Current Events > Ghosting is one of the worst things about dating.

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Solid Snake07 posted...

Look at it this way, would you really want to be with someone like that? Fuck em, move on. Plenty of fish in the sea

I'm over it now tbh. This topic helped me vent.

One_Day_Remains posted...

You wouldn't do it to anyone because you're a dude and the odds of a girl lashing out at you over a "no" isn't as likely as a dude doing it

Ghosting is annoying af but I can't fault girls for doing it when there are so many dudes out there making threats because they can't handle rejection

Fair point but on the other hand, should the woman automatically assume the man will respond like that?

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I don't think they should, no

But fear can be pretty powerful. Especially if its happened to them before
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Ive ghosted girls, but for good reason.

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Solid Snake07 posted...

Look at it this way, would you really want to be with someone like that? Fuck em, move on. Plenty of fish in the sea

except there's plenty of boys competing for the girls in the sea

for every one girl you match with on a dating app, you can be well assured she has at least a dozen other people she's talking to...

No, women do owe you an explanation rather than ghosting.

Everyone owes each other basic human decency and respect for their humanity. No more of this "no one owes you anything" bs, the person they're talking to is a human being with feelings, just like them.

Why do you act like this is exclusive to dating?

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Mackorov posted...

for every one girl you match with on a dating app, you can be well assured she has at least a dozen other people she's talking to...

Probably true, yeah.

Drrobotniks posted...

Everyone owes each other basic human decency and respect for their humanity. No more of this "no one owes you anything" bs, the person they're talking to is a human being with feelings, just like them.

It def wouldn't hurt if more people thought this way.

Kisai posted...

Why do you act like this is exclusive to dating?

Am I?


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sadly, I have to agree. It's not exclusive to dating. Text anyone you don't have a close connection to and the person will likely, eventually try ending the convo unless she's interested in you or something. Can't tell you how many times I got double-ticked by acquaintances I meet in my everyday life

It sucks but that's how it is. Most people are just jerks or don't know how to end texts properly

I think instead of ghosting, a text or message (at minimum) simply saying "I don't think we are a good fit" or "sorry I'm not interested" followed by a block and no more contact.

I think that would help with a feeling of closure, especially since total ghosting seems terrible for insecure people.

Even better would be giving the person some constructive feedback about what they might be able to do better or where interest was lost. That's kind of asking a lot though.

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Relient_K posted...

I think instead of ghosting, a text or message (at minimum) simply saying "I don't think we are a good fit" or "sorry I'm not interested" followed by a block and no more contact.

I think that would help with a feeling of closure, especially since total ghosting seems terrible for insecure people.

Even better would be giving the person some constructive feedback about what they might be able to do better or where interest was lost. That's kind of asking a lot though.

A block is kind of silly though. Eliminates the potential for friendship
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Relient_K posted...

I think instead of ghosting, a text or message (at minimum) simply saying "I don't think we are a good fit" or "sorry I'm not interested" followed by a block and no more contact.

I think that would help with a feeling of closure, especially since total ghosting seems terrible for insecure people.

Even better would be giving the person some constructive feedback about what they might be able to do better or where interest was lost. That's kind of asking a lot though.

most people are not direct people so consider yourself lucky if you find someone that willing. Many girls are too shy or just can't be bothered. The shy ones withhold from texting something like 'hey I'll ignore you now, k thx bye' because they think it's rude. Ironically, them ghosting is also rude but they assume you'd get the idea.

And y'know what. Yes you most obviously should get the idea. If a person doesn't reply your message for weeks, it should be very obvious the person isn't interested in you.

I think the reason why we get so caught up in expecting a reply even when it's so clearly a 'ghosting' is because it still gives us a chance to reply back (and maybe even convince the other party to change mind). After all you're pretty much powerless once you become the last texter.

My advice is just give up, dont get hung on over it and of all things, don't text again 'cos it shows desperation. If the girl wants you back, she'll text you back. Otherwise, move on in life.