Current Events > Is it racist if a black woman only dates black men?

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If a white woman said she would only date white men is that racist?

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StarsOfCCTV posted...

If a white woman said she would only date white men is that racist?

cultural differences

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Making this topic in 2020

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Preferences are preferences. Anybody who is race-exclusive is limiting themselves unnecessarily though.

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everything is racist.

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It's a preference. Who you choose as a partner is up to you. People usually pick people with a similar cultural background

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Yep It is racist to have preferences apparently. Go figure.

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I don't think there is anything wrong with a preference. Its just silly to me to limit yourself based on race alone.

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I feel it's racist to be like, "I'll only date people of this race, no matter what"

like, if you find someone attractive, interesting, that you have good chemistry, etc. but you wouldn't date them because they're not the "right" race.


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No

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Yes. It is literally and forever racism. It fits the definition perfectly.

Discrimination based on race. How is it not exactly that? You can argue it is an acceptable form of racism, but to say it literally isn't racist at all is intellectually dishonest.

Racist isn't some evil villain state of being, it is just a descriptive word.

Everyone's a little but racist, sometimes.

It doesn't mean we go around committing hate criii iii iimes.

You can do something racist like that and not be an awful evil person, you don't need to pretend it isn't racist to make people feel better.
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Is XXX (anything) racist?

-Yes

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Preference =/= exclusion

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If a black pornstar only wants to fuck black men, should she be canceled?

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If the only reason they won't date someone is the color of their skin then I'm not sure exactly how you can come to any conclusion other than racism.

I only date white women. Which race does this make me racist against?

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Arcanine2009 posted...

It's a preference. Who you choose as a partner is up to you. People usually pick people with a similar cultural background

what about preferring to be friends with someone from a similar cultural background?

what about preferring to hire someone from a similar cultural background?

what about preferring to vote for a politician from a specific background?

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TC are you trying to justify/prove "reverse racism"? Just curious.

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If they refuse to even give anyone else a chance, Id say so

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It's no more racist than a straight woman not wanting to date another woman is homophobic.

People do not choose who they are attracted to. This extends to transmen and transwomen too. It isn't transphobic to not be interested in dating a transman or transwoman.

To claim as such is to legitimize the "conversion therapy" abusive imbeciles, because you can't have it both ways.
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mech dragon posted...

TC are you trying to justify/prove "reverse racism"? Just curious.

It's just racism

reverse racism is a dumb term because it implies racism only comes from one side

FortuneCookie posted...

Preferences are preferences. Anybody who is race-exclusive is limiting themselves unnecessarily though.

TreyFlowers posted...

Making this topic in 2020

alt right shit posting as usual

Voxwik posted...

It's no more racist than a straight woman not wanting to date another woman is homophobic.

People do not choose who they are attracted to. This extends to transmen and transwomen too. It isn't transphobic to not be interested in dating a transman or transwoman.

To claim as such is to legitimize the "conversion therapy" abusive imbeciles, because you can't have it both ways.

That has nothing to do with this. You're just being silly.
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I may not have framed my stance well, but the core of it remains the same:
It isn't bigoted to have a sexual preference.
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Now I wonder if a black female would get called out for refusing to date white men.

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People could have racist reasons on why they are dating certain types of races/ethnic backgrounds, but it's still a personal preference at the end of the dT. I guess on the same level as choosing who you want to hang out with.

People tend to stick with others that are of similar backgrounds or cultures. They can and usually are attracted to other backgrounds, hr it just makes it easier to preserve cultures, better relationships with in laws and potentially raising kids. If they are more traditional, they will care. Doesn't mean they are racist.

The relationships you have with people as friends and partners are personal choices though and aren't in the same level of discrimination as what we see on the news. Not overt racism and discrimination.


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I find it practically impossible to believe that somebody can say "I just don't find a single [whatever race] person physically attractive" and it not have anything to do with deeply rooted beliefs about that race and their viability as a potential partner. The person may not realize that is what's happening, but that doesn't mean it's not happening.

Tenlaar posted...

I find it practically impossible to believe that somebody can say "I just don't find a single [whatever race] person physically attractive" and it not have anything to do with deeply rooted beliefs about that race and their viability as a potential partner. The person may not realize that is what's happening, but that doesn't mean it's not happening.

