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Mine is a friend who I had helped for years. She baited me into telling her my feelings, which she knew already. Then she told me I was too old and that she never once found me attractive. Then she had her mom call me and tell me off.

I've been reading about brutal rejections, but I feel like mine is much worse? Most rejections happen like at a bar with someone you don't know.

This rejection crushed me because she was my best friend and I had cared so much for her over the years. Felt like being taken out to the back shed and shot. Execution style.

Anyone have any terrible rejections that seem better now?

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She ran away without a word.

Came back like 10 minutes later and we talked, but holy shit was that the worst. We'd been pretty good friends for a while beforehand, but damn, that silence and the way she straight bolted just gutted me.

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I rejected this crazy black lady from my job. She kept trying to get with me, I believe for months. She was pretty weird, I remember when I first met her, she gave me these I wanna fuck you eyes. She kept staring at me from me from afar, glancing at me, and trying to speak to me. I ignored her, really desperate. Such a turn off


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I asked a girl out on valentine's day and she said I was only doing it because I didnt want to be alone on valentine's...

I havent been rejected a lot because I can count the attempts on one hand. I'm sure a lot of women on old laugh at me though, women can be cruel sometimes

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i was playing NBA jam in like 96 against my brother and he killed me in the paint with shaq

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when I was taking public transportation, there was this cute girl sitting across from me. she was listening to a song that I liked, so it intrigued me to try to talk to her. I pointed out the song, she looked at me and didn't say anything back. I introduced myself, gave her my name. she said "thats nice". ngl that pissed me off, and I havent approached women since then because of it. I don't take rejection well

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MedeaLysistrata posted...

I asked a girl out on valentine's day and she said I was only doing it because I didnt want to be alone on valentine's...

I havent been rejected a lot because I can count the attempts on one hand. I'm sure a lot of women on old laugh at me though, women can be cruel sometimes

I really feel that. They can be.

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pojr posted...

when I was taking public transportation, there was this cute girl sitting across from me. she was listening to a song that I liked, so it intrigued me to try to talk to her. I pointed out the song, she looked at me and didn't say anything back. I introduced myself, gave her my name. she said "thats nice". ngl that pissed me off, and I havent approached women since then because of it. I don't take rejection well

You should continue trying! At least you didn't put years into the person just for them to reject you the same way, like I did.

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TC, if she was such a good friend what caused her to respond in such a brutal way?

I would think she would try to say no and still preserve your feelings.

Mitch_Haniger posted...

pojr posted...

when I was taking public transportation, there was this cute girl sitting across from me. she was listening to a song that I liked, so it intrigued me to try to talk to her. I pointed out the song, she looked at me and didn't say anything back. I introduced myself, gave her my name. she said "thats nice". ngl that pissed me off, and I havent approached women since then because of it. I don't take rejection well

You should continue trying! At least you didn't put years into the person just for them to reject you the same way, like I did.

Thanks man, I definitely should be more confident. I know that she didn't owe me a conversation or anything, but it still pissed me off.
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Brutal is subjective

I asked a girl out in HS and she said Ima lesbian and walked off. Bro she was not a lesbian she just thought I was a herb lol. That shit hurt cuz a guy I knew ended up banging her.

But the worst js being a club trying to get the attention of a pornstar looking woman in high heels and she doesnt reject you verbally she just ignores your words and looks at you I walk up and say hey whats up she turns around and walks away that one hurt

but guys rejection is important you have to learn about rejection and learn how to keep going keep improving

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When I was 19 I worked in a store with this super cute girl who was 18. We worked in different departments, so I only got to talk to her on occasion if our paths crossed. Keep in mind she's 18, because thats about to be important. One day the two of us got to work together stocking these shelves in the back. We talk for awhile while doing it and seemingly hit it off. So finally I ask her if she'd wanna do something sometime outside of work. She kinda laughs, holds up her hand and goes oh Im sorry, Im actually married. She has a ring on her finger I never even payed attention to. Why would I? She was 18 and she was already married.

So ya, that was pretty brutal

How much older were you?

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Someone on Tinder called me "the ugliest guy on this app", and told me to kill myself. I regret not saying anything hurtful back.

