Current Events > How do you move on from someone you still love?

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Its so hard

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Bang their dad.

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Did they move on from you?

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You have to 'love' someone else or it wont go away. Or else you die a little inside.

Sorry. -_- been there. Couldnt get over her till I met someone better and forgot all about her. Now I dont even care and years ago i thought about killing myself over it. Thats life man. How old are you?

Frodo loved the Shire but knew he had to leave it behind.

If it was real love it never really goes away. You just have to figure out how to live your life and try to find a new normal.

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I have one ex from many years ago who was a total bitch and never treated me right, to the point of cheating on me three (3!) separate times with three (3!!) different dudes. She yelled at me all the time, put me on guilt trips, cried about how I didn't love her enough, all that jazz. It was emotionally draining and absolutely soul-crushing. Day to day I hated life, knowing that things would start out good, then she would spiral out of control and take her frustrations out on me again.

The actual manifestation of what I think hell is like.

I broke up with her almost ten years ago, and it was the best thing I ever did. I learned a lot about self-worth while dating her, realized I'm way better off single than as a victim of emotional abuse and manipulation. She was terrible for me, and I know it.

But the weird thing is, I still love her. I'd never date her again, because she's poison, but I love her. It's really odd.

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OmegaPillow posted...

How do you move on from someone you still love?

Its so hard

Not if they don't love you back lmao.

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Did they cheat on you?

Gobstoppers12 posted...

I have one ex from many years ago who was a total bitch and never treated me right, to the point of cheating on me three (3!) separate times with three (3!!) different dudes. She yelled at me all the time, put me on guilt trips, cried about how I didn't love her enough, all that jazz. It was emotionally draining and absolutely soul-crushing. Day to day I hated life, knowing that things would start out good, then she would spiral out of control and take her frustrations out on me again.

The actual manifestation of what I think hell is like.

I broke up with her almost ten years ago, and it was the best thing I ever did. I learned a lot about self-worth while dating her, realized I'm way better off single than as a victim of emotional abuse and manipulation. She was terrible for me, and I know it.

But the weird thing is, I still love her. I'd never date her again, because she's poison, but I love her. It's really odd.

Must have been fine and some good sex!

Little fyi: wont be popular with CE

Girls that damaged often like to be dominated with a little slapping and choking. Thats why they lash out to get a reaction. Theyre attracted to power. If youre too nice and love them too much they constantly fuck with you. Thats the Game.

Gobstoppers12 posted...

I have one ex from many years ago who was a total bitch and never treated me right, to the point of cheating on me three (3!) separate times with three (3!!) different dudes. She yelled at me all the time, put me on guilt trips, cried about how I didn't love her enough, all that jazz. It was emotionally draining and absolutely soul-crushing. Day to day I hated life, knowing that things would start out good, then she would spiral out of control and take her frustrations out on me again.

The actual manifestation of what I think hell is like.

I broke up with her almost ten years ago, and it was the best thing I ever did. I learned a lot about self-worth while dating her, realized I'm way better off single than as a victim of emotional abuse and manipulation. She was terrible for me, and I know it.

But the weird thing is, I still love her. I'd never date her again, because she's poison, but I love her. It's really odd.

She cheated on you 3 times with 3 different dudes and you still stayed with her? You got a lot of patience.

The_Truth_ posted...

She cheated on you 3 times with 3 different dudes and you still stayed with her? You got a lot of patience.

Gobstoppers are everlasting.

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The_Truth_ posted...

She cheated on you 3 times with 3 different dudes and you still stayed with her? You got a lot of patience.

Yeah, it was a rough situation. I had zero confidence and she was the first 'real girlfriend' I had ever had. I was 18/19/20 while I dated her, fresh out of high school without ever even kissing a girl. I met her, she played the same games I did, she liked my kind of movies, she was really sweet and funny, reasonably attractive, and open to being in a relationship.

The only thing was, she already had a boyfriend. I told her I didn't want her to cheat on him, so she broke up with him to be with me. That should have been the biggest, fattest red flag in my entire life, but I was young and lonely and desperate to believe I was wanted, so I convinced myself that she did it because she wanted me that badly.

Turns out she makes a habit of flirting with other dudes while in relationships (hence the three dudes) and I was the only guy willing to keep the 'relationship' going through all the hardship. I thought she'd eventually realize how much I loved her and she'd stop sleeping around behind my back, but nah. I realized it was her natural state, so I stopped pretending I could change her.

