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viewmaster_pi
11/14/20 11:32:04 PM
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friend's mad that i played something by myself instead of with her. smash bros isn't going anywhere... why wouldn't i want to play my new game?

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MixedRaceBaby
11/14/20 11:32:39 PM
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you aren't going to have sex with her

ever.

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LordFarquad1312
11/14/20 11:32:55 PM
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No?

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g0ldie
11/14/20 11:33:44 PM
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introduce her to the Yakuza series, so she'll realize that due to her ignorance, her anger was misguided

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Lost_All_Senses
11/14/20 11:34:53 PM
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Depends if you ditched her or if she just feels entitled to your time. If it's the latter, say "fuck you ho" then put sunglasses on and a blunt in your mouth.

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viewmaster_pi
11/14/20 11:35:04 PM
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g0ldie posted...
introduce her to the Yakuza series, so she'll realize that due to her ignorance, her anger was misguided
i did, she's further ahead than me, still got mad, lol

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MedeaLysistrata
11/14/20 11:36:52 PM
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how serious is this topic? honest question

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nothanks1
11/14/20 11:37:37 PM
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tell her to become Miss Tatsu
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viewmaster_pi
11/14/20 11:41:23 PM
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Lost_All_Senses posted...
Depends if you ditched her or if she just feels entitled to your time. If it's the latter, say "fuck you ho" then put sunglasses on and a blunt in your mouth.
she asked if i wanted to play, i said no thanks, i didn't have any obligations

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viewmaster_pi
11/14/20 11:42:12 PM
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MedeaLysistrata posted...
how serious is this topic? honest question
just wondering if the gaslighting is necessary

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Lost_All_Senses
11/14/20 11:44:38 PM
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viewmaster_pi posted...
she asked if i wanted to play, i said no thanks, i didn't have any obligations

I make sure people know they're not entitled to my time unless it was already discussed >_>. I'm the type to text back the next day and tell them I was playing a game, as long as it wasn't urgent. Being able to access me so easy is a privilege, it's not a right lol. And I don't complain when they take their time either

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MedeaLysistrata
11/15/20 12:32:24 AM
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viewmaster_pi posted...
just wondering if the gaslighting is necessary
not at all but none of us know this relationship so how do we answer?

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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 12:46:39 AM
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MedeaLysistrata posted...
not at all but none of us know this relationship so how do we answer?
is it really acceptable in any "relationship" to go off on someone for choosing to spend their time alone? it's not like she's my girlfriend and it's valentine's day, but she sure demands attention like it...

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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 12:47:41 AM
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i guess "entitled" is a good way to put it. she's extremely needy for a fairweather internet friend

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MedeaLysistrata
11/15/20 1:01:03 AM
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viewmaster_pi posted...
i guess "entitled" is a good way to put it. she's extremely needy for a fairweather internet friend
Just tell her to leave you alone for a bit then

That is to say, it's not selfish

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Lost_All_Senses
11/15/20 1:04:54 AM
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MedeaLysistrata posted...
Just tell her to leave you alone for a bit then

That is to say, it's not selfish

As far as I'm concerned when meeting new people, establish boundaries immediately. It's only gonna be harder once you already compromised and gave them a disingenuous standard.

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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 1:06:33 AM
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oh she'll leave me alone just fine, just after being passive aggressive as fuck, and then blocking me. i said i was busy, so for the rest of the night, any remark i had, or message i sent, she'd send back something like, "i'm busy fuck off" or "tell someone who isn't busy"

demands attention, even used to get pissed if i played with other friends and not her, or if i played a co-op game without her in single player, but'll ignore or block me for days. the mixed signals get old

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Lost_All_Senses
11/15/20 1:13:03 AM
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viewmaster_pi posted...
oh she'll leave me alone just fine, just after being passive aggressive as fuck, and then blocking me. i said i was busy, so for the rest of the night, any remark i had, or message i sent, she'd send back something like, "i'm busy fuck off" or "tell someone who isn't busy"

demands attention, even used to get pissed if i played with other friends and not her, or if i played a co-op game without her in single player, but'll ignore or block me for days. the mixed signals get old

How do you deal with that? >_>. Id of asked if she was joking the first time she did that, then Id drop her when she wasn't. That's like middleschooler attitude.

But you're not me, so it might not bother you as much.

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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 1:16:06 AM
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my other friends asked the same thing, lol. she has nice qualities, it's just that they get tucked away sometimes. to a degree, i like a little bite, too. to a degree...

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Lost_All_Senses
11/15/20 1:19:48 AM
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viewmaster_pi posted...
my other friends asked the same thing, lol. she has nice qualities, it's just that they get tucked away sometimes. to a degree, i like a little bite, too. to a degree...

You do you man. We all have are own buttons. Mine don't effect yours. The worst thing you can do is live by someone elses standards and pet peeves. Plus, this topic is about her flaws. Like you said, there's good in there. Just make sure you don't compromise too much. You don't want to get to a point you'll feel too guilty dropping her.