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Talking to TC

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I'm far from a Casanova but these rejection stories are weak as hell. you got to look at it like water skiing, if you're gonna go down it might as well be a spectacle.

I was with a couple of guys who wanted to go out on the town. OK, sure. I can feel their angst already. We end up in this European style night Cafe where you're seated at the same table as strangers. we got set down with these two model tier girls. this guy insists on chatting them up. he's going on about chivalry or something and trying to be so manly. it was pretty cringey on its own but then they start busting out laughing. he gets all huffy, calls them rude and then leaves. the other guy leaves too and I have to follow because they're my ride.

I've been straight up told off many times on dance floors. The worst one I can remember is when a woman just said "you need to leave" over and over.

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The Trent posted...

i was playing NBA jam in like 96 against my brother and he killed me in the paint with shaq

LOL! You're funny and prolly have a gf

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Never had a bad one, to be honest. Just a flat and immediate no. Got no problem with that.

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CRON posted...

Someone on Tinder called me "the ugliest guy on this app", and told me to kill myself. I regret not saying anything hurtful back.

all right, you win

don't kill yourself over some stupid ho, man :'(

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CRON posted...

Someone on Tinder called me "the ugliest guy on this app", and told me to kill myself. I regret not saying anything hurtful back.

It's good that you didn't stoop down to her idiotic level. Chances are if you did, she'd post you blasting her on her twitter/reddit and cut out the part where she insulted you or something so she can get pity likes/retweets for exposing another male asshole or something lol

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ncsonic posted...

How much older were you?

10 years. 30/20. Her parents had a 6 year age gap which she would play up while around me

I look young for my age and get mistaken for a college student all the time at my job (teaching college). Baby face

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You guys get rejected?

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Mitch_Haniger posted...

Mine is a friend who I had helped for years. She baited me into telling her my feelings, which she knew already. Then she told me I was too old and that she never once found me attractive. Then she had her mom call me and tell me off.

I've been reading about brutal rejections, but I feel like mine is much worse? Most rejections happen like at a bar with someone you don't know.

This rejection crushed me because she was my best friend and I had cared so much for her over the years. Felt like being taken out to the back shed and shot. Execution style.

Anyone have any terrible rejections that seem better now?

What was your age difference? How did she know about your feelings?

berlyman101 posted...

all right, you win

don't kill yourself over some stupid ho, man :'(

You don't have to say something hurtful. That girl is living a sad life if she says those things to someone. Chin up!

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TheBabaYaga posted...

What was your age difference? How did she know about your feelings?

10 years. I told her my feelings after she wrote about how she has been mistreated by men all her life and feels shame because she had sex with a few people in high school. I told her to not be ashamed and that she had better options. She wanted to know what they were.

Tbh if I talked a lil better she may have been persuaded.

Shes a super hot twin, looks like Mary Kate and Ashley Olson pre-drugs.

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I was at a wedding and was vibing with this one girl there (or so I thought). At the end of the night I asked her for her number and she said "I don't think it'd do you any good"
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When i was in Grade 6, i had a super crush on a girl - Danielle. I asked her out on a Thursday or Friday and she turned me down, fine. That weekend i went to my friend Lee's (male) for the weekend. The Friday night Lee and i talked on the phone with Danielle and another girl Brandi. The next day we all went to the mall and DANIELLE ASKED OUT LEE. AND THEN THEY DATED FOR LIKE 2 WEEKS AND HE KISSED HER AND I WAS SO JEALOUS.

IT WAS BRUTAL

I was never really rejected in my adult life, but because of that bullshit Grade 6 stuff, i was SO GUARDED

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In high school I heard a nasty rumor about a classmate that I knew wasn't true. So next class that I saw her, I went to earn her about what being spread about her.

As soon as I went to say anything, she interrupted me with the typical "I have a boyfriend!" line. Scoffed at the idea that I had the audacity to approach her. So I just told her I was only trying to earn her about the rumor I heard... Then she kept following me around asking what it was.

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This one chick I had gone on like 6 dates with told me she didnt like that I was happy and positive all the time and said she didnt think she could date anymore since her sister was going through a divorce. Things were trending up for me too. I got a great new job, but she never spoke to me again. Like 2 and a half years later she texted me out of the blue to apologize for how she handled things but I just blocked her number and never responded.

