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SrRd_RacinG 12/14/19 12:51:22 PM #1: |
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EffectAndCause 12/14/19 12:52:17 PM #2: |
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gatorsPENSbucs 12/14/19 12:58:39 PM #3: |
EffectAndCause posted...
Before they introduce themselves.I was going to say after their name but that works as well. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Garioshi 12/14/19 12:59:26 PM #4: |
what if there isn't a dick
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gamer167 12/14/19 1:21:31 PM #5: |
Online in pictures its hard to tell, in real life you should be able to pick up on your own whether or not someone is trans relatively quickly.
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NonDairyMiltank 12/15/19 6:36:14 AM #7: |
i don't believe there should be a standard time to reveal that, different people different conditions
however, i think some trans people should be more realistic about the issue of bringing it up when they're shooting for a long term relationship "I shouldn't have to bring it up at all" is not demonstrably reliable... --- Moo. #Listen&Investigate ... Copied to Clipboard!
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NeonOctopus 12/15/19 6:40:49 AM #8: |
When the other guy is already balls deep in her
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gunplagirl 12/15/19 6:44:41 AM #9: |
Right after challenging one another to a sword fight ;)
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viewmaster_pi 12/15/19 6:45:29 AM #10: |
That should be the first thing you know about them
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gunplagirl 12/15/19 6:48:18 AM #11: |
viewmaster_pi posted...
That should be the first thing you know about them "Hi I'm-" "I just need to know if you have a dick, ma'am" Then again pi still believed in the trans bathroom predator myth the last I checked, so I can't say I'm surprised. --- https://i.imgtc.ws/x2KBsjI.png tfw no big tiddy goth vampire gf who lactates blood - viewmaster_pi ... Copied to Clipboard!
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NeoBowser 12/15/19 6:57:29 AM #12: |
i dont feel it is necessary to introduce urself with it but i do think it would be important to bring it up early. not because of genitals or sex but more because its a big part of ones life and upbringing and probably shaped him/her/them as a person. please tell me if im wrong.
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viewmaster_pi 12/15/19 7:49:58 AM #13: |
gunplagirl posted...
"Hi I'm-"Why drag it out? If I don't want to talk to girls with dicks, I think it's reasonable to know ahead of time to avoid the "oh, you have a dick? Yyyyyyeeeaaah, I'm not really about all that, sorry." And no, I don't believe in the "bathroom predator" thing, don't hit me with some bullshit just because I prefer cis women. --- - Sent from my DynaTAC 8000X ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Fam_Fam 12/15/19 7:54:34 AM #14: |
when it's apparent that you and the other person are dating, and that there are romantic feelings on either side. if you think it might get to a place where they'd be seeing/touch your junk (or vice versa), you tell them about your status (whether pre or post op, because it matters to some people either way)
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pistachio12 12/15/19 7:55:32 AM #15: |
viewmaster_pi posted...
Why drag it out? If I don't want to talk to girls with dicks, I think it's reasonable to know ahead of time to avoid the "oh, you have a dick? Yyyyyyeeeaaah, I'm not really about all that, sorry." Would it be fair for some guys to open up the conversation with "Hi, I'm a dick" just to ensure the other person knows not to waste time talking to them? ... Copied to Clipboard!
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viewmaster_pi 12/15/19 7:58:15 AM #16: |
Fam_Fam posted...
when it's apparent that you and the other person are dating, and that there are romantic feelings on either side. if you think it might get to a place where they'd be seeing/touch your junk (or vice versa), you tell them about your status (whether pre or post op, because it matters to some people either way)Why is it okay to hide that up until then? Why spur on possible attachment and romantic intent, just to spring that on someone at the last second and just hope they're cool with it? The earlier it's communicated, the better; if they're cool with it, great, if not, you've saved each other a sour moment down the line. --- - Sent from my DynaTAC 8000X ... Copied to Clipboard!
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viewmaster_pi 12/15/19 8:00:33 AM #17: |
pistachio12 posted...
Would it be fair for some guys to open up the conversation with "Hi, I'm a dick" just to ensure the other person knows not to waste time talking to them?Being trans and being a dick aren't the same thing and shouldn't really be compared and weighed equally like that, don't you think? This is a weak, and frankly rude strawman just to try and call me a dick, I think. Not cool. --- - Sent from my DynaTAC 8000X ... Copied to Clipboard!
