Current Events > Do you think your SO should explain who they're talking to?

(+) Yeah! (+)

Especially if say (in heterosexual relationships) they keep a lot of company of the opposite gender?

Would you take an explanation of a friend and drop it or be suspicious?
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It's more suspicious if they don't answer when you ask "who are you talking to"

Who can you be talking to that is so secretive?
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No, mind each others own business
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I don't think I've ever had this happen. We tend to talk about damn near everything.
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What? No. A healthy relationship is based on trust, good communication, and an understanding that you are not going to have everything in common all the time.

Your SO can and should have their own friends and hobbies, and if you were a trusting person that communicates with them often, you should have no fear at all of them going off and hanging with people you might not know. You can certainly want to get to know them, but not on the basis of paranoia, but a legitimate interest in knowing youR SO better through their friends.

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Hmm. I wouldn't pry but if she kept meeting up with this "friend", I would get suspicious.
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I don't think they are obligated to explain everyone they talk to, but if you're curious on who someone is that they are talking to they should be able to chat about their friends to you. Hiding someone who is a friend would probably breed distrust.

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Do you mean like they won't tell you the person's name, and only refer to them as "friend"?

That sounds sketchy in general, guy or girl.

But nothing wrong with them having or hanging out with friends of the opposite sex
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They should, but it doesn't have to be a fucking cross examination or even any suspicion. Your SO should have no problems explaining about who they hang out with and talk to. If they are uncomfortable giving details that is a red flag.

Every relationship is different, depends on how long you have been together. For example does he have a history of cheating? Does he always have his phone on him and when he doesnt is it password protected? When he mentions its a friend is that where the conversation stops?

Then theres the opposite, is he going through your phone? Does he trust you talking to other guys that are just friends or does he freak out?

Personally my SO could be texting a bunch of dudes and I would have no clue, mainly because I just believe if she wants to cheat theres something more going on. People don't just all of a sudden cheat.

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malenz posted...

They should, but it doesn't have to be a fucking cross examination or even any suspicion. Your SO should have no problems explaining about who they hang out with and talk to. If they are uncomfortable giving details that is a red flag.

This tbh. I would come hang over at an ex coworkers house on Fridays when her guy wasn't there and at some point I was like "Your dude is okay with this right?" And she said yeah no problem.

Now I'm good friends with both of them

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bump
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I don't have to know everything you talk about but if I ask and you avoid the question thats a red flag
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I usually just record the conversation and give it to her to listen to
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Do you think your SO should explain who they're talking to?

Depends on what kind of partner you have and what they're history is like.

Perfectly boring little angels don't need to be watched, except when you're trying to keep danger away from them.
Known devils, however, you have to keep an eye on to some degree. It comes part & parcel with dating them...

It's why I usually prefer to date the former.
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