In college I asked this girl I was friends with to be my Valentine. We were good friends and had classes together and always talked and texted outside of class. Leading up to Valentines Day I sent her a text saying Good Morning Valentine with heart emojis and shit. Anyways she sent me back a text that shot through me to my core. She said I hope you dont get the wrong impression that we are together. I only like you as a friend blah blah blah you are making me feel uncomfortable and I just want to set the record straight. We ended up handing out Valentines Morning but that was it. She didnt want to hang out the whole day. Oddly enough she was texting me all day while she was at her grandmas so idk why she just liked the attention I gave her.

Oh yeah, also in Grade 6, i was "dating" this girl Samantha. i dont even know what that meant, but we hardly even talked. Anyways, she dumped me the day before valentines day - and i had bought her chocolates and a nice card.
The way she dumped me was she put a dump letter in our classroom mailbox. i didnt check mine, so a classmate, and pretty much my direct competition in anything who was always just a bit better than me in everything went to the mailboxes and was like "OH GEE I WONDER IF I HAVE MAIL" and me being a total nave idiot, i checked mine. Read it and was heartbroken.
I still gave her the valentines stuff.

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See this is a big reason why I can't approch.

Anyone who says any of this shit to me is getting the business. I don't tolerate unprovoked disrespect, and things escalate quickly.
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J03can posted...

IT WAS BRUTAL

You're hilarious and funny

You definitely never get rejected

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Godnorgosh posted...

Sounds like she was not a good friend if that's how she chose to handle it.

She just kept asking me for help with college for years

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Mitch_Haniger posted...

You're hilarious and funny

You definitely never get rejected

i honestly cant tell if this is an attack or not

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J03can posted...

i honestly cant tell if this is an attack or not

I meant it in a good way. It made me feel better that you talked about what happened in sixth grade. Made me realize how patently infantile this stuff can be

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J03can posted...

i honestly cant tell if this is an attack or not

he was definitely attacking me but i'm still thinking of a comeback so i'm avoiding him until i come up with something snappy

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Mitch_Haniger posted...

I meant it in a good way. It made me feel better that you talked about what happened in sixth grade. Made me realize how patently infantile this stuff can be

Thanks bro!
it can be totally infantile, but like it still does hurt, but in a funny way now if that makes sense

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Mitch_Haniger posted...

Mine is a friend who I had helped for years.

Considering you were 30 and she was 20 when this happened, this statement is beyond creepy

Cleo_II posted...

Considering you were 30 and she was 20 when this happened, this statement is beyond creepy

Really? It's my job to help students. I can't help students who are younger than me?

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Never had any really bad ones. The worst is probably a woman telling me she wasn't interested or she had a boyfriend.

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Mitch_Haniger posted...

Really? It's my job to help students. I can't help students who are younger than me?

Holy shit. Someone tell me this is a troll

this is a troll

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Cleo_II posted...

Holy shit. Someone tell me this is a troll

I teach college. Helped her when she was a freshman because she kept asking. Advising students is a part of my job. How is that creepy?

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Mitch_Haniger posted...

I teach college. Helped her when she was a freshman because she kept asking. Advising students is a part of my job. How is that creepy?

College teachers arent supposed to date students

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I haven't bothered in about 3-4 years. Since the last rejection. It wasn't the rejection itself that was brutal, it was the fact that I actually believed I had a chance for once, then what happened after.

Worked with this beautiful woman. Jet black hair, bright blue eyes, slender, model looking type. Figured from the start that I had no chance, so I never bothered. Plus, all the other men there kept low key sexually harassing her. She hated it, so I assumed if I showed any interest that she'd just lump me in with the rest that she considered pigs.

Until one night, her ride is late so she's stuck there with me. Just the two of us. For the first time ever I saw her open up. She was always guarded and quiet before. Now though, she was laughing and telling jokes. Following me around talking about her hobbies, and pokemon, and drawing. She showed me her sketch book. It really felt like we just clicked. I'd tell a dumb joke, and she'd laugh. It just felt good to be connecting with her that way. I'm still not sure if she was flirting with me at all, or if I'm just stupid. Anyway, when she left she leaned back in and gave a really drawn out "Byeeeeeeeeee" then giggled as she left.

