Current Events > CE: In your experience, do women try to force you to date women that like you?

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So a girl at work clearly likes me but Im not interested. She keeps trying which is annoying but what is more annoying that other women at work try to force her on me.

You should date her.
Why wont you give her a chance?
You are cold for not giving her a chance.

This isnt the first time this has happened.Why am I obligated to give these women a chance when Im not interested? If the rolls were reversed, there is no way they will give men a chance that have zero interest in. Its crazy

Couldn't say. No women like me, so it's never come up.

NotYou posted...

Couldn't say. No women like me, so it's never come up.

Damn. Feelsbadman

hasn't happened to me (partially cause no woman likes me LOL), sounds annoying af

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Did she actually ask you out, and did you actually turn her down, to her directly?

JimmyFraska posted...

Did she actually ask you out, and did you actually turn her down, to her directly?

Kinda? She said I should take her out to this restaurant in town and I told her I would rather not. Does that count?

Encourage? Yes.

"Force" comes off dramatic to me. Ignoring people is one the easiest things you can do.

I don't mind it, they just think it'll make me happy. They're projecting, but with good intentions.

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Unknown6721 posted...

Kinda? She said I should take her out to this restaurant in town and I told her I would rather not. Does that count?

It does, well done. So from now on, when others bring her up to you saying you should date, you say "We have been. She didn't tell you about the wedding?"

jeffhardyb0yz posted...

Women don't really do that unless they have a feeling you like them and want you to be someone else's problem

That sounds more like a you problem

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Unknown6721 posted...

Kinda? She said I should take her out to this restaurant in town and I told her I would rather not. Does that count?

That does, but it's funny she asked you to take her out and not vice versa

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Look, man. Nobody can force you to date someone. You need to not give a fuck what other people think.

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Yeah I usually flip it into me pressuring them to date a guy we both know she won't date.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Encourage? Yes.

"Force" comes off dramatic to me. Ignoring people is one the easiest things you can do.

I don't mind it, they just think it'll make me happy. They're projecting, but with good intentions.

Yea, encouraged is the better term. Force isnt as accurate as I wanted

Unknown6721 posted...

Yea, encouraged is the better term. Force isnt as accurate as I wanted

It's all good. Part of it is just me being easily irritated about wording, where most people would just let it slide because it's obvious what you meant.

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Not in a long while, but I seem to remember a girl who lived on my floor when I was in dorms in college trying to convince me to break up with my girlfriend at the time because she knew someone else on the floor had a thing for me.

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MrToothHasYou posted...

Not in a long while, but I seem to remember a girl who lived on my floor when I was in dorms in college trying to convince me to break up with my girlfriend at the time because she knew someone else on the floor had a thing for me.

Wow... Thats next level. Borderline insanity lol

Allegedly I have 2 or 3 different girlfriends at work that I just need to be with.

I just want to go to work, go home, and get my paycheck, man.

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Unknown6721 posted...

Wow... Thats next level. Borderline insanity lol

Yeah it was weird. Honestly though she wasn't completely wrong in retrospect because it was a long distance thing and I'd basically leave every other weekend to go visit her, and I might have had more fun just staying on campus and chilling with my actual friends, you know?

I never actually learned who the person was who had a thing for me either. Most of the girls on that floor either had boyfriends already, or were not straight. My best guess is it was her roommate, who I would not have been down for even if I had been single, or the girl who lived across the hall, who was actually pretty cute thinking back on it. Weird to reflect on this kind of shit almost a decade later.

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NightRender posted...

Allegedly I have 2 or 3 different girlfriends at work that I just need to be with.

I just want to go to work, go home, and get my paycheck, man.

THIS SO MUCH. I felt that post and agree 100%

yes i've been called "too picky" for not taking an overweight redhead who everybody knew got around. i was like "first of all you guys know i like thin or slim thick girls with brown skin and black hair and secondly i don't want to have to worry about if she's messing around on me." they tried to shame me into it.

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CE: In your experience, do women try to force you to date women that like you?

No. They attempt to hook me up long term with one of their gay guy friends while applying their heteronormative fantasy expectations to it all and then do a shocked Pikachu face when it doesn't pan out well.

Sometimes my straight friends have a little difficulty understanding there's significant "cultural differences" between their dating priorities and what most gay men typically want.

Despite pro-marriage strides last decade, the grand majority of us male gays are definitely NOT planning for a future wedding...we don't really need one.

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No.

When I was younger, female friends knew I was only out for sex so didn't want me using their friends.

Then I settled down in long term relationships so it wasn't an issue.

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