll be home and it will be delivered before I'm home. So I had a bit of a meltdown. Not aimed at her, obviously, because it's not her fault, just the universe fucking me over in general. Afterwards I realized I could have probably played it off as stuff my mom had sent here for my dad, but I was too frustrated to not a be a fucking idiot, and it's ruined. She knows not to open the box coming tomorrow because it part of her present I don't understand the problem here then. If you tell her "Hey one of your presents is arriving before I get home, don't look at it." then what's the issue? That's what me and my wife do, if we know a present is arriving, we give each other a heads up to avoid present spoilers lol. --- ForestLogic alt. <cite>LostForest posted [p:948105724] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>JlM posted... </cite> <quote>Except for ONE item that I had to have shipped directly to the house. Had it scheduled for a day she would be at work. But now her work made her get a non-rapid covid test. So she'll be home and it will be delivered before I'm home. So I had a bit of a meltdown. Not aimed at her, obviously, because it's not her fault, just the universe fucking me over in general. Afterwards I realized I could have probably played it off as stuff my mom had sent here for my dad, but I was too frustrated to not a be a fucking idiot, and it's ruined. She knows not to open the box coming tomorrow because it part of her present</quote> I don't understand the problem here then. If you tell her "Hey one of your presents is arriving before I get home, don't look at it." then what's the issue? That's what me and my wife do, if we know a present is arriving, we give each other a heads up to avoid present spoilers lol. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 12/09/20 12:52:17 PM #5:	Does she actually like surprises? I hate surprises lol. Gives me anxiety. --- Name checks out "Try to talk and they ain't listening, but they'll point it out when you get ignorant" - Dreezy <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:948106012] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>Does she actually like surprises? I hate surprises lol. Gives me anxiety. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JlM 12/09/20 12:53:59 PM #6:	LostForest posted... JlM posted... I don't understand the problem here then. If you tell her "Hey one of your presents is arriving before I get home, don't look at it." then what's the issue? That's what me and my wife do, if we know a present is arriving, we give each other a heads up to avoid present spoilers lol. The problem is that she wasn't expecting anything at all. We usually don't exchange. The gift itself wasn't the important part for me, it was the surprise of there being gifts at all, lol. The surprise being ruined was bad enough, but later realizing that if I just calmed down and thought it over I could have covered it as being stuff my mom sent to the house makes it even worse. What a doofus. --- I guess I'm something of a ne'er do well. Pittsburgh <cite>JlM posted [p:948106076] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>LostForest posted...</cite> <quote>JlM posted... </cite> I don't understand the problem here then. If you tell her "Hey one of your presents is arriving before I get home, don't look at it." then what's the issue? That's what me and my wife do, if we know a present is arriving, we give each other a heads up to avoid present spoilers lol. </quote> The problem is that she wasn't expecting anything at all. We usually don't exchange. The gift itself wasn't the important part for me, it was the surprise of there being gifts at all, lol. The surprise being ruined was bad enough, but later realizing that if I just calmed down and thought it over I could have covered it as being stuff my mom sent to the house makes it even worse. What a doofus.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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JlM 12/09/20 12:55:12 PM #8:	shockthemonkey posted... Hahaha dude I get the frustration but if this is the problem with your life then youve had a fucking wonderful year Yeah, this is some petty shit to be upset about in the grand scheme of things, I realize that. --- I guess I'm something of a ne'er do well. Pittsburgh <cite>JlM posted [p:948106148] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>shockthemonkey posted...</cite> <quote>Hahaha dude I get the frustration but if this is the problem with your life then youve had a fucking wonderful year </quote> Yeah, this is some petty shit to be upset about in the grand scheme of things, I realize that.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SmidgeIsntBack 12/09/20 12:56:30 PM #10:	You sound like a top tier partner tbh. She's lucky to have you. --- Podcast and Audiobook Board https://www.gamefaqs.com/boards/1364- View my ASCII art and others' at https://gfascii.art/ <cite>SmidgeIsntBack posted [p:948106194] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>You sound like a top tier partner tbh. She's lucky to have you. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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The Trent 12/09/20 12:57:17 PM #12:	jim halpert moment --- i'm Trent B and i get respect your cash and your jewelry is what i expect <cite>The Trent posted [p:948106222] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>jim halpert moment </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solar_Crimson 12/09/20 12:59:12 PM #13:	This topic is actually pretty wholesome. --- I often wonder if we are growing as a people... or in fact, regressing. <cite>Solar_Crimson posted [p:948106301] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>This topic is actually pretty wholesome. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lunar_Savage 12/09/20 1:06:23 PM #14:	She might be really surprised that you just keep trying despite the failures...and you just keep doing nice things. That's the most surprising bit of all. Embrace that. --- Number of Mega Cookies given: (::::) 30 Tips top hat, adjusts monocle, and walks away with a cane. And yes, that IS Mr. Peanut laying unconscious on the curb <cite>Lunar_Savage posted [p:948106590] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>She might be really surprised that you just keep trying despite the failures...and you just keep doing nice things. That's the most surprising bit of all. Embrace that. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LostForest 12/09/20 1:08:13 PM #15:	JlM posted... The problem is that she wasn't expecting anything at all. We usually don't exchange. The gift itself wasn't the important part for me, it was the surprise of there being gifts at all, lol. Ohhh, that makes more sense. Kinda weird to not exchange gifts period lol, but I get that the surprise was ruined. So you know what you do now? Tell her, "oh I wanted to get you one little gift this year since it's been such a bad year..." Then, you can still have the surprise of that one single gift turning into a bunch of gifts on Christmas morning. --- ForestLogic alt. <cite>LostForest posted [p:948106661] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>JlM posted... </cite> <quote>The problem is that she wasn't expecting anything at all. We usually don't exchange. The gift itself wasn't the important part for me, it was the surprise of there being gifts at all, lol.</quote> Ohhh, that makes more sense. Kinda weird to not exchange gifts period lol, but I get that the surprise was ruined. So you know what you do now? Tell her, "oh I wanted to get you one little gift this year since it's been such a bad year..." Then, you can still have the surprise of that one single gift turning into a bunch of gifts on Christmas morning. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Flockaveli 12/09/20 1:14:25 PM #16:	Surprises are fake, that's movie bullshit. --- I'm in Chicago, I'm shaking my head. <cite>Flockaveli posted [p:948106914] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>Surprises are fake, that's movie bullshit. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sheiky-Baby 12/09/20 1:15:31 PM #17:	--- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_1GY93EWwwY <cite>Sheiky-Baby posted [p:948106962] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JlM 12/09/20 1:31:20 PM #18:	Flockaveli posted... Surprises are fake, that's movie bullshit. At this point I am inclined to believe you. Lol :( --- I guess I'm something of a ne'er do well. Pittsburgh <cite>JlM posted [p:948107583] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>Flockaveli posted...</cite> <quote>Surprises are fake, that's movie bullshit. </quote> At this point I am inclined to believe you. Lol :(</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JlM 12/09/20 1:35:57 PM #19:	LostForest posted... JlM posted... The problem is that she wasn't expecting anything at all. We usually don't exchange. The gift itself wasn't the important part for me, it was the surprise of there being gifts at all, lol. Ohhh, that makes more sense. Kinda weird to not exchange gifts period lol, but I get that the surprise was ruined. So you know what you do now? Tell her, "oh I wanted to get you one little gift this year since it's been such a bad year..." Then, you can still have the surprise of that one single gift turning into a bunch of gifts on Christmas morning. We exchanged early in the relationship like normal people, but we've been together 20 years now and kinda ran out of ideas. We just focus on buying for our families. When we want something for ourselves, we just buy it. But yeah, downplaying the gift(s) is what I have moved onto. --- I guess I'm something of a ne'er do well. Pittsburgh <cite>JlM posted [p:948107755] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>LostForest posted...</cite> <quote>JlM posted... </cite> <quote> The problem is that she wasn't expecting anything at all. We usually don't exchange. The gift itself wasn't the important part for me, it was the surprise of there being gifts at all, lol.</quote> Ohhh, that makes more sense. Kinda weird to not exchange gifts period lol, but I get that the surprise was ruined. So you know what you do now? Tell her, "oh I wanted to get you one little gift this year since it's been such a bad year..." Then, you can still have the surprise of that one single gift turning into a bunch of gifts on Christmas morning. </quote> We exchanged early in the relationship like normal people, but we've been together 20 years now and kinda ran out of ideas. We just focus on buying for our families. When we want something for ourselves, we just buy it. But yeah, downplaying the gift(s) is what I have moved onto.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JlM 12/09/20 4:53:53 PM #20:	Lost_All_Senses posted... Does she actually like surprises? I'd love to find out some day. --- I guess I'm something of a ne'er do well. Pittsburgh <cite>JlM posted [p:948115660] in I can neve... [t:79162467]...</cite> <quote>Lost_All_Senses posted...</cite> <quote>Does she actually like surprises? </quote> I'd love to find out some day.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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