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viewmaster_pi 12/15/19 8:12:18 AM #18: |
Tbh it's no different than anything else. If you have a kid, I wanna know up front. If you're fucking around with your ex and don't want something serious, I wanna know. If you're polyamorous, a furry, christian, a harry potter fan, if you vape, drink white claw, these are things I don't want to be hit with late if I start thinking I want to be closer.
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RE_expert44 12/15/19 8:19:17 AM #19: |
The second anyone shows any interest in them.
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Choco 12/15/19 8:20:31 AM #20: |
NeoBowser posted...
i dont feel it is necessary to introduce urself with it but i do think it would be important to bring it up early. not because of genitals or sex but more because its a big part of ones life and upbringing and probably shaped him/her/them as a person. please tell me if im wrong.by that logic you should bring up childhood trauma to people you barely know --- http://error1355.com/ce/Choco.html Doener macht schoener ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pistachio12 12/15/19 8:43:00 AM #21: |
viewmaster_pi posted...
Being trans and being a dick aren't the same thing and shouldn't really be compared and weighed equally like that, don't you think? This is a weak, and frankly rude strawman just to try and call me a dick, I think. Not cool. For you, maybe they don't seem comparable. But I'm sure plenty of women and men would like to know if the person they're talking to is a dick upfront. And if you read into that statement that you're the dick, that's on you. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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mooreandrew58 12/15/19 8:45:16 AM #22: |
NonDairyMiltank posted...
i don't believe there should be a standard time to reveal that, different people different conditions Id say probably best before any intimate act is done. Partially for their own safety as unfortunately some people might get violent. --- Cid- "looks like that overgrown lobster just got served!" Bartz-"with cheese biscuts AND mashed potatoes!" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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viewmaster_pi 12/15/19 8:47:31 AM #23: |
pistachio12 posted...
For you, maybe they don't seem comparable. But I'm sure plenty of women and men would like to know if the person they're talking to is a dick upfront. --- - Sent from my DynaTAC 8000X ... Copied to Clipboard!
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QuantumTheory 12/15/19 8:51:33 AM #24: |
As soon as there is any talk of dating the transgendered person should make the other person aware.
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NeoBowser 12/15/19 9:01:38 AM #25: |
Choco posted...
by that logic you should bring up childhood trauma to people you barely know only when ur talking to someone interested in u. it also really depends on what kind of trauma it is, i think. but sooner than later it will get on the table anyways. --- I'm feeling myself, I'm feeling myself, I'm feeling my feeling my' ... Copied to Clipboard!
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NeoBowser 12/15/19 9:03:40 AM #27: |
QuantumTheory posted...
As soon as there is any talk of dating the transgendered person should make the other person aware. i agree its wise to make the other person aware --- I'm feeling myself, I'm feeling myself, I'm feeling my feeling my' ... Copied to Clipboard!
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hockeybub89 12/15/19 9:14:55 AM #28: |
Whenever they are ready, which is likely some time before sex.
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Anteaterking 12/15/19 9:23:48 AM #29: |
When should a person reveal they're infertile?
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hockeybub89 12/15/19 9:26:55 AM #30: |
"Being LGBT is not a personality. Stop parading it around to everyone"
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NatsuSama 12/15/19 9:27:22 AM #31: |
From the jump.
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monkeysRfunny 12/15/19 9:32:01 AM #32: |
The instant you know that the other person wants a sexual relationship with the opposite sex. You could tell them if you're pre-op or post-op and ask if it would be all right to continue the relationship on a non-sexual level.
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NatsuSama 12/15/19 9:36:23 AM #33: |
monkeysRfunny posted...
The instant you know that the other person wants a sexual relationship with the opposite sex. You could tell them if you're pre-op or post-op and ask if it would be all right to continue the relationship on a non-sexual level.I don't care if they are preop or post op, they need to be up front from the jump. Not everyone once sexual relations with someone born the same sex that they were. --- WAAAH, I CAN'T BEAT THIS GUY WITH HIS TACTICS, I'M GONNA CALL IT SPAM AND CONDEMN HIM FOR USING IT ... Copied to Clipboard!
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nemu 12/15/19 9:38:41 AM #34: |
Realistically before a date even happens, but the latest it should happen is before any intimacy begins. Surgery is only going to get better and better sobeing able to tell will eventually start to become a thing of the past for many.