Well, for the first time in my life I thought I had a chance. Thought maybe she liked me, I was desperately trying to think if a way to let her know I liked her without freaking her out. So... when some other co-workers jokingly told me I should ask her out(one said we'd make beautiful babies). I told them I was thinking about doing so. That was a huge mistake. They went straight to her and told her, she never spoke to me again. She'd step outside before I arrived and leave without a word.

So word got around that I liked her and she didn't return the feeling. Once my dad learned I liked her, he started sending her dirty messages and pictures. He was trying to get with her himself just to hurt me more. She just forwarded the messages to my mom, and it caused a huge problem for my family again.

So yeah, the one time I seriously wanted to ask someone out ended up with me being ridiculed at work, embarrassed over the apparent misunderstanding, and causing my parents a huge dilemma.

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Mitch_Haniger posted...

Really? It's my job to help students. I can't help students who are younger than me?

Sure you can.

You just don't lust after them for years, when they're literally children, with an imbalanced power dynamic going on, and then act all flustered when they find your advances creepy.

See, that's called "grooming," sir, and is, in fact, frowned upon in modern society.

I was on your side, before, but now I stand squarely with this girl's mother

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i think i know. its some petty ass high school shit though lmao.

i was friends with this girl in high school and over time i developed feelings for her. so come new school year i asked her to go to this street festival with me. she said sure and i was happy.

see i thought it was a date. she did not. and i guess she realized this after a while.

as the date came closer, she called me and said she couldn't go anymore. she told me she had a club meeting at school that saturday. i didn't know anything about her club, just that she was in it, and i thought yeah makes sense too bad.

later that week i ask my friend who's in that club too about their meeting. he said what meeting. he said they never meet on weekends. ever. not even once have they done it and hes been in that club for 3 years.

i was heartbroken. i told my friend to talk to her about it and why she lied.
he came back saying she didn't know it was a date. i told him to tell her blah blah blah this went back and forth for a while. all i remember is that we basically had a conversation through this dude lol.

anyway after about a week of drama it was over. i didn't have any classes with her so i didn't really see her and it wasn't a big deal.

funny thing is later on that year i ended up joining her club chasing after a different girl. we talked and were friends again like the whole thing never happened lmao.

high school man...

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I went to kiss my hand and it twisted and contorted to avoid my lips.

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KogaSteelfang posted...

I haven't bothered in about 3-4 years. Since the last rejection. It wasn't the rejection itself that was brutal, it was the fact that I actually believed I had a chance for once, then what happened after.

Worked with this beautiful woman. Jet black hair, bright blue eyes, slender, model looking type. Figured from the start that I had no chance, so I never bothered. Plus, all the other men there kept low key sexually harassing her. She hated it, so I assumed if I showed any interest that she'd just lump me in with the rest that she considered pigs.

Until one night, her ride is late so she's stuck there with me. Just the two of us. For the first time ever I saw her open up. She was always guarded and quiet before. Now though, she was laughing and telling jokes. Following me around talking about her hobbies, and pokemon, and drawing. She showed me her sketch book. It really felt like we just clicked. I'd tell a dumb joke, and she'd laugh. It just felt good to be connecting with her that way. I'm still not sure if she was flirting with me at all, or if I'm just stupid. Anyway, when she left she leaned back in and gave a really drawn out "Byeeeeeeeeee" then giggled as she left.

Well, for the first time in my life I thought I had a chance. Thought maybe she liked me, I was desperately trying to think if a way to let her know I liked her without freaking her out. So... when some other co-workers jokingly told me I should ask her out(one said we'd make beautiful babies). I told them I was thinking about doing so. That was a huge mistake. They went straight to her and told her, she never spoke to me again. She'd step outside before I arrived and leave without a word.

So word got around that I liked her and she didn't return the feeling. Once my dad learned I liked her, he started sending her dirty messages and pictures. He was trying to get with her himself just to hurt me more. She just forwarded the messages to my mom, and it caused a huge problem for my family again.

So yeah, the one time I seriously wanted to ask someone out ended up with me being ridiculed at work, embarrassed over the apparent misunderstanding, and causing my parents a huge dilemma.

cut off your family. start a new life. that's the only thing I could advise after reading such a turn

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