Current Events > How do you set emotions aside to address a situation you're emotional about?

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Meaning- say something is frustrating you in a situation with a co-worker, family member, spouse, etc.

How do you talk to that person even though you're so frustrated/angry/etc, and set aside the emotions during the delivery to said person? I've always struggled with this and have had a hard time not letting my feelings/emotions take over during the conversation

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One thing is to depersonalize it. Write it down.

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Like prior to meeting with them in person, just to get it off your chest ahead of time?

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Breath and sort your thoughts and think about what you wanna say

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i literally when im alone just have mock conversations out loud. it allows me to hear myself and sometimes i go "damn yeah that's too much" or sometimes i realize what's bothering me isn't even that big a deal. it helps me pick and choose my battles

dont get emotional. seriously. simple as that.

turn up your filter and filter everything you say or do in a conversation

just know it's okay to get emotional literally anytime except when you're talking to the person around whom the situation revolves.

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Self talk. Tell yourself you respect them, that nobody is perfect, that even you make mistakes. Tell yourself that you don't want to hurt them or make them upset. Tell yourself that getting angry and any other negative emotion does nothing to help anything at all. But first, take a deep breath and make sure you are being sincere when you say these things.

TheDarkCircle posted...

i literally when im alone just have mock conversations out loud. it allows me to hear myself and sometimes i go "damn yeah that's too much" or sometimes i realize what's bothering me isn't even that big a deal. it helps me pick and choose my battles

I think a big problem of mine is over analyzing whether I'm rightfully feeling the way I'm feeling. I constantly go back and forth about what could have happened from the other person's perspective. "Well what if they were told by this person to act this way? Or what if I don't have all the info and this is why they did it this way and the situation is actually not what I thought it was?". And I end up questioning whether I'm even justified in feeling the way I'm feeling based on variables that I am not sure even exist from the other person's perspective, just to try to account for all angles.

PatrickMahomes posted...

dont get emotional. seriously. simple as that.

turn up your filter and filter everything you say or do in a conversation

just know it's okay to get emotional literally anytime except when you're talking to the person around whom the situation revolves.

I think that this is easier for some than others though, which is my problem.

Like when I'm in the moment and I get going talking about something, my mind races and I start to get frustrated, my voice gets louder and I become irrational because the frustration takes over when I'm trying to communicate. I'm still speaking words, but they are not coming across calmly, if that makes sense.

Like I know it sound easy and makes sense to say "don't get emotional", but when there's emotions behind it, it's hard to steer the ship in the right way sometimes


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TheoryzC posted...

Breath and sort your thoughts and think about what you wanna say

YellowMustard69 posted...

Self talk. Tell yourself you respect them, that nobody is perfect, that even you make mistakes. Tell yourself that you don't want to hurt them or make them upset. Tell yourself that getting angry and any other negative emotion does nothing to help anything at all. But first, take a deep breath and make sure you are being sincere when you say these things.

Both really thoughtful answers and good to keep in mind

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Also, remember that you can control your actions. You can soften your eyes, take deep breathes, smile, say nice things, etc. If you do this while you're feeling angry or frustrated, it will start to work against those emotions, as if you are tricking your mind reverse style.

I don't. Gets things resolved faster, honestly.

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