We make better friends and/or fuck-buddies than we ever would have worked as a couple.

Keith_Valentine posted...

Girls that damaged often like to be dominated with a little slapping and choking.

Yeah, that wasn't a secret. Talking about that sort of thing is what got us started on the 'maybe we should date' track in the first place.

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If she's willing to leave her man for you then one day she's gonna leave you for someone else...

The_Truth_ posted...

If she's willing to leave her man for you then one day she's gonna leave you for someone else...

Yeah, she's the one who taught me that. Even if I had gone back in time and told myself not to date her because of what was going to happen, my dumb ass would have still gotten with her. That's just the state my mind was in back then. I'm a hell of a lot wiser, now.

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I kinda get it. There's an ex before my last one that I would never try again with, but one of these days I just wanna apologize for how I was. We were awful for each other, brought out the worst, but she's not a bad person.

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Keith_Valentine posted...

You have to 'love' someone else or it wont go away. Or else you die a little inside.

Sorry. -_- been there. Couldnt get over her till I met someone better and forgot all about her. Now I dont even care and years ago i thought about killing myself over it. Thats life man. How old are you?

Im 29 but ive only had like 3 serious relationships which 2 i left because they had real bad anger issues. So i dont really be in a predicament where they leave me and this women packed her stuff and left me a goodbye note heartbreaking and didnt know who to vent too

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The_Truth_ posted...

Did they cheat on you?

Idk that i will never know, i kinda think she did tbh but i never got the closure

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Gobstoppers12 posted...

I have one ex from many years ago who was a total bitch and never treated me right, to the point of cheating on me three (3!) separate times with three (3!!) different dudes. She yelled at me all the time, put me on guilt trips, cried about how I didn't love her enough, all that jazz. It was emotionally draining and absolutely soul-crushing. Day to day I hated life, knowing that things would start out good, then she would spiral out of control and take her frustrations out on me again.

The actual manifestation of what I think hell is like.

I broke up with her almost ten years ago, and it was the best thing I ever did. I learned a lot about self-worth while dating her, realized I'm way better off single than as a victim of emotional abuse and manipulation. She was terrible for me, and I know it.

But the weird thing is, I still love her. I'd never date her again, because she's poison, but I love her. It's really odd.

I hear you bud , glad you found peace in your life

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practice makes perfect

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You don't, eventually you just learn to live with it.

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The most painful thing about loving someone who doesn't love you back is thinking about them and all the pain all the time and knowing that they aren't even thinking about you at all.

I'd rather she hated me bros, then she would at least care

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People say it's better to have loved and lost than never loved at all. That's one of the most bullshit thing ever.

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Even though I'm married with a kid on the way I still have slight feelings for my ex I was with for 6 years. At some point you have to ask yourself is "love" worth losing your dignity? If she's moved on and isn't interested why are you forcing something that will never work? That thought process got me through and now I couldn't be happier with my partner

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Gobstoppers12 posted...

I have one ex from many years ago who was a total bitch and never treated me right, to the point of cheating on me three (3!) separate times with three (3!!) different dudes. She yelled at me all the time, put me on guilt trips, cried about how I didn't love her enough, all that jazz. It was emotionally draining and absolutely soul-crushing. Day to day I hated life, knowing that things would start out good, then she would spiral out of control and take her frustrations out on me again.

The actual manifestation of what I think hell is like.

I broke up with her almost ten years ago, and it was the best thing I ever did. I learned a lot about self-worth while dating her, realized I'm way better off single than as a victim of emotional abuse and manipulation. She was terrible for me, and I know it.

But the weird thing is, I still love her. I'd never date her again, because she's poison, but I love her. It's really odd.

yeah my relationship with an ex was a little similar to this. she had a lot of manipulative and paranoid shit she was doing with me, which is not good, and she did cheat. but i genuinely hope she's happy with the guy she's, according to my friend, married to. i didn't think she'd be the type to marry someone, and i didn't think she'd find a guy willing to marry her if she still had the manipulation and paranoia she had with me. i hope she found happiness with her life here (in my city), because she had this need to leave, but she didn't.

i wouldn't say i love her at this point. but i wish her happiness.

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ThePrinceFish posted...

The most painful thing about loving someone who doesn't love you back is thinking about them and all the pain all the time and knowing that they aren't even thinking about you at all.

This, unrequited love is one of the worst feelings ever.

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Just remember there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Or if you are really desperate there are plenty of people that smell like fish on CE.

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