Current Events > Worst time of my life, feelings for coworker, rejected, angry at myself

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Rejected coworker multiple times who always told me she like me.
Did it because of fear of it being unprofessional/fired cuz I am her supervisor.
We were friends anyways.

Hate myself because I should have said yes and just taken a chance. I hate this damn job anyway.

Recently asked me out again a few weeks ago and I said no.

She got with someone else, I didn't feel anything at first but then caught deep feelings for her.

Told her on her last day at work how I felt. She ended up saying no.

She isn't in a relationship with the other guy.

She pretty much stopped talking to me, feels terrible because she was a good friend.

I feel absolutely destroyed. Never felt like this in my life.

I keep contemplating asking her out and telling her how I feel again.

I feel so fucking shitty.

Always dip your semen in the company. As the old saying goes.
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If I do decide to try again, when should I do it and what should I say?

just leave her alone at this point man

like i don't even know her and i'm already hoping, for her sake, that you just leave her alone and let her be herself.

if for some crazy reason she comes back speaking to you, be apprehensive but kind, before you start getting all weird about it. if she continues to connect, then fine, do what you want after.

but please give it time man.
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This whole situation has messed up my stomach too. I can barely eat.

Lol
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Didn't we already tell you it was over and now you want to try and do this shit again. Lol dude wtf. Enjoy the future restraining order

This situation is only as big of a deal as you make it.

In essence you rejected her and then she rejected you. It wasn't meant to be. In the long run it doesn't matter. No point dwelling on stuff that never happened. For all you know the first date could have been a dud anyway.
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SomeGuyUO posted...

This whole situation has messed up my stomach too. I can barely eat.

You haven't even engaged in relationship type stuff with her and you're this sprung? Jesus.
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Try not to ever get feelings for coworkers because that shit WILL get awkward at some point
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Akagami_Shanks posted...

Try not to ever get feelings for coworkers because that shit WILL get awkward at some point

For people who can't be mature about it, maybe.

Okay read the whole thing and TC actually sounds like the type to make it awkward. I stand by what I said but it's NOT in support.
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ouch You should of explained the situation better before you said no. Now u will have to use the vacume cleaner for those lonely nights.

Akagami_Shanks posted...

Try not to ever get feelings for coworkers because that shit WILL get awkward at some point

I only realized my feelings for her on her last week of work. She doesn't work there anymore.

Darmik posted...

This situation is only as big of a deal as you make it.

In essence you rejected her and then she rejected you. It wasn't meant to be. In the long run it doesn't matter. No point dwelling on stuff that never happened. For all you know the first date could have been a dud anyway.

We actually did go on a date last year.

So she doesn't work there and stopped talking to you? That means ya'll ain't friends.
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