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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 1:22:53 AM
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oh, i should also point out that she won't play or do shit that i want to do, it's always her choice, on her time, at her convenience, or she'll say if i stream a certain game she buys me, she'll watch it. but doesn't care to watch anything i want to stream. just really weird, almost like i'm an exhibit, and she just wants to present things to me to see how i act

just frustrating, and i've tried talking to her about it, she thinks i'm just being a bitch and everyone but her is the problem

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Lost_All_Senses
11/15/20 1:26:00 AM
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I can't encourage this. That post made me want to run away from my phone. That's how putoff I am.

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rikasa
11/15/20 1:26:05 AM
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big red flag

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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 1:29:24 AM
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the other day she said i didn't "contribute" anything, and wasn't "in" her life.

uhhhhhhhh no shit i'm an xbox friend, what am i supposed to do but ask to play something now and again? ironically, all she ever wants to play is smash bros, nothing on xbox. i don't wanna fucking 1v1 the same person for 5 hours every damn night

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Lost_All_Senses
11/15/20 1:36:37 AM
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Just start doing whatever you want and see what she does. When you don't want to talk, say it and stop looking at her responses until you feel like talking again. If you wanna do something you wanna do, say she can join you. If she doesn't want to, just tell her that's cool and you're just gonna do it then. Literally everything about me pushes against her personality >_>. I'd start doing things she wanted again once she showed she respected my space and appreciated that I did things for her.

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Tryin2GetDaPipe
11/15/20 1:41:01 AM
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Is she cute?
If she allowed you to, would you fuck her?

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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 1:43:39 AM
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i saw like one pic years ago, so idk

and no, lol

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Lost_All_Senses
11/15/20 1:45:31 AM
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This has been going on for YEARS?!?



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Tryin2GetDaPipe
11/15/20 1:46:26 AM
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Oh, she's some online only friend? Why the hell are you even entertaining her then?

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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 1:48:28 AM
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yeah, they flew by, and it seems like all it means to her is entitlement of my future time, but only when it benefits her. i wouldn't be happier if i just cut her off, but i'd sure be happier if i wasn't treated like an expendable resource

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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 1:50:38 AM
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Tryin2GetDaPipe posted...
Oh, she's some online only friend? Why the hell are you even entertaining her then?
she's cool when she's cool, and we click with a lot of things. more than i can say for anyone i know irl

that's why i don't get her BS passive aggressive remarks about not being in her life enough. if she WANTS to remain online only, i don't have any obligations if she demands to call the shots

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Lost_All_Senses
11/15/20 1:53:32 AM
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I dunno man. You set the tone for way too long. I don't even know if you can change the dynamic now without fracturing the relationship. The entitlement makes way more sense now. Hope venting helped, but I think you fucked yourself. You're dug in.

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Lost_All_Senses
11/15/20 1:54:18 AM
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This also sounds like an episode of catfish, the more I read into it.

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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 1:57:33 AM
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i don't understand why i'd be catfished for this long without asking for money or something unless the dude was extremely lonely or was in love with me, lol

also hard to imagine some middle aged dude would BEG me to play motherfucking roblox of all things

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nfearurspecimn
11/15/20 2:00:40 AM
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maybe he can't get anyone to play with him since he's so old and everyone else has grown out of videogames

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Lost_All_Senses
11/15/20 2:01:05 AM
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viewmaster_pi posted...
i don't understand why i'd be catfished for this long without asking for money or something unless the dude was extremely lonely or was in love with me, lol

also hard to imagine some middle aged dude would BEG me to play motherfucking roblox of all things

It's not always a middle aged dude. Could be anyone who feels undesirable as is. A lot of big girls use to try to catfish me on Yahoo. Unless that was a double catfish attempt lol. But you don't ever want it to get sexual anyway, so it doesn't even matter as much.

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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 2:17:55 AM
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if i'm venting, i may as well really spill the tea...

she apparently used gfaqs a long time ago but got banned (lol), i said i use it currently, said my username, etc. so a while back, some guy here made a topic asking "what does it mean to lose your virginity?" being hilarious, i simply said "bags of sand"

anyway, then i get a message asking "so what does it mean to lose your virginity?" and i was like, uhhhh excuse me? you creepin on me? and she said no, it's just that my user activity page was on a tab from before, and she can't see my post because you have to be a user to see CE

lol, okay, so then if that were true, you'd STILL have to choose to refresh it and look at what threads i posted in, AND it means she was creeping on my activity here earlier than that. i've been stalked by three fucking people here, two of them made accounts and pretended to be randoms who just so happened to take a liking to me because i cut them off

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Lost_All_Senses
11/15/20 2:19:49 AM
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That's wild. Sounds low key entertaining tho....this pandy is so boring.

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nfearurspecimn
11/15/20 2:38:24 AM
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I'll stalk you LAS

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Reis
11/15/20 4:51:27 AM
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lmao e-friends
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viewmaster_pi
11/15/20 4:53:21 AM
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this e-friend is still a better friend then any i had in person, so it is what it is

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