Current Events > Anyone else think things like "I'm no good" every day?

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I'll think this at work, while driving home, and when I'm at home. Here are some other things I think.

"I have no value."
"I'm just a discarded, forgotten man."
"I hate myself."

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DuranOfForcena posted...

yes, i think "Pepys Monster is no good" every day

Oh

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Every day for the last 25 years or so

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Positive things happen to positive people buddy. Know your worth and go get it.

It's called Anxiety and/or Depression, my friend. You should seek help.


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Neh, I did in my 20s tho. Most the time Im actually flattering myself. Sometimes I lay in bed to go to sleep and just think about how dope I am.

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Classic depression. I get that all the time

CBT will help you

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Pepys Monster posted...

I'll think this at work, while driving home, and when I'm at home. Here are some other things I think.

"I have no value."
"I'm just a discarded, forgotten man."
"I hate myself."

You just need a new perspective. Try to think less about how YOU view yourself and instead think about how valuable you are to others. I guarantee you have people in your life who love you very much and place an enormous amount of value on you. Also, God who created you places enormous value you on you and loves you deeply. Also, I don't know you, but you seem alright by me.

Just reframe your outlook, dude.

Yep, recall my precious no friends and inferior topics.

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DuranOfForcena posted...

are you serious? do you not know this user's posting habits? half of his posts are whining about how he has no self worth and how his life is shit when he's not in a relationship, and the other half are about how awesome his life is and what an alpha he is when he is in a relationship. he doesn't know any other way to view himself besides how much value others place in him.

No. I'm only an occasional visitor to this board. Oh well, what I said is true anyway.

DuranOfForcena posted...

are you serious? do you not know this user's posting habits? half of his posts are whining about how he has no self worth and how his life is shit when he's not in a relationship and how he wants to get back together with his ex, and the other half are bragging about how awesome his life is and what an alpha he is when he is in a relationship. he doesn't know any other way to view himself besides how much value others place in him.

Bi-polar tendencies. No need to completely write him off over it tho. He should be guided to try and feel his good moods more.

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DuranOfForcena posted...

constantly shitposting about it on gamefaqs.gamespot.com isn't ever going to do anything to move toward feeling the good moods more

True. Doesn't hope he asked peoples input here and then immediately closes himself off to advice. He has to figure shit out on his own I guess. Sometimes he'll act like something is sinking in, but then repeat the same exact actions

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Yeah all the time, thoughts telling me I'm not good enough and I'm worthless. All day every day. I have a very unwell disabled partner who relies on me for support and thinks the world of me and I can't understand why they love me so much. I have two kids who think I'm the best dad and I constantly feel unworthy of their love. I've hated myself since I was about 5 years old.

corneliusmagus posted...

Yeah all the time, thoughts telling me I'm not good enough and I'm worthless. All day every day. I have a very unwell disabled partner who relies on me for support and thinks the world of me and I can't understand why they love me so much. I have two kids who think I'm the best dad and I constantly feel unworthy of their love. I've hated myself since I was about 5 years old.

Your kids need and deserve a mentally healthy, emotionally present father. Make that your life's mission. Their future happiness depends on your current happiness.

corneliusmagus posted...

Yeah all the time, thoughts telling me I'm not good enough and I'm worthless. All day every day. I have a very unwell disabled partner who relies on me for support and thinks the world of me and I can't understand why they love me so much. I have two kids who think I'm the best dad and I constantly feel unworthy of their love. I've hated myself since I was about 5 years old.

Rough. You ever talk that out with a professional? Seems pretty clear that you're not in the wrong, you just can't process things in a favorable way for yourself. You really should find the tools you need. Cause you have the potential a lot of us only can hope for.

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Yeah, but I was raised to feel that way. Loads of physical, mental, and emotional abuse. Seemed like no matter where I went it was always the same, I was unwanted and only good for being used.

I used to be much more optimistic with a better attitude. Once I reached my 30's though, my hope for things to work out began to fall apart. It didn't help that at that point was when I began actively posting on social boards to try and satisfy the basic social interaction need I had. I saw how much better everyone else's lives were, how the things I'd been struggling with my entire life just came naturally to most others.

It amplified my feelings of inferiority, and quickly eroded the rest of my resolve to stay hopeful. It put me in a very serious funk that I'm still trying to break free of, but it doesn't feel like I ever will.

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TC thats pretty toxic. You can change that. Just say the opposite even if you "dont believe it" or whatever BS you tell yourself. Just try to actively change to positive self thoughts.

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J03can posted...

TC thats pretty toxic. You can change that. Just say the opposite even if you "dont believe it" or whatever BS you tell yourself. Just try to actively change to positive self thoughts.

Can confirm this works in the long run. When it clicked and I started being able to pull myself in the positive direction when having colliding thoughts. Game changer. You get to pick which one is your reality and usually the negative one doesn't help you or anyone else. So I pick the positive one, if only to be able to help those around me more consistently. When I'm in a better mood, I'm in a better position to drag others with me.

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For most of my life, yeah.

It's only gotten worse in the last two years after I became homeless, and I honestly don't know if I'll be around long enough to see 2020.
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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Rough. You ever talk that out with a professional? Seems pretty clear that you're not in the wrong, you just can't process things in a favorable way for yourself. You really should find the tools you need. Cause you have the potential a lot of us only can hope for.

Yeah I spent years talking it over with professionals and trying therapy and medication, I've always actively engaged with it all but never made any real progress. I've managed to cut out any self destructive behaviour at least like drinking excessively which has improved my mood a lot. It's weird I'm happy most of the time but I'm constantly feeling I'm not deserving that happiness. I try so hard to be as good as I can for my family but it's hard to see myself as anything other than worthless. Been told that my whole life up until recently, especially with previous relationships with an abusive girlfriend. Being with someone who respects, appreciates and loves me is a real headfuck sometimes as much as I'm grateful for it. I put on a happy face for the kids, they never see that side of me. I'm a lively, caring and reliable dad for them always. Like typing this out I can see how others in my family might look at me warmly but I feel like I don't deserve it.

Inferno Dive Dragoon posted...

For most of my life, yeah.

It's only gotten worse in the last two years after I became homeless, and I honestly don't know if I'll be around long enough to see 2020.

Hey man, it gets better. It's hard now but I've seen people in your spot. You can only go up and theres always help

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