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Anteaterking 12/15/19 9:40:23 AM #35: |
nemu posted...
Realistically before a date even happens, but the latest it should happen is before any intimacy begins. Surgery is only going to get better and better sobeing able to tell will eventually start to become a thing of the past for many. If you "can't tell", then why does it matter? --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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The Trent 12/15/19 9:40:33 AM #36: |
After the first dick down
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hockeybub89 12/15/19 9:41:49 AM #37: |
Anteaterking posted...
If you "can't tell", then why does it matter?Yeah at that point it would be like being bothered that someone's face used to be deformed. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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viewmaster_pi 12/15/19 9:45:48 AM #38: |
hockeybub89 posted...
Yeah at that point it would be like being bothered that someone's face used to be deformed.jesus christ you guys are ignorant. if a guy isn't comfortable dating someone who was born with male genitalia, that's that, that's it, fini, that's all she wrote, elvis has left the building, you don't require an explanation --- - Sent from my DynaTAC 8000X ... Copied to Clipboard!
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The Trent 12/15/19 9:47:32 AM #39: |
hockeybub89 posted...
Yeah at that point it would be like being bothered that someone's face used to be deformed. i "can't tell" if a chick was previously implicated in her boyfriend's murder either man --- i swear to God most of y'all cats just don't know The Trent you barely know yourself so i guess most of y'all should be offended ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Antifar 12/15/19 9:49:25 AM #41: |
The Trent posted...
Someone being trans doesn't seem comparable to them being a murderer, imo. --- kin to all that throbs ... Copied to Clipboard!
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hockeybub89 12/15/19 9:49:27 AM #42: |
viewmaster_pi posted...
jesus christ you guys are ignorant. if a guy isn't comfortable dating someone who was born with male genitalia, that's that, that's it, fini, that's all she wrote, elvis has left the building, you don't require an explanationSo that's yes the facial deformity would bother you? Can't change genes no matter what work you got baybee --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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The Trent 12/15/19 9:50:09 AM #43: |
Antifar posted...
Someone being trans doesn't seem comparable to them being a murderer, imo. not apples to apples but i can easily sort both characteristics into a bucket of "things i feel like i should know about you because they matter" --- i swear to God most of y'all cats just don't know The Trent you barely know yourself so i guess most of y'all should be offended ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Itennu 12/15/19 9:51:02 AM #44: |
i do it as soon as i can. if someone shows interest in me, i will bring it up first chance i get
and it does matter, if someone isn't comfortable with that i'm not going to expect them to be or be mad at them for that, that's ridiculous tbh --- ~ i t e n n u ~ ~ don't ask, just touch me ~ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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The Trent 12/15/19 9:51:28 AM #45: |
Itennu posted...
i do it as soon as i can. if someone shows interest in me, i will bring it up first chance i get how fucking god damn reasonable of you get out. --- i swear to God most of y'all cats just don't know The Trent you barely know yourself so i guess most of y'all should be offended ... Copied to Clipboard!
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hockeybub89 12/15/19 9:53:33 AM #46: |
The Trent posted...
i "can't tell" if a chick was previously implicated in her boyfriend's murder either manMaybe people that want a life story before conversing with a potential partner should be the one to ask the questions rather than expect answers? --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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The Trent 12/15/19 9:54:29 AM #47: |
hockeybub89 posted...
Maybe people that want a life story before conversing with a potential partner should be the one to ask the questions rather than expect answers? but then you'd reframe and say that they shouldn't ever ask because that's bigoted and they should not care --- i swear to God most of y'all cats just don't know The Trent you barely know yourself so i guess most of y'all should be offended ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Unsugarized_Foo 12/15/19 9:54:36 AM #48: |
ASAP. This is how people die
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Anteaterking 12/15/19 9:55:25 AM #49: |
viewmaster_pi posted...
jesus christ you guys are ignorant. if a guy isn't comfortable dating someone who was born with male genitalia, that's that, that's it, fini, that's all she wrote, elvis has left the building, you don't require an explanation That's fine, but at some point that impetus falls on the guy to get that information if it's that important to them. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pistachio12 12/15/19 9:56:18 AM #50: |
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hockeybub89 12/15/19 9:58:41 AM #51: |
Unsugarized_Foo posted...
ASAP. This is how people dieThis is the same argument people use when explaining why you shouldn't honk your horn. Fear of death is bad way for society to communicate. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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