And will you extend that rather bold statement to same sex partners? Transgender partners? What about fiction, like aliens or fantasy species?

It is monstrously ridiculous to turn physical attraction into some by default racist nonsense. No one has an obligation to find anyone physically attractive.
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Sexual preference against certain races is one thing that I'll never be able to understand but I'll accept. Anything else is pretty much just racist. A purposeful inability to understand that a person is not their stereotypes.

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No. People have their preferences.

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Voxwik posted...

And will you extend that rather bold statement to same sex partners? Transgender partners? What about fiction, like aliens or fantasy species?

It is monstrously ridiculous to turn physical attraction into some by default racist nonsense. No one has an obligation to find anyone physically attractive.

Race and sex/gender are not interchangeable things that you can swap out in this discussion and have it remain the same discussion.

I think it's weird when people say they don't find someone of x race physically attractive.

In terms of them saying they find themselves more comfortable with someone of x race or x nationality, ethnicity, etc. Ehh, I understand it, but I'd just hope they would be aware if they're basing it off stereotypes too much.
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Tenlaar posted...

Race and sex/gender are not interchangeable things that you can swap out in this discussion and have it remain the same discussion.

lol, i've never seen it written so neatly

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Dating isn't about being inclusive and accepting of everyone. It's one of the most discriminating activities people engage in.

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Be careful, having a preference in 2014 would have started all sort of shit here on CE.

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Crash posted...

First question: No;

Second question: Yes.

Welcome to 2020.

why are the answers different? Why is one allowed but the other isnt?

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StarsOfCCTV posted...

why are the answers different? Why is one allowed but the other isnt?

I think they are being sarcastic.

I've seen outright racist against white people articles with anyone pointing out the article is racist being called racist.
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StarsOfCCTV posted...

why are the answers different? Why is one allowed but the other isnt?

The latter can imply that she wouldn't date a white man even if she found him attractive.

Like, it's one thing to have preferential features, but it's another to have arbitrary beliefs that determine what you find attractive. If you just happen to be turned off by all of a color of skin, that's real weird but not necessarily racist. But if you believe "oh white people are like [this] and so I won't date them", that's racism.

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There is nothing wrong with dating who you want to date. That's like saying it's not okay to be gay. Date who you like

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If 5 completely different people ask you out and the one you choose happens to be the same race as you, nobody will care since it is assumed that was simply the best choice for your preferences.

If you shut out all other races before they even ask, it comes off as racist since the rejection is coming from preconceived stereotypes and not any actual merits of the specific people asking.

Raikuro posted...

If you shut out all other races before they even ask, it comes off as racist since the rejection is coming from preconceived stereotypes and not any actual merits of the specific people asking.

Looks are not preconceived stereotypes. Physical attraction is a personal preference.
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Raikuro posted...

If you shut out all other races before they even ask, it comes off as racist since the rejection is coming from preconceived stereotypes and not any actual merits of the specific people asking.

What about shutting down all females before they even ask because you're into men? Or, to a less extreme, shutting down all short men before they get to ask

I get your point. I just think it's okay to be attracted to who you're attracted to.

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Bad_Mojo posted...

What about shutting down all females before they even ask because you're into men? Or, to a less extreme, shutting down all short men before they get to ask

I get your point. I just think it's okay to be attracted to who you're attracted to.

Your response isn't in line with the point, though. It is okay to be attracted to whom you're attracted. It's shutting people out, on a basis other than attraction, that's racist.

For example: "I only like smart people. I believe black people are dumb, therefore, I won't consider them."


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Chances are it's a manifestation of racial bias buried somewhere in the psyche... but that's not for any of us to criticize. Your sexual preferences are your own; no explanation or access is owed to anyone.

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Polycosm posted...

Chances are it's a manifestation of racial bias buried somewhere in the psyche... but that's not for any of us to criticize. Your sexual preferences are your own; no explanation or access is owed to anyone.

But yes, this too.

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Guide posted...

Your response isn't in line with the point, though. It is okay to be attracted to whom you're attracted. It's shutting people out, on a basis other than attraction, that's racist.

For example: "I only like smart people. I believe black people are dumb, therefore, I won't consider them."

Ridiculous.

If you are talking about friendship that's right, but this is about sexuality. People have no obligation to have sexual attraction for anyone.
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