Current Events > Woman realizes having a boyfriend who doesnt verbally abuse is how it should be.

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https://twitter.com/baeryl/status/1278042852820279296

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https://twitter.com/maneeGe/status/1278192494644064257
https://twitter.com/FreshGazelle/status/1278243276835786753




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Men who abuse women are such fucking cowards
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women will literally rather go out with an abusive chad before a nice guy like me :(
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Yikes at all those women saying all their bfs verbally abused them or hit them in the comments. And they stayed with them for long periods despite abuse.

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What? This is fairly common. A lot of women (from a young age) kind of get this notion that conflict in a relationship is a good thing. That level of conflict generally does increase as feelings develop so extreme fights or the use of force is sometimes normalized as we just love each other THAT much...nah man, that kind of relationship should not be normalized as the true definition of love.

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These girls are somewhat lying their asses off. No relationship is perfect and there will always be bumps in the road, and sometimes emotions get the better of ya and you say things you don't mean to say, and that's normal. But they are correct that verbal abuse should not be normal and is bad.

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Women (or men) who stay in abusive relationships have major self-esteem issues.

Veggeta X posted...

These girls are somewhat lying their asses off.

"anyone who is happier or healthier than me is a liar"
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there're days i wake up early cause my parents are screaming at each other so loud

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I'm kind of shooting from the hip here but these women seem uneducated. Everyone knows that shit. Or they knew it and they wanted the rush and sense of purpose that conflict brought.

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berlyman101 posted...

I'm kind of shooting from the hip here but these women seem uneducated. Everyone knows that shit. Or they knew it and they wanted the rush and sense of purpose that conflict brought.

They're low key bragging about they're relationship.

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jeffhardyb0yz posted...

Yikes at what you're trying to imply with this post

What are you saying? Its in the twitter thread. Like this one who kept thinking the abusive dude would change but he didnt.

https://twitter.com/vokserblomster/status/1278146069973610497

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the last one is dumb. Friends and romantic relationships aren't the same.

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Choco posted...

there're days i wake up early cause my parents are screaming at each other so loud

You bring up a point. The expectations these women have may stem from hearing their parents do it.

I can only remember two or three occasions as a child when my parents would yell at each other and it scared the crap out of me. :(

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berlyman101 posted...

I'm kind of shooting from the hip here but these women seem uneducated. Everyone knows that shit. Or they knew it and they wanted the rush and sense of purpose that conflict brought.

Its easy to say "everyone knows it". Not so easy when you're in the situation. Denial is a thing. Plenty of people can be a 3rd party to a relationship and see its abusive, be in the same situation, but turn around and say "that's different, he really cares about me deep down, he just has a temper, etc, etc". People can know abuse, be it mental, physical or verbal, is wrong, but its not uncommon for people to try and justify or rationalize when its the situation they're in, either out of fear or because they themselves want it to work so badly because of their own feelings. Manipulation can fuck with you and its what a lot of Abusers or Molesters use to keep people under their fist. Coming to that realization after the fact is extremely normal.

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Hoes being hoes

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My wife and I have never had a fight. I just cant think of anything in our lives worth fighting about.

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Lol dumb hoe

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EndOfDiscOne posted...

My wife and I have never had a fight. I just cant think of anything in our lives worth fighting about.

Fighting is fine. the true measure is how you both handle the disagreement as a couple. There is this notion among a lot of people that "True Love" is getting angry at each other or that those fights mean they really care about each other, and its just a normal part of a relationship. That notion gets blurred and allows abusers to manipulate. Some people don't realize that manipulation until its too late.

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mattymad posted...

As a guy who was with an abusive woman. It can be SUPER difficult to see all the red flags. Anytime you try and question it, you get shut down and made out like you're a piece of s***.

They get in your head. Emotional manipulation is a hell of a thing.

Once you live together and a lot of stuff becomes 'normal' and entwined, it is very difficult to escape.

Yeah a lot of people dont realise that abusers try to manipulate their victims into feeling either

1. This is normal
2. The victim is the one in the wrong
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The comments on that post defending men who verbally abuse their girlfriends

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Woman realizes having a boyfriend who doesnt verbally abuse is how it should be.

And hopefully she realizes that's supposed to go both ways too. I'm guessing this woman probably does if she's managed to keep a good man this long.

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