Current Events > I want the fuck out

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Im so fucking tired of leading questions that turn into fights (ie, me being berated) if I play dumb and dont take the bait, but get played as something I asked for when I do take the bait and it, predictably, goes south, because it was never not supposed to go south. This tactic is used pretty much constantly to control my time as well as pressure me into sexual situations I dont want or feel comfortable being in. Ive been gone a week on vacation and it still fucking happened over video chat. On top of this, my vacation has alternated between prelude to anger about not hearing from me (despite giving updates hours earlier about my plans for the day) and being encouraged/lightly chastised to focus on spending time with my family. I want out. I want my life back. I want my personal agency back. I am getting through this anniversary this month and Im walking. My life is my own fucking life and Im tired of being bullied into things I dont want day in and day out.

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why haven't we heard from you? spend time with your family.

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I dont even get to sleep in my own bed alone more than once a week, and even that is a generous estimate. When I do rarely get to be in my own bed, its almost never alone, and my good pillow as well as all 4 blankets that my mother and sister have given me over the years are not shared with me, and I get stuck on the very edge of my queen sized mattress. Fuck this shit.

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Damn just enjoy your vacation for now

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Oh wow, I hope you're good.

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SuperExcitebike posted...

Damn just enjoy your vacation for now

Ive had my phone on airplane mode unless Im laying down for bed all week

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Damn I don't know what you are going through TC but I am sorry if you didn't bring it upon yourself and are being exploited and / or emotionally abused by your family, friends and / or loved ones.

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He says this shit all the time tbf.

You have got to get the fuck out of this relationship, man.

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This week on Butthole's Terrible Life.

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Keith_Valentine posted...

He says this shit all the time tbf.

Yeah and I finally had an unavoidable, non-negotiable, sabotage-proof week away and it has energized me to get the fuck out

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DrizztLink posted...

You have got to get the fuck out of this relationship, man.

This. Best wishes, stay strong.

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butthole666 posted...

Yeah and I finally had an unavoidable, non-negotiable, sabotage-proof week away and it has energized me to get the fuck out

Thats nice and im not trying to be a dick. But i dont even pay attention much and ive noticed you saying this shit for months. Just leave her. Done, ez, bye. Good riddance

So is this your bf or gf?

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and I'm about to break

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Keith_Valentine posted...

Thats nice and im not trying to be a dick. But i dont even pay attention much and ive noticed you saying this shit for months. Just leave her. Done, ez, bye. Good riddance

Hard when suicidal and accusing me of rape!

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butthole666 posted...

Hard when suicidal and accusing me of rape!

I have dealt with this shit, just leave. If you truly think she/he will accuse you of rape, talk to a medical professional or a lawyer and get it on record that you are afraid to leave due to being threatened with false charges. If you cannot afford that just go directly to the police. If you have texts or messages of him/her saying they will accuse you of rape, keep them.

Also, their suicide is not your responsibility. I had an ex that would send me pictures of himself on top of bridges saying how he was thinking about jumping. I screen capped, sent it to the police, and I blocked him, not my problem. It sucks and you'll feel guilty, but if you acknowledge it, it will never stop. He never jumped.

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Not saying she will accuse me, but directly accusing me. She thinks I did rape her. I did not. I have spoken to multiple people in depth about it and have been assured at every turn that I did not. She has forced texts out of me directly saying Im sorry for raping you; given the context around these I dont believe they would hold up in any case as they were sent under extreme duress, but still. The social damage however would be vast and irreparable; its better to have everyone I know think Ive become a recluse than think I am a rapist and want to beat me down on sight.

I am accused of not letting her leave me. I try to let her leave me. It makes the meltdown worse and its never just left be when its said. I cant not try to fix things and make her stay, because that is the outcome she actually wants. The last time I tried to just allow us to break up, I was threatened with a police report.

I have scars from trying to stop her from breaking a hotel window to jump out. The same morning I was being beaten relentlessly, for over 2 hours, because I slept in; somehow, no bruises were left, but my arm was hit so many times, for so long, and so hard, that anywhere it was hit began to send an extreme shooting, burning pain down my entire arm and into my hand.

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butthole666 posted...

Not saying she will accuse me, but directly accusing me. She thinks I did rape her. I did not. I have spoken to multiple people in depth about it and have been assured at every turn that I did not. She has forced texts out of me directly saying Im sorry for raping you; given the context around these I dont believe they would hold up in any case as they were sent under extreme duress, but still. The social damage however would be vast and irreparable; its better to have everyone I know think Ive become a recluse than think I am a rapist and want to beat me down on sight.

I am accused of not letting her leave me. I try to let her leave me. It makes the meltdown worse and its never just left be when its said. I cant not try to fix things and make her stay, because that is the outcome she actually wants. The last time I tried to just allow us to break up, I was threatened with a police report.

I have scars from trying to stop her from breaking a hotel window to jump out. The same morning I was being beaten relentlessly, for over 2 hours, because I slept in; somehow, no bruises were left, but my arm was hit so many times, for so long, and so hard, that anywhere it was hit began to send an extreme shooting, burning pain down my entire arm and into my hand.

What is your living situation? Own? Rent? Who is on the lease?

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We live separately. I live with my father and sister. Sister knows everything, father knows I am being controlled and bullied but does not know about the rape accusations or physical abuse. He is a rash and impulsive person and would likely escalate this immediately, which I do not want; her family owns a $2 billion company and I want to avoid legal action at all costs.

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If you live separately then just leave. While I understand your situation is stressful, it will not change until you take action. You seem to have a pretty good defense against any legal action, and lets be honest, most people cry wolf about all of that anyways. Just cut her off and leave. No excuses. Do it.

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ClunkerSlim posted...

Whelp. Enjoy jail. Youre fucked. My advice is to save up money and buy this chick off. Move to another town, say youve got to go alone for six months but youll call her, give her two grand in cash, and disappear.

I feel like numerous instances of say it or Im killing myself makes it thoroughly not admissible in court and provides a very ironclad defense for p much every instance of it without that direct context

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We make our own beds

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Are you whinging about GameFAQs culture or...something else?

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Just leave for fucks sake. This is ridiculous. Block her on everything and never speak to her again. The suicidal bullshit is her problem not yours.
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